Woman blacks out from FWB choking her with a pillow case. Realizes she could have died but wants to explore this scary situation with another FWB who with cOmMunIcAtIoN hopefully won't kill her.

starburst411 · 2020-11-24T06:29:17+00:00

So this woman's older FWB decided to choke her with a pillow case from behind and she blacked out. Is this a thing in the kink community that I'm unaware of? Seems even more dangerous than regular choking. This seems very crazy and violent from the FWB to choke her with an object when he can't even see her face to see if she is okay.

Someone sent her an article of a woman who died from this. She basically lols and says it would be on brand for her to die that way. Also she talks about having some mental issues and then maybe being suicidal...

futuristicallyangry · 2020-11-24T06:47:50+00:00

My ex tried choking me and I screamed and he let go but he was like "I'm not killing you" but that's exactly how it felt. Choking is extremely harmful and distasteful, no amount of cOmMuNiCaTiOn is going to justify that.

superderpina_ · 2020-11-24T06:54:51+00:00

I think it‘s very telling that he didn‘t bother to turn her around when he realized she passed out. That man is dangerous.

DallasM19 · 2020-11-24T07:57:23+00:00

Very concerning that he didn't do anything to wake her up other than talk to her. How does she know he was laying beside her looking guilty? Did he tell on himself? if someone passed out on my dime, I'd be calling 911. Embarrassing? Yes. Avoiding murder one charge? Maybe..His lack of panicking is very very concerning. And let's be real, highly doubt he stopped once she was out. At a minimum, he's a r*pist.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-11-24T08:06:40+00:00

Notice how he tricked her telling her she was totally going to cuddle her after he did this shit to her and then he didn't.

That person's comment where she said "I can't believe he would choke you like that" but then she said without asking. I had to read that three times since that was not the fucking problem here. It's totally okay to choke someone from behind with a pillowcase until they black out as long as you ask first! How many of these women have to be murdered after being raped in assaulted by these men before these stupid women wake up?

starburst411 · 2020-11-24T09:43:35+00:00

This is really disturbing to read! Is there any way we can have a trigger warning on some posts that describe violence like this?

EfficientTackle · 2020-11-24T10:31:54+00:00

This is so fucked up. Notice he says she "came" as she passed out to try to preemptively ward her off from saying she DIDNT LIKE ATTEMPTED MURDER.

MORE likey, if she had any physical response at all, it was hypoxic myoclonus or similar to seizure activity. Evil rapist.

cicerii · 2020-11-24T11:45:57+00:00

“Last night being the third and most likely final time”

....MOST LIKELY???!!!

EclecticBarbarella · 2020-11-24T07:06:23+00:00

Shit like this makes me realize how lucky I am that, despite my terrible taste in men, none of them has tried to kill me or knock me unconscious for their sexual satisfaction. And the fact that I think I’m lucky for that is disgusting. But yeah, #notallmen whenever we try to discuss this in any kind of a public forum or space, it’s vile

SoybeanApocalypse · 2020-11-24T07:50:24+00:00

So if you can go over the specific techniques in advance with someone you've already had sex with, and they choke you out with a new one anyways, what more exactly do you have to do to communicate in the kink community?

So glad that I deleted my fetlife account after like two weeks some years ago. Sorry that I don't want to play russian roulette with sexual partners.

azureangel35 · 2020-11-24T14:26:22+00:00

the fact that young girls are being put into situations where they are literally choked to death on a first date would make my grandmother roll over in her grave. WTAF?

Davina33 · 2020-11-24T14:36:55+00:00

Almost happened to me.

Doggy style, bound up in rope, rope around my neck, he pulled it tight while he fucked me.

I couldn’t breathe, couldn’t move, couldn’t talk.

Instead of feeling ashamed for letting him do this to me, learned that love does not come from people that cause you harm, and I don’t let people do that to me anymore.

The men after him choked me too, and even raped me, and which goes to show how widespread this porn sickness is. But that is the one that truly haunts me, because he had so much control over my life.

It was after a really romantic date night at a fancy Italian restaurant. We walked and saw Christmas lights.

I’m relieved that no one in my close family is surprised I don’t date anymore. They understand I’ve been through hell and am lucky to be alive.

Separate_Finnish · 2020-11-24T11:40:56+00:00

For all the stupid shit my ex-boyfriend pulled, he NEVER could stand putting his around my throat even, let alone actually applying pressure. A man that wants to choke you out in bed does not love you or care about your pleasure or health!

Bombs_ · 2020-11-24T12:18:26+00:00

I threw up when I read about the cum part

Infamous-Helicopter7 · 2020-11-24T07:25:47+00:00

This whole thing is awful, but I couldn't help but laugh at the bit about her "openly texting" about choking. A near stranger is going to do something dangerous and life threatening to you, and you're not even talking about it in person?!

Tell-Me-Whyy · 2020-11-24T08:53:12+00:00

I cannot understand how anyone would want to choke or be choked for sexual gratification.

Oh wait, I know, porn!

Before porn how many women would say ooh I really want to be strangled and potentially die because that really turns me on?

I remember telling my ex, never touch my neck, I have a fear of being strangled, thankfully he never did and never suggested anything.

tiavarga · 2020-11-24T12:05:24+00:00

OMG. What did I just read?

I am weird and watch a lot of true crime and forensics shows. I wish this girl watched them too because then she would know that she just described how a lot of serial killers killed their female victims.

Meadow97 · 2020-11-24T12:33:37+00:00

I'm not even religious but Lord if you're real, now would be a good time to reveal yourself.

This woman will get herself killed.

Sashamorningmidnight · 2020-11-24T10:51:32+00:00

Oh fuck, please can we get a trigger warning on this? Im in tears as i recall an old childhood memory. This woman needs help. I hope she finds it soon.

KateJ1982 · 2020-11-24T16:19:24+00:00

It's not choking, it's strangling. And this woman needs a therapist, STAT.

daisy_0720 · 2020-11-24T18:43:00+00:00

"He's older and pretty attentive when it comes to rougher sex."

Yes, of course he's attentive to brutalizing your naked and vulnerable body, because your pain and discomfort are what actively turns him on.

I assume the comments are all defending him and saying the problem was nO cOmMunICatIon as opposed to being sickened and horrified at a man who almost murders a woman during sex and just seems mildly inconvenienced by it.

Suitcase33 · 2020-11-24T12:21:39+00:00

there is just so much here i dont even know what to comment on. its all just 😱😱😱😱

yesmme · 2020-11-24T17:12:15+00:00

Strangulation is extremely dangerous. I’m surprised it’s becoming a common thing amongst younger adults—unless it’s more an OLD thing/hookup culture thing. I’m only in my 30s and I remember that anal was the forbidden sex act.

I’ve had men (younger ones) ask me to choke them and I won’t even do it because it’s very very easy for it to go wrong. You can do a “safe” way (like in a stage combat kind of way—grab their collarbone instead of their throat) but it’s the lack of oxygen that is what leads to more “intense” orgasms which grabbing one’s collarbone is not going to fulfill.

textbasedpanda · 2020-11-25T01:14:09+00:00

...third and most likely final time

Girl needs some serious help if this isn't "definitely final time" material.

Summerisle7 · 2020-11-24T16:14:24+00:00

I blame HER for all of this mess she's complaining about, honestly.

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