What are the 5 most important traits that a woman should have in order for you to consider her for a long term relationship?

Mafiale · 2020-03-12T23:41:41+00:00

I would consider the following 5 traits as most important for me assuming she is not abnormal in any sense besides these:

Attractive
Hygiene
Intelligence
Honest
Sincere

This is for a LTR. Attractiveness is a broad spectrum but she definetely does not have to be a model. Hygiene is very important. For a LTR I especially look for very honest and sincere people with high levels of self awareness.

saladfingers4141 · 2020-03-13T06:01:08+00:00

Certain level of class.
Attractive to me.
Pleasant to be around.
Active and healthy.
Empathetic and understanding.

MrHerbSherman · 2020-03-12T23:39:08+00:00

Loyal, adventurous, low maintenance, artsy, intelligent

SherbertBacon · 2020-03-13T00:22:39+00:00

Shared physical attraction & shared chemistry (we both dig each other)
Self-care (emotionally, physically, mentally)
Emotional intelligence and maturity
Ethical/kind-hearted
Shared values and goals for the future

Is there variation in how these traits can be expressed?

I find lots of different women physically attractive, self-care can take many forms (reading, therapy, time with friends, exercise, eating right, etc.)

Are some more important for others?

No. If any of these are missing (plus even maybe a few others), then it's an instant "no" for LTR.

Can a lack of one trait be made up for by having high levels of the other traits?

No, these are necessary preconditions.

2020-03-13T13:33:18+00:00

Frugal

Loyal

Equal earner

Child free

My type

Tyler_Gatsby · 2020-03-13T16:37:11+00:00

1 Attractive enough I want to see her naked.

2 Cool enough I can get along with, and click with.

3 Sexually compatible

4 Not wanting more kids

5 Reasonably healthy enough in lifestyle, like drinking water, and not living off complete junk by any means.

Edit: Probably mostly that order, and all have to be there. Can't just looks max and not hit anything else but get me wanting you like that.

PierceTheEye · 2020-03-13T17:02:24+00:00

Honesty / Straightforwardness / Openness (for communication purposes)
Kindness
Loyalty (this one is up to me though, people are only as loyal as their options and I need to be someone worth committing to)
Maturity
Sanity / Mental Stability

E: Removed filth, changed number 5 (was motherly affection towards children). So many people are commenting on attractiveness, to me that is relatively insignificant since I'm attracted to wide variety of traits and honestly if people do not have the traits listed above I find them less attractive.

dylang92 · 2020-03-13T21:08:00+00:00

Be physically attractive to me. Note i said to me, she doesn’t need to be a Stacy every dude wants. If I look at her and i get aroused or think “man my gf is beautiful” then we’re fine.
Hygienic and knows how to groom herself. Shave regularly, actually try for me. Shower regularly, make sure your hair is washed. I prefer women that wear makeup, but if she’s naturally pretty or only needs a little. This point I’m making is that you need to try. She also has to be stylish, someone who I can say dresses well and understands how to dress herself with current trends.
Has hobbies/interests outside of me. I like my privacy, and being with someone 24/7 can be exhausting. You need to have your own thing that you can spend time on, and not try to be a part of mine.
Has, or is looking for a career. I have no interest in a SAHM, you and I are a partnership and I am not footing your bill the rest of my life. I know how to cook and clean for myself, i don’t need some housewife to do it for me. I want us to put our money together, and enjoy life rather than living an okay life with just one salary. It makes raising kids easier, and saving for college easier.
Is mentally independent. Look, having a clingy gf sounds great til you have one, and then you realize how much you hate it. Feeling like someone relies on you is awful, and it’s just so much pressure. I need to be sure that you’re okay without me, and that you don’t need me for your happiness

I genuinely do not think I’m that picky, and sometimes I’m willing to drop one of my requirements if the woman fills the other 4 well enough, but anything more and I’m out. If I’m gonna be in an LTR, I might as well be in one I want to be in

Workaholiconew · 2020-03-13T22:18:32+00:00

Be reasonable
Be loyal
Not be too much of a nuisance/bother
Be sexually satisfying

I don't have another trait. A woman just have to have these 4 traits to be considered wife material and I don't believe I can ask any more.

XtoDoubt · 2020-03-12T23:38:31+00:00

Very aroused by me
Pleasant
Affectionate
Arousing to me
Great cook

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darudeboysandstorm · 2020-03-13T08:25:14+00:00

Optimistic Headstrong Hot Fluid personality not rigid Intelligent/winner but not competing with others just their own goals etc

webernicke · 2020-03-13T12:25:28+00:00

Attractive
Kind
Socially acceptable enough to bring around my parents. (So, like, not a stripper with a heart of gold)
No kids.
Something in common that we can bond over.

SilentLurker666 · 2020-03-13T20:33:36+00:00

Loyalty
Devotion
Attractive
Comparability
Career/Education level.

trolinski · 2020-03-14T06:36:45+00:00

High libido

Desire to please me, to the extent of fawning slavishness

Physical attractiveness

Reasonably low n count

Domestic competence

reluctantly_red · 2020-03-13T00:02:46+00:00

An education (graduate degree preferred).
At least five years of career experience with a path toward future advancement.
Likes kids but won't be a helicopter parent.
Independent nature including a strong work ethic.
A nice big round booty!

Karmanger · 2020-03-13T00:50:15+00:00

Compatabile personality
Adventurous
sexually compatible
we can make each other laugh
shares my hobbies

I'm a simple man.

CHAD_TDK · 2020-03-13T01:45:22+00:00

for a LTR? Yikes! Oh ok, I'll play.

High IQ (and all the benefits that come with that)
Good toned body because she works out at the gym (lift) and it shows; not skinny because she's starving herself
Absence of Mental Illness
>age of consent and younger than 40

That's it, I'll waive #5 because of the caveat that I specified on # 1 "and all the benefits that come with that"

TRPonlySubsBanTRPppl · 2020-03-13T02:20:05+00:00

She has to have become her emotionally mature self. Not many women have emotionally matured.

2020-03-13T04:44:49+00:00

Attractive
Productive hobbies
Career/education focused
Loyal
Compatibility (might go without saying)

SDW137 · 2020-03-13T05:27:14+00:00

Loyal
Attractive
Intelligent
Nice personality
Not insane

I don't care about height (unless she's ridiculously tall 6'2"+), her hair color unless it's dyed blue or some other flashy unnatural hair color, whether or not she has tattoos, the color of her eyes, her race/ethnicity, her religion, or what political affiliation she is. Having a nice ass or big boobs is a plus, but not a necessity, but I must be attracted to the face. I expect her to be in shape just because I am as well. Body count doesn't really matter to me unless you've slept with more than 10 times what mine is or some crazy high number, in which case I will wonder how often she's gotten tested for STDs and/or if she has a lot of emotional baggage.

party_dragon · 2020-03-14T12:25:20+00:00

truthful, doesn't wear make-up, honest about her emotions (none of that "what's wrong" "nothing" bullshit) - can't build an intimate relationship with someone who's not honest
high libido, loves blowjobs, anal, into experimenting, BDSM, outdoors sex - we're not friends, we're lovers
intelligent, driven, educated - don't want stupid kids
self-sufficient (can cook, kill spiders, drive), responsible, history of sensible life decisions - needs to be able to take care of the kids if I'm not around (business trip, ill, dead)
takes care of her body, goes to the gym / yoga / running, aware of the tendency of people to balloon after 30 and doing everything she can to prevent that - we all get old and ugly but why not delay that as much as we can, in addition it's just common sense to stay fit and healthy long into old age

(6.) I guess "attractive" goes without saying but that's highly subjective, personally I like fit thigh-gap girl-next-door type of look, I don't care about big boobs, big ass, her style of clothing, but I'm aware that many men have opposite standards of attraction

Wallstreet3 · 2020-03-14T16:12:42+00:00

Attactive.
Hygeine.
Psychological Integrity
Positive femininity
Compassion and empathy

stranglethebars · 2020-03-14T22:55:09+00:00

Ok, I tried to answer quickly:

Be cooperative, smart, funny and healthy. Having a nice ass, eyes or something wouldn't hurt!

2020-03-15T17:18:26+00:00

A) Attractive B) Positive outlook on life C) Ability to make conversation D) Actual interests not just FB phone zombie obsessions E) Other (mutual) interests than just work and career

Is there variation in how these traits can be expressed?

No

Are some more important for others?

No, there are other things also such as hygiene, which I take as a given and do not list.

These are desirable traits, not undesirable traits (ie, lack of hygiene)

Can a lack of one trait be made up for by having high levels of the other traits?

No

Simp_Gulag · 2020-03-19T01:14:50+00:00

Not gonna happen. Even if they actually stick around for once.

ZlayerXZ · 2020-03-13T04:04:25+00:00

Whore (to me)
Sexually Liberated (to me)
Slut (to me)
Sex Positive (to me)
Doesn’t want commitment (from me😱)

DontNeedMuchMoney · 2020-03-12T23:26:41+00:00

Only wants sex with me 2.Pleasant to be around

Melohdy · 2020-03-13T00:24:24+00:00

Humor Gentleness Adventuresome Nurturing A reasonably weak gag reflex.

basedmillennial95 · 2020-03-13T03:37:51+00:00

Oh boy I await the downvotes

1.Christian 2. Rightwing/Conservative 3. Believes in and follows traditional gender roles 4. Attractive 5. Low partner count

Barely-moral · 2020-03-12T23:51:03+00:00

-Attracted to me. -Attractive to me. -Pleasant (Click for a comment that details what that means) -She must be unable to attract and/or keep anyone that is better than me -She must know it.

That is it. All are important. If any of those is lacking then I am not interested.

richlad · 2020-03-13T03:53:21+00:00

Values my effort (so far all women take what I do for them granted)

Most of the women I come across are loyal and beautiful and they'll offer sex in relationship.

But most of them absolutely do not value what you do for them. They care more about what they want, you spend considerable time making them feel special but at the end you end up feeling worthless.

Pastelitomaracucho · 2020-03-13T07:08:50+00:00

1) Kindness, self awareness and humility 2) Sense of humor 3) intelligence 4) healthy weight

I didn't even get to 5

Downvoted by fatties

Throughawayman80808 · 2020-03-13T07:52:04+00:00

Attracted to me

Fun to talk to

Loyal

Nice

Attractive (to me)

majani · 2020-03-13T09:43:13+00:00

Has high interest in me
Looks like she could hypothetically qualify for a beauty pageant
Makes enough money to sustain herself

I believe in keeping requirements short because long lists of requirements often result in isolating tiny portions of the population. Before people claim I'm being entitled, I'll have you know that I am working towards being the type of man who attracts these women. I actually used to attract them in college then after college I fell into the beta buxx rabbit hole and I'm now working my way out

CentralAdmin · 2020-03-13T13:26:21+00:00

Pleasant demeanour. Being a bitch is not attractive.

Enjoys sex a lot. Three to four times a week is pretty good. Being open-minded about sex here is also key.

Intelligent. Smart enough to hold a conversation and have critical thinking skills.

Physically attractive. Curves are awesome. I don't like skinny women. Being grossly overweight is bad too. Even average women can dress well, take care of their skin and hair, and do their makeup.

Hold similar values. This one's about things like morals, what we'd teach our kids etc.

SplushkaMcOwlFace · 2020-03-12T23:19:13+00:00

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Sid_Insidious · 2020-03-13T01:18:59+00:00

We find each-other mutually attractive
We have fun together and have lots of nice sex too
NEITHER of us will demand "the next level" or cohabitation. Ever.
No kids (no new ones, anyways)
Relationship is open. No need to confess a cheat. Cause it's not cheating.
(bonus) Someone not happy? Shake hands, hug it out and go separate ways.

Any other T&C's or any of the above not acceptable, no deal.

I'll be beating them off with a STICK! STICK I TELL YOU!!

Sorry that was conditions - not traits.

Traits:

Intelligent
Not feminist (Can identify, but no man-hate)
Confident - no continual onslaught of shit tests
NOT JEALOUS
Very to very very horny. Aka, into sex. Aka, not NOT into sex. Aka likes sex.

AbsoluteMercenary · 2020-03-13T03:46:32+00:00

I would have to say that the five most important traits for me are as follows:

1.Loyalty

2.Nurturing/Kind

3.Attracted to me & vice versa

4.Low Partner Count (Less than 5)

Not argumentative

Notgnisnek · 2020-03-13T00:16:55+00:00

Horny and up for sex whenever

Homemaker (cooking, cleaning)

In shape and sexually attractive

Has a 6 digit income equal or more than mine

Gives me my space when I need it

Title	What are the 5 most important traits that a woman should have in order for you to consider her for a long term relationship?
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Date	March 12, 2020 10:54 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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