3 nights on a couch because she changed the locks

apatrol · 2026-01-15T08:50:57+00:00

Call the police. Tell them you will be breaking the door and you have been illegally locked out. Then say hi to the kids and go sleep in the master bed. She can leave or sleep on the couch.

Hiding_From_Ex_Wife · 2026-01-15T06:55:36+00:00

My attorney literally told me that until either you have chosen to move out and the court ordered one of you out, that anyone on title could hire a locksmith and have them break into their own home. The police will not stop you.

CA_Poppy_25 · 2026-01-15T06:07:35+00:00

Locking you out, preventing you from being with your kids, lying to the kids about you, bad-mouthing you to the children is called parental alienation and the court tends to frown on this, big time. She can get into big trouble. Horrible.

oohyamz · 2026-01-15T06:01:19+00:00

AFAIK if the house is in your name or your name on the lease or whatever, you have the right to be there. It’s your home. She can’t block you out.

Coffeecankicker · 2026-01-15T03:57:07+00:00

You need a lawyer yesterday. A court order forcing her out of the house and you take the kids. She’s crazy.

kingrobin · 2026-01-15T03:09:52+00:00

call the police.

WizardyoureaHarry · 2026-01-15T02:54:13+00:00

Better off to let this species die off then to put yourself through marriage and kids as a man. That's what I've learned atleast.

Samwell974 · 2026-01-15T02:46:20+00:00

!Updateme

GoldBunch7294 · 2026-01-15T02:38:27+00:00

Man… I’m really glad you said something, even if it’s from a QuikTrip parking lot. That feeling you’re describing—like your whole life got packed into a duffel bag without your consent—that’s real. Anyone would be wrecked by that.

Being locked out like that messes with your head in a way people don’t talk about enough. One day you’re a husband and a dad with routines, history, a place in the house… then suddenly you’re explaining to your kids over FaceTime why you’re not there, while someone else controls the story. That “you chose to leave” line cuts deep, especially when you know the truth. It feels like you’re being edited out of your own family.

kellyjj1919 · 2026-01-15T01:59:38+00:00

She can’t just Change the locks and bar you from your house with out a order

North-Permit-1021 · 2026-01-15T01:20:24+00:00

Man you should seek legal help for this , i mean changing lock is one thing but not allowing you to see your kids personally is straight up abominable , only the court can decide whether you can see your kids or not, you are not alone but I understand its frustrating at this moment

hdwillis · 2026-01-15T00:51:41+00:00

I don't know the laws in Georgia, but this would be against the rules (probably illegal but don't know if there is a law on it) in Colorado. You'd have the right to break into the home - though you'd need to be "calm" about it because there are kids there.

MensDivorceCircle · 2026-01-14T23:25:23+00:00

Um, go see a family law attorney. Changing locks, denying access, or removing belongings without a court order is often considered unlawful self-help. If your name is on the deed/mortgage, she cannot deny you access.

eratosthenes777 · 2026-01-14T22:14:32+00:00

Buy something like this.

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Keep it on you at all times. It lasts days on a charge. Give every argument to your attorney. This is exactly what my attorney told me. He told me to act like I'm being recorded in my house at all times because her lawyer probably told her the same. The one I bought a little bigger than a quarter stacks 5 times. No lights just a microphone hole, on off button and type c charger. Very discrete. So not move out of house. And treat her as nice as possible. I got 5050 in my case! Good luck

Bagman220 · 2026-01-14T22:02:23+00:00

File police report that she locked you out, that’s illegal.

Then file an order of protection against her immediately. That way she may be the one that gets removed. Do not be passive now because YOU WILL get steam rolled, you’re already getting steam rolled.

eratosthenes777 · 2026-01-14T21:42:14+00:00

1 if she is lying about you that is called Alienation of a parent illegal. 2 if you are married joint house she can't lock you out call the police that is your house as much as hers

bankofgreed · 2026-01-14T21:12:33+00:00

Are you on the deed? Then legally (at least in my state) she has no right to lock you out of your own home. You have a right to be there.

BathAutomatic6972 · 2026-01-14T20:38:53+00:00

Lots of good advice but I'd add begin self surveillance.

TheSmartLawGroup · 2026-01-14T20:34:15+00:00

All of the other responses appear to be accurate. You need to talk to an attorney to know what you can do in your state. Also, the longer you wait, the more difficult it could be to get back in.

In Michigan, you can "break in" to your own home and/or get a locksmith to get in and change the locks (give her a new key). If you choose either of those, it is the safest course to contact the police in advance to let them know what is going on. Sometimes, they will give you an escort.

However, you need to decide if you want to go back into that house. The last thing you need is for her to make false allegations of abuse against you and the police are taking you out of the home. Sadly, that happens too often. Also, you need to document your actions if you go back to the home by taking videos or recording your actions.

UrAristotle · 2026-01-14T20:31:24+00:00

How soon can you meet with a lawyer? She’s doing some underhanded stuff and you need to get covered asap.

Epic_Ranting_Man · 2026-01-14T20:27:56+00:00

Lawyer up. Take care of yourself. Things will get worse, but then will get better.

frogmicky · 2026-01-14T20:19:01+00:00

Where I live it's a crime to change the locks on a door especially if you lived there for a while. You should talk to a lawyer asap.

DetroiterInTX · 2026-01-14T20:08:04+00:00

First, I am really sorry to hear you are going through this! Thankfully you have your brother there to help.

Second, definitely talk to your lawyer asap about this and document everything. This is a violation unless there was a ruling or order for you to vacate.

ToughPill · 2026-01-14T20:07:33+00:00

Talk with a lawyer, but she cannot bar you from your own home unless there is a court order in place. There’s a good chance you can call a locksmith and the police (to pre-empt her) and have the locksmith let you back into your home.

Never leave your home willingly as that is often a mistake men make in divorce.

Document your involvement in your children’s lives.

I’m sorry this is happening to you.

Title	3 nights on a couch because she changed the locks
Author	Lip_Muse_Vip
Upvotes	36
Comments	35
Date	January 14, 2026 8:01 PM UTC (7 months ago)
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