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Tinder date goes south.

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July 7, 2020
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Had a date with a hot chick yesterday at the beach. We have good chemistry, get in the water getting super touchy and all of a sudden she's like don't touch me and from that point on she started being properly disrespectful towards me. I don't know if it was a shit test because i played it off cool not get pissed about it but she kept being disrespectful from that point on so I just got up and left the shock on her face when i just left, probably no other guy she was being a bitch to did that.

I want to know if something like this is common cause it seemed super odd.


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Title Tinder date goes south.
Author 0zark21
Upvotes 274
Comments 125
Date 07 July 2020 08:16 AM UTC (7 months ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/714835
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/hmqjaa/tinder_date_goes_south/
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[–]Darkknight542286 points87 points  (5 children) | Copy

Nobody is going to ask him to clarify what “being disrespectful” was? I guess I’ll do it...

[–]drovid432 points33 points  (0 children) | Copy

yeah OP clarify this shit pls

[–][deleted]  (2 children) | Copy

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[–]rprookie3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

She was possibly on some Brat BDSM type shit.

[–]akihonj306 points307 points  (9 children) | Copy

Fuck me you dodged a bullet there. You did very well to walk away, to spot this shit and shut it down straight away.

There would have been so many who would have begged her, but you didn't and showed her your somebody of worth.

Well done.

[–]babybopp178 points179 points  (7 children) | Copy

Once a woman disrespects you, it is over. She has crossed a line you can’t come back from.

[–]akihonj54 points55 points  (0 children) | Copy

Abso fucking luteley

[–]cokedouthoodnerd8 points9 points  (5 children) | Copy

What defines disrespecting you though? What if it's disrespect that comes in the form of a shit-test?

[–]Whole-Competition-2517 points18 points  (4 children) | Copy

This was NOT a shit test, she was a shit herself. You can differentiate

[–]ev3rynightfireworks3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

It also depends, what’s disrespect, acting bitchy? Would you throw away 7 months of good behavior over one incident of her being a bitch?

[–]mrmaika1015 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

Unless you’re autistic you should be able to play it by ear

[–]aamour15 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Depends on time served 7 months vs 7 minutes makes a difference deciding

[–]phuckyothots6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Feminists gonna feminist. You want a “man” but when you do come across a guy who isn’t a little bitch and shows you his sexual intentions in a non-creepy way (bitches think everything is creepy nowadays) they treat the man like he’s trash. Good on OP for having the balls to shut that shit down and walk away.

[–]cuztrp58 points59 points  (20 children) | Copy

Tinder is full of weird girls.

I had my first date 2 weeks ago and it went surprisingly well. We ended up in her apartment, but before we made up a few times and she was already holding my hand in public.

We had good sex, she bit me on the neck leaving bruises and started telling me how sexy and romantic I am and it's been just 5 hours since I met her.

Yesterday I hit her up to bust a nut and to my surprise, she unfriended me from Facebook. I didn't understand the reason for it, maybe it was just a one time thing, so blocked her and life goes on.

[–]BPasFuck40 points41 points  (5 children) | Copy

A chick just gushing at you with verbal praise just 5 hours in, screams headcase to me.

Like a BPD pulling a love bomb.

There's no telling what's going on in the head of a nutscase like this. Sounds to me like you accidentally lucked out, and avoided any entanglements with the messiest of messes.

[–]cuztrp0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

I figured as much. I didn't reciprocate just not to give the wrong impression. I was like "Why do you think I'm sexy?" in a serious tone. Also half joking. But then I remembered how women feel and not think. So that's probably why I never figured it was a red flag until I found out that she unfriended me. I texted her that I had good time and I don't understand why she ignored the text and unfriended me but let's have it her way anyways because I'm sure that if that's what she did just after the first date, only the lord knows what happens next. So I'm good lol

[–]JameisBong0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yup it sounds like BPD, and if OP doesn't reciprocate she moved on.

[–]rprookie2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

That’s fucking weird or she’s fucking weird. Same shit with me but over social media. Females will be like “your hot”(simple example) and I notice she’s cute too and I try to escalate but then they lose interest when I proceed too.

[–]TreatonOCE55 points56 points  (0 children) | Copy

Respect mate. Next! She can pull that shit on a beta LTR not on a date, let alone a tinder one lmao

[–]Alzatorus68 points69 points  (0 children) | Copy

Haha 😂 brilliant. I'm so glad that you got up and left. Top marks, well done.

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[–]gayqwertykeyboard127 points128 points  (5 children) | Copy

Oh yeah your gym bros can give you the pleasure you seek

[–]Keepyourpowderdry35 points36 points  (1 child) | Copy

It’s just a brojob

[–]ronbfor-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Isn’t that racial?

[–]theguytheguy100024 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

🤣

[–]hoopingblob20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy

Username checks out

[–]TheDeadlyZebra4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

who else can give you an insane P U M P when you need it

[–]Theorymeltfool121 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

push workout (chest/delts/triceps)

LMAO

[–]SavorThePill7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, many things are...

...better than the sex a random bitchy tinder chick can give me.

This man is about his priorities right here; this man gets it.

[–]drunkPKMNtrainer4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm sure you still wanted to tap the ass. Come on now.

[–]L2diy5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

People that are giving you shit for this comment don’t understand basic RP theory and it’s clear. Abundance mentality states that working on yourself will always come before a lay. Good shit by hitting the gym and not giving a shit about the random lay.

[–]gayqwertykeyboard9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

Chill out dude we’re just fucking around. No need to get all serious. He just seemed REALLY into that pump.

[–]rprookie0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The P U M P

[–]clickherebaby0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Good attitude man

[–]indredthrow31 points32 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yep. Sounds like a hassle. Move on

[–]IXseed10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

get in the water getting super touchy and all of a sudden she's like don't touch me and from that point on she started being properly disrespectful towards me.

Kinda vague. Can yo expand on this?

[–]MayIPikachu20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy

Respect! Not going back was bold.

[–]adityamthr19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy

You are the shit bruh. Don't take shit from NO-ONE!

[–]RPOpenUp27 points28 points  (0 children) | Copy

Probably convinced by feminists or something that it's normal to put up a struggle before getting intimate or some weird shit. You did good by leaving

[–]Amon357 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

All the boys bends the knee since they don't have a backbone. A high quality man would not put up with that kind of shenanigans. Believe me what you gone through is way too common. Whenever I walk away chicks loses their mind because they are used to m'lady treatment. You did the right thing. There is no shortage of chicks.

[–]mickenrorty3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s simply a shit test to see if he cares, but he doesn’t need to get so butt hurt that he disappears off the face of the planet. He could have easily made her feel silly and laugh about her actions... she’s easily easily easily influenced by confidence... they always are

[–]HisRoyalAwesomeness12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

She was disrespectful and you executed it to perfection by just walking away.

Well done.

[–]WIA20XX11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

You did the right thing.

The bitch had never been checked before.

That said, the calls might have been her

1) Try to curse you out, shame you, blame you

2) Get you back

Posts like these make me glad I keep checking her from time to time.

[–]Theorymeltfool116 points17 points  (6 children) | Copy

Started blowing my phone up after to come back so I just blocked her everywhere.

You missed an opportunity to be dominant. Should've asked her to pick up some food and come over.

[–]chang3up4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

I would pay to watch that reaction

[–]Theorymeltfool15 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's worked a few times for me, totally worth trying

[–]Casanova-Quinn4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Glad I’m not the only here who thought the same. OP passed the shit test, then just dumped the girl lol. Some guys are really overthinking themselves out of pussy.

[–]mickenrorty1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly

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[–]Theorymeltfool10 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes

[–]AgreeableHelicopter24 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's always the pretty ones with fucked up personalities

[–]TORQUE17763 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Women are weird af... props to op for not taking bullshit.

[–]unamins3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I know what that was: she first wanted to get your attention to catch you onto her trap to then try to manipulate with the absence of attention and disrespect as an abusive method to manipulate you to be her submissive slave for her beneficial.

Is not a shit test, because if you failed she would not lose interest in you but instead she would be more interested in you to be her slave.

So shy failed to manipulate you and discovered that you are a dominant man and get attracted by this and tried to get back you at least for a hard sex as she got aroused by your behavior.

What a man should do depends if he has other options that week if not can drain his balls and dumping her as a piece of trash.

[–]sehns6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't even care if you came here to humblebrag I'm proud of you mate

[–]The_Entertainer2173 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’m gonna be contrary here, but this response especially to touch is not necessarily a “shit test” and absolutely can be a symptom of traumatic sexual abuse in someone’s past. Read “the body keeps score” if you really want to know more about that kind of thing.

That being said, it’s not your responsibility to have to deal with that kind of thing and you did the best thing for you by walking away from it.

[–]MrAnderzon10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

It was correct to not stay and continue to be disrespected.

You don’t need to have patience but it helps to find out it if that’s who she truly is as a person or just a massive shit test. The hotter she thinks she is , the hotter the shit test.

When you encounter this again hold space a bit longer for your reasoning as to why this women is acting the that way . Granted you may not like their response or they’re lying, which comes naturally them.

[–]NikolaFingarov2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You did well.

[–]hockeyaddict872 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like a girl addicted to drama good you left

[–]FirstName_LastName44 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

she kept being disrespectful from that point on so I just got up and left

Perfect mate. Being disrespectful is not a shit test, its being disrespectful. You did well

[–]coldestmichigan3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

For sure BPD. As paraphrased from another redditor in another thread, "they bring you to the highest of highs before the demon sets in and drags you to hell."

[–]unamins0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That's typical manipulation.

[–]agjrpsl4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Smart man. Block and move on. No contact.

[–]bilabrin3 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy

Protip:

Light physical escalation is great to build sexual tension but if you start messing around and back off then the sexual tension dissolves a bit. Don't escalate physically in public beyond light touch.

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[–]Gordon-G1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

This was the proper response., all her life probably was never checked,.. which just fed her entitled attitude! Well done my man 👍🏽

[–]Jdamoftruth1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think she was just shot testing you trying to pull a power play for control to see if she can just waste your time. Good job hitting the ejection button

[–]catz1234561 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Congrats on avoiding a metoo. I would of done the same thing.

[–]BusterVadge1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your time is too valuable to put up with that kind of shit. Good job!

[–]psychotropy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I would have tried to smash, THEN ghosted her for being disrespectful, but well played nontheless.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

but she kept being disrespectful from that point on so I just got up and left.

Either something went wrong and you dropped SMV.

Or something went right and her attraction went up, she shit tested more, and she sees it as a threat to her boyfriend-situation.

so I just got up and left.

GOOD

[–]salezman121 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

There was probably a way around that, but thats too much work considering how much free pussy there is out there. Good on you for having abundance mentality.

[–]SirAttackHelicopter1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You did good. In a world where movies and tv shows portray women abusing men physically and mentally and it being the norm, you shut down a girl who buys into this modern feminist bullshit.

You will be hated among her circle of friends. But that is a good thing, because they will talk about you.

[–]JameisBong1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You did excellent. Your attention and affection is the only tool you have. Withdraw permanently when she's being bitchy.

[–]halleluiaiaia92922 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good job man

[–]Yashugan003 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

slow clap .. my man.

[–]yallapapi2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

You did the right thing but for the wrong reasons. Was 100% a shit test to see if you’d get butthurt. Technically you did, but you took away her power by leaving. She wanted to see if you’d get butthurt and stay.

Next time anticipate something like this and do a false takeaway, ie pretend to leave or leave but don’t block her. Wait until she blows you up again and then call her out by speaking the truth. “I don’t like how you’re acting. You’re playing games and it’s insulting. I don’t want to waste my time with someone like that so either cut it out or I’m gone.”

Calling out social violations is always the best way to deal with them.

Anyway good job

EDIT: also want to say you potentially dodged a bullet there if she’s doing that shit on the first date imagine what she’ll pull when she gets to know you. I’ve bounced on a few first dates like that before

[–]40k_fan0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I agree.

If the first date is this kind of bullshit, what will be the future ?

[–]theguytheguy10001 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

definitely not common, sounds like a headcase.

[–]damiksta931 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

sounds like you handled it perfectly.. id love to have seen the look on her face when u dipped outta there

[–]alfred3111 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Crazy women = great sex, anal, raw sex, cum in deep, jizz in face and mouth

Since you already maintain frame, you should have given it a chance when shes blowing up your phone, youve got nothing to lose man

[–]mickenrorty0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Haha all straight women are down for that (except the anal) if you follow rules 1 & 2

[–]Besthater1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

So glad people are willing to set boundaries on bullshit behaviour. I'm pumped for us to be able to read this and celebrate your healthy choices.

[–]catsdontsmile1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Can't wait to go out with a psycho so I can do the same

[–]wanker71710 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

friend of mine, who's also the best ladies' man I know, had a similar thing happen. Only he wasn't on a date, instead we were doing a theater performance and he was paired to dance with this very cute girl. Multiple times I overhear her saying "Don't touch me" in a very annoyed tone. This girl would later fuck him. I've always been extremely confused about it, hell even he said that he didn't really get it, but now I'm fairly sure it's some kind of shit test.

[–]L2diy0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Could have just been a shit test that you failed and she kept pushing. Just bc you say you played it off cool doesn’t mean you did. Gonna have to clarify how else she disrespected you too to get a good answer here.

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[–]ev3rynightfireworks1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Damn I don’t blame you

[–]L2diy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah not worth. I’ve got a three strike policy with shit tests especially if I’m just meeting the broad.

[–]rdotskip0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Good shit. Only question is, so she was touchy and then randomly switched up?

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[–]rdotskip0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lmao actually mindblowing at some chicks stupidity

[–]Apple_OfThe_Earth0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

In cases like this, when you say you left or when it's recommended to leave do you just get up and leave or say something like: yeah, I'll be going now. Both actions reflect a different mentality. Could be by case?

[–]Senior Endorseddr_warlock0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What specifically was 'disrespectful' about her behavior?

[–]mickenrorty0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

From what I’m reading, you fucked up. She’s having a good time, realises she’s being way too easy with a guy she genuinely likes, decides to put up some last minute resistance... and simultaneously a bit of a shit test to see how you handle things as a man and leader......... how does mr TRP handle it? Too much of an idiot to deal with social nuance like an autistic boy you jump ship, then burn all bridges immediately.

You should have just asked her like she’s a child, “is everything ok? Am I coming on too strong?” Women are mercurial and they’re going to shit test, you handled it like a little bitch from what i understand

[–]unamins0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He said he replied to her shit tests but she continued with disrespect

[–]mr4kino0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

My man, high five!

Keeping it classy, while shutting her down at the same time. Well done.

She blew your phone up as you showed you are high value but also cause she couldn't fathom someone keeping her in check. Women are used to beta "male".

[–]beigesun0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You a man

[–]2319Skew0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What kind of disrespect?

[–]nastyhumans-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Your first mistake was meeting a stranger on Tinder during a global virus pandemic.

[–]1Terminal-Psychosis-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Walking away was fully right and proper. People will only treat you as well as you require them to.

Donno about blocking her right away though. Could have worked out for a fun date here n there, once she learns she has to act right.

[–]Tambamwham-4 points-3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Ugh... you yungins. First off all delete tinder. The only dating app or social media app a real men needs on his phone is phone. Every woman you meet should be done in person. If you see a woman you’re interested in, walk up to her and tell her up her face. That’s it’s. No tinder, no instagram... none of that weak, lazy, feminine shit. You were just guy #65779767644 that was giving her attention. And all first dates... actually the first 4-5 dates should be nothing but drinks.

[–]unamins0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Wasting days in drinks??? And after 5 dates she don't want to see you again 😂

[–]Tambamwham-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

She will of youre a good time and fuck her well. And after 5 dates you should have made some progress and being seeing each other multiple times a week. If she’s into you

[–]mrsmiley8310 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Nothing wrong with meeting at the beach for a first date. It's even cheaper than drinks, because you shouldn't have to spend a penny.



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