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Found a text suggesting lunch with guy from gym. Should I say something?

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starky000001
February 13, 2019
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So I pick upped my girls phone to check the time and the text screen was open I saw a text to some guy with an emoji under it so I clicked it. She’s training to be a CrossFit coach. I don’t do CrossFit I lift heavy. so I never went to this gym or seen these people.

He gave her a book to study for the test and she said thank you when can I take you out to lunch? And he said you don’t have to do that but I’m free whenever for you. Let’s avoid the snow with a smiley face.

Now if I was doing this she would def not be cool with it. Even if I suggested it. Should I bring attention to this? I think the fact that she did it and prob sees nothing wrong with it but will chastise me if I did raises even more of a flag.


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Title Found a text suggesting lunch with guy from gym. Should I say something?
Author starky000001
Upvotes 13
Comments 107
Date 13 February 2019 12:29 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askMRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/215217
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[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret34 points35 points  (8 children) | Copy

Oh, starky, where do we begin?

This was a train wreck about to happen, but that's what you wanted, isn't it? Your other thread on askMRP from a few days ago shows that you are still an addict at heart.

Here's the deal: by your own admission, you're an evasive fuck-up. Rather than dealing with reality, you indulge in fantasy and avoidance. Previously it was affairs, drugs, lying, etc. But like all good addicts, you found Jesus (or the red pill, or whatever else you latch onto) and got obsessed with that instead of doing your usual compulsive and evasive habits. Ok, so now your evasion is to try to "see it all through a red pill lens" or whatever (oh, and exercise, another common exit ramp from addiction).

None of this is going to get better until you change your relationship with reality. That means getting out of your head, not indulging in fear (and then indulging in evasion) and working out your problems. When you start doing that then you start building true confidence (not the superficial confidence you brandish now). Once you actually know that you can deal with life head-on will you really know what you want out of life. Once that happens, you won't have to be making threads here about whether or not she's cheating or what to do when confronted with an uncomfortable text on her phone.

So in short, get real.

[–]mrp_awakening3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, OP worked himself into a tizzy. The way I read it is she was showing a shred of attention to a beta/orbiter type old guy to get him to help her study. Women do that all the time... lure some beta into doing shit for them and in return all the girl has to do is look pretty and talk to them. Now OP's shown her that he's insecure about, and feels inferior to some old beta dude. Good job OP.

[–]UnbreakableFrame1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

This was a post I needed to read. There's nothing on the sidebar that deals with overcoming an addictive personality. Do you have any suggestions? This is something I've struggled with a lot.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go find all the MRP posts from /u/ex_addict_bro. Then hope I haven't summoned him here by saying his name out loud...

[–]starky0000011 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

I don’t know how to stop worrying about her cheating. You’re right I am fearful of not knowing. So I always think somethings is up.

I’m reading about codendancy. Hopefully I can get a grip

[–]mrp_awakening15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's called frame. Get some.

Think hard and focus on the fact that if you two split, you'll be fine at the end of the day. You'll find some other chick (or many more) who will make you happy. She's not the only one. Makes you care a lot less about infidelity now, doesn't it? Great... now internalize that shit and live it.

[–]nastynickdrRed Beret5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

hey man

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If your woman wants to cheat on you, she will. Period. You cant prevent it from happening. It doesnt depend on you, you cant control what she does. If you cant accept this, then dont get into a LTR and just spin plates.

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She could be going for a quickie on a motel with a co-worker during lunch time. A quick blowjob in the bathroom. You would never know.

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Instead of worrying about her cheating, focus on you. What could you be doing to improve your life? Improve yourself? Make more money? Get healthier, a stronger body, a stronger mind? Get wiser? Have more abundance? Make more money? Get more clients? Get closer to your objectives?

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If she does cheat, her behaviour will change, red flags will pop, sooner or later she will leave some trail behind and you will find out, and then you worry about gathering evidences and divorcing her ass the right way. If you are a high value man, she is the one who loses by cheating and losing your commitment.

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No, do NOT call her out on it, she will just see you as a weak fag.

[–]Frosteecat0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Honestly the hardest thing I have had to let go of (aside from junk food and people pleasing). Fear. Fuck fear. Embrace the fact daily that you are worm food rotting on the bone.

All else is irrelevant. Keep your side of the street clean man. You can't control shit.

[–]Big_Daddy_PDX0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Oh, I’m liking u/sorcererking #peopletowatch

[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet23 points24 points  (5 children) | Copy

Girls vote with their feet, she wanted to be around him for a reason.

The bigger issue is that you even give a fuck. You're insecure, probably weak as fuck and you have oneitis for this girl like a motherfucker. Get a hold of yourself man. Your ancestors killed tigers with sticks and you're here shitting your pants over text messages of "your" girl and some older guy. Bitches ain't shit dude, so move the fuck on with your mission. Let them be accessories to your success, not some lame shit you obsess over on a Tuesday night.

[–]qwertyuiop1112226 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your ancestors killed tigers with sticks and you're here shitting your pants over text messages

Oh man, good stuff!

[–]Two_kids_in_a_coat3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Might be his wife

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

"your" girl

What's that old saw about turns, or some-such?

[–]cholomiteMod / BP Downvote Magnet4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

If you believe she's the only girl for you, I guess you hold on for dear life.

[–]redwall920 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Disney should contact you for promo lines.

[–]mrp_awakening9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy

Wow... everyone's so quick to go up in arms.

I see that as scenario 1... her looking for a branch swing with some alpha crossfit coach.

There's an equally likely scenario 2... her trying to use her looks/femininity and flirting to get something from a man who she sees as a beta/orbiter type. My wife did that all the time when we were dating. She was quitting cigarettes (and successfully did so for me), but for a while would bum one now and then off others. Or she'd finagle free drinks out of other guys, sometimes for her and me. Some beta types stoop real low to get even an ounce of attention from a female.

Seeing as the dude's old and ugly from OP's comments here, I'd think it fits scenario 2. If it were an alpha, the txt would likely have accepted lunch or even tried to escalate. I don't think the risk is high in this particular scenario.

But this does bring up a point about boundaries. When dating my wife, and we were getting more serious, I told her she didn't need to be flirting with others to get free stuff anymore. And you know what... she stopped. If you're not comfortable with her flirting to try and get stuff outta guys, make it a boundary and tell her she doesn't need to do that. If she respects you, she'll quit.

[–]HornsOfApathyMod / Red Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Or she'd finagle free drinks out of other guys, sometimes for her and me

My wife did this as well ALL THE TIME. Usually like this:

  • Wife: "Oh, that's really nice for you to offer but I'm hanging out with a friend here"
  • BPFAG: "Don't worry, I'll buy her a drink too. What's she having? The same?"
  • Wife: "Oh that's not necessary! You're too nice! But yes the same."
  • BPFAG: "No problem! Bartender - make it two drinks!"

Wife takes the drinks, brings one to me and I grab her ass. Without failure I'd either receive a look of "what an asshole" or I'd get a thumbs up from the dude. Either way, great entertainment and a free drink to boot.

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[–]starky0000010 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

This is the best advice so far. Thanks

[–]mrp_awakening1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

NP. Take sorcerer's advice though and improve your frame, and stop being so insecure. You really need to fix yourself here. If your wife see's you insecure over texts with a beta dude, she'll think your SMV is less than his... why else would you be afraid of him? This is why mate-guarding is unsexy.

Also, if you choose to lay down this boundary, it's imperative that you frame it correctly. Do not mention it makes you uncomfortable, or that you don't like it, or make it about you at all. This will come from a place of weakness. Instead, make sure you frame it as I did above... that this behavior is not something she needs to be doing. It makes her come off as the weak one... you're subcommunicating that she's having to seek validation from beta types, while not letting on that it bothers you.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret16 points17 points  (27 children) | Copy

Not nearly enough info provided for the internet to make your life decision for you. But:

Focus on what YOU want. Assuming she is entertaining a branch swing, what are your goals for confronting? To stop it from happening? That does nothing but show her how thirsty and desperate you are, and maybe that she needs to do a better job at hiding next time.

Of course she is attracted to this guy. Through the eyes of the red pill there are no mysteries. People are a black box of functions which compute inputs and give predictable outputs. You are not her Alpha, this guy is more attractive, and to her cost/benefit centers switching guys would be worth it, thus she is open to a branch swing or at least some sex. Maybe they have lunch and the guy isn't interested at all. Maybe she sucks his cock in the car and that is it. Maybe he fucks her for weeks then tells her he isn't interested in a relationship. At the end she might still be your "girl". Essentially nothing changes for her, except for the small risk that you grow a pair and break it off, but I'm guessing since you are not her Alpha that is a risk she is happy to take.

None of what she thinks or is planning matters. We all need to make our choices in life based on the inputs we have. Your input is that this female is behaving like a female. Now it is your turn to behave like a man.

[–]hack3geRed Beret6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

None of what she thinks or is planning matters. We all need to make our choices in life based on the inputs we have. Your input is that this female is behaving like a female. Now it is your turn to behave like a man.

Fuck this needs to be the standard auto-reply to all of these types of threads.

[–]SorcererKingMod / Red Beret1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Bunch of BP fantasy land little bitches downvoting you. Have a +1 from me.

However, this is advice starky isn't ready for. He's too busy getting his feelz off this whole episode.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

For real. He seems to run on conflict and emotion. What does that remind you of?

[–]starky000001-4 points-3 points  (23 children) | Copy

He’s an old dude. I’m her alpha and she’s totally not attracted to this guy. I saw a picture. But I didn’t know this reading the text

Anyway still think it was inappropriate

[–]InChargeManRed Beret10 points11 points  (19 children) | Copy

How cute, you think age or other physical traits is a disqualifying factor for a younger woman's attraction...

Just wait for the responses from "older" guys on here who hook up with girls half their age every weekend.

[–]RPWolfAlpha_as_Wolf_2.04 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

He’s an old dude. I’m her alpha and she’s totally not attracted to this guy. I saw a picture. But I didn’t know this reading the text

I am 44 and have gotten numbers from girls half my age. Whats your point? Game is game.

[–]starky0000010 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Lol numbers

[–]RPWolfAlpha_as_Wolf_2.00 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Point is if you think age matters it doesn’t...at all.

[–]NaAF122429 points30 points  (20 children) | Copy

CrossFit gyms are cesspools of adultery. That dudes definitely trying to bone your chick.

[–]hack3geRed Beret14 points15 points  (19 children) | Copy

As soon as I saw CrossFit I said the same thing - it’s something like 90% of people that do CrossFit without their spouse either cheat or divorce.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret21 points22 points  (13 children) | Copy

suddenly more interested in CrossFit

[–]hack3geRed Beret6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

150$ for membership to a box full of hot pussy that has an affliction for strange cock - can't say its not money that would be well spent

[–]Reach180Red Beret6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy

Crossfit is kind of the perfect storm. It's almost like high school. A clear hierarchy based on physicality, and it's very social.

Fosters a 'community'....lots of interaction between everyone at the gym. Coed competition teams, mixed workouts.

Take your average gym. Men & Women working out....start looking better, start realizing they can level up. This is pretty standard gym fare.

Now....with crossfit, you add about 20% "social mixer" to the vibe. Then, eliminate all of the obese recumbent bike riders and old treadmill walkers. They don't go to crossfit. Now, eliminate about 90% of the 'headphones and eyes down' introverts at your gym and replace them with extroverts.

The women at a crossfit box are doing productive workouts instead of just cardioing themselves to death. Building muscle, no doubt improving their own hormone profile.

And then, add performative workouts. Ladies are watching guys be athletes rather than chasing a pump in the mirror. Definitely more 'sexy' on display.

[–]hack3geRed Beret2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Building muscle, no doubt improving their own hormone profile.

I have a sneaking suspicion you hit the nail on the head with this one. Even slight increases in T in women can cause dramatic effects on their libido.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

seriously i'm sold. i think with the boy driving himself i might be able to work this in. 2020 goals.

[–]markpf731 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just in time to lean out for summer...CrossFit.

[–]Reach180Red Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Could probably replace your yoga regimen with Crossfit MOBs.

[–]fuckmrpRed Beret1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

crossfit is horrible, doing shit like 50 heavy snatches for time is fucking idiotic. Its shit for strengh/swole and really only benefits cardio. Most boxes don’t spend enough time on form and due to the volume of compound lifts, the likelihood of injury is huge.

So ask me why I’ve been doing crossfit 4x a week... lmao

[–]NaAF12245 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Even better be the dude on gear that starts his own gym. Actually be in good shape because you know what you’re doing. Tell dudes they can look like you if they do 6000 kettlebell swings. They pay you 300 dollars a month to work out with no shirt on in your shit hole non air conditioned abandoned warehouse. You tell them to do stupid shit that gets them injured and keeps their physique static for years on end, they bring their girlfriends, their girlfriends invite other women. The women respond much better to high rep low intensity weighted exercises and start looking better. You are the alpha gorilla of the gym and have the pick of any girl you want, all while making money hand over fist. It is the perfect crime.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

So ask me why I’ve been doing crossfit 4x a week

think we've established the why in this thread. might head this way. been thinking i'm really as big as i want to be versus my real passions - skiing, kayaking, wakeboarding.

[–]RedPill-BlackLotusRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

If you want pussy buffet do hot yoga.

[–]PersaeusRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I do several times a week and yes the table is served; although there is not the level of socializing as appears takes place in CrossFit

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah the awesome part of it is? A lot of the gyms have informal relationships with each other. So when the shit hits the fan you can swoop in and vulture really top notch equipment.

One gym near me closed because hubby ran the gym without wifey and started banging the 'fitters. Bonus for me because I was able to swoop in and pick up some Eliko plates and Concept 2 for nothing.

With CrossFit, if you're a swole older fit dude you can play the Daddy game easy in CrossFit.

[–]starky000001-3 points-2 points  (4 children) | Copy

90%. Youre a moron

[–]hack3geRed Beret2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Don't worry you have a 10% chance of not being a cuck

[–]starky0000014 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

And this is why you guys tell me to focus on me. Be the top 10. Got it

[–]NMMNG_10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Now you're talking.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Excuse me... your lack of frame is showing.

[–]JameisBong6 points7 points  (19 children) | Copy

Soft next, she's probably into the guy... Not your problem, her loyalty is. The way I'd do it is exhaust her sexually with every depraved idea I've ever had(I've done this IRL) and eventually she'll get to a point where she'll say no and that point drop her.

[–]starky0000011 point2 points  (18 children) | Copy

So I brought it up. We’re pretty deep into the relationship. She said it was an older guy who did her a favor and that’s just what she said. I asked her if she would be cool with me saying that to older women. She said she sees my point and she’s so sorry. She didn’t mean anything by it and she doesn’t know what to say.

I said I don’t eithet right now and she went upstairs. I’m not sure how to handle it from here

[–]InChargeManRed Beret19 points20 points  (17 children) | Copy

Way to take time and think through your options.

Edit: See my other comment in this thread. You did exactly what the functions inside your Beta black box told you to do. Then she followed her obvious actions. You flexed your Beta muscles and mate-guarded. She played her plausible deniability card. Now you have all of the information you need to mentally sweep this under the rug and continue on with business as usual.

As a preview, look forward to you apologizing for snooping in her phone.

[–]starky000001-4 points-3 points  (16 children) | Copy

Are you being sarcastic ?

[–]InChargeManRed Beret15 points16 points  (9 children) | Copy

Way to take time and think through your options.

Are you being sarcastic ?

Yes you retard

[–]starky0000010 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy

Why? What else could I have done in that moment better

[–]InChargeManRed Beret13 points14 points  (6 children) | Copy

What moment? You had time to come on here and ask internet strangers what to do, means you had time to, oh...I don't know...maybe...SHUT THE FUCK UP

By the way, I've noticed you have a colorful history of "accidentally" finding shit on your girls phone to get insecure about.

[–]starky0000010 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

I did stfu. I said I’m not sure how I want to handle this and continued what I was doing and she went upstairs

[–]InChargeManRed Beret6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy

I did stfu

No, you ran to mommy and tattled right away.

I said I’m not sure how I want to handle this

Great, you confronted her without having any idea about what YOU want, exposing yourself to be an insecure bitch. You saying you aren't sure how you want to handle this is your beta bitch code for "I need to think about how I can best guilt trip you about this. I'm probably going to mope around the house acting all huffy for the next few days." Boy, I can hear her pussy moistening from here.

[–]redwall92-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude... I am losing respect for you because of this thread...

You keep trying to force the water down the horse's throat.

IT'S NOT WORKING MAN!!!

I believe all the guys here at MRP/AskMRP have a little voice in their head that is saying basically the same things you are saying. But we just refuse to listen in the moment during the early stages. We are guided by our emotions during the early stages. We know that STFU means shut the fuck up for something more than an hour or so. We know. Really ... we do.

Threads like this make it a lot easier to smile in the moment with my woman ... and that smile makes a ton of difference in how the interaction proceeds in our house.

So ... respect for you down. But have a few up votes for stringing this out so enjoyably.

[–]starky000001-5 points-4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Na I’m enjoying my night I’m cool

I found soenthing. It crossed my boundary. I confronted it. She said her peace. And I took time to think. It’s okay to take time to think. Mr alpha

[–]daniel_knows0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Are you for real bro? Look at all the advice you popped away.

[–]ahackercalled4chan2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

[redacted]

[–]starky0000011 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

she said a bunch of them all talk about lunch and she didn’t think it was going to happen. But I do agree

[–]InChargeManRed Beret8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

Oh, ok, my mistake, she said something. By all means, listen to what women say, not what they do.

[–]starky0000011 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don’t understand. I found something that cross my boundary. I confront it. You call me insecure. I let it go and it might Happen. Then I’ll be called a cuck. You guys are ridiculous sometimes

[–]starky0000010 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

It doesn’t matter. I know her. It’s up to me to decide what I want to do. Right now I want to think. Could I be overreacting? Maybe Is this a boundary for me. Yes. Has this been the first fuck up. Yes. Am I afraid to leave. Absolutely not

I need time to decide what I want. Not everyone knows how to handle everything on the fly

[–]hack3geRed Beret7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Does she think you are a little beta bitch? Yep most definitely - you just took your SMV and put it in the blender and hit purée fucker.

Any ounce of respect she had for you and any second thoughts she would have cheated on you are gone - you have confirmed you are lower value to her.

Like I said - bang up job Colombo....

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

She's a single chick. Drop the label of girlfriend and call her a plate your rushed to upgrade to soon and things will become crystal clear.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

So I'm a little confused.

A year ago you were posting about a wife ...now your girl. Wife? or Girl?

Girl ... easy. You're too invested. Demote, pick up another plate to vet for primary.

And I hope if this is a new chick that you didn't jump into verbally creating boundaries. "We both set" translates into "we both set for you".

Hoping you didn't break an Anti-dump's machine rule:

" Never Ask to Be Exclusive

Why would you do that? She is winning YOU, right?

Becoming exclusive with a woman means the both of you talk about not dating or seeing anyone else. The dating with others comes to an end.

Never ask a women to become exclusive. She must ask YOU. She must talk about it FIRST.

Why? If a woman hasn't asked you yet it means she is still open to seeing others. She still has DOUBTS about you. Highly interested women don't want you going out with other women.

A woman asking for exclusivity is like a 'marriage proposal'. She is cementing and laying the foundation for true intimacy.

She wants something that's lasting. It is the ULTIMATE test of interest, guys. She is 'proposing'.

If you ask first, you will never know her true interest level. Why didn't she bring it up? How come she is still letting you see others? Why isn't she CLOSING her options? Is she seeing someone else?

Think about it. But Anti-Dump, what if the guy already just asked the exclusive question?

Did she say "I was wondering about that too?". Or "I'm glad you brought this up"?

I used to mention it first myself. One girl said that she wanted to know about that.

Did she act RELIEVED? Did she act like you defused a bomb?

A woman can like a guy a rather small amount and agree. Relationships are built on action, not words.

SHE HAS TO ASK, Matey. Then you know for sure. Good luck next time. Just keep it in the back of your mind."

So who brought it up and how have you changed since then?

[–]Imaginary_Historian5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Never pick up your girls phone. Never spy on her, never monitor her in any way. It will drive you crazy with obsession.

[–]red-sfpplusHard Core Red6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Depends on what the definition of girl is.

[–]a0001_i11003 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy

Demote her status. Tell her why and exactly how you found out. She might throw a fit. She might say she was going to let you know but hadn’t had the chance yet. That could be a bluff or tru...How long has this lunch thing been planned? That is what you need to figure out. She should be telling you upfront about stuff like this and reassuring you it’s a business move. Her hiding it shows there is more underlying than business. Be calm and state the facts. If she wants to have lunch with other guys behind your back without telling you, then you get to do the same but with hot women. This would mean a demotion from ltr to plate or exclusivity to openness in the relationship.

[–]starky000001-1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy

So I brought it up. We’re pretty deep into the relationship. She said it was an older guy who did her a favor and that’s just what she said. I asked her if she would be cool with me saying that to older women. She said she sees my point and she’s so sorry. She didn’t mean anything by it and she doesn’t know what to say.

I said I don’t eithet right now and she went upstairs. I’m not sure how to handle it from here

[–]a0001_i11005 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Set a boundary and stand by it. Don’t let her play your emotions with her little act of not thinking anything by it. Either you’re not cool with her behavior with this, you let her know and act accordingly or let her do weird shit like this and she sets the frame of your relationship for your emotions to get walked all over now and into the future.

I would tell her flat out, “ my girlfriend let’s me know when she is having lunch with another man and the reasons why, or she is not my girlfriend.” Give her one more chance and never bring it up again. Then watch her behavior.

[–]CalvinRichland5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Maybe you should join them for lunch. I mean he is just some old unattractive guy right? You should buy him a beer and be his best friend.

[–]InChargeManRed Beret8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Maybe the guy can fuck both of them...

[–]Bedtimeshine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

And did you follow that up by saying you expect transparency from now on (open phone/password policy from now on) and this is the last time you two will have a conversation about another man as a married couple? And that crossing boundaries, making excuses, and then running up stairs isn’t the way to handle this nor the way to rebuild trust.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

So, when the fuck you gonna get some abundance?

What is it with you that you must control every fucking situation ? Or, have an answer to every iota ?

[–]starky0000010 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I have abundance. But I don’t like getting played for a fool. I see soenthing that crosses my boundary I address it. Then you guys call me insecure. But had I let it go. I’d be called a cuck if something happened.

My mind can’t comprehend on any level letting shit like this just slide

[–]BigGayGainz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Want the good news or the bad news, I'll give them both at once . All women are like that. How many of the girls you chatted up on Monday asked you to lunch?

[–]PersaeusRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is a boundary we both set in the beginning

be specific, and explain this boundary you both set. it sounds like no interaction with the opposite sex.

[–]Don_Draper270 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think the fact that she did it and prob sees nothing wrong with it but will chastise me if I did raises even more of a flag. This is a boundary we both set in the beginning

Boundaries are there to not be crossed and she did. If you confront her about it she will hamster it. You know what to do.

[–]friendandadvisor0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think the fact that she did it and prob sees nothing wrong with it

LOL.

"It's a boundary you both set in the beginning??" Dump her ass.

[–]Big_Daddy_PDX0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I love the casual lead in with “here’s the totally logical reason I was scoping my girl’s text messages. It’s legit”

My dude. Your girl is going to a ChadFit gym and there’s messages with some trainer guy?! Unbelievable!!

Autism isn’t a reason for having zero frame.

[–]Redpillbrigade17-2 points-1 points  (3 children) | Copy

Who cares. It’s lunch - not happy hour. It’s highly unlikely to lead to anything. Even if it does, it’s none of your business. Stop trying to control other people. Don’t be ao possessive and they’ll (and she, if she’s the right one) come crawling to you, wanting only you. The more you act possessive like this the less attractive you are to her.

[–]hack3geRed Beret2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

He doesn’t get it - an alpha doesn’t need to go to lunch to get blown he will get it in the gym locker room....

[–]jerrymcguiver0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

But he needs to replenish his lost energy spent blowing that huge load in her mouth.

[–]hack3geRed Beret0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Isn't that what post workout shakes are for?



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