Not having kids ever again, never getting married again

Any-Neat5158 · 2026-07-10T15:03:46+00:00

If it helps, consider the child support for what it actually "should be".

To help raise your children for the 50% of the time they aren't with you. What she actually does with the money is between you and god.

The money I'm going to be paying my STBXW is for my children. I'd have spent it on them if they were here, so why should it bother me if I spent it on them when they aren't here. It's for them. If she uses it for lashes and nails and waxes and some other dude, that's between her and god. I can lay my head down at night knowing I took care of my kids and provided.

Financial_Incident0 · 2026-07-10T03:19:32+00:00

Yep, I have never been religious, I don’t see myself ever be, but I think that is the only setting that makes sense for marriage, because religious people take the marriage much more seriously (at least I think).

I also have a kid and I love him, but I didn’t want more even when I was married and for sure don’t want more now. But I think I just took, and still take it, more rationally - the apartment is not big enough for more and I don’t make enough money for more.

CRobinsFly · 2026-07-04T18:43:37+00:00

Vasectomy or you arent serious. I say that semi jokingly. I feel exactly like you at 38. I got a vasectomy 4 years ago and have had several women since try to baby trap me and became frustrated when after several months they werent pregnant... but they didnt know those were blanks. 😀

Specialist-Credit657 · 2026-07-04T11:46:24+00:00

Okay sunshine, let us all know when it’s safe to come out and play with you again.
No really man I’m kidding but you’re just at the anger stage right now, it will pass. C u on the other side.

SuperTXGuy · 2026-07-03T13:15:46+00:00

vasectomy was the best $700 I ever spent. And your anger at the system is normal. I said the same when I was your age. I'm 50, just remarried to a woman who is also fixed, kids are all grown and she brought 100x the money into the marriage. You'll be fine. Just be smart.

moxx36c · 2026-07-03T12:17:24+00:00

So Move from there

moxx36c · 2026-07-03T12:16:33+00:00

This System has flaws so you can never win.

fishingforthought · 2026-07-03T12:11:43+00:00

Amen brother. Men need to realize that marriage is nothing more than a live-in relationship. Most relationships always ends.

upvotersfortruth · 2026-07-03T12:02:12+00:00

You're reaching decent conclusions, but try to deal with the anger - it will age you faster and follow you everywhere you try to go.

RespectInevitable479 · 2026-07-03T10:14:19+00:00

This is the way

a_day_at_a_timee · 2026-07-03T02:47:28+00:00

do you have 50/50 custody? that helps in two ways, first you can claim a kid on your taxes, avs it reduces your payments. second it forces her to start working full time too. she can’t exactly say i can’t work when you are doing the same thing

smartalec-71 · 2026-07-03T02:37:24+00:00

I hear you, and relate. I have no plans to get married, and got snipped, so won't have any more kids... and it also should make me immune to any paternity suits.

Marriage is a great deal for women, and a terrible deal for men. It's one that's predicated on-- you give me a lifetime commitment for your time and money... and I make your life pleasant... until I'm not feeling it. No one would sign a business partnership contract like that. Complete insanity. Another way of saying it-- it's all upside for women and little downside. They just have to find and manipulate an unwitting man, until they get everything they want.

Male_Volence · 2026-07-03T01:17:00+00:00

Definitely get a vasectomy.

I got snipped. Kept that information to myself.

Not one but TWO girlfriends of less than a year got pregnant and swore to God Himself I was the father.

The first one folded when I showed her the "zero sperms" receipt from my my urologist's office. Only a pre-birth DNA test got the second girlfriend to stop telling people I abandoned "my" baby.

A couple of her friends still insisted I should step up, man up, or sack up and raise another man's cumsplat. HARD PASS.

I recommend marriage to every man I hate.

I recommend marrying a single-mother to every man I DESPISE.

crzapy · 2026-07-03T00:50:25+00:00

I called a local vasectomy place and they said I needed to talk to my GPMD first beforehand and get a referral.

WTF. I'm 45 with 3 kids. Snip it you bastard!

Pmoneywhazzup · 2026-07-03T00:47:06+00:00

I will also repeat it. Schedule a vasectomy consult now.

jalopkoala · 2026-07-03T00:29:54+00:00

Ok.

Get snipped. It’s like a super power.

Why are you posting this? Do you need one of us to tell you that it’s ok to feel this way? It’s ok to feel this way. Do what you want, dude.

Title	Not having kids ever again, never getting married again
Author	One_Display9423
Upvotes	55
Comments	37
Date	July 3, 2026 12:25 AM UTC (1 month ago)
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