Women: if you gain weight, you will become less attractive to men. Period.

farbenwvnder · 2014-08-11T11:00:50+00:00

Literally her entire life is ruined because her man offered to get fit together

The life you must have for this to be your biggest concern...

redpillshadow · 2014-08-11T11:46:14+00:00

"just" 10lbs. At a calorie deficit of 500kcal per day she needs 70 days to lose that. And of course to gain it she had to eat 35000kcal more than she needed since he saw her the last time. That is really far away from "nothing happened".

Adolf_ghandi · 2014-08-11T13:07:14+00:00

"How do I get back into the happy-to-see-you-let's-fuck mindset?"

Her question should be how do I drop the weight?....

mcdehuevo · 2014-08-11T13:39:48+00:00

I'm just like what. the. fuck. dude. I never get to see you. The ONE fucking week I get to bone you, you decide to say something that makes me too self conscious to get naked around you?

Welp, if you're ever looking for a perfect illustration of the differences between male and female thinking, there it is: her reaction isn't about what is, it's about how what he said makes her feel right now. We should start a collection of RP real-world parables like this and add them to the sidebar.

And the Man sayeth to his wife, "Wife, thou hast eaten a few too many chocolate-covered figs and thy womanly shape is hidden under mounds of blubber."

And the Wife sayeth to him, "Husband, how darest thou speak in a fat-shamely manner? Am I not Woman, whose feelz be sacred as the blood of the Savior?"

And the Man sayeth to her, "Wife, thy feelz move me not. Thou shalt have none of my seed in thy woman-parts until thy shape pleaseth me again. Thy mouth shall give me pleasure instead, or I must needs kick thee to the curb."

And the Wife, thus duly chastised, commenced dragging her fat ass to the gym.

gekkozorz · 2014-08-11T11:32:52+00:00

He didn't apologize, but he did kind of back pedal and say that he really just wanted a dieting partner to help him lose weight, and that he thinks I have a beautiful smile. Yeah not a hot body, a smile.

"Omg! He didn't pretend that my body is hot. If he was a good husband he would have told me lies about my body. He is my husband, how can he suppose that I should put in efforts to be attractive for him. He is supposed to make me feel good not the other way round. And he should be attracted to my body no matter how it changes. That's what husbands are for!"

I see expectations like these all the time.

Good for him...looks like he had some red pill realizations during the time they were separated.

Fzed600 · 2014-08-11T12:17:43+00:00

What women dont realize is 10 lbs of extra fat on a short girl is very noticeable.

iamnotfromtexas90 · 2014-08-11T17:10:48+00:00

ironic part is he never said 'you're fat, lose weight' he did EXACTLY what every woman and femaginze recommends. Say WE need to get HEALTHIER. Let's WORK TOGETHER on this shit blahblahblah. You can't fucking win.

poppyseas · 2014-08-11T13:23:46+00:00

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johnnight · 2014-08-11T14:24:01+00:00

This should be a huge red flag, even for someone who is not redpilled. The ability to take honest feedback and use it to improve is prerequisite for being able to have a healthy relationship.

Cyralea · 2014-08-11T14:28:34+00:00

More proof that women cannot take criticism, ever. Even the most well-intentioned, carefully crafted criticism causes a woman's brain to shut down and the feelings-monster to raise its ugly head.

In her defense though, she doesn't strike me as being all that fat, for a white girl, but the fact that she's getting heavier is probably causing concern for the husband.

imhighnotdumb · 2014-08-11T15:03:49+00:00

According to height/weight chart, that weight is not overweight for your height, unless you're fudging your real height or weight. Do you know how much you used to weigh?

Yeah, cause he hasn't got the right to find you less attractive unless you're officially overweight.

DrakeSaint · 2014-08-11T15:32:27+00:00

If your husband says you need to lose weight, and you feel shitty about it, you lose weight. Period. You don't need to go on Reddit to ask for tips to feel less shitty. You need to lose weight. That's it.

2014-08-11T16:23:37+00:00

I feel like there's more to this story anyway. Hearing his side would be informative. For example, they are married, have been together for seven years (seven year itch, anyone?), married three. She decides to go away to a foreign country to teach English. For a year. She wants to spend most of a year away from her husband except for a couple of short trips back and all for a shitty paycheque (great for a recent grad but hardly worth the stress of being away from your life partner for such an extended period of time). Or is it the 'experience' she wants? That raises a small red flag for me as well.

If it's the experience she wants, this is similar to wanting to 'find herself.' Need I say more? I cannot imagine trusting a Western woman not to stray on such a timescale without reinforcement - knowing that there are no consequences, no enforcement of cultural values because we in the West have tossed most of those out the window and forgotten to replace them with new ones. Now that she's upset with him, it is even more likely.

From the very beginning it struck me as suspicious that she would choose to be away from him for so long. I'm not saying she is consciously craving new mating opportunities. Maybe he is the one who wants a longer leash, and that is why he agreed to it. Either way it just makes my thumbs prick.

If I imagine his point of view, he was getting tired of the relationship so agreed to this. In his mind it might even be a trial separation, though he probably knows better than to say it. There were some things he didn't like, he felt stuck with them (married, not dating), he wanted to find out if life without them is better. Maybe she was already gaining weight - she didn't say that it had increased, just that he had said something about it.

So he goes without sex for a while and he goes to see her and he finds his revulsion at the flab is lessened because horny and he remembers all the things he likes about her et cetera. By the time she visits him, things have changed with him, and he tries really hard (vagina-tearing hard, apparently), but nothing has changed. She was in Asia, eating Asian food, not the SAD (standard American diet), not the sugary sauces and over-abundant carbs and snack food in every cupboard - he probably hoped she would have dropped some weight by now. After all, obesity is lower there for a reason, and that reason is not genetics.

So perhaps he was disappointed and had reached his limit. Either way, being willing to separate to that extent makes me wonder if at least one of them was seeing as a trial separation in any event.

2014-08-11T15:35:11+00:00

"Hoping for tips to feel less shitty"

1.) Find a treadmill

2.) Stay on treadmill

iKill_eu · 2014-08-11T13:13:50+00:00

The comments on that thread are ridiculous.

FEELS, FEELS, FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELS

I'm glad Reddit does not represent a cross-section of modern women.

2014-08-11T13:28:57+00:00

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eyearena · 2014-08-11T17:24:21+00:00

I've been lurking for a while on this subreddit, and even though this doesn't technically involve the issue at hand... Why is there so much hate for this subreddit all over reddit? Everything I read here seems rational and reasonable, yet everyone bashes this place like we're all criminals. Why is that?

VarsitySlutTeamCpt · 2014-08-11T14:32:02+00:00

Hoping for tips to feel less shitty? Accept your husband's request, get fit together and fuck each other like bunnies.

WingsnLV · 2014-08-11T15:34:32+00:00

I'm pretty sure he has a plate on the side.

SirRoidington · 2014-08-11T13:16:39+00:00

White women are the worst to date. They get fat, spend your money, and are useless in the kitchen.

alisonstone · 2014-08-11T15:54:34+00:00

People in that thread should not be using BMI to tell her that she is fine. BMI is an attempt at a best guess at your health given no other information. But we have additional information. She weighed 10 pounds less just 6 months ago. And unless she started doing power lifting to add on muscle, she added 10 pounds of fat. Just because she is still in the healthy BMI range for the "average white woman" body type (we do not know if she is white, and we do not know what body type she actually has), that doesn't mean she is actually healthy.

What is more concerning is the rapid weight gain. Just go to any doctor and ask them if it is healthy for a small woman to unexpectedly (i.e. you are not intentionally lifting and eating more) gain 10 pounds in such a short time span. Her diet must have turned to complete shit, like the "Freshman 15" that college students put on when they only eat pizza and burgers for every meal. She is on pace to exceed that with her +10 pounds in 6 months. Either her diet has become really bad or she developed a medical condition like a thyroid problem. If the OP believes she didn't significantly change her diet, she should get to the doctor's office soon.

MooMooMooN · 2014-08-11T20:40:30+00:00

Do yourself up really nice (maybe get your hair blow-dried, whatever) go for a nice meal and sink some red wine. Boom problem solved.

Yeah that's a great way to GET FATTER YOU STUPID FUCKO!

esco_ · 2014-08-11T22:46:03+00:00

Pointing out that she is only XX pounds and XX height is hiding the truth and she knows it.

My recent ex tried this... she gained weight during our relationship and was a shorter girl. I let her know that I was less attracted to her because of her weight gain, and that is was going to cause problems. She tried to pull the "I weighed myself, im only 55 kg". Yes, but you are constantly buying flattering clothing (read - ponchos) and hiding your gut from me when getting dressed.

There was an excess 5-10 kg and the majority of this was around her waist/gut.

Dat hamster doe. Didnt help that whenever she brought up the gym to her female friends, they would say "But you're tiny!". Bitches knew she was going pear-shaped (literally and figuratively) and didnt want her climbing out of the bucket.

berryfarmer · 2014-08-11T15:04:28+00:00

maybe I'm alone here, but I find (well proportioned) slightly thick girls to be more attractive than skinny or even fit girls.

Entrefut · 2014-08-11T16:50:34+00:00

I love thinking about how hard I have to work to get ripped. It inspires me, because I know the end result is far better than I could imagine. Women take things for exactly what they are upfront. As a guy I have always find myself looking for the deeper meaning in something like hitting the gym. Most likely the guy didn't even think his wife was that bad, but he saw the direction and wanted to change it. WHAT A TERRIBLE GUY FOR THINKING ABOUT THEIR FUTURE.

I have made it a part of my life to be in shape and while I am not where I want to be, I'm happy with where I am. Women are just never happy with where hey are, because they don't accept the reality of where they are. They'll also never be happy because they do the work to change it on their own, they look to us to find the right way to motivate them to do it.

"WAAH I don't want to spend 45 minutes a day working out! That's like an entire episode of the bachelorette."

This same concept of gaining weight goes for guys. It's much easier to hold onto girls if you are getting in shape more and more every day. They get more and more afraid of losing you, so they hold on tighter and try to throw the "don't get too big" or "I like guys who aren't super muscly" and it's BS. They've never had a guy with that type of body and are afraid if you get in shape they will lose you.

2014-08-11T17:10:12+00:00

False. If a girl gains a significant amount of fat then she will become less attractive to men. I find athletic girls with muscle to be incredibly attractive.

cooltrip · 2014-08-11T18:16:06+00:00

Not necessarily. Period.

I would fuck every woman in the world if I could.

Mensphysique12 · 2014-08-11T23:11:27+00:00

It sickens me how delusional women can be when they are told the truth, they got fat. Fat acceptance is hilarious, when my ex ever put weight on or when I did we would tell each other, we didn't pretend we were skinny...that is being silly. I will always tell future girlfriends if they are putting on weight, no excuse to be lazy about your health.

Petrarch1603 · 2014-08-11T23:31:29+00:00

Haha, she's living in asia and she's feeling fat because of all the hot skinny girls there.

dsrpta · 2014-08-11T14:48:42+00:00

Duh.

Arch Sex Behav. 2013 Oct;42(7):1191-8. doi: 10.1007/s10508-012-0058-9. Epub 2012 Dec 22.

Slimmer women's waist is associated with better erectile function in men independent of age.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/23264164

hashtagpound2point2 · 2014-08-11T17:02:56+00:00

10 extra lbs on a girl that height would be easily noticeable. I bet if she had spent that time working out and ended up losing a few pounds, she'd be livid if he hadn't noticed a change in her body.

Delving into women's thought processes makes me feel like my brain is melting.

DistanceSkater · 2014-08-11T17:44:07+00:00

"I wish I could unwind time and unhear it"

HOW ABOUT YOU UNWIND TIME AND NOT GET FAT

2014-08-11T17:28:38+00:00

OP is wrong or doesn't have a thing for weight lifting women.

Good2Go5280 · 2014-08-11T22:59:03+00:00

Why my parents got divorced.

2014-08-11T23:41:20+00:00

Comma, unless the dude prefers fat chicks, period. With that said, much like rhombuses and squares, every bbw is a fat chic, but not every fat chic is a bbw.

Lipophobicity · 2014-08-12T03:26:26+00:00

Even her question is phrased in a way to pass blame:

"Feeling unattractive to my husband, how to make the most of things? "

As if the husband just snapped one day and viewed her differently

AlienSunrise · 2014-08-12T03:42:47+00:00

She says she would rather he waited until she was about to leave to tell her. But you know damn well she would've ran to reddit saying " I can't believe he said that right before I left. Now I'm fat and he's gonna cheat while I'm gone." They will find anything to complain about. That's life.

dhump · 2014-08-12T04:17:46+00:00

When I was fat and married years ago, I made the choice to get in shape. This was maybe 2-3 years into the marriage. In high school, we were both fairly fit, I played soccer and she was in aerobics classes every semester. I ballooned from 200 to 250, she from 150 to 220 (wtf). After I made the decision, started eating right, and working out, she naturally lost some weight by virtue of not being able to eat like a fat slob all the time because I wasn't.

I could never get her to work out, ever. If I ever brought it up, I was "criticizing her weight"and her token defense was "I'm comfortable with who I am" (yeah, right). Of course I was. Fucks sake, woman, you're 26 and on hypertension medication. This was the beginning of the end of our marriage (thank God, in retrospect).

Fast forward to present day, she's marrying this fat neckbeard omega we've both known for years, and back to certifiable land whale status.

Edit: The funniest shit during this time was her fat friends constantly telling me I was too skinny. It got annoying to the point I just started firing back "no, your size has just skewed your perception.", or any variable response along those lines.

johnnight · 2014-08-12T17:50:28+00:00

This is a mind blowing blue pill example of female thinking: how to not solve the real problem, but how to feel better while ignoring the problem.

She didn't even question the problem on merit. If a man got such a suggestion, the first instinct would be to check whether it is true or false. If it's true, then it's my fault and one needs to look for solutions how to solve it. If it's false, then there is nothing to worry about and the person saying it is just wrong on facts and that's it.

I can not imagine a man asking how to feel better while being fat...

juanqunt · 2014-08-11T15:57:56+00:00

What a dumb kunt. I make it clear as day on the first date that I don't date girls who don't fit my fitness lifestyle. If you don't look like a fitness model, then you don't deserve a guy who looks like a fitness model. The husband already volunteered himself to lose weight... I thought feminism was supposed to be about "equality" LOL. Jokes on her when her husband gets ripped and leaves her for a fit girl.

2014-08-11T16:02:15+00:00

If a man is attracted to a beautiful woman nobody seems to mind, it's just normal. However if he denies a woman he's not attracted to, then he's a pig. Funny how that works. It's okay if it reinforces a female ego, but is unacceptable to skip unattractive people.

MrRIP · 2014-08-11T17:01:31+00:00

I think the story is full of bullshit. Either she's not 129 or her husband is a flaming phaggot. I need truth. 5'4 129 is fat in nobody's world.

symko · 2014-08-11T15:17:49+00:00

Feed the land whales to the omega males!

snakelovermoraga · 2014-08-11T17:37:11+00:00

Your title is simply not explicitly true. Tell me you've never looked at a woman and not been attracted to her because she was too skinny. More often than not, gaining weight makes women less attractive, but saying always in that regard is simply not true.

questionull · 2014-08-11T17:46:54+00:00

How do I get back into the happy-to-see-you-let's-fuck mindset?

By agreeing with your husband, having the courage to obey him, and honouring the privacy and sanctity of your marriage by not discussing it with other people.

ktappe · 2014-08-11T16:14:07+00:00

People: If you gain weight, you will become less attractive to the opposite sex. Period.

FTFY. I know we're in here to talk about how to deal with women, but there's little need to go out of your way to be sexist. All you do is make TRP'ers look like jackasses when you do this.

Title	Women: if you gain weight, you will become less attractive to men. Period.
Author	sheriffbigbywolf
Upvotes	300
Comments	247
Date	August 11, 2014 10:41 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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