Uninterested in women.

NeopolitanAfterglow · 2015-02-23T17:23:58+00:00

It sounds like you've taken TRP a little too far. You're following TRP down to the letter, which basically means that an online community of recovering wankers is running your life for you. I don't see how anyone can be happy following that kind of life script.

It's kind of like when people say "I don't understand it. I have a great job, a wife, a house, beautiful kids. I have everything a person could want in life. I've done all the right things. Why do I feel unhappy? Maybe I'm depressed and need medication. "

No. You need to stop letting other people define success for you.

stevredpill · 2015-02-23T18:18:36+00:00

Your life currently consists of:

Work
Lift
Sex
Social Interaction

You've mastered it and got your life on lock. Congrats.

Now, I would suggest adding a few more bullet points to your life activities. Right now, your life is focused on self-improvement without any self-enrichment.

bestofbackpage · 2015-02-23T17:52:28+00:00

Try getting a hobby that your passionate about. Do something larger than life so that people will remember you.

justmanthings · 2015-02-23T18:52:25+00:00

"You probably have a drug problem."

Yes, I think you do. I recommend 3.5 grams of psilocybin and a couple joints, in a peaceful, comfortable, beautiful place (outdoors, in nature), with pleasant music, some healthy snacks you like, and maybe a close friend or two.

That'll rip you out of your funk. Guaranteed.

Soarinc · 2015-02-23T19:11:41+00:00

Your story reminds me of a quote about reaching the top and achieving the high point of your life you had worked for months (or longer) to attain:

"An athlete who had reached the pinnacle of his sport was once asked what he wished someone would have told him when he first started playing his sport. He replied, “I wish that someone would have told me that when you reach the top, there's nothing there.”

Basically the only way to fire up your engines again is to trick yourself into pursuing yet another goal that may possibly bring newfound wealth, happiness, or some other tangible/intangible outcome!

monsieurhire2 · 2015-02-23T19:00:43+00:00

In a nutshell, your problem, in all likelihood, is that you're not challenged by your life. You have in essence, "beat" the game. Anything that becomes too easy to accomplish loses its meaning.

Life is short. Sometimes it can feel long, but that is an illusion. Eventually, you will get old and sickly, then die. You COULD choose to end things sooner, but that's pretty pointless, since you'll eventually anyway, and hey, maybe things will get better . . . if you choose to make them.

I suggest that rather than do nothing, you really introspect to see why you are having these feelings.

Also, make a list of things you want to do before you die.

If you can't make a list, go to a fucking library and start reading books until you find something that interests you.

Also, I was in a frat, and all I can say from my experience, was that while I learned to conform, I found I didn't like hanging around with conformists, so after I learned what I had to, I moved on and cut ties. You're not going to find meaningful relationships in those kinds of organizations, in all likelihood, at least no in their present form. Everyone is just pretending to be the people that they think others want them to be.

Also, you may not be challenged by your job anymore.

Finally, your fitness may not be that meaningful either. You should try doing something that gets you involved with other people in a meaningful way, like dance, or martial arts. Try meditating. It seems like there are gaps in your education. It's like these gaps and blind spots can turn you into a malfunctioning robot or something.

robotghow · 2015-02-23T21:37:40+00:00

That sounds like straight-up depression. "But how can I be depressed?" you ask, "I have everything I could ever want!". Depression is not necessarily the result of life situation or external circumstances. Much like catching the flu, it's just something that happens and affects the chemistry of your brain, and it dulls your sense of enjoyment and motivation. I might be wrong, but you get it checked out.

And anyway, get into philosophy. It will give you some tools to handle the big questions, which seems like you're on the verge of discovering.

Waldo00 · 2015-02-24T03:14:05+00:00

Unfortunately you seem like the type who has seen the futility of existence. There is nothing that I have seen or heard of to beat this one. Ennui is a son of a bitch. You either bare it with a constructed purpose or you don't. This is real depression, get help before your thoughts go really bad.

Megaladonjuan · 2015-02-23T17:07:01+00:00

Read "The Myth of Sisyphus" by Albert Camus. It may help. I am in a similar situation with my intentions towards women. That heavy emotional struggle you often experience after the demise of a serious relationship can shake your mental frame and make you think death is the best answer. Nihilism sets in. Emptiness. It is all quite nauseating. You are already physically healthy so you may want to try getting mentally healthy. Speak with a trusted friend about these issues. The Camus book did help me on the mental front because it is a deep and honest assessment of the human condition. I hope it helps. Cheers.

_penseroso_ · 2015-02-23T17:57:33+00:00

This is going to sound a little bizarre, but I was in the same situation as you - similar physical shape, plates spinning, but a feeling of emptyness and pointlessness, particularly around women. Like a depression but not quite. Then I did some reading and tried something.

I massively increased my vitamin D intake...to 4000 IU a day. Way above the recommended amount. I also increased B12 but not to the same scale.

Almost overnight, that empty, useless, pointless feeling disappeared. I highly recommend trying it - you've got nothing to lose. It's bizarre waking up the next day and being "ok" when for weeks everything seemingly sucked for no reason.

FatStig · 2015-02-23T17:30:34+00:00

If you're still looking for a man shaped like a woman that's your problem. Women aren't men. Appreciate them for what they are. Don't begrudge them for what they aren't.

As for the rest of your life, put yourself outside of your comfort zone. Think about starting a company. Or take on a dangerous sport. If you aren't challenging yourself you are waiting to die.

leodoestheopposite · 2015-02-23T20:32:22+00:00

Let me throw an hypothesis out there, somewhat autobiographical, see if it resonates, at least partially, with you or someone else in here:

You used to be brainwashed by the Disney fantasy, Blue Pill-ish, you wanted to find the one woman to love who would love you back; but now you know better.

You spin plates because you can't get emotionally attached, you know better. BUT there's a part of you who is still aching, aching with no hope, to find that one woman to love and whom would love you back. And you know that's not going to happen, and you ache, ache with no hope.

And sex without emotional involvement, it's just sex; fulfillment of a physiological need, and nothing more.

It leaves you empty.

RickJamesBond · 2015-02-23T20:39:13+00:00

TRP is not a religion, and it barely qualifies as a philosophy. While it is a great tool for improving quality of life, it cannot, and is not intended to provide meaning to life.

alpha_n3rd · 2015-02-23T22:26:39+00:00

Sounds like you are depressed. See a professional.

Vitamin D deficiency? Seasonal disorder?

SpongeCroft · 2015-02-23T19:21:33+00:00

you sound like you could need some fun. take some time off work and travel, have some fun, you've earned it.

chadeusmaximus · 2015-02-23T22:24:14+00:00

You have no purpose. That's the problem.

You've grown past your old goals, and need a new challenge. Men needs challenges to overcome. You've already accomplished everything you've set out to do, now you're waiting for life to give you another one to overcome.

NPIF · 2015-02-23T17:50:05+00:00

Third time I've made this comment today:

Posts regarding your personal situation belong on /r/asktrp

casper41 · 2015-02-23T20:10:25+00:00

Go some place they don't speak english.

bitches_be_crazy86 · 2015-02-23T18:42:08+00:00

The problem, or feature, of TRP is that you see women for what they really are - hoes. You just open your eyes to reality and notice that 99% of women are cunts. It's not that it makes you bitter - it just makes you much more aware.

Onemanwolfpack23 · 2015-02-23T20:36:18+00:00

GG. You are top 5% at 22 years old no less. You have your life well put together, now focus on starting your own business to generate wealth for you, read some books, start an additional form of exercise (maybe yoga or some sport) and continue conquering the world.

There is more to life than pussy.

HumanSockPuppet · 2015-02-23T21:47:47+00:00

Like you, I once found myself becoming bored with girls, and as a result I found it difficult to remain disciplined and committed to my other goals.

That's when I realized that I was still doing all of my work for girls, rather than for myself.

Try giving yourself a mission.

For example, my current mission is to summit Angel's Landing at Zion National Park. I'm presently training by doing a mixture of weight-lifting, cycling, and high-altitude cardio. I'm shedding as much weight as possible and building strength in my legs, arms, and core.

And Zion is just an intermediate goal. My ultimate goal is to summit a large mountain.

Whatever mission you choose, make sure it lies somewhere outside of your comfort zone. Confront a fear, or a doubt you've long held about yourself. Prove to yourself that you can rise to a new challenge.

We always say that a man's mission should come before his pursuit of a woman. So the corollary is, if you don't presently have a mission, then give yourself one.

SemperFiWashout · 2015-02-24T00:13:48+00:00

You're close to joining the 1000 lb. club, FYI.

ned_ryersons_scrotum · 2015-02-24T01:55:31+00:00

Are you in a cold place? Could be SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder)? Maybe a light box might help?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seasonal_affective_disorder

http://www.usa.philips.com/c-p/HF3429_60/golite-blu-energy-light

geg747 · 2015-02-24T03:35:02+00:00

More ideas to help give you some new interest in life...

Fishing -- just spend 1 hour studying but go to a lake or a beach as a total amateur and don't be afraid "that it feels like you're just wasting time" because it can itself serve the purpose (and provide the benefits) of egoless meditation.

Music (piano) just search youtube for "video piano lesson" and then the name of the song. If it's popular enough, you can teach yourself without having to bother learning to read sheet music. Here's an example from a really good, stress-free teacher: youtube.com/watch?v=IAYvnTZfTYk

v481 · 2015-02-24T03:49:49+00:00

Eat some mushrooms and try to understand what you really are. Puts things into perspective and you will realize how absurd it is the way that you are defining value in life in your post.

acorrea · 2015-02-24T09:17:09+00:00

Take up a hobby. Personally, I recommend competitive Super Smash Bros Melee

oldredder · 2015-02-24T09:40:06+00:00

You need intellectual depth, to understand a deeper purpose in life. Those things you got aren't bad but they aren't deep.

Science_isthenewcool · 2015-02-23T22:44:17+00:00

It could still be low test. Despite the gym regime and your age. Doesn't hurt to check. As someone else said, could be Vit D. Could also be a multitude of other things, low iron, Vit B etc. Get a blood test just for peace of mind.

Congrats on the success and best of luck. When you find out what it was, let us know.

RedVillain · 2015-02-23T17:09:39+00:00

Sounds like a mindset problem. Try getting into a few of the books recommended in the sidebar if you haven't already. Maybe try some meditation. My RP journey is still ongoing but my understanding is that being disinterested in women is part of the ebb and flow that comes with TRP life. Can't live life on the mountain top, sometimes you'll be in the valley.

cheeky--kunt · 2015-02-23T18:17:41+00:00

umm... get married? ultimate challenge

DriveWire · 2015-02-23T18:38:43+00:00

this.

I don't know what you should do either but it seems that you've maxed out your potential to live a simple life. Maybe you'll find a more complex life more fulfilling... maybe find a way to make your mark on the world, build an empire, lead your community, climb the highest mountains and slay some dragons.... I don't know though, it's your life.

RunawayGrain · 2015-02-23T21:08:05+00:00

Serious question: What do you do for fun?

lostmatt · 2015-02-23T22:18:16+00:00

You need to take more risks, find a challenging hobby. What you have done by age 22 is basically eliminate risks and stresses that produce motivation in life.

Find a hobby or two that challenge you. Volunteer somewhere, help old people I don't know.

If women aren't really on your mind right now -- awesome, use the extra time on your hands to your advantage.

Master a new skill that fortifies your future success.

rojo-pildora · 2015-02-23T23:44:59+00:00

So what? Now what?

Congrats you hit all your goals and your life is in a platue state. Since you are not building your life you are now in a state of decay and you can feel it.

Get out there and conquer a new goal. Go climb mount everest. Travel the world. Take up racing. Buy a junked car and rebuild it. Or whatever!

As long as your next chapter in your life isn't what you are currently doing you will grow you and essentially your life. You will leave the state of decay and re-enter a state of growth.

Remember it isn't where we have accomplished in life, it the journey and all the bumps and brusises we got along the way.

asianmasaccount · 2015-02-23T23:54:53+00:00

So what you said fits very well with the clinical symptom of anhedonia.

It is one of the symptoms of depression but in and of itself is not enough for a diagnosis.

Depression is perhaps over diagnosed and a lot of times may be other things in disguise. However, for some people who have a genetic predisposition it can be very real and unrelated to life choices and any action you can take or have taken. Depression can be a true brain chemical imbalance. This is especially true if you have a family history.

To me this sounds like what is going on. I am not a professional and my only experience is my 1.5 month psychiatry rotation in med school and the people who have their family doctor manage their psychiatric medications. However your post does sound like a story we would hear pretty often in clinic.

I don't think it could hurt to see a professional and see what he or she says.

gregwilkinson · 2015-02-24T00:00:03+00:00

When kids are a certain age, they play in the sandbox. Every possibility within their awareness that excites them can fit in that sandbox. They are so happy with life, that they don't even consider moving outside of it's comfortable bounds. Why would they? Everything they need is in there. Then one day, the boundaries of the sandbox begin to present themselves. Suddenly their expanding needs are no longer met in the sandbox. What once seemed like a box of possibilities becomes a cage. Why? Our needs expand and grow as we do, and you can't get new needs met with old practices.

Ask yourself the question, "What would be both scary and exciting"? What kind of action or purpose could you take on, that would cause you to feel that joy of playing in a sandbox again? Why is it scary? Because, stepping outside your boundaries is always scary, and the change that we're talking about with you right now is a major life change. It might even feel like a death and re-birth. The old you has to die, so a new you can emerge.

menergize · 2015-02-24T00:13:38+00:00

While you're doing a lot for yourself that seems to be what you assume TRP would suggest is right -- and you seem to have succeeded, I agree that you are living someone else's definition of success. If it isn't making you happy, you should add something else, or new into it.

I think you should consider the idea also that there could be a chemical imbalance of some sort. I had naturally low serotonin, it fucked with my sleep and mood horribly, I got it fixed, I'm on no meds now, and I haven't had an issue since. I was also depressed and although I was in great shape and thought I was happy, I had issues recognizing it, and simply saw it as lack of motivation and not depression.

Exercise fixed that, and as you already work out, I doubt that is the problem. It normally fixes other imbalances as well, but getting a physical, thyroid checked, etc. isn't going to hurt you.

Take it FWIW, YMMV. Something's gotta change though bro, from the sounds of it.

_TheEndGame · 2015-02-24T01:05:21+00:00

Get a hobby. Get into a sport. MMA, BJJ, Basketball, etc.

Jackie_Treehorn99 · 2015-02-24T02:56:38+00:00

Didn't really read any comments. Don't need to. You're 22, no need to be so serious.

aguy01 · 2015-02-24T03:33:55+00:00

Sounds like you are missing some chemicals. Whether it's low Thyroid, lack of a certain vitamin, or something else, your brain isn't producing the necessary amount of chemicals that make you feel good and motivated. All this other stuff being posted is rehashed feel good bullshit. If you aren't happy it's cause your brain isn't producing 'happy'. You can still have low T with morning wood and sex, btw.

Olipyr · 2015-02-24T04:28:30+00:00

Go have your test levels checked anyway. You never know, you may be running low or lower end of normal.

Time to add some more challenge to your life. Lay of the women for awhile and do shit you want to do. Go travel. Go camp. Go to a shooting range. Whatever. Develop your hobbies outside of sex and gym.

cpt_actinide · 2015-02-24T04:59:43+00:00

Everyone's different. If you don't like girls - then I think some people would consider that really lucky... you can hang out with your bros, focus on stuff that matters without getting distracted, lotsa stuff.

Have you tried getting your T checked? If you aren't comfortable/able to get a doctor to do it you can do a private test from Private MD Labs. Make sure to get the female hormone panel, it's cheaper and still gives you your Test levels.

Good luck

IAmTheIlluminatiAMA · 2015-02-24T05:03:09+00:00

You might as well give up on finding a woman who is a virgin. That's why we call them unicorns. That's unrealistic to expect that.

Just find a woman with a low partner count who kisses your ass, especially after you've fucked her, and then you'll know you're the one she wants fucking her.

Part of TRP is learning to embrace reality. Look at the world around you. Laugh at it. Then use to enhance your own life.

Also, don't do anything rash, please. I went through a similar phase at your age, granted it was years long and I was far from on top of my game, but later on, when all the lights clicked, I am so fucking happy I never used a permanent solution to a temporary problem. If you're actually going that far, talk to someone long enough to keep going. Reality sucks and part of reality is the lows some of us experience throughout life, but you can beat it. Men have put their feet on the moon. They can conquer some chemicals in their brain too.

FLFTW16 · 2015-02-24T05:09:09+00:00

Sounds like you aren't challenging yourself. You have acquired good habits but it's all within your grasp. If you have plateaued then think about what you can do that will scare you. Start a small business. Take up skydiving. Move to a foreign country. Anything to feel alive. Don't settle for the familiar.

Doomsday_ · 2015-02-24T05:31:20+00:00

You may be depressed. Seek medical help.

d4rkj4y · 2015-02-24T07:30:03+00:00

You need a creative outlet in your life, a creative endeavor which you can focus all your energy on.

Incognitro777 · 2015-02-24T07:33:22+00:00

You need new goals, it's that simple. You have the good job you wanted, you have the physique and strength your wanted, you're getting the pussy you wanted. You're more complacent. Pick up a new hobby, aim for anything higher to give you a purpose.

real-boethius · 2015-02-24T07:46:19+00:00

Mission: be successful

You are living someone else's dream. You need to find out what you want out of life. At the moment you are complying with someone else's script. That is a sure fire recipe for "is that all there is" syndrome.

It is possible to have low test and be jacked, depending on your genetics. Anyway your lifts are not really that incredible. I am not too far away from your numbers at 59 years old 5'5" tall with low Test (280). And you may have other hormonal problems. I would see if you can get a good screening.

Ovadox · 2015-02-24T12:13:41+00:00

I would see a mental health professional. A lot of mental disorders onset in early adulthood so it would be wise to at least rule that out. Sounds like you live a really healthy lifestyle so that should help in the long run. Good luck!

Zachar1a · 2015-02-24T14:36:17+00:00

I took a philosophy course in college, on Existentialism, and read "Nausea" by Jean-Paul Sartre. The book was about a guy just like you.

2015-02-24T14:51:23+00:00

Sounds like you are way too comfortable with your life. Maybe you should move do a different city and get outside of your comfort zone.? Or why don't you travel internationally somewhere, get a better perspective on other parts of the world.

vengefully_yours · 2015-02-24T16:59:56+00:00

You're comfortable, you said so yourself. Get uncomfortable, learn something new. Take on a new challenge that interests you, but that you know fuck all about. Photography, automotive technology, music, languages.... Something like that.

You're fucking bored and directionless because you don't have any new goals. You're walking around in a circle, same shit different day. Blaze a new trail and you will have focus even if you can't see a meaning or reason.

slater2j · 2015-02-24T20:54:32+00:00

Take some time and go on a trip somewhere.

rp_aware · 2015-02-23T20:48:41+00:00

My advice would be to add something creative to your life.

If you're not the graphics / music / coder type, try putting some energy into your place. Pride of place is a great outlet.

Edit: removed personal anecdote.

aesthetic-as-fuck · 2015-02-23T23:56:49+00:00

I'll give you motivation. First, your lifts are shit. I don't even DL and I can do 335 right now without neural circuitry. You're also not even close to 9% BF at 6" 190. Try 19%. I know this because your lifts are not those of someone with the physique you described.

Not trying to be a dick. You sound like you've got some things going for you, more than I did 10 years ago, but you can get way better than what you are. Don't act like you're hollow because you've reached Olympus. I know you haven't.

1234sloth · 2015-02-23T18:01:04+00:00

From your description you sound like you're leading a life many guys would envy.

That's good, however, even when I am in periods of my life when I am in an envious position (not that I've ever reached your dizzying heights), I always have at least one side project or private little something that is just for me, not for anyone else. If I stop feeling great about other things, I can always be interested in my little side project.

Perhaps your side project is something like building a remote control car you always dreamed of when you were 5. Maybe it's building nice wooden cabinets. Maybe it's being really good at guitar hero. Maybe you enjoy developing an encyclopaedic knowledge of some part of history. Maybe you really love reading poetry. Some things other people won't equate with success, don't worry. Go go enjoy what ever your private love is.

fingers144 · 2015-02-23T20:18:04+00:00

Try volunteering and doing something good for the community, maybe.

sigmayogi · 2015-02-23T21:02:52+00:00

Find a major life purpose. I recommend doing something that betters humanity as a whole. Nothing is more fulfilling than positively affecting peoples lives.

fastball21 · 2015-02-24T00:24:54+00:00

Meditation. You're ready for a different red pill. (There's more than one.)

MGTOW_player · 2015-02-24T02:23:03+00:00

Meditation. Work on unlocking creation.

You will feel bliss.

mrmindboggler · 2015-02-24T19:50:29+00:00

I'm guessing your life is devoid of any spirituality. If not then you might have some chemical imbalance. If you do have an imbalance I propose that a spiritual life could fix that. Maybe it was the lack of a spiritual life that caused this in the first place.

I started going back to church after 10 years, a new one, non denominational. I had written off religion for over a decade, I was 15 at the time. I thought I knew better and that it was all baloney. A decade went by and suddenly something called me back. It was an emptiness in life such as you describe that called me, mind you that I was doing well at the time. I saw that chasing after this and that (girls, muscles,money, social status) was not going to fix a damn thing. These are all false idols.

Matthew 4:4

"But he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God."

I finally gave up and admitted that I did not have all the answers.I turned to a higher power and left it all to him. It may not be Christianity for you, but all religions have the potential to tune you with the divine, you just have to want it. That being said I am unashamedly Christian and will advice that you check out the Christian doctrine.

PM me if you would like to discuss more. You must remember that as a whole you are part spiritual. To deny that is foolish and can lead you to a dark place. May God bless and heal you.

NickCiufi · 2015-02-23T18:23:32+00:00

Disregard females. Acquire currency.

asd1100 · 2015-02-23T19:09:00+00:00

How the fuck do you have a engineering job at 22?

Let's say you do have this issue or somebody else has it. You sound like you have a dissociation disorder. Consult a specialist, in fact 4 or 5 because at your age they just label you with depression, fill you up with meds and forget about your ass.

skripklubbin · 2015-02-23T21:57:43+00:00

Id love to hear your rationale behind maxing being bad for joints. Those lifts are pretty small TBH for someone claiming to be jacked. Makes me wonder if your post is real or a bad attempt at trolling.

Title	Uninterested in women.
Author	Arazon
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Date	February 23, 2015 4:40 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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