Story is changing

upvotersfortruth · 2024-01-18T06:20:48+00:00

The "truth" is the narrative they concoct and can live with to justify their actions to themselves and others. She will never believe anything else, no point in correcting the record with her.

WildernessHuntin · 2024-01-17T22:42:17+00:00

At first it’s shocking and confusing how things can change, things she said all the sudden never happened. It can give you false hope. Then it becomes laughable the shit they say.

Once you realize that the truth is extremely fluid for them. It’s literally “their” truth. “Their” truth depends almost exclusively on what they want at the moment, a (husband) back-up plan, money, safety net, more time to get their plan together, living situation, etc. A lot of it seems to revolve around having their cake and eating it too. All the benefits of a single independent woman, with all the resources and security of a married woman.

Weary_Landscape_7098 · 2024-01-17T21:36:19+00:00

It is called "rewriting history". Most ex-wives do it (I'm sure a lot of ex-husbands do as well, but not to the same extent).

tellmemorelies · 2024-01-17T21:30:31+00:00

Unfortunately it is typical. I would hazard a guess that almost all of us on this sub have probably heard this, or something similar.

They never want to be the bad guy in their own story.

SpacemanLost · 2024-01-17T20:23:01+00:00

All the time. It's whatever she thinks best serves her in the moment.

Realize that this is a fundamentally different way of looking at things and managing "facts" than you (and most men) have. She will apply to other things as needed whenever those things get 'uncomfortable' for her.

bbewhacim · 2024-01-17T19:40:30+00:00

Tale as old as time. Mine started out with “I just don’t see you in my future anymore”. By the end of it the accusations she made to the judge were wild! Thankfully the judge was able to see through the BS

Cheap_Baseball3609 · 2024-01-17T19:10:17+00:00

Because they change reality to what fits them at the time.

I was in the same boat, I held on, wanted to work it out but eventually cant forever and let her go.

potatotornado44 · 2024-01-17T18:33:09+00:00

I’m dealing with a woman, everything will always be your fault.

Either because of something you did, or something you failed to do.

Doubledolla · 2024-01-17T18:11:29+00:00

Bat sh!t crazy. Have no idea what reality they live in. Ex and I would have a conversation then within a day it's like it never happened and things agreed upon were never discussed.....now I'm trying ruin her. Um what? It was so confusing until you just turn it off and realize they are lost and nuts and it's not worth your time and energy. Things got better once I chose to detach from the crazy. You want a divorce you got it. Bye!

New-Amoeba9042 · 2024-01-17T18:10:40+00:00

Definitely changed, but it was different than yours.

Initially while having the affair overseas it was ‘I need time and space a to see if I can make it on my own in my home country, I need to be around my friends and family who speak my language and understand my culture. I can’t be with a white man, you’ll never understand me’

Once she got back when i confronted her I knew she was having an affair it was ‘you are abusive to me, and I can’t understand English well so I need to get away from you as you twist everything I say to make me wrong’

After her affair partner moved on to multiple other women while she was back in the states selling everything to move back to be with him it was ‘I will need time to think about our marriage and if we can work things out, give me time to think about it as I don’t remember our marriage the way you say, but I think you’re a good man who wouldn’t lie’

After she found a part time job, a steady supply of simps, and got her divorce money from our separation agreement ‘I don’t have to tell you anything, I’m doing this for my own happiness and I don’t care who I have to cut out of my life for that’

After she got one of the simps at work to propose to her it was ‘I have a home here, I’m not going back overseas. I’ve met a (white) guy and we’re getting married, here’s the paperwork and I never want to speak with you again’

And her current public stance is ‘I had depression and mental health issues my whole life, but I’ve started marathon running and the focus that gives me plus the support of all my friends (who I met 18 months ago after cheating and leaving my husband) have helped me get so much better and I’m finally happy now for the first time’

MonarchistExtreme · 2024-01-17T17:53:33+00:00

oh yes...i'm not sure what the current version of the truth is anymore but something like "i was in a bad place and had to do bad things to break free of a bad relationship". I haven't received the 2024 Reason for Our Divorce Style Guide yet so it may have changed since last publication.

jimsmythee · 2024-01-17T17:42:31+00:00

My exwife did that. Actual reason for divorce; "She's a pill popper with loads of disasters and verbal abuse."

She would tell me it was all my fault for "Abandoning the marriage."

She would tell her friends it was all my fault for not "helping her through her tough times."

She would tell her family it was all my fault for "forcing her to divorce me."

She would tell everyone it was all my fault for "not loving her enough."

She would tell everyone it was all my fault for "not accepting her for who she is, and working through our issues."

List goes on and on.

Kwen_Oellogg · 2024-01-17T17:10:22+00:00

Her Monkey Branch broke.

Ignore her and get that divorce done as quick as you can.

captainchippsixx · 2024-01-17T16:30:55+00:00

Bull shit. It sounds like she wanted to ride the sausage roller coaster. Lifestyle, live my best life, reach my potential= party with more sausage.

They always come back. Always. She has a plan. I have had all my gf from high school and d college reach out to me and want to be friends after 30 years. My ex waffled after we told the kids. I was done with her shit though, like you I was tired of trying/

She might have been pumped and dumped so much she can’t even stay in a relationship. So she seeks you out. Nice guy that wants to try. Fuck that. Tell her after a year of fealty on her knees and her mouth full once a day you might consider it.

Does she need a resource daddy?

Title	Story is changing
Author	l3tsR0LL
Upvotes	43
Comments	25
Date	January 17, 2024 4:07 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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