I see so many posts in this sub from people who've already made it to the top of the mountain and almost none from people at base camp. So here's a quick observation from a guy who's just starting out that I wish someone would've pointed out to me from the get-go.
Part of having an abundance mentality is making peace with the fact that you're going to be alone until you're not. You have to act like you have other options, even though you might be going home to an empty apartment week after week.
You have to be ready to walk away from a prospective plate even if you have no other options waiting for you. This can be extremely discouraging, especially early on when it happens over and over. I see now why they call it "spinning plates"-- if you're a guy who's never actually spun plates on sticks before, you're going to be breaking every single one until you get the hang of how to balance the plate on the stick and so forth. This isn't a bad thing. This is part of the process. Every single broken plate is a learning experience.
The point is, you're going to get extremely frustrated. You're going to want to throw your sticks down and punch the wall and go home back to your comfort zone. You can't. You need to keep working out and making yourself into something women will involuntarily find attractive, even on days when you feel it's hopeless. You're going to need to keep pursuing your goals, even when no one but you believes in them. You're going to need to always be ready to next a prospective plate that's stringing you along or being disrespectful with your time, even when you know that you have no one else to go to. Then you need to get up and find someone else and try again. It seems obvious, but I feel like it needs to be said.
So often I see guys here talk about dropping plates like it's nothing and then it becomes apparent that they had other options. It's easy to maintain abundance mentality when you've actually ACHIEVED abundance. This doesn't apply to guys who are just starting out and don't have the Game or the physique that makes it easier to keep other options around. And that's who this sub is really for, the guys who have made the decision to better themselves but are still too early in the process to see results.
If you're just discovering TRP like me, this is something you need to recognize-- you're really going to suck at it until you don't. It's that simple. Keep moving and learning and eventually you'll have a success you can build on. It may take awhile, but if you don't give up it will happen.
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