So I am man that wants to get married and have kids. Most people on this sub don't for the female mating strategy is BB the man, take his seed and then take his wallet. Obviously, I don't want that happening to me.

At the same time, I want to fulfill my biological imperative to create progeny. And I want to raise them to succeed in this world. I want my sons to grow up to take on the world like a man. I want him to start banging at 13 (I will teach him safe sex). I want my daughter to grow up with a high amount of self-respect, be smart enough to get with a high standards man and minimize the CC.
But that cannot be there w/o a present mother and father. W/o a father, the son grows up lacking a male role model and is raised by the hands of society, which is surely gonna make him beta. This resonates with a lot of people on this thread. W/o a father, a girl grows up to ride the CC for days and ends up with losers. In summary w/o the father, a kid grows up with a skewed up view of how to engage with the opposite sex.

Without a mother a kid grows up with bonding and self-esteem issues. Kids are egocentric and when ever the receive maltreatment or a lack of attention from the mother, they blame themselves. So if you want your kids to grow up with the ability to face the world in a healthy productive way, you need a father to be a father and a mother to be a mother.
Now for those of you who are married and have managed to walk the fine line between being Alpha/Beta in a relationship. How did you accomplish that? What did you do? How do you have a happy marriage and avoid getting the life sucked out of you?