If you have lots of things to work on. Lets say low self-esteem, unemployment, etc...

Should I avoid women all together? I have met some woman and we hit off really well in the beginning.

But I could get with the idea of letting her in my life. Unemployment, anger, low self-esteem, directionlessness. So, I didnt pursue her any further. So, I am getting kind of sexually frustrated, and not having anybody and ofcourse the vicious cycle more low self-esteem.

I avoid women all together for this reason. I do work out. I started weightlifting in the begining of the year. Loved the sport. I sometimes study at home on my own, read history, I loved math and phsycics but whatever. The issue is I am getting older and I have not for over a decade not been able to figure my life together.

My father told me you should get the woman first and then your issue will be settled? What are your thoughts and view on such matters. Also, women input needed?

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Edit: People here are brutally honest, this is in a strange way also very nice. It is needed to have harsh truth thrown at you and not always feel good about yourself stuff. There is a time and place for both. Thanks.

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Edit: I am off to sleep you guys were great. All persepctive were really good. Peace until then.