Sad, crying everyday after the wedding

Kara__El · 2019-08-19T01:26:54+00:00

I didn't marry as a Christian virgin, but I did wait eight months to have sex with my husband, my second partner, after abstaining for six years. I'm gonna be honest. The sex was meh, at first. It was sweet, at best, awkward at worst... and he was far from inexperienced. He just hadn't been with anyone in a couple of years, after getting over the bar scene. I had all these romance novel sex scenes in my head and he wasn't able to fulfill those expectations, because it takes a bit for a man to get his stamina up. We have a great sex life now. I got my romance novel scenes. I even got my erotica scenes. It just took time to get to know each other sexually. Be patient with him and ask him to be patient with you. Furthermore, don't be afraid to try new things. He's your husband and all of it's allowed!

I also didn't live with my husband until a couple of months before the wedding and I cried the first night in our rent house. I missed my single girl apartment with my girly things and the beagle sleeping on a blanket in the bedroom. Now I had boy things. There was a dead deer hanging on my wall for crying out loud and we'd agreed that the dog wasn't welcome in the bedroom. It was hard getting used to living with another person and boys are gross. I'd moved to a new town for work and I missed my friends and was an hour from my grandma, as opposed to five minutes. It was a huge transition.

What you're feeling is normal and it will pass. I understand your husband's viewpoint that distance will help the family situation, but he's wrong to state that Holidays Only is the only setup that's normal or healthy or will work. Suggest a bi-weekly dinner and you visiting them on your own a couple times a month. It's a reasonable compromise.

It doesn't sound like you've made a mistake. Change is just hard and you're not wrong for feeling overwhelmed.

bitchypants · 2019-08-19T01:09:12+00:00

So many changes happened so suddenly that it’s totally normal to sort of “grieve” the life you left behind,

You CANNOT become isolated from your family. That is not what love is, that is not what marriage is. Aren’t all of your mutual beliefs family focused? A family is not one other person.

Other than that, I think everything will be fine. However, you really really cannot accept his insecure assertion that you visiting your family detracts from your marriage. It’s hurting you and it WILL hurt your marriage.

Hannelore010 · 2019-08-19T02:10:42+00:00

I’ve known women who’ve gone through a sort of grieving process when they marry, especially if their family life is really wonderful . It wasn’t my experience, but it’s very common (and also is described a lot in literature)

I think thinking of marrying as ADDING loved ones helps (your husband and in-laws and any kids that come along) instead of dwelling too much on what you’re leaving. Marrying does end a part of your relationship with your parents, and siblings. It’s sad, but the expansion and “merging” of support systems is also pretty great.

He can’t say you can’t visit your family alone. Unless they’re undermining your marriage or purposefully driving a wedge between you, or you’re acting inappropriate (going over to complain to your mom about your husband), spending time with your family is good! I think he just might have read or listened to some advice about making sure to establish boundaries when starting a new household, etc., and is imagining he’s enforcing a “bonding” time.

Why can’t you find a new teller job? I know it’s not the same as your old coworkers and boss, etc, but filling your day at least part time might be good. And what dreams do you have together to look forward to? You say you miss your parents’ big house? What’s the timeline for leaving the apartment and buying a house, even if a starter? What are some ways you can make your apartment “yours”?

And YES! Find a church! It’s concerning that, (instead of moving closest to employment), wasn’t priority for where you chose to live. Did your husband go to your church before you married? It’s not ideal, but continuing to go there and spending lunch and early afternoon at your parents might be a nice setup. 45 minutes isn’t far

My husband and I married while still virgins and it took a few weeks to get the hang of it, and 2-3 days to actually get it all the way in. I was pretty sore, and still remember how painful it was to sit for long periods of time the day after. We were “practicing” 2-3 times a day, though, and I’m blessed with a husband who never had really an idea of how it “should be,” and never got self-conscious about all the unexpected foibles and funny situations (not keeping time together while he thrust: he told me “stay still!” Lol) So, that means he kept a good humor and was patient; and we’d spend a long time making out and doing all but penetrate after the first few days. That helped. I am very much still attracted to him and actually wish we could have sex more ofte .But our early awkwardness was just the learning curve

Enjoy the newly-married thrill of your husband eagerly anticipating getting home to you at the end of the day!’Thirteen years later, my husband is still like that, but without the earnest urgency., It’d more mellow and comfortable.

Good luck! TLDR: get a job, find a church, see your parents once a week, keep practicing the sex (and use saliva or coconut oil to lube if you need to—ky jelly was a nightmare for us), make your house your home, it will get better

Congrats on your marriage!!!

organicsunshine · 2019-08-19T02:14:49+00:00

You are normal. Now stop and take stock of your life now. What is new is never easy. Remember you love him and your vows. Get some lubes and don't rush things, set a mood you enjoy. Have fun with creating this blank canvas that is your life together. Be honest and open and ask questions, you are in this together. Give yourselves both time to acclimate, but be open

MentalMonkey16 · 2019-08-19T16:51:39+00:00

Go see your family, 45 mins is not that far away, if he wants to join then great. If he's not available then that's not a reason you shouldnt see your family

secretladyaccount · 2019-08-19T01:22:17+00:00

Phew. Okay.

#1, Do not stop seeing your family. They will be the ones able to provide you with some perspective if things go south, and it is not healthy or normal for him to be jealous of them. No no no. If it is unsafe for you to openly flout this right now, at least remain in text contact with them in the meantime, and at some point consider letting them know what is going on so they don't think you don't want to talk to them (however, I would also be careful lest I spread gossip prematurely over a misunderstanding or fixable situation, as his relationship with them is important too). I would try to very carefully determine what exactly he's afraid of / insecure about and reassure him as much as possible. (Does he think they don't like him and will turn you against him? Does he not believe that that's really where you're going? Don't ask these things directly, but try tastefully to get him to elaborate on his discomfort.) Try to do extra positive things when you get back from an outside visit/trip so he has good associations.

#2, (explicit sexual content ahead) Sex should not nonconsensually hurt. In what way does it hurt, is it that you're not wet enough to be penetrated without chafing, or he's being too rough or is too large (btw the vagina expands when aroused)? Is he aware that he's hurting you? In a typical healthy relationship, the man will want you to like it, and be aroused largely by your positive reactions. Not just use you like a masturbation tool. I would definitely have a conversation about the fact that you want to enjoy it and you're glad you're having sex etc but that it has been uncomfortable and can he help you fix that. Maybe investing in some synthetic lube would be good?

MentalMonkey16 · 2019-08-19T12:27:39+00:00

There's already so many great comments so I'll keep mine brief and just say my wife left her family in another country to be with me. She was already here on a work visa so it's not like she was a mail order bride or anything but we were perfect for each other. She still cries over being away from her family and I feel terrible because I live so close to my family. I know it's not fair. She's not allowed to travel until she receives her greencard which can take a couple years, the process is arduous. You'll be just fine

Ringthrowaway77 · 2019-08-19T02:09:25+00:00

Hey there! I’m a 26 year old introvert who also got married recently to a teacher (and an extrovert), I’ve got a history of depression/anxiety surrounding big life changes, and we also moved to a new city with a smallish apartment after the wedding. So I can relate to some of this.

Sex: Unlike you, we slipped sexually before we got married. On a religious level I regret this, but we started dating at college when I was 18, so on another level... I’m shocked we lasted as long as we did, and being in an LDR for 3 years in the middle was the only way we didn’t ‘break’ sooner. On the upside, I’ve gained some experience in this arena. Number one: it does get better as long as he’s invested in making it better. In other words, it takes two to tango, but female sexuality is largely responsive. It’s very normal for sex to not ‘work’ the first time (that was my experience). I’m assuming from your post that he was also a virgin, or close to it, when you got married. In my experience, one of the biggest factors is foreplay from his end. Does he go down on you? Is he spending time during sex focusing on your experience? Is there enough romantic contact (cuddling) surrounding sex and throughout the day? Does he have any more experienced, committed men in his life that he can talk with about this stuff? Although you’re with a man that loves and is committed to you, sex can hurt both physically and emotionally, even to the point of feeling used; it’s OK to recognize this and push for changes, because either kind of pain is unacceptable long term. It can be difficult to talk about sex, but I hope you guys are starting to have those conversations. It may be controversial, but I find that a drink every now and then can also be helpful when learning how to talk about and really enjoy sex. Let me know if you want to chat further on this note.

As to his insistence that you guys ‘focus on your relationship’—as others have mentioned, the way he’s trying to isolate you from your family isn’t right. That said, my experience as an anxious introvert is that my husband has had a hard time conceptualizing my need for alone time, either by myself or with people other than him. He’s not clingy, it just took him a long time to understand that socialization SUCKS energy from me. For an introvert, the benefit of hanging out with close family/friends is that it doesn’t take much energy—you know each other deeply, so you can hang out with expending much energy. It might be useful to say something to him along the lines of, ‘since school will be starting again soon, I want to get used to spending time apart so it’s not a jarring change.’ But above all, keep cuddling up to him and calmly, clearly explaining that you wanting to be alone/not he with him is about YOU and your emotional and mental health. There have been a lot of changes, you just need time to process them, etc. It might take a while for him to ‘get it’—my husband still doesn’t always understand that if I go off alone, I’m not mad or moody, I’m just recharging. But keep reemphasizing that you need alone time, talk about definitive ‘alone’ or ‘family’ things you need to do (‘I’ve gotta go to a coffee shop to job hunt, see you in 3 hours?’ ‘I’ve gotta go for a walk!’ ‘I’ve gotta bake a cake with my sister because x!’) and turn up the charm when you reunite. Ultimately he should get it. If not, he might just be a bit clingy/insecure.

Good luck. You’re right that it should get better once work starts—as I’ve also learned, lack of a super rigid routine is often bad for teachers. It gives them too much time to fixate on relationships :)

Cucinawonderwall1492 · 2019-08-19T01:24:10+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that it has been so difficult. Transition and change can be so jarring, even if it’s caused by a wonderful thing.

That being said, I want to caution you to look out for red flags of non-loving control. It concerns me that he is isolating you from your family and friends. That is a Huge red flag, and it is often the first symptom that shows up in a domestic violence relationship. Especially when the reason for the isolation is couched in an excuse about strengthening or focusing on your relationship.

I have worked a bit with families who have experienced DV, so I might be overly sensitive to the warming signs. I hope I am wrong in this case. I wish you all the best, but please stay safe.

ChemicalYogurt · 2019-08-19T02:24:55+00:00

I feel that big changes can freak anyone out-they definitely freak me out!!! With the pain during sex I'd recommend using lube and doing lots of foreplay, like getting him to touch and go down on you and doing the same with him. It will be awkward at first but you'll enjoy it a lot more! Maybe even try using a small bullet vib during sex. It makes it a lot more enjoyable and I personally have an easy time finishing with that and do regularly (I'm female too, 20). I lead a life of sin before disobeying God, my fiance and I moved in together before marriage because of really hard home life (abuse) and low money. It was easier to get out of the abuse together. I do wish I did things differently, but I still love him. I think you should make a compromise with him about your family. Some people are different with how often they can see theirs. Like maybe visit once a month or something. My fiance and i usually visit our family every two weeks. It takes more work in a relationship living with someone than alone and it can be a lot to adjust to. Try to make the home yours in a way, decorate and spruce it up. Try to find time to get your things and make or buy things for your home. I hope this helps. Sorry for the ramble or if it doesn't make much sense, just woke up.

KathrynHogan · 2019-08-19T11:38:46+00:00

Ok wow. First, the sex, because that’s easiest to fix and frankly may fix the other stuff: Coconut. Oil. Lubricate yourself and his self and take it slow and easy, until it’s fun and YOU want it faster or harder or whatever. Play with each other. Experiment. Really try and be playful with it and connect with your temptress energy. Tease him. Seduce him. Feel his desire for you and let that light you up. Have him give you a full body massage (both naked!) and then see where it goes. And vice versa. Have showers together. Buy yourself some sexy lingerie and surprise him with it. Jump him when he gets home from work. Have him teach you how to give him an amazing blow job. It’s a whole new world, it’s ok that it’s scary and it’s normal for it to hurt at first. The lubrication should help with 50% of the pain, and taking a relaxed playful attitude (him too!) should help with most of the rest. Then it can just be fun.

Second - to be your best for your husband you have to be your best. What are your best qualities? What do you love about yourself? What does he love about you? What qualities are you hoping to cultivated yourself? Now the action part: what activities feed each of those qualities? My guess is that quality time in that big yard with your sister feeds many of them. So tell your husband that you’re miserable and you know that means you’re not able to be the wife you both want you to be, namely one that is happy, and (list some other qualities from above). You need his help and his support to be your best for him. Specifically you need: (Whatever you listed that you know feeds your best qualities) And you need his help in figuring out how to make that work.

It is not red pill to keep your wife from her family. It is not ok. It is what a frightened and pathetic little boy does, not a man, and certainly not a confident man or a leader. So show him how supporting you spending time with your family (and doing anything else needed to be your best) is the alpha thing to do.

You are the one who knows what you need. Period. The evidence that you aren’t getting it is that you are unhappy. Your sacred duty as a wife is to know what you need to be your best, pursue it, and ask for his help where you need it. Guys are not mind readers. Only we can be responsible for understanding and expressing our needs.

I wish you all the best. This challenging time will pass. Before you know it, you’ll be having amazing sex in a lifestyle you love and you’ll look back on this time and marvel that you felt so down, because you’re now so happy.

alexthegeologist · 2019-08-19T02:40:41+00:00

Just to add to all of this: I didn't feel comfortable after moving in together until after we moved into a new place together. It didn't feel like mine, no matter how much rearranging I did. When we moved, we got new furniture together and decorated together. Now it feels like ours

Hammocknapping · 2019-08-19T03:26:46+00:00

Did you do pre-marital counseling? I ask because these are the exact types of questions and issues that are covered in premarital counseling. If you did do pre-marital counseling or discussed these issues independently (it seems like you were fully aware of the housing situation at least) then you were on notice of these issues and still entered into the marriage.

In regards to the living situation, you knew you would have to quit your job and move into a tiny apartment 45 minutes away from home and you still wanted to get married and do it anyways. Now, you just need to get over it and move on with your life. You’re not working, so bring over a car load or two of stuff a day and start moving in and making this your home. You’ll get to see your family as you work on packing up your things and moving out.

My husband loves to spend all of our time together, but honestly sometimes I just want to do other things. If I want to go home for the weekend (multiple hours away, not just 45 minutes) I’ll tell him a couple of days a head of time. Unless he has a good reason for me not to go (oh my parents are visiting from out of state unexpectedly or I’m really sick and I don’t want to be home alone), then I go. Simply not wanting me to go because he’ll miss me is not a good enough reason, because I value time solo time with my family. My husband can be a bit of a grumpy old man when he’s away from home, so it’s honestly more enjoyable for everyone if he stays back.

But, reaching this point in our relationship took time, and we had the “benefit” of living together and working out our few minor kinks before marriage. Your husband is younger than you by several years and this is new for him to, so it will take time. But, it will take more time if you just sit around and cry all day. You are responsible for your own happiness, not your husband. The sooner you’re able to make yourself happy, the sooner you’ll have a happy marriage.

Neutral_3vil · 2019-08-19T03:49:20+00:00

I'm sorry to hear about that. My marriage was difficult at first to say the least. There were also some problems with pain and such. I did a lot of research on it and learned a few things that might be helpful.

(Also, I'm very sorry about the other stuff but I have less expertise with that, though I agree finding a church together and building a strong support group will likely help a lot.)

First, there is a book that was a godsend to me called The Guide to Getting it on. It's a very thick book and it covers just about everything you can imagine. It even has tips for if one of you is paralyzed or loses a limb. It's very thourough.

But from what I've found the pain can be caused by a number of things.

First, your body's ability to naturally lubricate could be a thing. Usually that's due to a PH imbalance. There are other symptoms as well that I'm sure you'd already be aware of.

It could also be a lack of good foreplay or just poor quality foreplay. Your body needs to be prepared, otherwise it will be painful every time. Make sure he's putting the work in. If it doesn't get better and you're trying to preserve his ego, suggest bringing a lubricant into play.

Other causes are less likely and potentially more complicated. The most common of those is known as Vaginal Paralysis. There are many different kinds, some only causing irritation, discomfort and pain, and others so severe that the muscles seize. There are even documented cases of couples having to go to the hospital to be "removed" from one another. Causes can vary but are often attributed to stress.

At the end of the day, whether it's your sex life, your homesickness or any other issues in your marriage communication is key. You need to be willing to open up to your husband about any and all of your issues and just as important, he needs to be willing to listen. Make sure he listens.

Theendisnearornot · 2019-08-19T03:53:41+00:00

There is a period of grieving after getting married that no one is prepared for. It is a totally new way of life! It makes total sense to be sad and homesick. It does get better :). Since you are conservative and Christian I love Mark Gungor’s podcast (he’s not doing any new ones, but his archive is great). Also the book Sheet Music is good. There are tons of great Christian resources for newlyweds that I devoured when I first got married. Just doing a quick search at the library or book store will bring up a ton (I can’t remember too many off hand). Women don’t do so great without connections. And if he expects to meet all of your emotional needs, he will be sadly disappointed. Women need their moms/aunts/sisters/friends for things their husbands can’t give them. It will become a drain on him and on the relationship! Trust me on this one - I moved 12 hours away from my family & friends and the first couple of years were rough without me having any emotional connections outside of my marriage.

embracingtheredpill · 2019-08-19T10:27:51+00:00

Having seen this happen many many times: You'll be ok, just give it time :) Think hard about how you can the space you're now in your own, as well the home you want to build. Move more of your stuff soon, and you should feel better.

Kaboomboomboomboom · 2019-08-19T11:13:38+00:00

Regarding your favorite shops thing: Once you have lived at the new place long enough, you will develop a kind of rhythm (especially when you find a new job), and you will find new shops and cafes you love. Maybe take time to read up online on cute cafes around where you live. Since you’re currently not working, you can find time to do it.

Regarding the family thing: I think he probably doesn’t want to feel excluded. Start by visiting your family often together. Tell him you’re sad because you haven’t seen your family and let him figure out a solution. Also, you can invite them to your home for a meal. At the very least, you can find a new hobby or occupation close to them and have that as an excuse to be there more often.

neapolitandynamite · 2019-08-19T13:39:42+00:00

I have no advice but the fact that he decided to move the two of you so far away from your family/what makes you happy regardless of your feelings on the matter, AND he doesn't like the idea of you visiting your family alone raises some red flags...

JohnPettimore · 2019-08-19T19:06:55+00:00

"I am very close with them and our relationship is more like that of roommates and friends at this point. I am also extremely close with my sister (26f) that lives in my parents house. "

Long-term, one of the things that will unquestionably torpedo a marriage is expecting your partner to become some sort of auxiliary member of your family of origin. He didn't marry your parents. He didn't marry your sister. He married you. Together, you're supposed to create a brand-new, independent family. Nobody's talking here about cutting yourself off from your family, but you have to grow up here, and realize that starting a new life really does mean a new life.

lindsaylbb · 2019-08-19T03:14:41+00:00

Excuse me, I’m new to this sub. What does red pill value mean?

SchlomoHarambe64 · 2019-08-19T11:12:13+00:00

Honestly... why would ANYONE ever think it is a good idea to wait untill marriage to move together? Let alone sex.

Like you marry a person without knowing the basics of compatibility...

[deleted] · 2019-08-21T22:00:52+00:00

My husband was the first person I ever had sex with too and it also hurt in the beginning but I realized something I was doing was making it worse and fixing that helped wonders. When you're nervous about it hurting and anticipating pain, you naturally and automatically "clench up" which makes it even more difficult and painful. I've found that if I take just a moment in the beginning to stop, take a deep breathe, and feel myself relax and unclench down there then there is no more (or much less) pain. You can take deep breaths and go slow with him to make it easier. Typically once he's lubed up it doesn't hurt at all and then it can be a lot of fun ;) It would also help if he was a little wet to begin with so you could use some nice lubes or even a little warm up with your mouth would make it a lot easier. Changing position may help too, I find "missionary" to be one of the most uncomfortable and most likely to cause pain so maybe try being on top, on your side etc. and see if that's any better.

As far as adjusting to a new life, home, town etc. Just try to give yourself some time . If you think about the fact that you've spent 28 years of your life having a certain rhythm and feel and it all changes in one day, that's a lot to take in. I personally didn't feel this way but I've always been the the type to want change and I also got married at 21 after living 3 hours away from home for 3 years so I had kind of already grieved that before marrying.

SeaAre · 2019-08-23T16:36:02+00:00

I am a long time lurker here, don’t generally agree with anything this subreddit preaches. This post really validates my opinions. It is simply very hard to deal with all those life changes at once.... i suggest you exercise patience (specially with sex, built anticipation never did any virgins any good). It is normal to fell depressed when too many things change at the same time or don’t play out as a expected. Situations like these require a lot o communication and compromise from both parties. I suggest you look up “effective adult communication” it has really helped me. Couples counselling also works wonder but its expensive and you kind of depend on his willingness to go. I really hope that you and person you have chosen withstand all the relationship trials you have ahead.

Zegiknie · 2019-08-25T13:39:36+00:00

Explain to him that you're sad and miss your parents and sister, you expected to keep seeing your family. Ask him when you can see them again.

Keep trying with the sex, but pause until all is healed if you're sore/chafed, otherwise it will just get worse and worse. Try different things. Masturbate.

Create a cozy reading nook for yourself. Make sure it's an extra place so he doesn't steal it :-)

Take regular walks so the place becomes familiar.

Plant something or get a pet.

You're a little lost now. Look after yourself. He's probably a bit lost, too, with the sex not working out right away.

GreatSmithanon · 2019-08-26T18:57:59+00:00

This stuff is all why I have significant problems with this kind of traditionalism. You need to really get to know each other properly before knowing if marriage will work properly. This means living together to know if you CAN and also occasionally having sex with each other to know if you're sexually compatible. You need to know each other in an unstable environment to know if you can really be together in a stable one. Marriage and any relationship is a two way street. You both need to respect each other or it becomes a relationship filled with problems that is doomed to either become toxic and abusive or to fail.

Tiny_Market · 2019-09-17T08:34:14+00:00

Please do not listen to the many women in this thread who are telling you to ignore your husband or do something without telling him.

Remember that this is Reddit, not Harvard. These people do not know everything.

Slay_Like_Buffy · 2019-10-21T18:30:45+00:00

45 minutes is not far at all. I live two hours from my parents in another state and I see them every single weekend. Breathe and relax. Get a car and things will be ok.

IrishStarr · 2020-01-03T23:25:03+00:00

Your story reminds me of 30 years ago. I moved in with my fiancé a month before the wedding. I waited to have sex and it was really awful the first couple of times. I cried daily and even called off the wedding. The wedding was called off because at the time my fiancé smoked pot. This was back in the 70’s when cops would lock you up for pot and take away your kids. My fiancé and I were at our apt with some friends and a neighbor called the cops. I answered the door, thinking I was going to jail for the first time. The cops were cool and told us to knock it off and turn down the music. After they left my fiancé didn’t understand the seriousness of the situation. Basically, he just thought it was no big deal. I cried all night and called off the wedding for 24 hours. God bless you both and always remember this is our temporary home. Because it is we will have many trial and tribulations before paradise. 🙏❤️

thisisme201 · 2019-08-19T01:12:13+00:00

No one held a gun to your head to move that far from your family?

ilene_cecelia · 2019-08-19T04:29:55+00:00

Oh babe. That is so rough, and I feel for you.

I don’t have any useful or valid advice because my way of life is basically the opposite of yours, but I admire you for doing all you can to make this work, and it’s plain to see that when you love someone, it’s with your entire heart.

I can only hope that things get brighter for you, and prompt you to contact your family so they can give you some love because you deserve it sooo bad. ❤️

korlayn12 · 2019-08-19T01:36:25+00:00

So many women out there who want to be married and then there’s you crying. Why don’t you try and be happy instead of crying in the corner lol

h0tNreadyTidep0d · 2019-08-19T18:33:02+00:00

Sorry but it sounds like you downgraded. This guy is supposed to better your life not make it worse. A teacher? An apartment? Isolation? Oh no. Sorry but redpill doesn't mean conservative Christian either. Redpill is about dating up and harmony between men and women. Its about being the best woman you can be without trying to be a half assed man.

Im not conservative or a Christian so maybe people will disagree with me here but let me say a few words about myself. Because I have worked on this concept for a long time.

Im currently dating a surgeon. I am getting my CRNA lisence. Kinda like an anesthesiologist. I plan on working full time. My goal is to eventually get a beach house and a sports car. With or without him. My bf isn't my bestie. He is my business partner. He provides. I give him comfort. He consistently make excellent choices and that is why I defer to him because he is the smartest man I have ever met.

Im not a sexy 20 year old. I am in my 30s with kids. Why do I get a top tier guy? Because I take excellent care of him, my home, my kids, myself. I went back to school so that I can keep up intellectually with him and have the self esteem needed to keep man like him. I make his life better. I fufill my part as the women in the relationship and he fufills his.

I dont live with him. But I will some day. I already own my own house and when his loans get paid off and he buys a nicer house than the beautiful place I live I will consider moving. Upgrade never downgrade.

But how will you get a nice house from a younger guy on a teacher salary? Sounds like you married for love but dont forget to love yourself. You need social interaction. Every day the rest of your life. He will not be providing that for you. So what are you going to do?

NoFaithInThisSub · 2019-08-19T01:20:45+00:00

You talked to him about any of this or just posted on Reddit 1st?

Title	Sad, crying everyday after the wedding
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