Woman out-lifts her LVM boyfriend, he throws a temper tantrum because she "emasculated" him, she immediately collects her things and dumps his ass. All the comments saying she's NTA and that the BF sucks. Good on her for leveling up!

randomgirlimok · 2020-05-18T02:10:15+00:00

Also don’t move in with a guy you’ve known for like 2 months

myousername · 2020-05-18T01:30:00+00:00

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I (30F) met this guy (28M) in January and he became my BF in February. Comes March, the world goes down the drain and we decided to move in together for the time of the pandemic. Everything is great.

In the morning, we have this routine where he browses Reddit and gives me the highlights. A few weeks ago, he shows me a post where this guy is challenged to an arm wrestling competition by his GF. The guy didn't seem to have any sort of training/work out whereas his GF did.

I commented he might have a surprise. My BF started educating me on biology and how men are stronger than women. I told him there were way too many factors to take into consideration to make such a broad comment. I have been doing weightlifting for 2 years and my BF has never seen a gym in his life, so I used us as an example. That was a BIG mistake.

He got really defensive and condescending, and made comments like "That's cute." I just let it go. Fast forward to yesterday. He's playing some game with his friend (online) and I can clearly hear him talk about me. Well curiosity killed the cat.

At first it's all pretty and my ego is bursting, but then he says I'm delusional because I think I'm stronger than him. Pause. "Seriously? I know I'm weak but not weaker than a girl." So later, I decide to call him on his BS. I asked him if he wanted to come workout with me the next day (this morning) so he can show me how strong he is. He accepted and I was happy because I had been dying to bring him and initiate him to something I'm passionate about.

So, this morning, we went to my friend's (27M) garage (my region allows groups of 10 or less and we wipe everything). I told him we're gonna do deadlifts. It's my favorite exercise and I was already planning to test my personal best so it was perfect.

My friend was there cause he corrects my form and it's been our Sunday ritual since Covid-19. We started light and slowly worked our way up, doing the same number of reps as the other. Comes 185, his form starts to crumble so we made him go lighter. But 185 really isn't that much for me so I kept stacking the plates. He looked very supportive and impressed the whole time. I ended up beating my personal best at 265. I was ecstatic and so were they.

When we got in the car, he was very silent. I assumed he was just tired. We got home and that's when he exploded and asked me if I was proud of myself. Apparently, I humiliated him in front of my friend. I apologized. I didnt realize he was feeling that way. He got angry and said it really changed the way he saw me, like I'm less of a woman now. He stormed to the basement.

I started collecting my things, but now I'm wondering if I should have been reading between the lines and stopped at 190 or something. Or just dropped it and never suggested we workout together? I knew very well I was stronger than him but I just had to prove it to him. AITA?

Kekekeke7777 · 2020-05-18T02:06:04+00:00

Muahaha. Reminds me (slightly) of the time my ex took me to a shooting range. He’d been “practicing” for a few years and I’d never done it. Well, guess who was the better shot 😂. And he wasn’t terrible or anything! I was just better. A lot better. He was pissed.

eyeahyabasic · 2020-05-18T03:21:25+00:00

So it’s fine for him to call her delusional behind her back, but it’s not ok for her to win a fair competition that he agreed to? Got it.

EclecticBarbarella · 2020-05-18T04:48:27+00:00

This warms my shriveled little heart. I used to be fairly active in a “men’s” hobby that I was quite good at (I didn’t look it but I’d done it for years as a teenager and had logged more practice hours than most people twice my age) and I secretly loved nothing more than watching grown ass men get bent out of shape because a 20 year old chick was better than them and everyone could tell. Its slightly petty but I totally get why she pushed this, it’s annoying af when they assume superiority solely by virtue of having a penis. Some of them need a good check

sashimi_girl · 2020-05-18T04:09:30+00:00

This whole read was embarrassing. “My boyfriend started educating me”? The real red flag is that her success hurt his feelings, and SHE apologized. If they didn’t include their ages, I’d think this was about teenagers.

Neat_Communication · 2020-05-18T02:08:42+00:00

Anyone who works out especially with weightlifting knows that someone who trains for 2 years is gonna be stronger. This guy is really silly

That man needs to hit the gym. An aside of course is that yes biology does favor male strength but no biology beats someone who works out/trains for years vs the guy who doesnt.

LadyArellano · 2020-05-18T02:37:25+00:00

This makes me so happy. He’s a joke she’s been lifting 2 years and women naturally have more strength in their legs! Im so proud of her. He doesn’t even go to the gym. I’m glad she shut it down. What a 🤡

seraphinelysion · 2020-05-18T02:40:36+00:00

This is some sad shit. She needs to date someone on her level because clearly he is not trying to meet her on her level, physically or emotionally.

wegonfuckornah · 2020-05-18T01:54:28+00:00

Yes, you are clearly the asshole.

You should’ve undermined your talents and abilities to appease his fragile ego.

SpookySparkle7 · 2020-05-18T07:45:46+00:00

I wanted to start up powerlifting right before this COVID19 stuff, and, after reading this, I'm fully committed to starting as soon as it's safe. ❤️

coolestgirlyoueverme · 2020-05-18T02:56:11+00:00

This is both hilarious and sad

radical__daphne · 2020-05-18T08:38:12+00:00

Always take opportunities like this. Really shows you how weak the man is. Lvm dodged.

2020-05-18T12:03:13+00:00

When I was dating this guy, and also preparing for lifting competition at the same time, my boyfriend who didn’t lift was bragging to his friends how strong I was, and also was punching my muscles and saying “wow you are so strong”.

Because he was a confident and decent guy, and not a misogynistic insecure piece of shit who needs people around him to be worse in order for him to feel better.

desertedstreets · 2020-05-18T11:06:17+00:00

This post has inspired me to start powerlifting, something I've always wanted to but never did. What are some good resources that can help me get started? I don't know anyone that's into working out

fulltwistinglayout · 2020-05-18T11:53:22+00:00

he’s never been to a gym? 🚩

sadcello · 2020-05-18T12:23:39+00:00

Yet another proof that men are weak and they live in fantasy lalaland where they believe they'll always win over women. Not only men are weak, they're the sorest losers. Pathetic. Great on her for leaving as soon as he shows his true bullshit self.

UpbeatIncubator · 2020-05-18T14:09:57+00:00

HAHAHAH. Love this. I love how guys jump on the average/ best of men as a way to represent themselves without considering they themselves may be below average or nowhere near close to a woman who really puts the work in with fitness.

It's like these guys who are like WELL GUYS AGE LIKE WINE. LOOK AT LEONARDO and are in total denial of the fact they are wayyy more likely gonna be a potbellied baldo no one gives a second glance at.

thepastamancer · 2020-05-18T12:40:49+00:00

This post is sweet sweet nectar to my soul.

2020-05-18T15:03:04+00:00

It's typical of men to not show emotions in front of others. Of course he was angry that a woman beat him in deadlift, but since someone was there, he had to hide how he really felt.

She learned the hard way. Glad she left.

Asbelowsoaboveme · 2020-05-18T16:09:10+00:00

Hahaha he felt emasculated because he’s a weakling compared to what he considers his intrasexual competition (op’s friend). Instead of being a man and resolving to train to get stronger, he takes his insecurities out on his girlfriend. Lvm suddenly made aware of his low value is like a shock to the system. The male ego is an unstable nuclear reactor, watch out!

Time for op to date a man who’s both physically and emotionally strong.

Rdrses · 2020-05-18T20:13:04+00:00

Lmfao "should i have let him hypocritically insult me to spare his feelings " No. Never. He started it 100%.

galian84 · 2020-05-19T17:35:35+00:00

This cracks me up. Oh, their fragile egos!

I love it when guys think they can beat you at something, video games, sports, weight-lifting, any traditionally male activity, and when you beat them they get all butthurt or complain "that's cause I LET you win!" Yeah, okay.

Elleelephant · 2020-05-18T10:29:10+00:00

What a pathetic scrote. I’m a physically strong woman. I can lift very heavy. When helping friends move I’m always in there helping to lift heavy furniture. Men are always so surprised and want to make jokes about it and de-feminize me. Clearly it’s about how they feel about themselves by comparison, but I like being strong. They can kick rocks.

endorphins_ · 2020-05-18T17:28:34+00:00

I was not surprised that he just sits on the couch all day and is a gAmEr

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