Polyamorous couple wants to have child. Wife thinks that his husband is too jealous because he cares about paternity

Turtles4lyfee · 2015-10-25T13:45:00+00:00

Have a look at the edit on the post , where she posts the husband's email to her where he ends the relationship: notice how she says that he was happy with the open relationship concept, but from the email she posted it was clearly tearing him apart. I'm gonna take a shot in the dark here and say this open relationship was her idea as well, and dude was trying to appease her to save his marriage. No self respecting dude is gonna be happy being a cuck, and the suggestion of raising Chad's spawn finally woke him up. If your girl ever suggests an open relationship, run. Run and never fucking look back, holy shit.

TogiBear · 2015-10-25T13:36:26+00:00

She's right you know, Paternity doesn't really matter, nor does Maternity, they should just give you a random baby from the Maternity ward to take home, whichever ones ready at the time is yours.

hamlet_dynamic · 2015-10-25T13:12:20+00:00

The modern world feels like the Twilight Zone.

cocaine_face · 2015-10-25T13:58:40+00:00

Pretty sure this is fake.

She uses the term womyn non-ironically. While some people are known to do this, it's not particularly common, even among rabid SJWs.

JohnBertilakShade · 2015-10-26T03:43:36+00:00

Well, "polyamourous" = retarded. No surprise.

thefisherman1961 · 2015-10-25T14:57:36+00:00

My husband has started to just be a jerk since I proposed this.

Notice the way she's hamstered and manipulated the audience into thinking that her husband is the asshole. "Hey honey your genes aren't good enough for me to want to reproduce with, but your wallet is good enough to raise my boyfriend's baby. You're an asshole if you react badly to this suggestion."

Whatever. I don't feel bad for her husband because he chose to be a cuck. He gets what he deserves. But at least he's not crazy enough to keep the failed relationship going. In his email to her, he says:

"I think you've changed as a person."

No, that's just AWALT. She was always that way, you just failed to keep her hypergamy in check because you're a beta.

eternal_temptation · 2015-10-25T13:15:40+00:00

I'd say good for him. Dumb fool's genetics should not be continued...

Why would you even have a polyamorous relationship? at this moment of the relationship, paternity doesn't matter... The court will grab him by the balls to pay for the bastard.

PanzerBatallion · 2015-10-25T17:33:54+00:00

Just remember:

Polygamous couple: She fucks other men, you fuck your hand

PanzerBatallion · 2015-10-25T13:48:09+00:00

First of all, that post is 3 years old.

Second of all, almost all of those comments are telling her that she's wrong.

yaardi · 2015-10-25T13:25:55+00:00

At that point you can pretty much adopt, but I guess the woman wants her precious genes passed on, right? The beta cuck should be happy only providing the money.

Severity_Overtoad · 2015-10-25T20:42:29+00:00

ok, if she didn't care who the paternal father was, why is she arguing with her husband for two weeks over it? She has an ulterior motive, she wants her boyfriends child, she is trying to make herself look like a victim but if she truly felt the way she is saying she felt (caring about her husbands opinion, and not caring who the father is) she would care about the emotional needs of her husband and have a child with her husband.

daveofmars · 2015-10-25T17:20:25+00:00

"My husband would be a great father regardless and he is smart and gorgeous and his baby would be wonderful. My boyfriend is healthy and beautiful and his baby would be fine as well. I honestly have no preference."

Well if you have no preference, then fuck your husband and have his kid, dumbass. He obviously has a preference. Do it for him.

FLFTW16 · 2015-10-25T15:08:22+00:00

I don't like paying for someone else's kids for the same reason you don't like paying your neighbor's utility bills.

The woman acts clueless while others are calling her out as a sociopath. It's important to note that that is just what a sociopath with a vagina would do: act stupid. "He's being so selfish!" Nope. He's being real. And now he's going to dump her ass. He should have done it a long time ago.

popthatpill · 2015-10-25T13:45:38+00:00

Let me guess: the guy from this "polyamorous" couple doesn't get to enjoy much polyamory.

"I never put too much stock into paternity."

Gorsh, you mean you don't care about something that doesn't affect you? Imagine a guy saying something like "I never put too much stock in female contraception".

exit_sandman · 2015-10-25T14:35:25+00:00

I call bullshit on that one (as usual) - a woman who goes to the poly-sub trying to get validation for her plan to have a kid with some rando that her husband should help raising?

Particularly this exchange really drives it home:

yes its your body and all. I'm female myself, but you are very much ignoring your partners right to choose.

I feel like this is very sexist. You all are acting as if he owns my body. Womyn are not lesser than men. I'm not his property.

I think only the most braindead, boneheaded feminist would argue like that and actually expect people to be on board with it. If she actually was one, she would have communicated that fact sooner (because if there's one thing about ideological radicals, it's that they won't shut up about it). To me it looks more like that OP is a troll who is making up controversial details about his fantasy life on the fly so he can get more indignation points out of the audience.

Also, this one is classic:

My boyfriend doesn't want to interfere. I think he gets what I mean about this. I love them both. I don't want to choose. I was just going to let nature pick whose sperm to fertilize. It was never me picking either one.

He knows that my husband would be the father no matter what. He respects this and understands it. He is more than OK with everything.

[...]

I don't think my boyfriend wants to be a father. He is willing to potentially be a father to a child for me but I don't think he wants to be involved in like day to day activities. Which is fine! I don't expect him to want to.

Lol. This is so blatantly obvious a FUBAR-scenario, it can't be real. It's interesting that she doesn't respond to the multiple comments (so far, I've counted six) that wonder how she would react in the inverse scenario.

Still some gems in the comments, though.

You are being selfish, inconsiderate, and disrespectful of your husband.

I have a running theory that the poly lifestyle encourages this sort of inconsiderate behavior. It's all about getting yours, and telling anyone who has an issue with it that they are emotionally inferior. Sooner or later, that has to translate into a tendency towards being inconsiderate.

/agree, this is either a troll, or someone so unable to grasp why people are not agreeing with her that I doubt random internet messages are going to knock this orbit into alignment. either way, no reason to waste additional time on this thread.

You don't think my husband's jealousy was what caused us our trouble?

This is Poe's Law in action right here. I have no idea if this person is astoundingly dumb or a plain old troll.

"He won't find a better woman for him." (quote from OP)

LOL.

He'll trip over one on the way to work tomorrow.

Then he'll trip over another one on the way out of court after he divorces you. Probably several.

Please do not have children. Your complete lack of understanding and consideration for your husbands emotional well being makes me scared for the mental health of any child you may bear.

Also, if you do have a child with your husband, by refraining from sex with your boyfriend or using condoms or whatever, be fully prepared for your husband to demand a DNA test to prove the identity of your child. Be equally prepared for him to leave you and refuse to have any part in raising your child should it turn out to be another mans child.

Tell your boyfriend that he'll be the one on the hook for child support if it turns out to be his. See how supportive he is of your grand scheme after you tell him that.

First off, I agree with your assessment of hubby's issue. But I don't think that it's fair to diagnose OP as a sociopath over the internet based solely on her inability to see something that you find obvious.

1 in 25 people in the US are sociopaths.

When OP comes with segments like this: "It just feels selfish on my husband's part to insist to be the bio father. He will be the parent no matter what.", why would it be faulty to believe she's a sociopath when she thinks HE is selfish?

It's nothing out of the ordinary that people are sociopaths, but it is if you believe what the media wants you to believe it is, ie. serial killers and childrapists.

[...}

I suggest you go and read everything OP has said in this thread, and how painfully obvious it is that she doesn't have a conscience.

Under no circumstance throughout the thread has the thought of her being plain wrong crossed her mind. It never will. She is a textbook example of what a sociopath is. She intentionally avoids answering questions like "Well, what if your husband got some other chick pregnant, would you want to raise that baby?" and such.

There's no doubt in my mind that she's a sociopath. She simply doesn't have a conscience. I do agree with you that there might be other explanations, in theory, but you'll never convince me that she isn't a sociopath.

I'm also an INTJ, but I'm as empathetic and caring of other people's feelings as it gets. Some guy sent me a PM, saying he agreed with me in that he also is utterly convinced she is a sociopath. He said this: "Most people don't give any thought to the reality that a significant minority of people are born sociopaths, and that they don't always show it in a Conan the Barbarian way.

In this case, it is clear that she's a sociopath mostly because of her thought process. She seems to be mentally incapable of putting herself in someone else's shoes, believes her lies 100%, and plays the victim when she's the aggressor. She posts a thread asking people for input, and when everyone tells her she's completely wrong, she argues with them. "I'm wrong" is just not a possibility, is it?

I have an aunt who is the same way, so I was happy to see you say something controversial but true. She got away with a lot of bullshit before she got ostracized from the family, and it was all because people thought that, given enough time, her conscience might kick in. It didn't. It doesn't even exist. And she used that time to burn more people, including her relatives."

That guy is spot-on. Everything that has been said from OP is just textbook sociopathy. And this part is probably the most important one: "Most people don't give any thought to the reality that a significant minority of people are born sociopaths, and that they don't always show it in a Conan the Barbarian way". Being a sociopath isn't rare. It's common. A lot more common than people think.

MyLittleAtomBomb · 2015-10-25T15:48:13+00:00

It's his fault for getting involved with a woman like that.

It'd be like a girl dating Chris Brown then being surprised when he beats her.

chief_slap_ahoe · 2015-10-25T17:35:05+00:00

This why poly doesnt work. Its just open cuckold thats all.

max_peenor · 2015-10-25T15:21:51+00:00

" It doesn't really matter in the big picture who's DNA you have. Its who loves you.

Ground Control to Major Hamster.

t looks like he is breaking up our marriage over email. Which is so mature... I do not want to get divorced.

Looks like someone might, just might, have a ball sack.

I think you are happier with "boyfriend". I am happier away from you....

The plain truth. The marriage was over the minute she sought other genes. He was just doing what so many have to do in the era or divorce rape--try to hang on and avoid a mess. It's amazing that men will through away their life because of this. Then again, men are known for running at machine gun nests. It must be something in the Y chromosome...

tuilop · 2015-10-25T15:48:48+00:00

It doesn't really matter in the big picture who's DNA you have.

CTRL + F "Adoption"

Yeah... That's what I thought ...

RedditorsareDicks · 2015-10-25T13:52:34+00:00

This woman is a complete sociopath. How in the fuck can you be married several years to something like that and not gtfo

machimus · 2015-10-25T20:09:12+00:00

It's easy not to care about paternity when you know for a fact every single child you have is yours.

obama_loves_nsa · 2015-10-25T18:40:20+00:00

One of the most enraging things I've ever heard in my life.

Hopefully she wouldn't get too violent as I picked her up by her horsecollar and escorted her directly to the front porch.

Edit: Actually this has a really simple solution. The guy could just drop her in the next 3 seconds and be done with all the drama. Boom. Free life again.

KnG_Kong · 2015-10-26T00:30:59+00:00

Evolution has taught her nothing, kids look like there dads at birth for reason. So we don't fucking kill it and the mother 5 minutes later.

brokenshelf · 2015-10-25T16:12:44+00:00

It's a troll. Knew it as soon as I saw her refer to herself as a "womyn". Also, the email she claims was written to her sounds so canned and generic.

As far as trills go though, its oretty good. Nothing to see here, move on to the next example.

BlueChilli · 2015-10-25T14:23:26+00:00

If it truly did not matter, then she should adopt.

[deleted] · 2015-10-25T16:24:55+00:00

Reading the comments was a biiiiiiig mistake. Im actually gonna go for a jog now.

ZioFascist · 2015-10-25T16:38:36+00:00

heheh this is some PSY-OPS shit right there

MattyAnon · 2015-10-25T20:49:38+00:00

It doesn't matter whose DNA you have, so long as it's Chad's.

moose_war · 2015-10-25T21:45:05+00:00

So married couple is polyamorous and wants to have child.

As a man, how do you fuck up this badly in life? How do you get to this point where you are just so utterly fucked?

It doesn't really matter in the big picture who's DNA you have

OK. Put your money where your mouth is and adopt a child.

Fuggernugger · 2015-10-25T22:38:21+00:00

Holy Shit

I think I am ready to be a parent and I wouldn't mind having his child at all. He is a great guy. He probably wouldn't be as good a parent as my husband. I never wanted to make him the parent. My hubby and I are a team and we would raise the child. I don't know maybe its nuts. I sort of want something with my boyfriend. My husband and I have so much together. It just feels selfish on my husband's part to insist to be the bio father. He will be the parent no matter what.

Does it get any more AF/BB than this? Straight from the horse's mouth.

He is a great guy. He probably wouldn't be as good a parent as my husband.

He's good for fucking but not a very good provider.

It just feels selfish on my husband's part to insist to be the bio father. He will be the parent no matter what.

He doesn't have good genes as far as I can see. Why drag my kid down with him? Just provide for me and my child and stop whining about it.

Blake55 · 2015-10-25T22:45:07+00:00

My husband and I have so much together. It just feels selfish on my husband's part to insist to be the bio father. He will be the parent no matter what.

Yeah, her husband sounds like a real asshole to want to raise a child that's his own.

LegElbow · 2015-10-25T23:06:10+00:00

There's a lot of men out here who aren't fit to pass on their genes. They just do because it's easy as fuck to do it in modern society.

This beta is one of them.

killwhiteyy · 2015-10-26T01:03:28+00:00

pretty sure it's a troll. in a comment response she actually used the "womyn" spelling...

skoobled · 2015-10-25T18:00:01+00:00

Anyone who claims not to think paternity is important should be asked how they'd feel if they were one day told that they were adopted and their "parents" internationally kept it from them long into adulthood

Transmigratory · 2015-10-25T19:07:43+00:00

Polyamory, he agreed to this arrangement without ever expecting this?

Well not a lot of people have the critical thinking to get what'll happen.

He's quite a beta though: she made her stance clear; next her. She'll probably view his value to be higher than it is... which is a step as she doesn't even want his kid.

[deleted] · 2015-10-25T19:08:11+00:00

It doesn't really matter in the big picture who's DNA you have. Its who loves you."

It doesnt matter what woman I give my resources to. Its who I love. So Im not going to pay any of the household bills anymore.

[deleted] · 2015-10-25T20:08:01+00:00

Always easy for women to say.

It's not like they have to worry about the child being theirs

PrinceLeon · 2015-10-25T21:31:13+00:00

Thankfully the commentors think she is batshit insane and she has been Downvoted heavily.
If her logic ever became the norm I think there would be a lot more familial murders

[deleted] · 2015-10-26T00:50:38+00:00

Wow. This guy essentially cucked himself and now she wants to make him pay to raise chad's kid.

How is this any different than if they broke up, she had a kid with chad and made him pay child support even though it wasn't his kid?

AF/BB has never been more true

Hippo_Kankles · 2015-10-26T01:03:25+00:00

Anytime you're thinking about wifing up or falling in love with that HB8 remember this

infiniteslinky · 2015-10-26T01:27:09+00:00

I thought the most interesting response was where someone called OP a sociopath.

Are you asking why your husband would have a problem with you bearing another man's child, despite being polyamorous? Or am I misreading it? If so, isn't it quite obvious..? Like, painfully obvious? Edit: It suddenly dawned on me that OP is a sociopath. Studies show that an estimated 4% of the US population are sociopaths/psychopaths. http://www.lovefraud.com/14_millionsSociopaths/number_sociopaths.html You can't expect a dog to talk, as it doesn't possess the quality to, much the same way OP doesn't have any empathy or consideration for others than herself. It's like being born without a limb, except you don't get any empathy instead of lacking a limb.

mykonos_rm · 2015-10-26T02:37:19+00:00

I was gonna write this off as another bb but judging from his email it seems like the guy used polyamory as an "out" to F-k around on his wife and finally had enough with the marriage altogether. In other words the guy has some modicum degree of balls.

This is not working. I know it. You know it. I think you are happier with "boyfriend". I am happier away from you. I think this argument over the baby is just a symptom of everything else that is wrong in our marriage. I want to be with someone who wants to be with me. Whether you admit it or not you don't want me. I think the open marriage was fun in the short term but detrimental to us long term. I cannot even grasp how you would think it is okay to become pregnant by another man and have me raise it. You do realize this is absolute craziness. I think we can and should handle this process responsibly and we don't need to let this descend into chaos. I think it is best if you move out as soon as possible. Whether it be to "boyfriend" or your parents or a hotel. This would be easier on all of us. I know this must sound rushed but I've thought about it for a long time. We both deserve to be happy. You cannot give me what I want and need. I cannot handle this anymore. If we end things now we can leave on a relative high point. We will always have the great memories we had together. I think you have changed as a person. We just aren't as compatible as we were. I don't want to feel the way I do about you. Its not fair to you or me. We both deserve to be with people that love us. I'm not going to come home until Thursday. That should give you some time to pack things up. If you need more time let me know. Once we separate things I got a name from "Mutual Friend" and we can talk to him about how to move on with the divorce.

4benny2lava0 · 2015-10-26T04:02:30+00:00

I am really concerned about him being forced to oay child support. We kniw that this hoes relationship with Mr. Thundercock is nowhere near strong enough to withstand raising a child. He would get her pregnant because he sees no risk of being forced to bankroll the kid.

getRedPill · 2015-10-26T04:48:10+00:00

If your girl ever suggests an open relationship, run. Run and never fucking look back, holy shit.

Also if she asks for "time and space", bitch ain't fucking Einstein doing velocity calculations! !

icecow · 2015-10-26T07:31:49+00:00

This guy should flip some reverse-hypergamy on this women. Find a different polyamorous woman, get a divorce, and say 'see ya'

BTW. I believe mandatory life alimony starts after 5 years of marriage in some states. The fact that you lived with her before that might factor in. Never mention that it could. Good luck do that guy. I'm talking as though he's lurking in this thread.

garlicextract · 2015-10-26T08:13:58+00:00

The OP in that post is evil. Straight up

CastratedBetaOrbiter · 2015-10-26T12:19:01+00:00

He already failed by being married to a poly.

Next.

penworth · 2015-10-26T14:42:51+00:00

Bitch wanted to have her cake and eat it too. I'm just glad that this guy finally found his balls and told her to move the fuck out of his house.

dandar4600 · 2015-10-26T15:09:24+00:00

That sub is all kinds of fucked up. Ever notice how women there say that "they" meaning her and her husband opened up the marriage yet it is only the woman that fucks around and the husband is monogamous? Frankly if the hubby is such a beta that he puts up with it then more power to her but at least she should be honest that she opened up the marriage, not them. In this case she says that hubby has been on a few dates but in her comments you can see that she really wants the boyfriend to be the baby daddy and wants the husband to be the father figure. Good for him to call the marriage off. Hopefully he went through with it.

MightyYetGentle · 2015-10-25T13:45:14+00:00

The point to where we got is fucking hilarious after internalizing rp. Seriously this kind of shit is gold and you start to not even care about whatever fuckwit guy is with these women. Like you said you cannot make this shit up

Glenbert · 2015-10-25T23:15:12+00:00

She's 100% correct. He signed up for polyamory. This is the end game of polyamory. He is in fact too jealous... for polyamory.

Out here in the normal world we call that taking an interest in one's genetic legacy, or normal. But if you want to buy into this polyamory crap, then don't come crying to anyone when the expected happens.

RedPillForever · 2015-10-26T15:56:43+00:00

This proves what I've been saying for a long time. Polyamory is a code word for cuckold.

[deleted] · 2015-10-26T13:24:09+00:00

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Title	Polyamorous couple wants to have child. Wife thinks that his husband is too jealous because he cares about paternity
Author	IndyBrodaSolo
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Date	October 25, 2015 1:03 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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