Question mainly for BP: Do you disagree that women in general have an easier time than men getting dates/boyfriends/sex?

darkmoon09 · 2017-01-30T18:45:27+00:00

lol at all these women who think having to sit around and sift through hundreds of suitors and applicants for their attention is equivalent to "having it hard" the way men do. That's rich.

suwaii · 2017-01-30T09:44:47+00:00

One night stand yes. Relationship no, they need less social skills/confidence to enter a relationship due to being the ones who will be pursued but they will still be equally likely to enter a relationship as men just different factors are in play

wtknight · 2017-01-30T12:18:16+00:00

I don't think it's easy for women to find a relationship. It's easier for them to find casual sex if they want that kind of thing, though.

EliteSpartanRanger · 2017-01-30T15:15:19+00:00

Sex and first dates, yes.

Actually enjoyable sex, definitely not easier.

Second dates that lead into LTRs, no. It's equal difficulty for both genders.

questioningwoman · 2017-01-30T09:35:32+00:00

Sex yes. Relationships no. Except for official online dating sites where she can easily get both.

OfSpock · 2017-01-30T09:42:41+00:00

I'll give an example using relatively equal numbers. Say 60% of men want casual sex and 40% marriage. The reverse is true for women. Then you have 50% of women choosing from 60% of men for casual sex. So those women have an advantage. Another 40% of men can make their choice from 60% of women for marriage, giving them an advantage there. Leaving the remaining 20% to attempt to lure/con/trick their equivalent into a relationship the opposite of the one they want.

In actuality, I was curious about how common ONS were and based on the top six or eight results of google found that 50% of women have never had one and a further 25% had one and never again. So, yes, because women want casual sex so much less than men, the few who do want it have an advantage, the rest have to put up with being whined at by men. Similarly, men who genuinely want marriage have an advantage.

Lyanina · 2017-01-30T14:41:29+00:00

Isn't bluepill just not-redpill?

sublimemongrel · 2017-01-30T14:59:18+00:00

I think it depends on the woman. In general, yes I'd agree women have it easier. But I also think location and shyness or insecurity can be big hurdles, same as with some men.

BPremium · 2017-01-30T16:35:08+00:00

Women generally have it easier when it comes to "getting" attention, sex and relationships.

But "getting" is only half the battle. Retaining that person's interest and sustaining a happy, healthy relationship is much more difficult. In that realm I think the sexes are about equal.

SlashCo80 · 2017-01-30T19:55:00+00:00

So for all these women having it so easy finding relationships... who exactly are they finding relationships with?

Because if they are pairing off, that means a whole lot of GUYS are also finding relationships.

BiggerDthanYou · 2017-01-30T13:54:55+00:00

Generally easier yes, but the problem is that those TRPy extreme black and white thinkers don't realize that trends don't have to be true all the time.

They are like "the average woman has it easier than the average guy therefore struggling women don't exist". Sure it sounds logical for them, but as usual it isn't actually logical.

I will never understand TRPy logic and that's why I'm here. It's so interesting hearing them hamster everything that doesn't fit their Chad fantasies away with their weird unlogical logic.

Even if woman here say that they never get approached or never get any male attention TRPers hamster it away with "but this other woman complained about car calling therefore you've got options" because not only can they only think in extreme black and white, no they also can't understand that individual women aren't living the same life as the Instagram hotties that they stalk online.

DicklessAlpha · 2017-01-30T11:23:39+00:00

Don't you people get tired of this shit?

Lyanina · 2017-01-30T12:32:36+00:00

I agree it's easier for them to find casual sex, because there are more men who want casual sex and are okay having casual sex with someone they're not even that attracted to. (Anecdote: My boyfriend told me about a ONS of his that only happened because it was obvious she wanted it, even though he wasn't really into her and wouldn't have bothered pursuing her. Flip the situations and many women would have said no, not interested.)

As for relationships, I'm not sure. It's not as obvious to me.

Justapasserby557 · 2017-01-30T14:19:54+00:00

I think it really depends on the person's environment. Gender ratios play a big part of it; my computer engineer and electrical engineer friends who were male were largely single because their major is ~6% girls, meaning they had to go outside their major and friend group to find someone. Meanwhile, my female friends in the same major were all either married or in LTRs with other engineers by the time I'd graduated. In chemical engineering, where it's more a 50/50 split, there was an even number of single guys/gals. Some of them were single for a reason.

But besides gender ratios, there's also a biological component. Women who want kids usually want to marry by the time they're thirty, so most of them are trying to find someone who would make a good husband. I've noticed guys my age seem to care less about that, and wouldn't dump a girl if she didn't progress the relationship fast enough, unlike women my age.

Candy_Kittens · 2017-01-30T16:51:34+00:00

All the women are getting seduced, fucked, and relationshipped by Chad whilst all the nerdy virgin losers are acting like entitled jerks.

I thought this was common knowledge?

goatismycopilot · 2017-01-30T16:00:05+00:00

It is relatively easy for women to get sex, for the percentage of women who just want casual sex, because men are not picky and will sleep with almost any woman who is breathing and they will stick their dick in anything. Whether that casual sex is good sex or fun or whether the woman is figuring out her grocery list or errand list or some other distracting crap, no idea. There is a giant pool of men who want casual sex with basically any female human and a much smaller pool of women who want casual sex.

A little harder to get a date but still easier for a woman. Again is it a fun date or is it a snooze fest with some guy who talks about himself the whole time or complains about ex GFs or complains about anything, cannot say. I think finding a boyfriend is more challenging and difficult.

Princeso_Bubblegum · 2017-01-30T14:54:08+00:00

Yes, but I see this as more of systematic sexism than anything else. Traditionalist dogma literally encourages the whole "women are the lock and men are the key" mentality which leads to the current situation where women are constantly propositioned for a relationships, and the only thing they have to do is accept one of those. If this dynamic is challenged systematically, I believe we would have a more egalitarian dating field.

monster_strapon · 2017-01-31T01:11:49+00:00

Men can have sex pretty easily if they just want to bang other men. It's nothing about being male or female, it's about the unlimited sexual morass that is the male gender.

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Title	Question mainly for BP: Do you disagree that women in general have an easier time than men getting dates/boyfriends/sex?
Author	SlashCo80
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Date	January 30, 2017 9:28 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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