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Women, would you engage in a threesome with two men? Men, would you engage in an LTR with a woman who has engaged in a threesome with two men?

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Title Women, would you engage in a threesome with two men? Men, would you engage in an LTR with a woman who has engaged in a threesome with two men?
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Date September 12, 2016 2:21 PM UTC
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[–]despisedlove2Reality Pill Tradcon RP11 points12 points13 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

No. Now, I wouldn't. Women who see sex as a game involving multiple men aren't LTR material. I used to take blue pill view that a woman's sexual past was the past, but no, it isn't.

[–]sublimemongrelBecky, Esq.3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Women who see sex as a game involving multiple men aren't LTR material

Do you think it's fair then that women wouldn't necessarily want a promiscuous man whose behavior indicates the same?

[–]despisedlove2Reality Pill Tradcon RP7 points8 points9 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Perfectly.

PUAs are despicable creatures that no sensible woman should shack up with.

[–]sublimemongrelBecky, Esq.4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Nice to see you're consistent about it.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

i'd never have a threesome. i'm a selfish bitch.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

i'm a selfish bitch.

I was an only child and did NOT learn to gracefully share my toys. Its carried into adulthood.

[–][deleted] 0 points0 points0 points 9 years ago | Copy Link

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[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

i'm aware. I wouldn't have a threesome regardless.

[–]Truecelacct8 points9 points10 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I have and would probably do it again, if the right guys asked. They are okay, especially just for every-once-in-awhile sex things.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

hot

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Would you mention it to your future husband?

[–]Truecelacct14 points15 points16 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Of course, I tell anyone who asks. Ime, when guys ask if you've had a threesome or done anal or some other sex act, it's because they want to do that sex act. I've never had a guy try to shame me for any past experiences, they tend to be interested in trying them themselves!

I'm a very sexual person so my husband needs to be too. I don't want someone whose insecure about sexual acts I did years ago, before I even knew him. I want someone whose down to do those things. If a guy seemed put off by my sexual history that would be a big red flag to me.

[–]lollygagyoSociopathic Fake Flirter11 points12 points13 points 9 years ago (93 children) | Copy Link

Yes. But hardly any men want to do this/will admit to wanting to do this, ime, due to homophobia. And even men who will do this tend to only do it once -- my SO has done it, but didn't like it so he doesn't want to do it again (unlike RPers, I don't think this makes him a terrible person who preferred Becky to me or that this means he loves me less).

Orgies are easier for everyone than threesomes, ime. Less room for someone to get left out. More sweat and skin and shit going on for everyone to get caught up in the moment.

[–]ozymandias271That's not how evolution works.12 points13 points14 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Yes. But hardly any men want to do this/will admit to wanting to do this, ime, due to homophobia.

Bisexual dudes, my friend. God's gift to horny ladies everywhere.

[–]lollygagyoSociopathic Fake Flirter8 points9 points10 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Bi men always friendzone me, haha.

I need to find a beautiful pair of them who are into me! This is one of my oldest fantasies.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Maybe cuz Bisexual men don't worship the vag same way straight men do and are less likely to deal with a woman's nonsence.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

so true.

[–]SpaceWhiskey🍃 Social Justice Druid 🍂1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Amen to that my friend.

[–]SkentyDooBabbleRed Pill-ish Man6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (40 children) | Copy Link

I don't think it's homophobia. Its just not being homosexual. I don't want to bang dudes, not because I hate them or anything, but because I'm not into them sexually

I can't believe it's come to this, not being gay is being equated with hating gays

[–]AnarchkittyBetter dead than Red8 points9 points10 points 9 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link

There's a difference between not being sexually attracted to another guy, and not wanting to be sexual around another guy.

In a typical MMF threesome the guys aren't having sex with each other, they're just being sexual around each other. They don't have to be attracted to each other, just comfortable enough to not recoil if they end up touching or to go limp because there's another naked dude there.

That's the distinction. If a guy is seriously bothered by another man having heterosexual sex with the same woman, that's probably because of homophobia (although it could be other issues). Not that he is afraid of gay people, but of being perceived as gay (even by himself) just from being sexual with another naked dude, even indirectly.

[–]SkentyDooBabbleRed Pill-ish Man4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

It just doesn't seem like a good situation to me. Like how is sharing a girl better than having her to myself? Or what happens if I start taking control and he doesn't like it? Or if he tries to take control? Are we gonna fight?

It all just seems so not sexy and so not fun to me

[–]AnarchkittyBetter dead than Red7 points8 points9 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Makes sense. Your reasons are not homophobic, and I have no reason to believe you are homophobic.

Your reasons are not the reasons of most men though. We live in (I'm assuming you're in the US too, please forgive me if I'm wrong) a culture that is quite homophobic, and homophobia is the main reason that guys who are otherwise okay with sexually sharing partners will refuse to engage in a MMF threesome.

[–]machimusMahogany Pill1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

If a guy is seriously bothered by another man having heterosexual sex with the same woman, that's probably because of homophobia (although it could be other issues)

Why can't it be plain old territorialism? I know you said it could be other issues, but why do you assume that's probably homophobia rather than the more simple explanation?

[–]AnarchkittyBetter dead than Red1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

I was assuming territorialism isn't the issue because The whole thread is about guys who would be willing to engage in partner-swapping or other situations where she is sharing his partner, and specifically won't engage in a MMF threesome.

Ruling out territorialism, homophobia, or more specifically the fear of appearing gay himself (which is different but related) is the simplest explanation.

[–]machimusMahogany Pill2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

No, it isn't. Territorialism usually only extends to other males. Men don't consider women competitors for other women. If they did your point would hold, but it's not the same thing in practice so it doesn't.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

How is that homophobia when you specify he's having sex with the same woman. Pretty sure it's a turn off to see that and that's that. Then again, there are different guys.

[–]AnarchkittyBetter dead than Red1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I certainly understand it not being a turn on, but I don't understand why it would be a turn off. If a guy isn't attracted to cats, having a cat in the room isn't usually a turn off, it just doesn't do anything for him. Same with if a guy isn't attracted to guys.

I dunno though, maybe I'm the weird one, but when I was a little kid seeing other guys naked didn't bother me until I was taught by peers and adults that it should, and I have gotten over that and now it is just neutral again. Not a turn on, not a turn off. That seems to me to be the default state. In many other cultures around the world, that is how it is, guys have no problem, seeing other guys naked. It is a uniquely American thing to be bothered by it so much.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Cats and guys aren't the same. Cats and people aren't the same duh.

Cat in the room is no different than a chair in the room. You're not getting instincts triggered that some male is cucking you in front of you.

[–]ProbablyBelievesIt0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I have zero problems with naked men. But male nudity is a turn-off, for me, personally, unless I'm imagining myself in a scenario, and the character is just a proxy.

When you're trying to have sex with someone, it helps to be turned on - most people feed off of that energy.

Also, I don't even like most FFM scenarios. The only reason I don't rule them out, is because technically I can perform, and I hate ruling things out, if I can at all help it. But it's not exactly something I'd be thrilled about, if it were offered.

And I'd need to be in love, with at least one of them.

[–]SpaceWhiskey🍃 Social Justice Druid 🍂2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I mean, I had a threeway with two dudes who didn't touch each other but are also comfortable enough with themselves to be naked with each other in the same room without freaking out. There's a difference between "Nah, that doesn't sound like something I'd like" and "Whoaaaa no way dude I could never see another dude's naked dick I'd fucking freak I'm not gay!"

[–]lollygagyoSociopathic Fake Flirter6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago* (26 children) | Copy Link

I think it's latent homophobia in the specific cases that I'm talking about -- a few of these guys have even admitted it to be homophobia of a sort.

It's an ''I would hate to do that!'' reaction that's rooted in fear. They're afraid of seeing another man's dick in a sexual situation b/c they hate/fear what others could perceive it to say about them -- even if they're not actually getting jiggy with the other dude.

You're not banging a dude in every threesome that involves two dudes, btw. I think this post is about two men fucking the one woman -- not fucking each other.

When I say ''homophobia'' in this context, I also don't mean ''evil, gay-hating folks!'' -- these are some of my nearest and dearest. But it's latent homophobia and most of 'em would call it such. We were all born into a culture that's riddled with prejudice. And those prejudices mark all of us in some ways.

I'm sexist, I'm racist, I'm homophobic -- I try not to be, to educate myself out of my biases. But for goddamn sure I am all of those things on occasion. We all are. ''Homophobic'' is not always some dirty word that's being thrown at you like an insult -- and it's hard to have conversations about things like this if people get so defensive.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

It's an ''I would hate to do that!'' reaction that's rooted in fear. They're afraid of seeing another man's dick in a sexual situation b/c they hate/fear what others could perceive it to say about them -- even if they're not actually getting jiggy with the other dude.

Or maybe some of us just don't have sex with people we are willing to share? I mean, I really don't care about another man's dick in a sexual sense, but I certainly have no desire to see another mans dick inside the woman I'm married to. In fact, I suspect the only way I could do something like this would be to do it with two people I didn't care much about, which of course isn't going to happen.

You're not banging a dude in every threesome that involves two dudes, btw. I think this post is about two men fucking the one woman -- not fucking each other.

Changes nothing at all. Its the obvious PoV regarding sexuality here that is my issue: meaning such a woman would have to have a very "recreational" view of sexuality past very promiscuous. I'm not a fan of people that view sex as primarily a recreational activity when it comes to LTR/Marriage. Most people do to an extent as casual sex is prevalent, but threesomes and group sex are going WAY past that line in my mind.

[–]lollygagyoSociopathic Fake Flirter6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

Or maybe some of us just don't have sex with people we are willing to share?

Absolutely! But these same men are okay with orgies and MFF threesomes, so I doubt it's that. I'm talking about men who are otherwise okay with group sex. For sure, some people aren't.

People who genuinely take this stance tend not to be able to stomach all of those things -- I bet, in fact, that you don't like to share whether it's with a woman or a man. Threesomes in general are just a no, right?

I think you're a rarity (I don't meet many people like you). Most dudes are exceptionally keen to have a threesome with two women, but don't want to have a threesome with two men involved because of either a) latent homophobia or b) insecurity.

This isn't me projecting. This is literally based on things that people have said to me over the years.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

But these same men are okay with orgies and MFF threesomes, so I doubt it's that.

Is it possible that perhaps the experience they've had with those previous sexual partners have indicated to them that even though they enjoy casual group sex, people that do so aren't really the best partners? I suppose that would put such a person in an awkward position though, because it would be admitting that they themselves aren't the best bet for a LTR.

(I don't meet many people like you)

I'm just an analog watch in the digital age. Perhaps charming, but mostly outdated and antiquated. And certainly showing my age. :P

[–]lollygagyoSociopathic Fake Flirter4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh, I'm not talking about the dating aspect! Just the sex aspect.

Most of these dudes would date women who've had MMF threesomes, but wouldn't have them themselves. My ex-fiancee, for example, who explored basically everything with me sexually would not do this. It was a hard limit for him, even though it was one of my biggest fantasies -- he said if I could find two guys who'd do it, he'd give me a free pass. He'd still have married me.

As per usual, I think people are entitled to date whoever they want on whatever basis. I'm never the person yelling, ''wife up sluts if their sexual values don't align with yours!!'' God, no. Different strokes for different folks and all that jazz. Your values are your values -- I may not agree with them and sometimes I may think they're hypocritical (as in the case of men who sleep around and don't want anything to do with women who're like them), but I ultimately think there's little you can do about them. And it's not productive to go against the grain for anyone (no slut is going to be happy wifed up to a man who doesn't like sluts, you know?)

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

There's a difference between splitting a watermelon between two people and eating two watermelons. I honestly doubt homophobia is the reason people don't want another man in the bedroom, I can't see why having another man would even be better for me in anyway. Might be better for her, I don't know, but not me. If anything it makes me have to see another dude naked which is turnoff for me. It's legitimately worse than vanilla. The reason men would be down for MFF or even orgies (2 watermelons 2 people) but not MMF is because MFF is just better.

[–]lollygagyoSociopathic Fake Flirter7 points8 points9 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I honestly doubt homophobia is the reason people don't want another man in the bedroom

Okay. Out of the 10 men that I've raised this with, 7 of them said that they couldn't do this because of latent homophobia. Maybe they were lying to me for kicks but I doubt it.

I said in my experience.

I highly doubt my partners have been lying to me about why they won't do a MMF threesome, but hey. You tell me about what these people I've been intimate with are probably thinking, internet stranger -- I bet you know better than me.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

I don't think your friends are lying either, honestly. I just doubt they're representative of the general population.

[–]AnarchkittyBetter dead than Red3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

As a guy who has talked about this with other guys, her friends are representative of the general population.

And it's not just guys talking, it's popular culture too. The idea that a MMF threesome has "gay" undertones is ingrained in our culture, otherwise jokes like "It's not gay if the balls don't touch" or the Lonely Island's song "Golden Rule" wouldn't be funny. the joke is that they're subverting the default assumption that MMF is at least a little "gay".

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

It is a little gay though. If the other man does nothing for you, then it's worse than vanilla. I think everyone understands this, and it's why people don't want to try it. Most straight people get turned off by a man's noises, the look of his body, and having to take turns instead being able to hit anywhere you want. I'd rather solo a 6 then MMF with a 9.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

being disgusted by a male body is not homophobia. It's obviously a turn off for a heterosexual men to see another dude fucking his SO. Like, why does anyone even have to tell you that? Not to mention that having another man taking a girl from you or worse fucking her in front of you triggers other instincts(territorial and such). There's nothing homophobic.

[–]AnarchkittyBetter dead than Red5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

being disgusted by a male body is not homophobia.

No, it's called being a philistine who has no sense of aesthetics.

It's obviously a turn off for a heterosexual men to see another dude fucking his SO.

"Obviously", huh? Why do you assume you know what everyone else thinks?

Not to mention that having another man taking a girl from you or worse fucking her in front of you triggers other instincts(territorial and such).

Yeah, if you feel that territorial you would have problems with any shared-sexuality situation (FFM threesomes, partner swapping, open relationships). The subject of discussion is guys who are fine with other things that don't involve being close to another dude, but would refuse to be involved in a MMF threesome.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

"Obviously", huh? Why do you assume you know what everyone else thinks?

Because of the definition of a heterosexual man, it obviously follows from it.

Yeah, if you feel that territorial you would have problems with any shared-sexuality situation (FFM threesomes, partner swapping, open relationships). The subject of discussion is guys who are fine with other things that don't involve being close to another dude, but would refuse to be involved in a MMF threesome.

Absolutely, most guys would have problems with any arrangement that involves his SO being fucked by another man. FFM is obviously not supposed to be in that list - in FFM you don't share, you get two and they share you.

[–]AnarchkittyBetter dead than Red3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Because of the definition of a heterosexual man, it obviously follows from it.

The definition of a heterosexual man is that he is not attracted to, and therefore not turned on by, other men. Not that he is actively turned off or disgusted by them.

The whole idea of guys being bothered by seeing other guys naked is a very American, cultural thing that doesn't exist in many other countries. It's not biological, it's learned.

FFM is obviously not supposed to be in that list - in FFM you don't share, you get two and they share you.

In FFM, you're sharing your partner with another woman. How is that different from sharing her with another man? Or do you mean you would only have an FFM threesome if the girls didn't touch each other?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

The definition of a heterosexual man is that he is not attracted to, and therefore not turned on by, other men. Not that he is actively turned off or disgusted by them. The whole idea of guys being bothered by seeing other guys naked is a very American, cultural thing that doesn't exist in many other countries. It's not biological, it's learned.

Mmm it's not like another man is a piece of furniture or another element of the background. It's a person who's participating in sex with you. Having that around is not turning on, even the thought of it.

I don't think it's an American learned thing. I didn't grow in America and I know many people who aren't turned on by men.

In FFM, you're sharing your partner with another woman. How is that different from sharing her with another man? Or do you mean you would only have an FFM threesome if the girls didn't touch each other?

Ok, let's do the math. In MMF you get 1/2 of a woman and 1/2 of a man (who doesn't turn you on or whatever). And let's consider FFM where girls touch each other since you insist that for some reason it's not working to mans benefit and he won't get aroused by seeing that, which, I assure you, is non-sense. So yeah, let's imagine women and men are the same (they are not, not in sex or anything related to that) and you are sharing a girl when girls touch each other. Great, then you share girl A with girl B, but also girl B with girl A. In the end, you get 1/2woman +1/2 woman = 1.

1>1/2. That's the difference.

[–]SkentyDooBabbleRed Pill-ish Man2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link

Yeah I don't want to see another dudes dick in a sexual situation because I think other dudes dicks are sexually repulsive. Not because I care what other people think.

I guess I don't really "get" MMF threesomes. Since I'm not into banging dudes, it seems like it's way less fun than just regular MF sex. Now instead of just banging a woman, I've got some other dude up in the mix. My ideal sex does not involve me being anywhere near that kind of energy.

[–]GridReXXit be like that4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

But porn. Is full of dicks and balls.

[–]SkentyDooBabbleRed Pill-ish Man1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

Yeah I don't really like that either? I mean it's not really what I'm looking at in porn

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

so it probably wouldn't be what you were looking at in an MMF either.

[–]SkentyDooBabbleRed Pill-ish Man1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

That's fair. I think my issues with it would be more what I discussed in the second part - I dont think I'd like the vibe/energy of sharing a woman with another dude.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

a reasonable feeling. it seems like most TRPers would expect the woman to be totally okay with another woman there, though, and be upset if she had the same feelings you stated above. they also rationalize it as "i don't want another person there, ugh" until someone asks what they'd do if it were two women with them and they're totally on board (which is what most people take issue with).

one guy in this thread refused to even call MMF a threesome, despite being fine with MFF being a threesome.

[–]SkentyDooBabbleRed Pill-ish Man0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

But here's the thing - when we are doing MFF, we are all banging each other. Each one of us is getting it on with the other two. It wouldn't be that way with MMF because I don't wanna bang dudes.

I realize there's some disparity there - but I don't think there's really any "fix" for it. I think it's one of those things that I should simply appreciate coming out in my favor and be mindful of how lucky I am in that regard.

[–]amatorfati1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Anybody who doesn't find that concept inherently disgusting is someone I just cannot respect as a human being.

[–]AnarchkittyBetter dead than Red0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

That's okay, I don't respect people who don't respect people for stupid reasons.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (43 children) | Copy Link

Yes. But hardly any men want to do this/will admit to wanting to do this, ime, due to homophobia.

I think it's slutphobia. I've turned down a MFM for the same reason I've turned down a girl with an admitted 200+ partner count.

unlike RPers, I don't think this makes him a terrible person who preferred Becky to me or that this means he loves me less

RPers don't think this either.

[–]sublimemongrelBecky, Esq.5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

RPers have straight up said if she has a sexual past doing things she doesn't do anymore than she's lying to her current partner and she doesn't find him as attractive. I think that's what Lolly is getting at with the last part of her comment.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/52ejy2/women_would_you_engage_in_a_threesome_with_two/d7jm51v

[–]lollygagyoSociopathic Fake Flirter5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (40 children) | Copy Link

I think it's slutphobia. I've turned down a MFM for the same reason I've turned down a girl with an admitted 200+ partner count.

Maybe for you. But usually when I talk to men about this, they say some variation of, ''I don't want to see another dude's dick that close up".

It's not that they have an issue with a girl being with multiple men at once, because the same dudes will gladly participate in orgies.

And don't they? I see so many comments about how ''IF MY GIRLFRIEND DID ANAL WITH SOMEONE BEFORE ME SHE'S GOTTA DO IT WITH ME!!!! Otherwise she doesn't love me like she loved Chad."

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (33 children) | Copy Link

And don't they? I see so many comments about how ''IF MY GIRLFRIEND DID ANAL WITH SOMEONE BEFORE ME SHE'S GOTTA DO IT WITH ME!!!! Otherwise she doesn't love me like she loved Chad."

Let me fix this for you:

"IF MY GIRLFRIEND DID ANAL WITH SOMEONE BEFORE ME SHE'S GOTTA DO IT WITH ME!!!! OTHERWISE IT MEANS SHE THOUGHT CHAD WAS HOTTER THAN ME!"

It has nothing to do with "love" at all.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points9 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

given how often TRPers (for example) equate how hot she thinks he is with how much she loves (or cares for) and values him, though... then it does have to do with love, or at least what love TRPers believe women are even capable of.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

then it does have to do with love, or at least what love TRPers believe women are even capable of.

Perhaps some do, but I tend to separate that out because I know its possible to "love" someone and not find them sexually attractive at the same time.

So in this context, it isn't "romantic love" in question, its actually lust. And, if she "lusted" for him enough, the theory is she'd be willing to do anything he wants. How true that is or is not may be up for debate, but don't confuse lust with "love" here.

And that being said, I've said before that if I was forced to choose between my wife "loving" me and "lusting for me, I'd take overwhelming lust. As long as she was that attracted to me, and I wasn't too much of an asshat, she'd figure out mentally how to "love" me properly. However, love without lust tends to lead to deadbedrooms, as she may still care for me but has no interest in sexual intimacy.

Of course what I really want is both love and lust. But, if I had to choose, overwhelming lust it would be.

EDIT: changed a "with" to "without" LOL

[–]lollygagyoSociopathic Fake Flirter4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (26 children) | Copy Link

I see people bring love into it all the time, though. You're right -- it usually comes after the 'hotness' thing. It's 'if she realllly loved me, she would do this for me like she did for Chad, just because he's hawt'.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (25 children) | Copy Link

DING DING DING! Basically, if you've done X with a casual sex partner and you refuse to do it with an LTR mate, he may very well see that as a lack of raw desire on your part, and in my opinion he'd be right to wonder that.

[–]lollygagyoSociopathic Fake Flirter6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link

Disagree. Exploration isn't about desire, imo -- it's about curiosity.

I desire my partner enough that I'd do anything new & anything I liked with him. I won't repeat things I don't like, though -- because the thought of doing so makes my stomach turn.

In this specific case, I can absolutely see why my partner doesn't want to repeat a MFM threesome with me and I don't think it means he thinks I'm less desirable than the random girl at the music festival, lol.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 9 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link

I desire my partner enough that I'd do anything new & anything I liked with him. I won't repeat things I don't like, though -- because the thought of doing so makes my stomach turn.

And what if its something he never tried but you did and did NOT like it? Is he just left without the opportunity?

[–]lollygagyoSociopathic Fake Flirter5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago* (8 children) | Copy Link

Yes. In the same way that I'm just left without the opportunity re MMF threesomes -- just because he's tried it and didn't like it. Like, it sucks, but I'm not going to pressure him to do something that I know will make him deeply uncomfortable.

Now. If this were one of my ''absolute must'' sexual activities or experiences, I just wouldn't date him/would have broken up with him when I realised we were incompatible. Say, if he wouldn't have anal with me -- I can't date men who don't like anal because I really do and it's giving up too much for me.

But this? I can live with it, it's something that would add spice -- a fantasy I've carried for a long time, but not something I need with any regularity. There's no way it'd be appropriate for me to pressure him to relive an experience that made him deeply uncomfortable.

(We're all about giving free passes, tho -- in reality I'd probably give him a free pass to try whatever activity he's after with someone else).

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

If this were one of my ''absolute must'' sexual activities or experiences, I just wouldn't date him/would have broken up with him when I realised we were incompatible.

OK but you'd have to, ya know, talk about your sexual history to even have that discussion, and I'm seeing MANY people here claim they don't ask.

I agree with you 100%, which is why I do not prescribe to the "sex on date 1,2,3,x" rule. In short: I don't have sex with someone until AFTER we've covered this compatibility stuff. But I can't help but wonder, how do people go about doing that if they refuse to talk about their past in the first place?

(We're all about giving free passes, tho -- in reality I'd probably give him a free pass to try whatever activity he's after with someone else).

Yeah I'm definately not about that. LOL. In fact, we don't even play the "which celebrity is a freebie" game some of our married friends do. I don't care that there will never be a chance my wife can fuck X celebrity, if it occurred it will still end in a divorce. So having a "freebie" is pretty much directly against my moral structure. Its implying that "if" it could happen, it would be OK. And no, there is no situation where me or my wife having sex with someone else will be OK, unless one of us is dead or we are already divorced.

And, this is partly why casual sexual attitude becomes an issue in my mind. I wouldn't be OK with my wife being "OK" with me stepping out. Even if she agreed she would NEVER do so, if she told me she'd like our marriage to be one way open in my favor, I'd seriously being to question the marriage's longevity.

[–]ozymandias271That's not how evolution works.1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Having an actually fun version of that sexual experience with that specific person is off the table anyway, because having sex with people who aren't enjoying it sucks. At least this way you know that it's off the table ahead of time and don't go into the relationship thinking that you might get to do the thing all the time.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

At least this way you know that it's off the table ahead of time and don't go into the relationship thinking that you might get to do the thing all the time.

Provided we actually talked about our sexual past honestly? Sure. What I'm seeing is a whole lot of folks that don't seem to want to be open and honest about their pasts, and I can't help but wonder why.

And believe it or not I do agree with you. I'm not suggesting I'd be happy having sex with my wife she had no interest in here. But if you aren't completely honest about your past with a prospective mate, how would they know it was a dealbreaker in the first place?

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Of course not, that means you are more desirable. Because if he shared you, he'd only get 0.5 of you instead of the whole

[–]Truecelacct5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

Are you serious? Maybe she didn't like X so she doesn't want to do it again. Maybe she and Chad had completely different sexual chemistry that set the mood for doing X. How can you not understand that people have sexual preferences and boundaries? It's not a personal attack on you, your relationship, or your attractiveness.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

Easy now, I'm showing a PoV here, I didn't say how much of it I buy into. But...

Maybe she didn't like X so she doesn't want to do it again.

Absolutely possible, and that would have to be figured out. But, where does that leave the guy in question if he never tried X and is not in a monogamous relationship with the woman that did? Maybe she hated anal, but he's never tried it and has now promised to be monogamous.

Maybe she and Chad had completely different sexual chemistry that set the mood for doing X.

LOL well I'd say many men would be concerned over this exactly, myself included. Look, if the "chemistry" with Chad was such that she did anything and everything with him, THAT is what I want in my marriage. Why in the hell would I want to promise to be sexually exclusive with a woman that doesn't have that level of chemistry with me? Sounds like I'd be signing up for a miserable married sex life, doesn't it?

It's not a personal attack on you, your relationship, or your attractiveness.

Doesn't matter what the reason is, its how it is interpreted by your SO. So if that one time you tried anal was just horribly painful, you better do a good job of imparting that part of the equation. Otherwise? All he may see is you gave up the brown eye to a douchebag you never talked to again, but you won't even try it with the man you claim to love and cherish. Again, not saying that is what's happening, but the PoV is reasonable in my mind.

Which is partly why I believe casual sex in general is horrible. Ideally, you should be discovering your likes and dislikes with the person you'll be with long term. No harm, no foul if the first time you both try anal is together and it doesn't work out. Can't say the same if only one of you has been down that road, and are now monogamous.

[–]Truecelacct5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Maybe she hated anal, but he's never tried it and has now promised to be monogamous.

What if she thinks it would be really hot to peg a guy with a 9" strap on? But he's not into it and now shes promised to be monogamous.

Discuss your sexual boundaries beforehand. If it's your life long dream to do X and she says she doesn't want to do X, break up. Monogamy doesn't mean your partner has to compromise on their sexual boundaries.

As far as the "chemistry" thing goes, let me give you an example. I had a short FWB situation with this guy in college and we had rough sex that included choking. I had never been into choking before, but with our carnal chemistry, it worked. When I met my current SO I told him I was in to choking. He tried, but it just didn't work with him. That said, we found our own specific type of chemistry that is incredibly hot. There are things that I do with him because they feel right that I will probably never do with anyone else. Everyones preferences and kinks play off each other differently.

Doesn't matter what the reason is, its how it is interpreted by your SO

Then ditch that SO! You shouldn't ever be with someone who is 1. insecure about what you did with past flings and 2. someone who tries to push your sexual boundaries. No one should ever pressure someone to do things they aren't comfortable with in bed.

Ideally, you should be discovering your likes and dislikes with the person you'll be with long term.

I agree, but the reality is I don't want to get married until I'm in my late 20s. I did not want to wait that long to have sex.

[–]GridReXXit be like that5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

You do realize there are things women want to do that men have hard no's about. We just suck it up. Men tend to bitch about it.

For example she wants a MFM threesome. She's probably given him a FMF threesome. But that's his hard no.

Why is this so damning a concept ?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Its been a real Monday, so I may have used up my brain capacity for the day, but I'm not getting your drift on this one.

Personally? I wouldn't want to marry a woman that even thought she wanted a MFM threesome, or a FMF threesome. In fact, sex with more than 2 people involved is pretty much just off the table for me, and any of it in the past is a deal breaker.

I wouldn't expect to get my FMF threesome in if she didn't get a chance to do the same, but I have zero interest in either, and wouldn't be interested in pairing off with a woman that had any interest in either. And certainly not of she's done one or both in the past.

So if I'm way off on your reply, chalk it up to brain dead before end of business. Monday kicked my ass this week. haha

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Correction, she didn't like X with Chad.

[–]impossibleworlds 1 points1 points1 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

What if she's never done that with anyone and doesn't plan to start now just to prove some silly point to him?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

What if she's never done that with anyone and doesn't plan to start now

In that case there would be no concern of Chad being hotter, right? That is a hard boundary. But, if it was OK for Chad, but not for others, that's a boundary that can obviously be pushed by a hot enough man, since its been done once already.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

No matter how hot he might be it isnt going to give her some Linda Lovelace type mix up with her clit up in her butt hole. Women are also pleasure receivers, they aren't just pleasure givers.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Absolutely! But it seems like many women are OK with simply "giving" pleasure to a hot enough man, and will tolerate NOT getting much out of the deal simply to be with him. I'm sure you can see how the guy you end up with 10 years later might view that with a bit of skepticism.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago* (5 children) | Copy Link

And don't they? I see so many comments about how ''IF MY GIRLFRIEND DID ANAL WITH SOMEONE BEFORE ME SHE'S GOTTA DO IT WITH ME!!!! Otherwise she doesn't love me like she loved Chad."

Not if she tried it once and didn't like it. Why won't she try it with me if she tried it with him?

[–]lollygagyoSociopathic Fake Flirter4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, believe it or not, I see dudes say that it still means she doesn't love them. Because she gave Chad that chance and didn't give it to him.

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[–]lollygagyoSociopathic Fake Flirter9 points10 points11 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

What's so confusing about it? Honestly...people have sexual limits? This is genuinely not hard for normal people to understand.

She doesn't want to do it for whatever reason -- it's not pleasant for a lot of people, it's made out to be painful etc. Everyone has their limits.

I'm wild as all hell, but I won't do scat or golden showers. It grosses me out and it doesn't feel like submission or domination to me. Just...gross. I'd laugh at some guy who was like, ''I'm confused, though, because you seem to really like all of these other things!!'' it's so...lacking in basic human understanding.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Nah if she tried it once with him, why not try it once with me?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You're right. Edited.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

How is this homophobia?

[–]ProbablyBelievesIt0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Yes. But hardly any men want to do this/will admit to wanting to do this, ime, due to homophobia.

Just curious - do you feel that lesbians hate straight/bi men? Normally I agree with your posts, but this one is a bit bullshit. Just because some guys would enjoy a threesome, if they gave it a chance, doesn't mean we all would.

I'd love to be attracted to everyone equally, I could have made some very deserving men very happy, but it just doesn't work that way.

[–]lollygagyoSociopathic Fake Flirter1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Nope! I don't think all men who don't want to have threesomes with other men are homophobic. But latent homophobia -- rooted in fear, rather than hatred -- is the reason I've been given most often by partners for not wanting to do an MMF threesome.

And I do think there's cultural messaging/pressure about this for men that doesn't exist for women as u/anarchkitty mentioned below.

This isn't a sweeping generalisation, but I do think it's a very common thing that affects men and honestly, I'm not judging. It sounds as bad as being slut-shamed is for women.

[–]ferretsRfantasticBlue Pill Woman5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Woman here. I've banged two dudes at once on two separate occasions and would do it again lol however I'm in a very happy monogamous relationship right now :)

P.s. no I don't cheat or only think of alphas lol

[–]BluePiller177614 points15 points16 points 9 years ago (45 children) | Copy Link

I have been in a relationship with a woman who had a threesome with two men.

I've had a threesome with two women so who am I to judge?

[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points-1 points 9 years ago (44 children) | Copy Link

Well it's not the same, but I'm sure it ended because you were "incompatible" and not because she wasn't LTR material.

[–]BluePiller177614 points15 points16 points 9 years ago (43 children) | Copy Link

I dont understand how what you linked related to this, nor do I see how the two are different.

No it ended because she had to move across the country for work and neither of us wanted a long-distance relationship.

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[–]BluePiller17768 points9 points10 points 9 years ago (35 children) | Copy Link

You linked something about woman "giving it up for free"

The word threesome is no where in that post. So yeah Im a little confused. may take the time to write out what you mean instead of linking to past comments?

[–][deleted] -3 points-2 points-1 points 9 years ago (34 children) | Copy Link

Yeah sure.

A promiscuous woman is low in value. A man that can get laid easily, much more so a man that can bang two girls at the same time, is high in value. A promiscuous woman and a promiscuous man are not equivalent. Therefore you have every right to judge.

[–]BluePiller177614 points15 points16 points 9 years ago (30 children) | Copy Link

I wouldnt consider her "low value" and I definitely wouldn't consider myself "high value." We were literally just two people who were open and comfortable with what we wanted sexually. I dont see how a single sex act can determine a persons "value" for the rest of their life.

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[–]BluePiller17769 points10 points11 points 9 years ago (28 children) | Copy Link

So what other sex acts will, even if done once, make a woman low value for the rest of her life?

Is there any sex act that a man can do once to make him low value for the rest of his life?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago* (18 children) | Copy Link

So what other sex acts will, even if done once, make a woman low value for the rest of her life?

Multiple partners simultaneously is the only one I can think of.

Is there any sex act that a man can do once to make him low value for the rest of his life?

Being an adult virgin. Ordering pizza for random girls on Tinder. Raising a girls child so she'll have time for casual dating.

I've established that the ability to get laid makes a man more valuable, haven't I?

[–]SpaceWhiskey🍃 Social Justice Druid 🍂0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

Your views are refreshing. See, you're the type of dude I'd have a threeway with. (Take note RP dudes, this is how you get kinky sex)

[–]sublimemongrelBecky, Esq.4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

It depends on what values you are looking at. Personally I value a man who places a similar value on sex that I do (thinks it's important and better shared with someone you care about). If you're looking at it from that angle, promiscuous men and promiscuous women are equivalent. Hence why I wouldn't want to date a super promiscuous man. He doesn't have similar "sex values" as I do and therefore, he's lower value to me.

[–]BluePiller17762 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I think this is a completely fair statement to make. People usually date others who share similar values. I could say the same for a woman who puts too much meaning into sex (ie. waiting for marriage or something). A girl like that might be "low value" to in terms of dating. But that is a personal opinion to me.

Stating that any woman who has had a threesome is low value or any man who has had one is high value to everyone across the board is ridiculous.

[–]sublimemongrelBecky, Esq.1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yep, agreed.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

The two are different because since F=\=M, (F+M+M) =\=(F+F+M)

[–]BluePiller17762 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

I must have fallen asleep in algebra because those equations arent in my notes.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

beta brainwashing!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Search for properties of addition. It can be easily proved using them.

In fact, I pretty much have done it for you already. But in case you're a humanities major, here's more detailed explanation:

F+M=F+M (anything is equal to itself)

F=/=M (they are two different things)

Now add left and right parts of each expression to each other. YOu added to unequal things to two equal things, therefore, left and right parts of the result aren't equal to each other.

(F+M)+F=\=(F+M)+M

[–]BluePiller17760 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

oh man, is this going to be on the shit test at the end of the semester? Can I copy your notes after class?

[–]--Bob__BP Oil Spill0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

LOL

[–]Heathcliff-- 12 points12 points12 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Women who have had promiscuous pasts or were sexually adventurous in their youth are not LTR material. They are fun to screw and go out with, but they won't make good girlfriends or wives.

[–]VermiciousKnidzz 6 points6 points6 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

what about dudes?

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link

Dudes with a history of beta past are not quality LTR material. It's an equivalence, not a direct translation.

Low quality woman gives it up for free.

Low quality man gives it (time and resources) up for free (no sex).

[–]VermiciousKnidzz 15 points15 points15 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

so its bad for women to be promiscuous but alright for men. got it!

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

locks and keys. just locks and keys...

[–]VermiciousKnidzz 7 points7 points7 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

so i should hold women to more strict and inane standards than men because of some meme i saw on reddit. got it!

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

well, TRPers certainly do, so why not?

:)

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I wouldn't call not fucking random dudes all the time strict or inane. It's not like they'd be missing out on much. They say in every other thread that they don't even like ONS'.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

A man's high body count is the same number as woman's low body count so I don't know what your problem is.

[–]ozymandias271That's not how evolution works.11 points12 points13 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Why would I give a shit about whether my partner had previously given up time and resources without sex? I have no idea whether he's done that and I'm not sure why I'd care if he did.

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[–]ozymandias271That's not how evolution works.6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

And the guy I dated before that got his first kiss in his late twenties. I date weirdo autistic nerds, we're a little high-variance on the sexual success front.

(...actually, one of the guys I'm seeing now has had threesomes and got his first kiss in his mid-twenties...)

[–]questioningwomandetached from society0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

But if both supposedly low quality people get together it means both of them easily get what they want.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah absolutely. It happens all the time.

[–]SpaceWhiskey🍃 Social Justice Druid 🍂4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

in their youth

Aren't you still in college yourself? The women you're theoretically sleeping with are still in their youth, are you saying that as you get older you wouldn't settle down with the sort of woman you're currently sleeping with? And how do you know how you'll feel in the future?

[–]Heathcliff-- 1 points1 points1 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Yes, as I get older I would not settle down with the kind of woman I am sleeping with now. Who knows, maybe I won't settle down at all.

And yes it's possible I will change my mind. I can't tell how future me will behave. But that's moot, right now I have no plans of marrying a slut, and it's unlikely I ever will, just like this unlikely I'll become religious in the future either. Some values and beliefs are held for your lifetime.

[–]SpaceWhiskey🍃 Social Justice Druid 🍂0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Interesting.

[–]ozymandias271That's not how evolution works.5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Already did. It was fun. Plan on doing it again next time our schedules line up.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

How do you feel about Hall and Oates warning young men to watch out for you in their hit song maneater?

[–]ozymandias271That's not how evolution works.9 points10 points11 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Quite unfair. I hardly ever have sex for money.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

Nope. That's about as bad as an additional 20 to the n count

[–]AnarchkittyBetter dead than Red5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

Ooh, is there a chart of some sort that designates how many extra partners different sex acts count for? It'd be fun to be able to pad my numbers just by being creative.

Is it a multiplier? Like, is it 20 because it's 10 x (number of partners), so a MMMF gang bang would be worth 30? Or is it exponential or logarithmic or something?

If it also included anal would that add more partners to the effective count?

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

He just means that's it's extremely telling, like 20 one night stands. Put the calculator away.

[–]TW_CountryMusicbluepill redneck4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

I actually remember a thread here a while back about "What counts as sex?" and there were people claiming that 3 blowjobs = 1 PIV, anal = 10 blowjobs and all sorts of silliness like that.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

if only math teachers knew that this was all that their hard work had amounted to...

[–]AnarchkittyBetter dead than Red2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

That's hilarious. :)

[–]amatorfati1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Really anything past MMMF might as well just be fifty dudes to those of us (in my opinion, mentally healthy male human beings) who feel repulsed by the notion of a threesome.

[–]AnarchkittyBetter dead than Red2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

I have to ask... What makes you think that men who don't care if their partner has had sex with multiple partners are mentally unhealthy?

Do you have some basis for that opinion in psychology or psychiatry? Or are have you just decided that anyone who thinks differently from you is wrong?

[–]amatorfati2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Do you have some basis for that opinion in psychology or psychiatry? Or are have you just decided that anyone who thinks differently from you is wrong?

99.9% of human history.

[–]AnarchkittyBetter dead than Red2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Okay, then do you have some evidence from anthropology or archaeology? Something that supports your assertion that 99.9% of human history shows "mentally healthy male humans" are "repulsed by the notion of a threesome"?

If this is just your opinion that's fine, just say so; but you seem to be asserting it as a fact and that requires evidence.

[–]LeaneGenovaBreaker of (comment) Chains3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I would! My SO and I have talked about it at length, because we both like the thoughts of threesomes. Him with two women, and me with two men.

Our biggest hurdle comes from the fact that I'm a jealous woman and don't like sharing. So we probably won't, unless we hire a prostitute. We've had friends offer in the past, but never taken any of them up on it.

[–]I_prefer_anonimity8 points9 points10 points 9 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

I would love a woman like that and we'd probably do some threesomes together as well, MMF or FFM. Sex is not scary nor dirty.

[–]HAESisAMythOnly takes pills for headaches2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Relationships with people who have threesomes might be scary and dirty, and I think that's the point of this post.

Sure you'd enjoy having sex with her and whomever else you can get to join the party, but do you want to go to SAMs with her, or pick out new home accents, or spend 45 years together?

[–]I_prefer_anonimity0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

I spent a few years with my current girlfriend (one of them, im polyamorous) and she's a nasty slut in bed. I'd give anything to spend the rest of my life with her.
I really dont get it. I have threesomes regularly and my relationships are awesome. That doesn't define my quality as a person.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

It's always dirty and scary with me.

[–]sublimemongrelBecky, Esq.4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Why if you don't mind sharing?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Because my skin's dark and I cut an imposing figure.

[–]sublimemongrelBecky, Esq.1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Idk why that would make sex inherently dirty and scary. Lots of women like imposing-looking masculine men. I thought you also said you were married?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I am and she does seem to like me.

[–]HigHog5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

I would be willing to discuss this with my husband, if he wanted to.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Would you discuss a threesome with you, him, and another girl as well?

[–]HigHog7 points8 points9 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Sure.

[–]Pixiepup4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I've had a few with my husband, at my suggestion. Great experience all around if everyone was being honest afterwards, which I don't see why they wouldn't be.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, I can see how that would be fun.

[–]Atlas_B_Shruggin🔪Yeetus that Feetus🔪6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Repulsive to me. No. Women are OK though

[–]betterdeadthanbetaHeartless cynical bastard1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Youre a champ.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I have messed around with two men at the same time, without penetration involved. The pornographic MMF threesome does nothing for me. However, "queer" sites have some better examples of group sex in general. Different combinations of group sex have always been a fantasy of mine. My husband knows about this in greater detail than you can imagine, and is not bothered by it.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I would, given the right circumstances which is likely to be rare.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Nah, I am not attracted to women and the idea of having sex with two men scares me.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (30 children) | Copy Link

Would never engage in an LTR with such a woman. Was a rhetoric question though? Promiscuous women aren't for me to LTR. I need a woman who's goal is to have family etc and she spends her time pursuing that and wants to make her man happy.

p.s. if she wants double penetration, I can always offer her a threesome with another girl wearing a strapon or to use a dildo or whatever. She can be sexually adventurous with me if I'm the love of her life. No interest in a girl who gave everything to others.

[–]ozymandias271That's not how evolution works.11 points12 points13 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Didn't you just write a little bit upthread about how it's perfectly normal for heterosexual men to be disgusted by male bodies, and now you're expecting women to find a girl with a strapon to be an adequate replacement for a man?

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

I'm not expecting them to. It's just an alternative for whoever just cares about penetration. If a woman with a strapon will be behind, then it's the same as moving dildo for all she knows since she want see any female body to be disgusted by :)

Blahblah. Jokes aside, if all she cares is double penetration, then she won't be disgusted by a female body. That wasn't a condition.

And finally, I believe she won't be disgusted. A lot of girls have crushes on other girls. There were even studies showing that women are more bisexual than everyone things.

[–]ozymandias271That's not how evolution works.1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

So if you fucked a guy's ass blindfolded, is that the same thing as fucking a woman's ass? Surely if you care about anal sex the only thing you care about is that there is an ass involved.

Much to my eternal sadness, women who are disgusted by having sex with women are quite common.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

How did we narrow it down to the ass? I wouldn't fuck anyone blindfolded, I wouldn't get hard.

Guys don't have pussies and have too much hair around their mouths, so no, that wouldn't work and wouldn't feel the same.

[–]Truecelacct7 points8 points9 points 9 years ago (25 children) | Copy Link

A girl with a strap on is not the same as fucking another guy... Would you be down to have a threesome with another guy if he covered up his penis?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (24 children) | Copy Link

It's a guy fucking her, not her fucking anyone if she takes a dick inside.

YEah, if he covered up his penis, removed hair, change his body type, hips, waist, etc, grew breasts, decreased his foot size etc. It's not only penetration in two pussies that I'd care about.

In my "example" what I suggested was based on the assumption that she wants double penetration, not that she wants to be shared by two men necessarily. Which is pretty logical, since she will only see one at a time anyway.

But yeah, if it's not just the double penetration she cares about, then the compromise is not possible, simple as that :)

[–]Truecelacct4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (23 children) | Copy Link

YEah, if he covered up his penis, removed hair, change his body type, hips, waist, etc, grew breasts, decreased his foot size etc. It's not only penetration in two pussies that I'd care about.

So then you would be okay with her having sex with another woman, as long as the woman has gotten rid of her breasts, taken hormones to grow facial hair, increase shoulder size, decrease hips, and grow a dick, ect. right?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

So then? No. How does it follow? I would be okay with her having sex with another woman as is. With a female body, no dicks nothing. Why would I want another man to fuck my woman, I still don't get it.

I would be okay with her having sex with a transgender man? I.e. born woman who identifies as a man. And yeah, I would fuck someone who was born as a woman and identifies as a man too.

"Covered up his penis" is obviously not enough. That won't give him a pussy. Having a female body, e.g. being a man born/trapped in a woman's body - yeah, that could work.

[–]Truecelacct0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I think you need to read the whole context of this post. If your SO wants a threesome with DP, you can't just put a strap on on a female. That's like saying you can have sex with a man as long as he covers his penis. It doesn't fulfill the same sexual urge at all.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

I described a specific scenario in my comment. And answered the question of the OP. Not sure what you don't understand.

ALso, how come it's not the same? She wants DP? A girl can wear a strapon.

Oh, she wants two man? Sure, a man trapped in a female body should do then.

She just wants a threesome with DP? Ok, then FFM threesome + a dildo.

She wants a threesome specifically with 2 man and DP? Ok, transgenderred man trapped in a woman's body + strapon or dildo.

There are always options.

[–]Truecelacct0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Yeah so she wants 2 men + DP, so a mans body with a female inside + her husband should be fine. I don't see what's so hard to understand.

And if you wanted a threesome with 2 girls, your SO and a transgendered woman should be fine.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah so she wants 2 men + DP, so a mans body with a female inside + her husband should be fine. I don't see what's so hard to understand.

Ehhh no. Then you have 2 women, not 2 men.

And if you wanted a threesome with 2 girls, your SO and a transgendered woman should be fine.

No, I want a threesome with 2 female bodies. My rule is - one dick only. Why'd you assume a transgender woman should be fine? I think I specifically said that a transgendered man would be fine, not the other way around. In the very first reply I think it was pretty obvious that I focused on the body and that I don't care whatever's the person's gender is.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link

Grew a dick? I think you mean an enlarged clit, All women on stetoids have them. Having sex with a female bodybuilder isnt gay.

[–]Truecelacct0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (16 children) | Copy Link

Nope, I meant a dick. And not a female body builder, a man. Why is this so hard to understand? A woman with a strap on fulfill as many sexual fantasies for women as a man who has his dick tucked.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link

Youre implying a woman can grow a dick on artifial testosterone? An enlarged clit isn't a dick and a woman with an enlarged clit isn't a man.

The only real difference between a trans man and a female bodybuilder is that the transman got her boobs removed; well that and female bodybuilders look way more masculine than the average trans man lol.

[–]Truecelacct0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, that and the massive amounts of testosterone that causes changes in the genital area. When you go through gender transitioning, you get hormone therapy as well as genital surgery. I don't know any female body builders who do that....

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link

Female body builders (or any other female athlete on steroids) goes through all the physical changes a trans man goes through. Artificial testosterone has been used as a performance enhancing drug by female athletes for decades now it's nothing new.

And there's no surgery to give a woman a penis only further expose an enlarged clit or create a clump of flesh from her arm or leg and make it kind of look like a penis with a saline pump she has to pump to make it stand up, kind of like an unremovable strapon stuck to a womans groin wrapped in dead arm tissue lol.

[–]Truecelacct0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

Female body builders (or any other female athlete on steroids)

Are you assuming all female body builders are on steroids...?

Artificial testosterone has been used as a performance enhancing drug by female athletes for decades now it's nothing new.

Youre dumb. The amount of testosterone used in steroids is no where near the amount used to cause a second puberty in an adult. If it was, all women who use steroids would grow penises and facial hair and have slender hips.

What do you think a penis is? Its literally a sack of nerve endings that fills up with blood. They can make that out of a clit, which is just a smaller sack of nerve endings.

[–]Truecelacct0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Also, if its so different, why would a woman want to have sex with another woman with a strap on?? Can't you see why women like DP with two MEN, not 1 man and 1 woman with a strap on? Its not the same thing. At all.

[–]sublimemongrelBecky, Esq.2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

BP woman here: no I probably wouldn't do that, seems awkward, like it could be painful, and too much stimulation for me.

[–]am_thro_way2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Group sex seems like one of those things that's hot in theory, but would most likely end up being awkward in practice.

[–]snbdmlissMermaid2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I've never had a 3-some and don't want to, I want my man all to myself, and they better only want me all to themselves. I don't share people.

[–]prodigy2throw#Transracial8 points9 points10 points 9 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

No. She's established her worth. I'm not gonna LTR a girl who got Eiffel towered.

[–]lollygagyoSociopathic Fake Flirter7 points8 points9 points 9 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

Out of curiosity, what would you do if you were falling hard for someone -- say it's like the tenth date or something -- and you've finally gotten to that point in time where you're actually talking about your sexual history.

And she mentions a threesome with 2 guys. Do you just flee and turn off all of your feelings? Do you have a crisis of self because you fell for a ''slut'' however temporarily? Do you get mad at her, because obviously, she should have informed you of this on the very first date?

All of these hard and fast rules re: people's sexual histories seem so tricky to implement to me. Dating as a RPer seems like you're always just waiting for a landmine to appear. Depressing.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Do you just flee and turn off all of your feelings?

ROFL like literally run screaming from the restaurant? If it was me, I'd politely continue the conversation, end the night, and not continue pursuing.

Dating as a RPer seems like you're always just waiting for a landmine to appear. Depressing.

Mostly? Yeah, but truth be told every conversation I have with a stranger has this component to it as well. I figure sooner than later they'll say something that'll show me they aren't "my" people, and I'm pleasantly surprised the few times that doesn't happen. Dating just adds complexity to it.

I've said many, many times that I HATE the dating phase of relationships, partly for this reason.

[–]LeaneGenovaBreaker of (comment) Chains4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm assuming the male version of the woman standing up from the table and walking away when she realizes that she won't fuck him. You know, awkward chair scraping and all.

[–]betterdeadthanbetaHeartless cynical bastard0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

This would be my go to. Though I might mumble something like, "be right back" or "hey i forgot something in my car" first. Just to make her less likely to make a scene.

[–]prodigy2throw#Transracial5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

In the scenario you mention, I would probably be instantly turned off and immediately suspicious of everything she's told me since that date to make me "fall" for her. Rarely do good girls just randomly stumble into threesomes. It's a indication of other hoeish decisions made which I'm not about.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I'd have a "crisis of self" for not catching the large amount of red flags that led up to getting (pumped and dumped)2. You should be able to recognize the thousand cock stare when you meet her.

[–]amatorfati2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

1000% this. There are no mentally healthy normal women who actually go through with a threesome. I'll stand by that statement to my dying fucking day.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Do you just flee and turn off all of your feelings?

Every man needs to follow the heat 30 seconds rule

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

No I would not engage in a LTR with a woman who has threesomes in her past. Whether it was two men, a man and a woman, or two woman would make no difference to me.

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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

seems like something only exciting in fantasy to me. i can't imagine the real situation being like what's in my head, so no, i probably wouldn't. reserving the right to daydream sometimes though; the idea is definitely still hot.

[–]TW_CountryMusicbluepill redneck2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

100% agree.

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[–]GaiusScaevolusMod TRP/AskTRP/BaM1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I can't see it happening.

[–]SpaceWhiskey🍃 Social Justice Druid 🍂1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I have and I would again. My fiance has been involved so I don't even have to worry about being judged for it ;D

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

If she makes it a point to bring girls to play with us, sure. If not, nope.

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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I'm not sure you have the equipment for that but I commend your effort.

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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Are you actually attracted to gay men?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

It's a tough call.

The bigger question is if the woman can be happy not having 3 somes any more while in a relationship. If not, then the answer is no.

[–]bonerdude4201 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

"You can't turn a hoe into a housewife" - Ancient proverb

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Shouldn't the second question simply be "men: would you engage in a LTR with a woman who had a threesome?"

Because you shouldn't give a fuck what the composition was.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

It's my question, so it's about what I give a fuck about.

But for the sake of discussion, why not?

[–]SkentyDooBabbleRed Pill-ish Man2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I wouldn't ask about threesomes in her past, I don't care that much about the details of her past

But at the same time I'm only open to an LTR with a woman who is open to threesomes with other women and me

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (23 children) | Copy Link

If it's two guys and a girl it's a gangbang, not a threesome. Just FYI.

[–]ozymandias271That's not how evolution works.5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (22 children) | Copy Link

Gangbang is 3+ guys and one woman. Annoyingly hard to organize, too.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (21 children) | Copy Link

No more than one guy plus one girl makes a gangbang.

[–]sublimemongrelBecky, Esq.6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (20 children) | Copy Link

3 ppl = 3some. Why is it a gangbang with 2 dudes 1 girl but a 3some with 2 girls 1 guy? That makes no sense.

[–]TW_CountryMusicbluepill redneck4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I've heard it explained that it's only a threesome if the dudes are interacting with each other. If both are having sex with the woman but not with each other then it isn't a threesome. (I think it's dumb personally, but I believe that's the logic behind it.)

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

makes perfect sense. Then they both just fuck her. So it's not a threesome. IT's just two dudes fucking a hoe.

[–]TW_CountryMusicbluepill redneck2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Then what you described in an earlier comment:

in FFM you don't share, you get two and they share you.

isn't a threesome either. If the girls aren't having sex, it's not a threesome, right?

For the record I don't have a dog in this fight or care what people call it. The inconsistency is just funny to me.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Sure, called a reverse gangbang or whatever. I'd assume that usually they would interact and at least kiss so it would qualify as a threesome . But I guess if we assume your scenario is possible, then yes it's a dude fucking two girls.

Where's inconsistency though? Women and men aren't equivalent, so why are you surprised that it can be acknowledged in terminology.

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[–]sublimemongrelBecky, Esq.4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link

How is this "guy" terminology? Seems like women are involved too. Also I fail to see how is so simple when the far simpler way to go about it is 3 ppl = threesome, as opposed to making it different due to the gender makeup of the three people.

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[–]sublimemongrelBecky, Esq.5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Though for someone who somehow can't understand that men and women are different I'm sure this is all very confusing.

Did you need to throw this condescending and inaccurate little quip out there? I have never ever said men and women aren't different. Cut that shit out, it's not a good way to discuss/debate and it's obnoxious.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Tone policing is not an argument.

[–]sublimemongrelBecky, Esq.0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I never said it was and it's not tone policing to point out the last bit of your comment was both wrong and obnoxious. You've never struck me as the type to come to this sub and start playing "gotcha" debating wherein one tries to throw as many thinly veiled insults that they can into an argument. I don't know why you'd start now. That shit is one reason this sub gets a bad rap.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Be civil.

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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

Oh so during your gang bangs you made out with the guy?

i'm a woman, and i've never had a threesome nor do i intend to. is hot to think about though; hopefully if i were in an MMF by some odd chance, everyone would be participating together.

Also you're projecting. I could care less what free humans choose to do. You could try seeing a therapist about that issue.

your comments express otherwise.

[–]LeaneGenovaBreaker of (comment) Chains[M] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Be civil to other users.

[–]SkentyDooBabbleRed Pill-ish Man2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

You're right but good luck getting this crowd to agree

[–]am_thro_way4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Eh, I think both sides of the argument have merit. There's value to having a separate term for a sex act with 3 participants where all 3 are interacting with one another. But on the other hand, '3 people = threesome' seems more intuitive, and it's quite a stretch to consider 2 guys a 'gang'. It's a matter of precision vs intuitiveness, essentially. Personally, I think it could be considered both a threesome and a gangbang (most porn sites seem to use them interchangeably anyway).

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Because 2 ppl is not twosome. 3some is a subset of a bigger set "Gangbangs". Gangbangs includes 3somes, 4somes, etc. It's N-somes, where N >1. And there is more than 1 guy on 1 girl. Guess, you can call it a reverse gangbang if there're 2 girls +1 guy?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

ew no, no fucking way.

proud dick wearer btw.

[–]InformalCriticismProbably Red1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Male. Probably not. Women have a hard time impressing me without anything weighing them down, and a frivolous sexual past isn't going to lighten the load.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Men, would you engage in an LTR with a woman who has engaged in a threesome with two men?

No. I'd fuck her every day and twice on Sundays. No LTR.

[–]shoup88Report me bitch0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

If I was single, I definitely would under the right circumstances. I've tried MFF threesomes, why not the other way around? I think it would be fun if everyone were chill about it.

[–]anitapkcsarlbmed ggse0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I wanted to with my ex, specifically with a friend of his. I don't now, I couldn't bring myself to such thoughts with my current so.

We did some swinging though (with current so) but only with us girls playing while the men rammed us. No contact except between us girls. We did this with up to 2 other couples.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Would I? It would depend on the circumstances and how much I'm attracted to each man, and my relationship status. It's not something I've ever done and I don't have ONS either. I can't say I wouldn't if the two men were hot, I was single, and it was absolutely safe sex.

I'm not concerned about this being a dealbreaker for men I would date since we all have dealbreakers. I would never disclose this unless I were asked directly, "Did you ever have a threesome" because I don't bring up my sexual past at all unless asked.

A man having a threesome with two other females, if it were safe sex, wouldn't be a dealbreaker for me unless he expected me to take part.

[–]rulenumber3030 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Theoretically possible, but the conditions it would have to happen under are so specific and unlikely that it will never happen.

[–]betterdeadthanbetaHeartless cynical bastard0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

LTR such a creature? Hahaha, You make me laugh OP.

I might have a few MMF and FFM and MMMFMFMFMFMFFFs with her though just to sate my curiousity. I've always wanted to find me an insatiable slut, one who would actually welcome a good solid few hours of stimulation, and just completely melt her brain with sex. Dozens of different hands, mouths, cocks, toys, etc Maybe get her fucked up on molly and coke first too.

Tyrone, Chad, Stacy and the whole PPD irc crew can come help for all i care. She's getting discarded after a while so i could give a shit less.

[–]Ukelele-in-the-rain0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes but only if both men are interacting with each other. I don't want to play with 2 men who are awkward and not into each other. So all 3 of us got to be sexually interested in one another.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I already have and would probably do it again. But there's no way I'd tell any future partners about it lol

[–]HairbrainerWhy can't we be friends?0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link

Was she single? If not, was the partner involved/aware? If yes to either, then I could. Once the woman engages in something else while I'm with her then we have a problem. In my opinion what a woman did in the past is in the past. I don't necessarily believe that a woman's sexual history implies anything with cheating, unless cheating is included in the history.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link

I agree. Her being fundamentally fucked up enough to get fucked2 casually does not necessarily mean she will cheat on you. She may very well go her whole life without making a demonstration of how little she respects you. You'll be buried without ever having had the knowledge of how little you meant to her. Never having connected your miserable state and poor sex life to your choice of woman, and possibly not even realizing it was miserable. And I'm happy for you, TRP is not for you if you don't want something more. For some people, ignorance is bliss.

[–]HairbrainerWhy can't we be friends?0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

Lol. If you want to believe I'll stay with a woman when there is no respect shown in the relationship based on one paragraph, then you may have a pretty narrow view of people in general.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link

I'm not saying you would, but I am saying that it's how the relationship will be with girls who like to get gangbanged.

And why are we laughing?

[–]HairbrainerWhy can't we be friends?0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

I didn't realize we were laughing. I thought it was just me.

Why would a relationship lack any respect for the man involved if a woman has had a MMF threesome in her past? Why would this lead to a poor sex life with the couple? Could you explain?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

She want's your lifetime commitment when she gives it up to random dudes, two at a time, for zero commitment? And I'm the one you're laughing at? Because I walk away from deals like that?

[–]HairbrainerWhy can't we be friends?0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

I've given it up to women for zero commitment, so does that mean when I get married I'm not allowed to expect women to give me lifetime commitment when I'm ready to settle down?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

You've gotten sex from women for zero commitment. You hold the commitment, they hold the sex.

That means you are worth sex. Your commitment is valuable. Find a girl who's sex is valuable and not a two for the price of free special.

[–]HairbrainerWhy can't we be friends?0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Anyone's commitment is valuable. You don't think a woman sacrificing her individual time for you is valuable? You think loyalty in a relationship is only valuable from one direction?

Also what's this "they hold the sex" like its some guarded treasure? Sex is just sex.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Sex is just sex.

Oh. I didn't realize that. I gotta go then.

I'm gonna go bang seven victoria's secret models at the same time. It's just sex, I'm sure they'll give it right up.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Fuck no, I don't want anything with a dirty used up whore.

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