Watch out for love bombers !

fds_account58 · 2021-03-16T17:01:21+00:00

any input from a male’s perspective

This has got to stop. Manosphere dudes tell each other not to ask women for dating advice because it will be bad. This is, of course, absurd. Women are compassionate, well-intentioned people who genuinely try to help men be better people and get dates.

Meanwhile, men will share awful, manipulative advice that only benefits other men at the detriment of women.

janeaustenfan99 · 2021-03-16T16:58:43+00:00

When men act like this they’ve found someone else.

Papaverinum · 2021-03-16T16:37:12+00:00

Why women fall for men they know for what? Two months? I'm so done (and sad) consoling my friends and acquaintances after their one week situationship don't work out. Why would anyone think that f*cboi from Tinder will be their future husband?! 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

throwaway32132134 · 2021-03-17T00:03:20+00:00

I will never understand how love bombing doesn't freak people out. Whenever someone is doing things that are abnormal given how long they have known me, I FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE. I literally think "Stranger danger" in my head. Maybe I'm just cynical but I also think that since they barely know me they are not genuine.

PhilosophyCharming77 · 2021-03-16T17:27:05+00:00

I’m terrified of this. What she’s describing at the beginning, (Amazon packages, gifts galore, so much attention) is happening to me right now. I can’t tell if I’m being love bombed or not, so I’m staying heavily guarded. Keep those expectations low and those standards high!

Lavender_flow · 2021-03-16T21:20:52+00:00

Sis needs to dump his ass and start reading books on psychology like yesterday. Time to level up and read about these things. Love bombers are dangerous, they can do big numbers on your mental health. DUMP HIM

Gourmay · 2021-03-17T02:20:27+00:00

This happened to me so many times I am learning to be an ice queen and while it feels counter-nature to who I am, it's better for the long-term; you can relax and learn to enjoy these things when more time passes and they have a more solid foundation. Imagine them as peacocks or another animal displaying and bringing you gifts to mate with you. Only time will tell if they're the type of species looking for long-term partnership. Are they lovebirds, gibbons.. or chimps?

Also I'm very weary of texters now, especially the ones who text good morning and good night early on; it becomes very pavlovian and anxiety-inducing when there's a change in habit. Build habits together that are more meaningful and require more investment like an activity or date you do together regularly.

electroloop · 2021-03-16T16:25:00+00:00

Holy shit, by 34 years of age she shouldn't be asking this question.

The answer for her is to block and delete his number!!! This guy is textbook love bomber/narcissist. Once they have you the chase and excitement is over. I am hoping she never thought it was exclusive between them.

atreegrowsinbrixton · 2021-03-16T20:13:37+00:00

ugh. i was lovebombed by the last person i thought i was "seriously" dating.... we hit it off so well from the beginning, talking constantly, hanging out a lot, hot sex, planning all of these future dates and things we were gonna do together, telling me how much his friends will love me, HAD DINNER WITH MY PARENTS, and then right at 3 months ghosted after slowly texting less..... i wasn't even surprised, just disappointed. whenever something feels too good to be true, it usually is. take it slow ladies. let him SHOW you that he cares about you, not just say stuff and get your hopes up real quick.

Title	Watch out for love bombers !
Author	Previous-Focus-2013
Upvotes	225
Comments	32
Date	March 16, 2021 4:13 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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