China faces a looming population crisis as women stick by their standards

Mcccy · 2021-01-30T15:40:49+00:00

Oh no!

So anyways,

shoo_coworker · 2021-01-30T12:42:00+00:00

In China, marriage rates are falling steeply. Many single women cite their focus on career and education to be among the biggest deterring factors.

There's also a deficit of women due to the one-child policy, though the article doesn't go into the fact that female children were selectively aborted or killed at birth: "That policy has also affected marriages in other ways, Yeung said. Chinese families' traditional preference for sons has led to a skewed sex ratio at birth, especially in rural areas. Currently, China has a surplus of more than 30 million men, who will face a hard time looking for brides."

Women have also been outpacing men in education and in some areas, in jobs: "With increased education, women gained economic independence, so marriage is no longer a necessity for women as it was in the past," Yeung said. "Women now want to pursue self-development and a career for themselves before they get married."

Men still have skewed expectations of women, however: "In China, many men and parents-in-law still expect women to carry out most of the childcare and housework after marriage, even if they have full-time jobs."

Additionally, Chinese women have an increasingly smaller pool of bachelors to choose from: ""Traditionally, Chinese women want to 'marry up' -- that means marrying someone with higher education and income than themselves -- and men want to 'marry down,'" Yeung said. That preference has largely remained in place, despite the rising education and income levels status of women."

You'd think that the government would get their butts in gear and try to convince men to meet these women academically, financially, hygienically, etc--but nope, they instead resort to name-calling and disparagement in the hopes of lowering their standards: "In 2007, the state-backed All-China Women's Federation used "leftover women" to describe unmarried women over 27 years old. Later in the year, the Ministry of Education even added the term to the official lexicon, further popularizing its use."

The problem is not that women are too picky, it's that men are consistently performing below us in every stage of life, and therefore have little to nothing to offer us. Why would I sacrifice my career, hobbies, interests, etc to be a slave to a man who couldn't care less about me as a human being, and who still thinks I'm beneath him? Nah, sis.

smokeandmirrorsgames · 2021-01-30T15:30:55+00:00

In regards to the one child policy leading to female babies being aborted, I definitely believe that this could happen in any country if the rules allowed.

UnderwaterWriter · 2021-01-30T17:10:28+00:00

What’s especially disturbing is that women from nearby countries are being abducted and sold to these greedy men that can’t get a Chinese wife. So they buy a foreign wife/slave. The increase in human trafficking due to the unequal population of men and women in China is staggering.

faithunknown · 2021-01-30T16:24:49+00:00

That’s what happens when you kill little girls!

Beata1415 · 2021-01-30T15:55:55+00:00

As if this was a problem with a population of 1.4 billion

luvmyvulvaxoxo · 2021-01-30T18:31:57+00:00

“The decline is partly due to decades of policies designed to limit China's population growth, which mean there are fewer young people in China available to be married,”

BULL FUCKING SHIT They were MURDERING baby GIRLS because girls are undesirable. Now that the few females left don’t want to put up with a society that wants to kill them, they blame the one child policy? What. The. Fuck.

I don’t even think the 1 child policy in an overpopulated world is bad. But they targeted female fetuses to abort.

The article completely lacks any analytical point of view.

It’s bullshit. Women don’t want to marry because they’re already treated as second class citizens in daily life, so they don’t want to add an intimate relationship that heightens that structure.

Softrito · 2021-01-30T17:31:00+00:00

The sad thing I heard is instead of seeing the value in women, they have been kidnapping women, even other men's wives and also trafficking women from other countries like Vietnam and forcing them to become brides who can never leave or see her own family again.

DaughteroftheDawn · 2021-01-30T20:33:53+00:00

All over the world, women are getting tired of LVM’s bullshit and gaslighting. Soon, nothing will be as it once was.

We love to see it.

musicallymirrored · 2021-01-30T17:34:12+00:00

Keeping your government happy is literally one of the worst reasons to decide to marry. It’s always distasteful to me when State agencies try to guilt trip people into marriage for the sake of patriotism. So much no.

BungalowBootieBitch · 2021-01-31T08:47:54+00:00

This whole article could be summed in one sentence: the government hates women, severally oppressed them, and are now paying the price for it. I hope women like Star become millionaires.

Novemberinthechair · 2021-01-30T18:18:22+00:00

Good?

Why do patriarchal systems always focus on maintaining huge population booms?

It's not good for anybody.

Softrito · 2021-01-30T17:32:01+00:00

The Chinese government knew this was going to happen.

WornTheTshirt73 · 2021-01-31T02:09:54+00:00

Watch .... China will clamp down and kick women out of the work force so they don’t have any option but to get married ... just watch ....

startrekmind · 2021-01-30T18:41:01+00:00

I'm a mixed Chinese and Russian woman. I still have relatives and close friends in mainland China that I keep in touch with, and with whom I can fact-check. I love all sides of my heritage, and I think it's important for me to stand up for my countries whenever people try to make generalised comments bordering on racism with only half the picture.

Yes, there was a one-child policy but what few people know is that it wasn't always strictly enforced. There are a number of exceptions that can be made to the policy - e.g. ethnic minorities can have more than one child (keeping in line with China's affirmative action policies for ethnic minorities), families whose first-born is a daughter can apply to have a second child (keeping in line with the traditional desire of having a male heir to carry on the family name), and those whose children have disabilities can have more than one child (keeping in line with the Confucian value of fulfilling filial piety duties). That's why you'd still be able to find mainland Chinese who have siblings.

The term "leftover women" was coined as an insult for women who are still unmarried past 25. However, many Chinese women have since stood up against the term. SKII even did a very successful ad campaign in Asia 4 years ago that touches on this very subject, with the key message that you alone are in charge of your own destiny. These days, most of my Chinese relatives and friends - both the men and women - are strong advocates of "marrying right rather than marrying early".

Because of the gender ratio disparity, mainland Chinese guys will definitely find a lot of tough competition when it comes to relationships. They can't rely on just impressing the girl; they know they must impress the future in-laws too. Some might look abroad to find a wife, but most don't. Why? Because they know their parents would prefer they marry a fellow Chinese girl (I should stress that by "Chinese", it really means "culturally Chinese", not ethnically since there are 56 ethnicities in China). What this has resulted in is that girls in China know they naturally have the upper hand and can raise their standards even higher.

You'll note that I specified mainland Chinese in the paragraph above - this is because it does not apply in Hong Kong where I'm based and where the author of that CNN article is from. In Hong Kong, it's been estimated that there are 1,000 females for every 852 males. That's why guys in Hong Kong generally don't put in as much effort in bettering themselves as their mainland counterparts do, and many expect their wives to be a superwoman who can take keep a full-time job while caring for the house and kids.

And regarding the ageing population problem - it's a crisis that's faced by many developed nations, not just China. Singapore used to have a campaign called "Romancing Singapore" that was aimed at getting young couples to procreate; they've since taken a more practical approach of providing BTO housing to encourage newlyweds to have kids. Japan also famously has an ageing population issue. Even America has this same issue. To say that encouraging procreation is driven by greed and capitalism is naive as it demonstrates a lack of sociopolitical and economical understanding - the reality is that you need to have an active workforce to keep the economy, and therefore the country, running.

Sorry for the essay but I absolutely refuse to keep my mouth shut when I see ignorant, racist comments.

daria1994 · 2021-01-31T14:23:36+00:00

https://www.google.pl/amp/s/amp.scmp.com/news/china/society/article/2113990/no-country-older-men-chinas-better-educated-well-paid-women-are Here they’re saying that over 40% of young Chinese brides choose to marry younger husbands ☺️. They have woken up before us.

Title	China faces a looming population crisis as women stick by their standards
Author	shoo_coworker
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Date	January 30, 2021 12:32 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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