I’m a 38-year-old woman and I don’t want to be single anymore. Here are the 19 things I'm looking for in a man. Where have all the good men gone?

DemocraticDystopia · 2021-06-01T01:17:34+00:00

“Am I going to stay single forever?” I texted my friend a copy of his message.

I am writing this post with tears in my eyes.

yeah and we're reading it with a different kind of tears in our eyes

Joaquino7997 · 2021-06-01T01:36:38+00:00

Okay, she got one 'offensive' message from one guy. Block the SOB and move onto the next 200+ men in your inbox.

Oh wait, she's 38. Did I say 200+? I mean 20 or so. And even then she's still doing better than me and most of my friends!

So to answer her question...where have all the good men gone?

Anywhere but where she is.

me_at_myhouse · 2021-06-01T01:39:07+00:00

38 years of riding the cock carousel and now she's 'ready' for a man.

She boasts of wild causal sex for years in Tel Aviv, but now is utterly offended and dumbstruck if a man asks her anything sexual.

She complains that a "good morning" text is boooooring, but if he asks about masturbation its 'rude'.

Instead of date she should seek out therapy.

jo_nore_mews · 2021-06-01T03:19:10+00:00

lol wtf is 'jew sex'?

Do they rub noses or something? Count their shekels? Watch videos of Palestinian kids crying? lmao

Justaguywhoistrying · 2021-06-01T01:30:12+00:00

Honestly not the worst list I've read on this sub. I think she probably could find a guy with a lot of those traits. Problem here being that she is 38 and undoubtedly ran off all the guys who had those traits for the past 20 years

bskeevy · 2021-06-01T02:51:51+00:00

This was written in 2018. Wonder how the search is going.

Edit: Welp, her IG is all selfies and pics of food. Guess we know how it’s going.

Overkillengine · 2021-06-01T01:46:37+00:00

38 years old

has a list of 19 things she wants in a man

At that age she needs to realize that she does not have the negotiating power she had two decades ago. Hell, even that far back she probably did not have the negotiating power she thinks she has now.

And that's why she's single.

TheApricotCavalier · 2021-06-01T03:20:30+00:00

Its so brave of her to tell us what she wants. The most attractive part of a woman is her list of demands

GrannyLesbian · 2021-06-01T03:03:19+00:00

Checked her blog and social media.

Aug 2018 - The week I froze my eggs; (very) personal blog

May 2021 - She is STILL single to this very day.

Devilsgun · 2021-06-01T03:32:36+00:00

The things you should be looking for in a man at 38:

- Pulse (*optional)

Tick Tock

thedukeinc · 2021-06-01T05:04:05+00:00

I match most of her requirements. Guess what, I am Indian and 5’8. She sure is going to reject a guy like me. So her list is incomplete, she is thinking she is doing us a favor by only 19. She will have 50+ things which she doesn’t want to state and wonders where the good men are.. smh

Disaster532385 · 2021-06-01T05:50:48+00:00

Her list of demands are code for a good looking rich guy. Every damn woman wants that you bimbo.

DetectivePure503 · 2021-06-01T01:23:28+00:00

That‘s so pathetic, how can she be so blind?

RealMcGonzo · 2021-06-01T02:46:10+00:00

"I’m 37 years old, born and raised in Israel and live the life of a teenage girl; therefore, I appear in my 20’s. "

I doubt it. But I bet like she acts like she's in her 20s. That shit gets old quick even for 25 YO men. There's NFW anybody decent who dates her is gonna put up with that shit.

Right_Hand_Of_Kurze · 2021-06-01T04:24:02+00:00

She "appears in her 20's". Totally delusional.

RatingsOutOfTen · 2021-06-01T02:12:53+00:00

How many men who are:

I want him to walk with me, by my side and not ahead of me

I want him to give me compliments

My best friend

Lover

Wanting to take photos with me

Show affection

Smells good

Well Dressed

Confident

Honest

Aware of his weaknesses

Love my laugh

Social

Intelligent

Gentleman

Loves food

Dreamer

World traveler

Ambitious

Are still on the market at your age? It's a matter of mathematics. It's not even about your attitude or anything else. It's math. It's time. It's changes to men your age. It's changes to you, personally. Its how easy women younger than you are to get into the bedroom. It's a lot of things.

I meet a lot of these things. I don't love food, dreaming, or traveling. I actually dress well, and fit and tall, often smell like a campfire, I have a decent job and my own house, and I love to compliment people, just not the rest. Darn. bye, lady. Good luck.

meerita · 2021-06-01T11:42:27+00:00

From her own bio:

"I’m 39 years old, born and raised in Israel and live the life of a teenage girl; therefore, I appear in my 20’s. "

WTF. You appear to be a +50 fat woman. That's all. You don't appear to be 20, not even in your dreams, but as all women, they consider themselves all above their beauty level. "I'm a 10" but most of you are the best "adjustable 6".

I’m ready for a relationship, though I’m having a hard time figuring out the right way to go about it.

Stop being a delusional thot. Date +55-60 men, with low physics expectations. You're already ultra fat woman, older as fuck, and agaisn't your own bio.

I felt kinda violated, like “what makes this total stranger think that he can talk to me like this?”

This is what happens when you give a like to a Tyrone who only wants to pump and dump you.

“Am I going to stay single forever?”

Yes.

She immediately replied back: “You are not going to stay single forever, silly. You just have to keep trying.”

Women always give the worst and most emotional rationale advice, so… YES, you will be single forever. Think logically, rationally, put some neurons to work and you will realize your ship has sailed, without a route map, a long time ago.

I know that not all guys are jerks, just like I know that the sun will rise in the morning. However, not only is it difficult to put yourself out there, if a guy like this comes your way, all you want to do is give up on dating and crawl back into your comfort zone.

Stop believing there are unicorns. The guys who aren't jerks, you rejected them a long time ago and those who are currently nice, you invisibilize them because the narcissistic Chad Thundercock is too attractive to not try it.

It’s not like my happiness depends on having or not having a man in my life.

Yes, it is. Sadly, you are a pro negationist. You deny the fact you need a man to be a woman. In fact, you say it right in the next paragraph:

I do want a partner, a lover, and a best friend to share my life with.

Bingo.

I do want to feel loved.

Bingo.

I went through my notes from the last year, and I found a list I wrote: “What I want in a man”.

Michael Jordan's LOL GIF

The famous list:

I want him to walk with me, by my side and not ahead of me

I am a feminist, and I want a man who basically will be aware he's walking 2cm ahead of her. LMAO. You know what? You've never been right next to a man this way, only orbiters or coworkers, maybe.

I want him to give me compliments

I am a feminist, but I also want to inflate my ego like all the other non-feminist and more successful women are.

My best friend

I want a slave, an emotional tampon, someone I can tell how big my mental crisis is and he will be not able to solve my problems.

Lover

I am a feminist, but you have to be an alpha male in bed, when I need it.

Wanting to take photos with me

I'm ugly so I want to show other women in social media I'm successful woman with a HVM male.

Aware of his weaknesses

I cannot stay against self-made successful men, so be ready to invent or make me believe you "have a weakness" so I can exploit to manipulate you. It makes me feel greater.

Gentleman

I'm a feminist, I want equality, but you will pay for everything.

World traveler

I want feel like those Instagram thots

Ok, let’s be honest, I am realistic.

No, you aren't being realistic. You're more like being delusional as fuck.

newtomtl83 · 2021-06-01T10:53:27+00:00

She has another entry in her blog titled “the week I froze my eggs” lol

newtomtl83 · 2021-06-01T10:51:34+00:00

She sounds like a teenager. It’s funny because in her bio, she says that living the life of a teenager makes her look in her 20s even though she’s 38. Just based on her picture, I would have said mid 40s.

No_Sign_1264 · 2021-06-01T05:05:12+00:00

Will she settle for a guy who looks and acts, dresses like Ron Jeremy? Cause that's whos she gonna get.

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KazPrime · 2021-06-01T02:49:40+00:00

You’re 38 and bring nothing to the table but from what I can tell is an entitled bitchy attitude. Hard pass. If you could score from what I can tell is a Hollywood fiction male lead star, you would have. You might have in your early 20’s but you are late to the game. Wish you luck with your cats.

Pilotman49 · 2021-06-01T05:44:42+00:00

Almost 40 and acts like a teenager and think people mistake her for being in her 20's. This one has no grasp on reality and her list of preferences is sprinkled with contradictory traits. She's ready for the cat farm.

No_Exercise_8670 · 2021-06-01T10:10:44+00:00

I'm ready for a relationship

Yeah. And my ex thought she was ready for marriage.

smfuel87 · 2021-06-01T21:00:15+00:00

Over two decades of straight bukakke and now one text message has her shedding crockadile tears.

Nah. She just wants attention and sympathy because shes bored.

NickTesla2018 · 2021-06-01T02:58:08+00:00

The guy that meets her list is dating younger.

Toaster224 · 2021-06-01T13:04:17+00:00

I’m 37 years old, born and raised in Israel and live the life of a teenage girl; therefore, I appear in my 20’s.

I doubt this very, very much. Why do these women keep acting like saying things over and over again makes them true?

MrNeurotypical · 2021-06-01T13:58:47+00:00

Yet another "Eat, pray, love" fangirl

Aldabruzzo · 2021-06-01T13:12:20+00:00

The author's tag line at the end of the piece:

I’m 37 years old, born and raised in Israel and live the life of a teenage girl; therefore, I appear in my 20’s.

Yeah. I'll let you be the judge of just how true that last bit of the statement is.

The authoress is Hagar Sides, a Jewish writer and blogger based in Atlanta. She writes about and for the Jewish community there. She has a YouTube channel but didn't see anything there about relationships.

Six months after the OP's piece, Sides froze her eggs and blogged about it. I haven't read this piece yet.

Someone else asked how she's doing, given that it's been just over 3 years since Sides wrote the piece. Guys, at this writing I cannot find anything she's written after 2019.

Is this someone you'd want to date?

Happy hunting.

damnationtotheclowns · 2021-06-01T16:44:53+00:00

she's describing a dog.

FitnessEnthusiast98 · 2021-06-01T05:52:06+00:00

Standards is luxury for a woman at that age. She will probably DİE alone or select random man at similar age.

greencircle10 · 2021-06-01T19:18:40+00:00

"world traveler" lol, that means "pay for me to go party, drink alcohol, and be a hoe all over the world" and pay for all the scams from tourist locations while she pretends she's a queen

altair43 · 2021-06-01T04:21:07+00:00

Maybe we should make a website to locate good men. It does not need to do anything except give a random coordinate.

Input : Enter post code or city or state name.

Output : A random coordinate is generated and places a pointer on a map. That will be your nearest good man.

Support Question : Why is the nearest good man for me is in the middle of a ocean / top of Himalayas/ Inside the rainforests of amazon?

Answer : Maybe he's living there with other good men who have renounced soyciety.

LOL

djc_tech · 2021-06-01T09:37:09+00:00

Other than being post wall and wearing annoying glasses what does she offer besides a self entitled mindset

smfuel87 · 2021-06-01T20:58:21+00:00

Its all about attention and victim points.

poloppoyop · 2021-06-01T22:22:05+00:00

The linked "Let's have Jew sex" article is also a goldmine.

I have been complaining for years about the dating scene- it has become hard to tolerate. I do not remember when was the last time I walked into a bar and man let me use his chair. I cannot remember a guy sending me a drink when he likes me. Everyone connected to their phones nonstop; Me too. At what point in time men stopped trying to woo women and women stopped wanting it to happen?

When you hit the wall.

Enough-Staff-2976 · 2021-06-01T18:46:02+00:00

"I’m ready for a relationship", the fatal mistake feminists always make. They believe they control the outcomes of relationships.

Gaiinahat · 2021-06-02T00:07:31+00:00

She's 38, lived the life of the teenager and claims she looks like she's in her 20's. In reality, she looks more like in her mid-40's.

In her "Let's Have Jew Sex" post on her blog she writes:

I just finished Master’s Degree, found the dream job, and moved to Tel Aviv. I had a blast in Tel Aviv; I worked hard, I traveled, I went out, drank, danced, laughed a lot. I met new people, and new guys. I had casual sex. I enjoyed every minute. After a crazy year in Tel Aviv, I went back to my parents’ house in the suburbs.

I’m all for sex (There are a few guys in the world that will testify that this is true).

So how come I’m still single?

The answer is very simple, I didn’t meet the man that would make me feel what I wrote few lines up and be worthy of me. I am not prepared to compromise and I will not “go with the flow”.

According to her LinkedIn page, her master degree is in political science and government. In an interview she did, she stated she's looking for an equal partner. She loves to travel, and travels a lot for work. She also states:

My independence is everything. I don’t like to be tied down to something that could potentially hold me back.

I wonder why she's still single...

ratcatsat · 2021-06-02T02:46:24+00:00

She knows the men she deserves and those men know what they deserve, so she will stay single.

misteryolh · 2021-06-03T04:59:06+00:00

I’m ready to admit it; I’m a 38-year-old woman and I don’t want to be single anymore.

I'm ready to admit it: I spent all my money and I don't want to be poor anymore. People can start giving me cash now.

PirateDocBrown · 2021-06-01T15:59:40+00:00

None of those things are unrealistic, if she makes herself attractive enough.

She just needs to accept that what's left is gonna be older, poorer, and shorter than she might now prefer.

It sounds like she has even more requirements in a "good man" than she is telling us.

comptejete · 2021-06-01T19:47:25+00:00

That was three years ago, this is her current Twitter header. I wonder if some eligible suitor has swept her off her feet in the meantime.

No_Valuable827 · 2021-06-02T19:17:38+00:00

Which good looking, well dressed, smart, handsome, world-traveler is available at 38? At best she is going to find a divorced man with kids.

kyledontcare · 2021-06-02T10:04:35+00:00

Who cares what you want lady? You should be asking yourself what do I have that men are even interested in at age 38!!

ObsidianAdonis · 2021-06-05T14:28:16+00:00

Wow I remembered reading about her articles years ago. She's still single?. Well she should just stop, She's 9 years into grandma territory and no self respecting men will settle for her, hell not even a cuck beta simp will go for her.

And lady you do not look in your 20s, stop lying about yourself. Lastly you wasted your efforts on freezing your eggs, you won't be a single mom.

rvail136 · 2021-06-06T01:46:34+00:00

So, why is it misogynistic for a man to have standards...but when a woman does so, it's not misandry?

VirginWizard69 · 2021-06-08T13:28:07+00:00

We need an update.

Tagline is gold: a 37 year old that looks in her twenties! Lol. No you don't sweetie.

DemocraticDystopia · 2021-06-01T21:38:59+00:00

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