I’m (19f) pregnant due to my lvm bf (20m) his reaction to finding out was so upsetting

MagnfiqueMaleficent · 2020-09-27T06:05:11+00:00

Prediction: he’ll continue to be cold and rude until you abort. As soon as this is all over, he’ll be nice again, even pretending nothing happened.
Go ahead and cut this off now and save yourself the pain later.

2020-09-27T04:56:24+00:00

Abort him too as soon as you can.

hopewings · 2020-09-27T04:52:34+00:00

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dzgata · 2020-09-27T08:35:09+00:00

Make sure he pays for the abortion then block his ass.

staywiththecrown · 2020-09-27T04:51:54+00:00

Yes, that's a good plan. For your sake, you need to sever yourself from him. I'm sorry you had to deal with his horrible reaction, but if you continue with the pregnancy, that's what the rest of your life will be like. Go through with your plan, and dump him. If he can't support you through an emergency (that he caused because of his dick, btw), then he won't be able to support you in other ways.

Artemis-Liberated · 2020-09-27T08:06:30+00:00

Please come back to this sub and talk to us as your going through this situation, being by yourself and handling this alone is a no. You should have some supportive friends around and is to keep you up as this will be difficult to get through. You are loved and we love you💚

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-09-27T11:29:24+00:00

Never let that man near your body ever again.

onlyrhetorical · 2020-09-27T07:43:25+00:00

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. But, yes, as you and the other ladies here said, abortion seems like the best course of action here. Your boyfriend doesn't give a shit about you or your health. He's not an LVM, he's an NVM. Dump and block, and never go back. Then go consult an OB-GYN for a better birth control method for the future. And I would strongly advise you to get therapy. The whole situation must be traumatic and talking it out with a therapist will make moving on easier.
I'm sending you much love! Be strong!

Hahane · 2020-09-27T09:38:45+00:00

So fucking typical. Hang in there girl. You're doing the right thing, dump him, as yesterday was already too late.

TheLastUBender · 2020-09-27T08:23:12+00:00

I am so, so sorry. He doesn't deserve your time or your attention. Choose yourself; don't think you have to self immolate and tie yourself to a man like him.

The only lesson you should take from this is that many guys that age are cowards that will accept 0 responsibility for the risk of casual sex.

And, if you are in the US, don't forget to vote.

MACMUA · 2020-09-27T14:04:10+00:00

This is the universe telling you, this shit bag isn’t for you. Please let the trash take it self out.

I had my Daughter at 19yo. It was fucken brutal. I left her dad and it’s so hard as a single mom that young. I pray that you are ok and have other ppl to support you through this. Please don’t feel guilty about doing it either. It’s literally impossible for a 19yo to work full time and be a mom that’s why women do it later in life when they have prepared. You need to put your self first and move on from this guy. He’s already shown you what he does when shit hits the fan. He’s a pussy not a man. He’s probably an embarrassment to his parents. This guy is absolute trash. If you need to talk about anything I am here. I wish you all the best

NoMoreLVM · 2020-09-27T08:38:17+00:00

Oh honey I’m so so sorry you’re going through this. Just know it will all be okay - I have so many friends who also had to have abortions, it’s not as uncommon as you think, and it’s not as invasive either. I hope you have a close friend to lean on and confide in during this time. You will get through this, and I hope you never speak to that POS again.

Davina33 · 2020-09-27T09:54:23+00:00

I'm so sorry. He is dreadful and cold. As you're already planning on having an abortion, I suggest go through with it and dump him. Have you got family and friends you can lean on during this difficult time. I just don't understand selfish men like him. Anytime they have unprotected sex with you they are fully aware pregnancy is a possible outcome, then to act all shocked and outraged. It's disgusting. You've got your whole life ahead of you, better to not waste it on this NVM.

VulcanSpaceSquirrel · 2020-09-27T15:08:46+00:00

He’s a child.

Dump. Block. Abort. Peace to you, lady. You deserve better

jeneprometsrien · 2020-09-27T12:57:37+00:00

I am sorry 😐 but please do yourself a favor and make this man your ex ASAP. I know it’s a lot, dealing with an abortion and a breakup, but keeping him around is way worse.

Good luck 🤗

ayhtdws1989 · 2020-09-27T07:06:30+00:00

You are too young to be having a child. Being a teenage mom will take a huge toll on u and ur child . I know this is ur first baby and u love it . But the father is a piece of shit who emotionally neglects you . Also imagine him doing the same thing to the child. He will be a Scott Disick 2.0 .might cheat ,will evade responsibility and will completely ignore you then dump u for a girl 10 years younger then him. I'm sorry this had to be like this. I wish he had reacted more appropriately but him not caring abt you or his child is saying ALOT. Sending you peace and support

2020-09-27T18:36:10+00:00

Really sorry you're going through this. He is complete trash. But this is most men. They are 99% garbage. Make sure you take lots of time for yourself to heal emotionally. Wishing you all the best.

randomgirlimok · 2020-09-27T06:46:39+00:00

Get an IUD

liarliarpantsonfirex · 2020-09-27T17:10:52+00:00

Please get an abortion, you are so young

2020-09-27T15:55:00+00:00

You are going to be alright. I was in a similar position to you at 19, I had the abortion (best decision ever now I am not tied to him) I don't regret anything. It took me 3 more years to leave him though, don't be like me.

diorgasm · 2020-09-27T23:12:53+00:00

Im sorry youre going through this. Youre making the right decision ❤️

Comicalacimoc · 2020-09-28T02:32:56+00:00

Dump and block him. You cannot make him be, feel or do anything.

2020-09-28T07:00:37+00:00

The abortion sub is a really good support place for what you are going through in conjunction to fds. I found it to be very supportive. A lot of women go through this same thing.

FDSxMuffinVSrat · 2020-09-29T11:12:08+00:00

You're right. That's a bad reaction. You deserve better. You deserve to kick him out of your life since he was sooooo selfish. This is not a man that will really improve your life.

NowTruly · 2020-09-27T13:09:45+00:00

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Title	I’m (19f) pregnant due to my lvm bf (20m) his reaction to finding out was so upsetting
Author	seraphemur
Upvotes	132
Comments	34
Date	September 27, 2020 3:03 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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