Tinder date goes south.

Darkknight5422 · 2020-07-07T12:17:33+00:00

Nobody is going to ask him to clarify what “being disrespectful” was? I guess I’ll do it...

akihonj · 2020-07-07T09:18:09+00:00

Fuck me you dodged a bullet there. You did very well to walk away, to spot this shit and shut it down straight away.

There would have been so many who would have begged her, but you didn't and showed her your somebody of worth.

Well done.

cuztrp · 2020-07-07T11:06:11+00:00

Tinder is full of weird girls.

I had my first date 2 weeks ago and it went surprisingly well. We ended up in her apartment, but before we made up a few times and she was already holding my hand in public.

We had good sex, she bit me on the neck leaving bruises and started telling me how sexy and romantic I am and it's been just 5 hours since I met her.

Yesterday I hit her up to bust a nut and to my surprise, she unfriended me from Facebook. I didn't understand the reason for it, maybe it was just a one time thing, so blocked her and life goes on.

TreatonOCE · 2020-07-07T09:19:41+00:00

Respect mate. Next! She can pull that shit on a beta LTR not on a date, let alone a tinder one lmao

Alzatorus · 2020-07-07T09:31:46+00:00

Haha 😂 brilliant. I'm so glad that you got up and left. Top marks, well done.

gayqwertykeyboard · 2020-07-07T10:03:51+00:00

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indredthrow · 2020-07-07T09:12:03+00:00

Yep. Sounds like a hassle. Move on

IXseed · 2020-07-07T12:39:37+00:00

get in the water getting super touchy and all of a sudden she's like don't touch me and from that point on she started being properly disrespectful towards me.

Kinda vague. Can yo expand on this?

MayIPikachu · 2020-07-07T09:32:18+00:00

Respect! Not going back was bold.

adityamthr · 2020-07-07T09:35:53+00:00

You are the shit bruh. Don't take shit from NO-ONE!

RPOpenUp · 2020-07-07T10:08:33+00:00

Probably convinced by feminists or something that it's normal to put up a struggle before getting intimate or some weird shit. You did good by leaving

Amon35 · 2020-07-07T15:47:13+00:00

All the boys bends the knee since they don't have a backbone. A high quality man would not put up with that kind of shenanigans. Believe me what you gone through is way too common. Whenever I walk away chicks loses their mind because they are used to m'lady treatment. You did the right thing. There is no shortage of chicks.

HisRoyalAwesomeness · 2020-07-07T10:35:16+00:00

She was disrespectful and you executed it to perfection by just walking away.

Well done.

WIA20XX · 2020-07-07T11:22:14+00:00

You did the right thing.

The bitch had never been checked before.

That said, the calls might have been her

1) Try to curse you out, shame you, blame you

2) Get you back

Posts like these make me glad I keep checking her from time to time.

Theorymeltfool1 · 2020-07-07T14:31:56+00:00

Started blowing my phone up after to come back so I just blocked her everywhere.

You missed an opportunity to be dominant. Should've asked her to pick up some food and come over.

AgreeableHelicopter2 · 2020-07-07T16:46:15+00:00

It's always the pretty ones with fucked up personalities

TORQUE1776 · 2020-07-07T18:01:54+00:00

Women are weird af... props to op for not taking bullshit.

unamins · 2020-07-07T20:33:02+00:00

I know what that was: she first wanted to get your attention to catch you onto her trap to then try to manipulate with the absence of attention and disrespect as an abusive method to manipulate you to be her submissive slave for her beneficial.

Is not a shit test, because if you failed she would not lose interest in you but instead she would be more interested in you to be her slave.

So shy failed to manipulate you and discovered that you are a dominant man and get attracted by this and tried to get back you at least for a hard sex as she got aroused by your behavior.

What a man should do depends if he has other options that week if not can drain his balls and dumping her as a piece of trash.

sehns · 2020-07-07T10:55:07+00:00

I don't even care if you came here to humblebrag I'm proud of you mate

The_Entertainer217 · 2020-07-07T19:33:15+00:00

I’m gonna be contrary here, but this response especially to touch is not necessarily a “shit test” and absolutely can be a symptom of traumatic sexual abuse in someone’s past. Read “the body keeps score” if you really want to know more about that kind of thing.

That being said, it’s not your responsibility to have to deal with that kind of thing and you did the best thing for you by walking away from it.

MrAnderzon · 2020-07-07T09:46:30+00:00

It was correct to not stay and continue to be disrespected.

You don’t need to have patience but it helps to find out it if that’s who she truly is as a person or just a massive shit test. The hotter she thinks she is , the hotter the shit test.

When you encounter this again hold space a bit longer for your reasoning as to why this women is acting the that way . Granted you may not like their response or they’re lying, which comes naturally them.

NikolaFingarov · 2020-07-07T15:29:57+00:00

You did well.

hockeyaddict87 · 2020-07-07T19:39:39+00:00

Sounds like a girl addicted to drama good you left

FirstName_LastName4 · 2020-07-07T11:32:02+00:00

she kept being disrespectful from that point on so I just got up and left

Perfect mate. Being disrespectful is not a shit test, its being disrespectful. You did well

coldestmichigan · 2020-07-07T11:34:24+00:00

For sure BPD. As paraphrased from another redditor in another thread, "they bring you to the highest of highs before the demon sets in and drags you to hell."

agjrpsl · 2020-07-07T11:14:39+00:00

Smart man. Block and move on. No contact.

bilabrin · 2020-07-07T13:04:59+00:00

Protip:

Light physical escalation is great to build sexual tension but if you start messing around and back off then the sexual tension dissolves a bit. Don't escalate physically in public beyond light touch.

Gordon-G · 2020-07-07T14:47:11+00:00

This was the proper response., all her life probably was never checked,.. which just fed her entitled attitude! Well done my man 👍🏽

Jdamoftruth · 2020-07-07T15:48:47+00:00

I think she was just shot testing you trying to pull a power play for control to see if she can just waste your time. Good job hitting the ejection button

catz123456 · 2020-07-07T15:57:28+00:00

Congrats on avoiding a metoo. I would of done the same thing.

BusterVadge · 2020-07-07T15:58:10+00:00

Your time is too valuable to put up with that kind of shit. Good job!

psychotropy · 2020-07-07T20:05:40+00:00

I would have tried to smash, THEN ghosted her for being disrespectful, but well played nontheless.

MattyAnon · 2020-07-07T20:46:58+00:00

but she kept being disrespectful from that point on so I just got up and left.

Either something went wrong and you dropped SMV.

Or something went right and her attraction went up, she shit tested more, and she sees it as a threat to her boyfriend-situation.

so I just got up and left.

GOOD

salezman12 · 2020-07-07T21:13:04+00:00

There was probably a way around that, but thats too much work considering how much free pussy there is out there. Good on you for having abundance mentality.

SirAttackHelicopter · 2020-07-07T22:00:43+00:00

You did good. In a world where movies and tv shows portray women abusing men physically and mentally and it being the norm, you shut down a girl who buys into this modern feminist bullshit.

You will be hated among her circle of friends. But that is a good thing, because they will talk about you.

JameisBong · 2020-07-08T01:41:24+00:00

You did excellent. Your attention and affection is the only tool you have. Withdraw permanently when she's being bitchy.

halleluiaiaia9292 · 2020-07-07T09:50:07+00:00

Good job man

Yashugan00 · 2020-07-07T11:19:41+00:00

slow clap .. my man.

yallapapi · 2020-07-07T15:23:02+00:00

You did the right thing but for the wrong reasons. Was 100% a shit test to see if you’d get butthurt. Technically you did, but you took away her power by leaving. She wanted to see if you’d get butthurt and stay.

Next time anticipate something like this and do a false takeaway, ie pretend to leave or leave but don’t block her. Wait until she blows you up again and then call her out by speaking the truth. “I don’t like how you’re acting. You’re playing games and it’s insulting. I don’t want to waste my time with someone like that so either cut it out or I’m gone.”

Calling out social violations is always the best way to deal with them.

Anyway good job

EDIT: also want to say you potentially dodged a bullet there if she’s doing that shit on the first date imagine what she’ll pull when she gets to know you. I’ve bounced on a few first dates like that before

theguytheguy1000 · 2020-07-07T11:02:47+00:00

definitely not common, sounds like a headcase.

damiksta93 · 2020-07-07T12:58:13+00:00

sounds like you handled it perfectly.. id love to have seen the look on her face when u dipped outta there

alfred311 · 2020-07-07T13:04:51+00:00

Crazy women = great sex, anal, raw sex, cum in deep, jizz in face and mouth

Since you already maintain frame, you should have given it a chance when shes blowing up your phone, youve got nothing to lose man

Besthater · 2020-07-07T13:39:48+00:00

So glad people are willing to set boundaries on bullshit behaviour. I'm pumped for us to be able to read this and celebrate your healthy choices.

catsdontsmile · 2020-07-07T13:57:18+00:00

Can't wait to go out with a psycho so I can do the same

wanker7171 · 2020-07-07T15:04:34+00:00

friend of mine, who's also the best ladies' man I know, had a similar thing happen. Only he wasn't on a date, instead we were doing a theater performance and he was paired to dance with this very cute girl. Multiple times I overhear her saying "Don't touch me" in a very annoyed tone. This girl would later fuck him. I've always been extremely confused about it, hell even he said that he didn't really get it, but now I'm fairly sure it's some kind of shit test.

L2diy · 2020-07-07T19:15:53+00:00

Could have just been a shit test that you failed and she kept pushing. Just bc you say you played it off cool doesn’t mean you did. Gonna have to clarify how else she disrespected you too to get a good answer here.

rdotskip · 2020-07-07T19:28:47+00:00

Good shit. Only question is, so she was touchy and then randomly switched up?

Apple_OfThe_Earth · 2020-07-07T23:56:33+00:00

In cases like this, when you say you left or when it's recommended to leave do you just get up and leave or say something like: yeah, I'll be going now. Both actions reflect a different mentality. Could be by case?

dr_warlock · 2020-07-08T00:58:00+00:00

What specifically was 'disrespectful' about her behavior?

mickenrorty · 2020-07-07T18:51:39+00:00

From what I’m reading, you fucked up. She’s having a good time, realises she’s being way too easy with a guy she genuinely likes, decides to put up some last minute resistance... and simultaneously a bit of a shit test to see how you handle things as a man and leader......... how does mr TRP handle it? Too much of an idiot to deal with social nuance like an autistic boy you jump ship, then burn all bridges immediately.

You should have just asked her like she’s a child, “is everything ok? Am I coming on too strong?” Women are mercurial and they’re going to shit test, you handled it like a little bitch from what i understand

mr4kino · 2020-07-07T12:56:02+00:00

My man, high five!

Keeping it classy, while shutting her down at the same time. Well done.

She blew your phone up as you showed you are high value but also cause she couldn't fathom someone keeping her in check. Women are used to beta "male".

beigesun · 2020-07-07T13:31:13+00:00

You a man

319Skew · 2020-07-07T14:00:25+00:00

What kind of disrespect?

nastyhumans · 2020-07-07T19:52:48+00:00

Your first mistake was meeting a stranger on Tinder during a global virus pandemic.

Terminal-Psychosis · 2020-07-07T13:10:41+00:00

Walking away was fully right and proper. People will only treat you as well as you require them to.

Donno about blocking her right away though. Could have worked out for a fun date here n there, once she learns she has to act right.

Gordon-G · 2020-07-07T12:37:46+00:00

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Tambamwham · 2020-07-07T18:56:41+00:00

Ugh... you yungins. First off all delete tinder. The only dating app or social media app a real men needs on his phone is phone. Every woman you meet should be done in person. If you see a woman you’re interested in, walk up to her and tell her up her face. That’s it’s. No tinder, no instagram... none of that weak, lazy, feminine shit. You were just guy #65779767644 that was giving her attention. And all first dates... actually the first 4-5 dates should be nothing but drinks.

Tinder date goes south.

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Title	Tinder date goes south.
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Date	July 7, 2020 8:16 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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