Ltr gets touchy with another guy during dinner when sitting in front of me

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December 14, 2019

We are at her work Christmas party. It's a very formal dinner. We sit in front of each other and she sits next to her colleague. After a while she starts to get touchy with him, grabs his leg and touches his face with an entire open hand. I'm right in front of that. Guy gives me a sort of wtf look, he seemed surprised himself as well. I kinda started laughing at myself in a way that I didn't vet her properly. When she noticed that, she switched the places and sit next to me for the rest of the night and kept holding my hand.

What do you guys think about all this? Soft next?

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Title Ltr gets touchy with another guy during dinner when sitting in front of me
Author awakendragon
Upvotes 102
Comments 132
Date 14 December 2019 03:13 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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long term relationshipsoft nexting

[–]chickenpthrowaway123437 points438 points  (18 children) | Copy

A month ago you posted about this girls repeated bad behaviour.

Now she's touching up other guys in front of your face and you're still unsure of what to do?

Grow some balls.

[–]Patches0wholahan287 points288 points  (13 children) | Copy

Lol growing balls isn’t going to help. Nobody wants a pussy with a nutsack.

[–]BarackTheObama58 points59 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]MrSlommy756 points57 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]TehJimmyy40 points41 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]volvostupidshit33 points34 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is straight up murder.

[–]liquorbaron8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Holla! Holla!!

[–]Shadowslight3x20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy

911? Yes. OP's been murdered

[–]he-is-the-one8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

You win the thread.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]KarmicPrism5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Put your machete away Jason. Damn.

[–]frontiermarine2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]__sad_but_rad__0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

holy shit

[–]psychotropy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]2319Skew111 points112 points  (1 child) | Copy

Fuck that advice. OP, you need to marry that woman then post more questions like what's the proper emoji to text when she comes home after a few extra hours at work all winded and tired.

[–]PutlockerAndChill23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy

I do believe this is what you’re looking for the poor fella 👉🏻👌🏻🍑👊🏻💦😛

[–]Snowaey16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

He has oneitis for a hoe, he will crash and burn sooner or later

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T32 points33 points  (0 children) | Copy

I've seen a brick factory that had more balls than OP.

[–]Ewar-Woowar1212 points213 points  (6 children) | Copy

Not a soft next. This is a hard next. This is what she does at a party IN FRONT of you?

Imagine what she does with her coworker every day at work when you’re not there....

[–]Enlightened_Chimp73 points74 points  (2 children) | Copy

Ya. Gut instinct never lies, your gut is a true bro

[–]clickherebaby14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

This deserves more upvotes

[–]AbusiveFather114 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

Indeed. OP should eat more foods that promote healthy gut bacteria, like naturally-fermented sauerkraut.

[–]006rbc20 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy

Ya I think the wtf look is more a reaction that shes doing it in front of him now.

[–]Ewar-Woowar18 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly what I was thinking

[–]Cheeseydick696917 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'll spell it out for OP

sHe gArGLes HiS CuM

[–]TRPGaveMeLife74 points75 points  (1 child) | Copy

How have you not already nexted her? Come on get some self-esteem this isn't even a real question

[–]notashittyperson6921 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

Are u dumb? Dont you think OP thinks about her feelings. OP cares about her. Hes already on his way to buy her a wedding ring while she fucks the dude she met at the dinner.

[–]Jesusfeminist209 points210 points  (28 children) | Copy

Don’t try to fight it bro. You are a good cuck

[–]dani09824 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

It definitely has potential

[–]awakendragon[S] 40 points41 points  (25 children) | Copy

I think that's true. She drank way to much to the point she puked this morning and said she can't make the breakfast for me. I'm right now at a breakfast diner, like during good old single times.

I think I'll have to end it. Problem is she lives with me so won't be that easy. But I guess I can't make it fly.

[–]That_Deaf_Guy11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

Pack her stuff whilst she's out, leave it near the door and tell her it's over. No need to explain yourself.

[–]razenha5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's how you get a rape conviction.

[–]Xerexes386924 points25 points  (8 children) | Copy

Its time to breakup bro. You cant have her disrespecting you like that. Your woman shouldn't be touching other guys anywhere. But do tell her exactly why you are breaking up with her so she knows her fuck up. Although she & her friends will rationalize it and tell her she did no wrong but still put it in her head why she lost you

[–]Ankuno_11 points12 points  (7 children) | Copy

Her friends are gonna tell her that it's his fuck up no matter what. "Girl, did he really leave you because you've touched a colleagues's face? That's ridiculous!! He sound like he's really jealous and controlling to me, you dodged a bullet for sure!"

Girls don't have the notion of respect instilled, at least not in the same way men do. There's no point in trying to explain that to them. You're better off not explaining anything, if breaking up is your decisions.

[–]butthurtmoderators5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Pack her shit outside the door when she’s out. Block her number.

Sit back and chillax as your phone will get blown up with calls from so many people ahaha

[–]Hamster_S_Thompson2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Is it your place or hers?

[–]awakendragon[S] 7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

My place and she's not on the lease so at least that's good.

[–]Hamster_S_Thompson7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'd pack her shit while she's out and tell her that she needs to find another place to live. And no matter what, do not explain yourself, there is nothing to be gained from explaining yourself.

Report back how it went.

Stay strong and good luck.

[–]CrackDaMarco3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hamster is right. Don't explain yourself, at least not TOO much. Don't give her any reason to guilt trip you. Let the tears fall where they may, but stand firm. You don't need to be a dick about this, but you do need to keep a rigid backbone, dude, if this is the plan you're going for.

If you can get through this, and she moves out, then you rebuild. Whatever shit you feel, use it as fuel to forge yourself into someone stronger, and wiser.

[–]AbusiveFather11 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't see how that's problematic unless you live at her place.

[–]Jesusfeminist21 points22 points  (5 children) | Copy

Why don’t you just let her fuck other guys and watch it?

[–]failingtheturingtest79 points80 points  (1 child) | Copy

We're here to help men with their sexual strategy. Sometimes that calls for tough love. Just being a cunt and mocking them isn't helpful.

If you want to help, choose different ways. If you want to be a cunt, be elsewhere.

[–]mickey__1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nicely said

[–]Aestheticcunt19960 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Your comment perfectly fits your username hahahahahaha

[–]Zero-Milk1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'm failing to see the connection

[–]Aestheticcunt1996-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

He's the jesus of the feminists. A hardcore feminist, so to speak. What would a hardcore feminist want OP to do? She would side with the girl and tell OP to watch his gf fuck other guys because it's his fault anyway.

[–]OGAbunai8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]PandaLitter28 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ask to record later

[–]kennycrab1223 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy

Can we take a moment and applaud the co worker for having the same wtf reaction. Bros before hoes

[–]GetMeLaidAlot20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy

Soft next and plate without a chance for promotion. Chances are, once you next her, she'll go to this guy for some strange. It happens, take it in stride and learn from your mistakes.

[–]MA199821 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hard next. That’s blatant disrespect.

[–]DAOcomment218 points19 points  (2 children) | Copy

She really just likes fucking with you. She held your hand because she understands exactly what she did. She pushed the line as far as she could get away with, maybe too far, then immediately walked it back with hand holding to make sure she got away with it. Because you taking her shit massively validates her ego. She validates herself by disrespecting men and watching them take it because "I'm so hot."

You yourself wrote this in your post history, which clarifies everything:

"So recently I've met an interesting bird. Overall she's fine, except one thing - she's bossy AF. She rarely says "please". Usually it feels like she's giving me orders, do this do that, invites herself to my place, tells me to clean it whenever it's a bit messy - just to name a few examples. I think it might be her general attitude as she's very confident and outspoken and not something specific to my person."

She's never respected you. She is actively disrespecting you for her entertainment, the validation of dishing abuse and you taking all of it. You know playing along is so wrong, otherwise you wouldn't be asking.

[–]ducaati5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

This is the best answer so far. Well thought out, elucidated clearly, well written.

[–]CrackDaMarco1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's just common sense, dude. OP has 'MUG' written on his forehead.

[–]__TheDon__34 points35 points  (1 child) | Copy

Demote to a plate. You LTR’d the wrong chick. Vet properly next time.

[–]CasaDeFranco0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He’s already LTR’d. Plating from a position of weakness is unwise and may reinforce she still gets his time investment. I’d say start over clean with a women who respects him and where he doesn’t have to put work into to earn basic respect.

[–]bruiser1830 points31 points  (2 children) | Copy

Dump her fag

[–]liquorbaron3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

This needs more upvotes.

[–]Zero-Milk2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Reporting for duty.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

Not trying to be smart, but how do you soft next an LTR who was clearly flirting with another guy in front of you? Is soft next the right terminology here?

[–]EnterTheN1nja7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah I was thinking the same thing. If it was a random girl he fucked a couple times then yeah, soft next... but it doesn't fit here. Especially since he said in the comments that they live together.

[–]jakethesnake50009 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hard next. Don’t settle for this shitty behavior. You know you have to do this and are asking us if we agree, and I do

[–]hidden_boi_premium15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

You either dump the fuck outta her and retain respect for yourself or become a cuck that she has no attraction for anyway

[–]Unbiased1016 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Just next her. This is the clearest sign you need. Save yourself the hurt.

[–]SeasonedRP7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don't put up with someone being that disrespectful to you. Forget soft nexting. She'll apologize, and you'll be weak and forgive her. And then something like this or worse will happen again. Hard next her.

[–]ngyuhnang6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Reading your past posts is painful, you’ve been posting too much about this chick and clearly she is not suitable for LTR.

If you are okay with being a cuck, keep dating her.

[–]andrew_little10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It hurt my soul...

[–]FrozenTreeStump34 points35 points  (0 children) | Copy

They’ve fucked

[–]sergeantdaniel6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

This was a shit test and you failed it. She is going to fuck another guy, if she hasn't already. Time to cut bait and run bro

[–]rockyp322 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

He didn’t fail wtf 😆

[–]ducaati2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

If he nexts her, he passes.

[–]mabden6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Massive disrespect. She is too stupid to conduct herself properly in front of you, what's she doing out of sight? Add in she works with this guy, you will have nothing but trouble with this chick.

[–]PutlockerAndChill5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not gonna lie I’ve just read your posting history and it’s fucking hilarious you really need to read then reread the side bar and grow a back bone for letting people treat you like a doormat I’m saying this as a bro, you need some self respect.

Next the girl and work on upping your SMV, take no shit from women they will bare face lie to you even when you catch them red handed, your truth and their truth is something completely different and will twist it so they are the victim.

[–]jajahhssgxka11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

I like that you laughed about it but you shouldn't have held her hand or gave her any attention or comfort

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[–]dark_rabbit11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy

Work holiday parties seem to bring it out in women. The number of times a coworker’s LTR has straight up hit on me during one of these is incredible.

This year (just two nights ago) a much younger coworker’s LTR told me she doesn’t want to date a boy, and wants to date a man like me, then long pause while she’s staring into my eyes. I just got up and left her. Fuck that.

A couple years ago a different coworker’s girl and I hit it off in convo (I made an attempt to get to know her because she was special to my coworker). She then added herself to my Snapchat account when I asked her to take a pic of our group with my phone. I only found out a couple days later when she started snapping me. That week we started talking, and then we started dating.

[–]rockyp324 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Probs shouldn’t of dated her if she left him for u

[–]dark_rabbit2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I wasn’t overly invested. Plus she was easily a 9

[–]jojojijo3338 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Disrespect which come from showing weakness in the past. Genuine no butthurt soft next, she'll understand.

[–]ApdoSenpai19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy

She’s getting fucked raw by him every other week, enjoy.

What the fuck is this question? Soft next her and be prepared to walk away.

Don’t be surprised to see a monkey branch attempt in the next few weeks.

[–]Diche_Bach8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

To be honest, I never did a double time on a chick and now I'm too old (not to mention happily married) so its too late. If you've got the self-esteem, it sounds like she might be up to be turned into a spit roast, and you'd at least scratch that off your bucket list. Then to add to your RED PILL fame, after thoroughly using and humiliating her as dumpster slut with her coworker and maybe one or two of your buddies, you dump her. Maybe even get her to move in with one of your buddies before you do it!

[–]BurnieSlander0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

10/10 savage maneuvers

[–]mickenrorty3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

The relationship is over for any serious long term intentions.

It’s over my dude.

[–]athrowaway-90016 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Is she also holding you by your balls or did you not have any in the first place?

Have some fucking respect for yourself and drop that shit. Hard next.

Now go lift and read sidebar.

[–]badabing6542 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Are you a fucking momo. This dude jesus. I have no words chief like bruh WHERES YOUR DAMN SENSE

[–]1Red_Pill_Brotherhood2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hard next.

[–]VigilantSmartbomb2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’d get up and leave tf? Obviously neither of you respect you.

Well, no this seems like you need more communication after reading the post fully.

She doesn’t know what to do, tell her.

Lol what

[–]Dumweight2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Drop her. Tf.

[–]rprookie2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

She is for the streets

[–]ToiletPaperPringles6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fucking hell the negativity in the comments. Do you guys get validation making fun of him?

Give him advice then fuck off. Don’t waste your energy and time writing out an insult.

[–]willieblackbean10 points11 points  (8 children) | Copy

She's not yours just your turn

[–]theeverydayhustle16 points17 points  (7 children) | Copy

The turn is over

[–]willieblackbean4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Claim redpill, refuses to take the redpill

[–]willieblackbean0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

And i get a downvote

[–]theeverydayhustle9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'll pull you up son, hoes won't pull u up but bros will

[–]willieblackbean5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

In my country, hoes are for watering plants. Pulling u up as well bruh

[–]isthisalreadyused7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

Being downvoted isnt the end of the world lol, stop crying over it.

And I was the one downvoting, not because you’re necessarily wrong, but because you’re simply parroting what you read online without adding anything of your own. You’re not a fucking parrot, are you?

[–]willieblackbean5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Are you assuming my species????? No extra explaination needed for beta pussies!!!! And chill, I'm done crying 20 mins ago

[–]isthisalreadyused4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

See now you get an upvote

I’m nothing if not fair

[–]Blasstastic1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nah dude bounce

[–]KillaJewels0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

When something like that happens, game other girls for self-amusement or leave. Hard next either way and never look back. Or, if you can manage the oneitis and advanced enough, demote to plate and continue fucking other girls. She's not LTR material.

[–]TheRedPillKing4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Soft next

[–]MeansToABenz2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

All your posts are a huge waste of time to read, your spelling it out for yourself faggot. Have some self respect

[–]TheDero2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

He's most likely been balls deep in her

[–]rockyp321 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fr so many of u don’t give advice u just enjoy shitting on people I’d guess she’s psycho n does it to make u jealous either way it’s unacceptable

[–]L2diy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Jesus Christ dude get a grip. Kick her ass out and start lifting

[–]stutzydripgod0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Drop her. Not even a soft next. Just go no contact

[–]Hedser910 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Even though maybe it was just jokes or whatever, how does this girl makes you feel? What thoughts does she plant in your head? Based on that you should continue this whole situation, thats truly red pilled. Which means ending it obviously.

[–]hungarianstranger0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

When girls treat you like shit and you allow it, they start to hate you for it

[–]3chazthundergut0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Read this post as if it were written by someone else. WTF do you think you should do?

[–]NPcChad0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Jesus Fuck, get out she's not worth it dude. Next her and move on. Trust me, you will find better and soon enough you will forget about her. It took me 3 days to get over my ex ltr of one year. Easy.

[–]jenovajunkie0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I don't know, that's fishy. Perhaps she wants he work colleagues to think you are a very jealous and controlling partner.

Be a big boy and ask her "what the hell was that", maybe she has a drinking problem. Maybe there is a problem with that guy, maybe instead of asking the internet to fill your head with shit, you tell her what's up.

"I don't want to put these hands on you, but bitch, you do that again it's going to get real Chris Brown up in this bitch"

[–]ScumPatSexBag0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

get rid of that cunt. ghost/block/delete and never talk to her again.

[–]xxx69harambe69xxx0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

you sound like a lil bitch bruh

[–]silvereddi0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Can anyone explain what one should do when this happens? How should you react to a situation like this? Laugh, stand up and leave? And if she follows you, tell her to fuck off, it’s over?

[–]631_Exuberant_Bias0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not good, maaaaaan.

[–]RicoDunne0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She revealed her branch swing to you (and to him), so demote.

Only holding your hand to control you, and it worked!

[–]ma-agentz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Hard next her dude! You ain’t a Cuck

[–]psychotropy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She only stopped because you caught her committing her shenanigans, then immediately love bombed you to make you forget about said shenanigans. She's just not that into you bro.

[–]xerxes30 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Im gonna take a different tack from most comments.

If she were one of a dozen plates and/or you had hit on other women at this party to dread her....would this have mattered or even happened?

[–]ramjaz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just read through your previous posts. You have no self respect. Grow some fucking balls, tell her that you’re fucking tired of her bullshit and get her out the fucking house. Are you a worthy man? Worthy men don’t get treated like garbage. Dump this bitch and reframe yourself for the next. Or better yet, stop chasing after women. Let them come to you. Trust me, it happens, you just can’t call yourself a betabux.

[–]oldslut-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

come on op. you've posted multiple times about this LTR and it seems like you know it's over, yet, you keep coming here and hoping we will tell you to stay in this broken LTR. get out. not worth it. pack her things, leave them next to the door, and tell her the relationship is over. do not tell her why, or give any big explanation--simply say, "it isn't working for me anymore"--the end.

[–]TravisScottNL-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lmao cuck , go back to your corner and cry.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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