Is no alimony a win?

justaguywadog · 2024-12-19T03:17:54+00:00

Excuse me how much a week!????

captainjacksparrow84 · 2024-12-19T02:02:19+00:00

Why can't your 14 and 11 year old stay with you? This whole agreement sounds like a receipe for diaster. As soon as she finds a dude, she will move him in, and you will be staying in the spare bedroom? Kid's need to be at your place 50% of the time. That will change your CS calculation by alot, you pick the kids up afterschool and take them to and from. Or move closer.

47omek · 2024-12-18T18:24:07+00:00

I wouldn't agree to any of that. Sounds like your only parenting time is at her house? Hell no. Go for 50/50 parenting time with overnights in YOUR OWN HOME. You've fallen for this "disruption for the kids" nonsense that women like to spout as their justification for getting all the cash and prizes - kids are resilient and will adapt to two homes. Mine certainly have. Go with state guideline child support (which she'll get ordered later on anyway if you initially agree to something lower) and fight alimony with every bone in your body. With alimony there's always the chance she finds a new victim and you're off the hook early - don't price the full 10 years into your calculation and any early alimony buyout should be at a big rebate to you.

Justhavefunalways · 2024-12-18T15:52:37+00:00

I must be missing something here. If you are going to co parent 50/50 the majority of the time and unless there is a big difference in both of your income status, a good attorney will explain to you this likely is not an alimony case, nor a child support case.

Sea_Emu_4259 · 2024-12-18T08:58:19+00:00

Your ex would have prefer that offer bc she will have more disposable income after receiving child support

Reflog1791 · 2024-12-18T06:43:28+00:00

What are the incomes? $850 per week is extremely high.

NorthBoy_9012 · 2024-12-20T13:41:39+00:00

Avoiding the alimony is a huge win. I believe that amount could increase if your income increased. I don’t know how psychologically sustainable the sleep over thing is. When you find a new partner she’s not going to be hip with your sleeping privileges. I would have it written in that you have the option when pre-agreed to have your kids with you for long weekends when you want, so you have the surety of contact. Good luck!

New_Kangaroo9490 · 2024-12-18T04:29:08+00:00

Lower child support??? You are paying 850 for 2 children!. That is nothing.

upvotersfortruth · 2024-12-18T03:53:12+00:00

Alimony and child support are two totally separate things. Alimony is usually waivable by either party and should be non-modifiable. Child support is usually calculated according to guidelines and the court needs a reason to depart from those guidelines and is always subject to modification by the court. So any method of offsetting alimony and child support would be strange. I'd stick with the alimony waiver and, if child support is within guidelines, that would be normal.

Careless-Beginning73 · 2024-12-18T03:28:00+00:00

I would stay in spare bedroom only on my days when I look after them after school, so I can take them to school the following morning. I don’t think it would be written in child agreement and I have the option to hand off before 9pm and return to my own apartment and not take them to school next day.

pk2at · 2024-12-18T03:24:32+00:00

Not sure which state and county you are in or what income CS is being calculate on. The general rule is to always go with LOWEST CS possible. If required, quit your job and let them compute income for CS. You never want to pay more CS than the minimum required as its the ONLY state mandated and government enforced payment. Everything else you negotiate, alimony, asset split, custody etc. is a voluntary negotiation and agreement. There is also very poor or no enforcement mechanism to ensure anything other than CS.

My suggestion, go for the lowest CS, tell her zero alimony and let her fight for anything higher

pmbrenner91 · 2024-12-18T03:22:49+00:00

i pay $300 a month

but no alimony is a huge win

Independent_Owlz · 2024-12-18T02:50:16+00:00

Avoid alimony. The CS battle will always be on the table. Go low and settle. $850 a week hurts my balls.

RespectInevitable479 · 2024-12-18T02:45:23+00:00

Sounds good but don’t stay in spare room have them stay over your house if ex is out partying and they can’t be left alone. Although 14 year old may be old enough to watch 11 year old

itoocouldbeanyone · 2024-12-18T02:42:10+00:00

No alimony is a win. Stuck to child support, that’s what matters.

Unusual_University14 · 2024-12-18T02:33:56+00:00

Child support is always reviewable, so if you agreed to a lower number she could always have it revised up. Alimony rarely (but can) change... but if you aren't paying her alimony and she cohabitates, you still on the hook for full child support. Versus say $450 child support and $400 alimony. She cohabitates, and alimony goes away with no change to child support. That say, child support goes away when the kid graduates high school (slight variations between states) and that could mean as little as 7-8 years of child support (and it goes down 4-5 years from now).

That said, am I reading this right that you'd stay living in a spare bedroom in the house?

Title	Is no alimony a win?
Author	Careless-Beginning73
Upvotes	5
Comments	25
Date	December 18, 2024 2:28 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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