“Men are logical, women are emotional” is a lie. Anyone have go-to shit tests that will quickly show you a man’s ability to use reason and logic?

StumbleBee42 · 2020-01-21T15:00:48+00:00

My mom always says you shouldn't fully commit to anyone until:

you've seen them sick
you've navigated an airport with them
you've built a piece of IKEA furniture with them

So I guess the easiest option is to order some new furniture or ask him to help with something around the house that requires executing technical knowledge.

MidnightCarp · 2020-01-21T13:16:28+00:00

Not a test, but #1 is to see how he reacts to fair feedback or comments on something personal he might feel self-conscious about. Some men can't help but get so defensive they're almost angry, even when they have to admit you're being fair, whereas some actively seek to understand your point of view and find solutions.

If there's no reason for even mildly critical feedback in the early stages, see how he acts around his friends and family. His default behavious should show agency, thoughfulness, and empathy towards others, instead of selfishness, defensiveness, and passivity while others do the work. (Not worried about providing answers to lurkers here, because faking these in the long term or even consistently in the short term either won't work, or you might grow into it lol.)

Problem solving and reasoning skills should usually show up in how his life is organized, how well his career has been going, how much the people around him respect him, etc. If things frequently aren't going his way, I'm sure he has explanations that sound convincing for why it was the circumstances, but ultimately he's probably lacking some crucial life skills.

Bitemebitch00 · 2020-01-21T15:11:53+00:00

Go someplace where it’s hard to find parking and see how he handles it. Disclaimer: I never met a man who does not freak out when trying to park in an urban environment. But at least you’ll get to see how he reacts under pressure.

FluffandRainclouds · 2020-01-21T14:59:56+00:00

I would disagree with him about anything: your preferences, a hobby, something political (has to be genuine) and see his reaction. Maybe see how he reacts to frustrations with friends (e.g. sports team losing/video game).

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2020-01-21T18:58:02+00:00

The ENTIRE breakup sub is full of Aloof men who were LoGiCaL aNd nOt eMoTiOnaL whining and crying and obsessing over their ex who typically ends up blocking their sorry asses.

Same with the /ExNoContact sub. Full of men who were big, bad, cold, standoffish, and aloof during the relationship and crying, whining, obsessing, rationalizing, and stalking once she hit the block button.

PLEASE. SHOW ME THE EVIDENCE of them being "logical". What logical person would set themselves up to be cold during the relationship and then emotionally turbulent after?? Some of those men are stuck on their exes for years!

StillAwakeofCourse · 2020-01-21T15:57:25+00:00

Airline losing your luggage in a foreign country. Not sure how you could orchestrate that, though!

Dated someone where that happened , and he handled it with grace and patience. He was stressed, of course, but he didn't use anyone as his emotional punching bag, he just dealt with it.

Scotsburd · 2020-01-21T20:02:07+00:00

Say no to him and mean it. Watch his reaction carefully. If he accepts your refusal with good grace - that shows respect and maturity. Any attempt to argue, convince you to change your mind, sulk, etc. Ditch.

ontherailstoday · 2020-01-21T17:13:53+00:00

Let him get real comfy with you doing something for him... then stop doing that thing for good reason but a reason he maybe feels (rather than thinks) isn't good enough.

Sunday_V · 2020-01-21T21:48:15+00:00

One I discovered incidentally a few years ago was to go to a board game cafe and play for a few hours. You can see how he handles learning the rules to something complicated, what his reasoning skills are like in a strategy game, and (especially interesting) how he handles losing to you (repeatedly).

I originally did this because I love board games, but soon realised that getting a man to play games he’s unfamiliar with can really show you some aspects of his personality early on that he might have been able to hide for a long time otherwise.

an0nny · 2020-01-21T12:59:13+00:00

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2020-01-21T19:27:58+00:00

I don't test at all. I'm naturally assertive af but not aggressive. I just observe behavior

ceramicunicorn · 2020-01-22T00:52:58+00:00

Observe him driving in heavy traffic. Never do I see such a public display of emotion as men being inconvenienced while driving.

abicus4343 · 2020-01-21T16:41:58+00:00

Men are pure emotion, only they only have access to two emotions, anger or arrogance.

FlashyKardashy · 2020-01-21T17:51:01+00:00

Tell him you've booked a table at a busy restaurant (you haven't). Go for a drink beforehand so he is nice and hungry. Throw in casually that the server was a bit short with you on the phone. When you get there, GOSH, the "server" hasn't taken your reservation and it is a busy friday night, where else will you eat? What will you do? Leave him to make all the decisions without your input, just act a bit uneasy and ask him what he thinks you should do.

vancityvan7839 · 2020-01-21T17:24:44+00:00

Pretend to think/believe something that is clearly bollocks, then refuse to allow him to change your mind on it. If he get angry that you won’t just take his word or calls you stupid etc.....well, you have your answer. I like to take the side of an obviously guilty murderer, and just toss out things like “oh, but he always wears good shoes...you can always judge a man by his shoes” and so on.

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