How do I not internalize "all men are trash" content online?

Abject-Interview4784 · 2024-06-17T07:45:51+00:00

You have to remember too that the algorithms promote the most toxic stuff because people get riled up and.click on it. Millions and billions of straight people get married every year so obvi lots of people out there don't believe men are trash..just remind yourself that all popular media is on some.level bullshit designed to sell advertising and also that jerks can be of all genders races, etc and to just try not to be one of them..good luck!

No_Juggernaut_14 · 2024-06-17T03:49:51+00:00

You are feeling like that because you are visiting the places where women go to vent at their worst moments. These videos are not meant for you, they aren't trying to communicate with you. Of course it's over the top and phrased in a not so tactfull way.

To counteract it you need to look into what is driving the emergence of these frustrated phrases. For example the stuff that sounds like "all men are trash" is often a sort of "look at this awful behaviour that is soooooooo fucking common and still allowed in our society". The "don't date men" is more about incentivizing women to stop putting up with shitty behaviour.

What you are seeing is mostly the phase of overcorrection for letting men walk all over us for a couple of decades and giving too many chances out of ingenuity about the good intentions of most men.

CEO_Of_Rejection_99 · 2024-06-17T04:54:43+00:00

A lot of this content is not about you specifically, but about the men who are truly a danger to other women. Let's just say it doesn't apply to you.

From my experience I only really hear these sentiments in online spaces and a few select peers in real life. I don't think the majority of women even have these notions; rather just a very select but vocal few. Might be time to log off, touch some grass, and talk with real life humans.

My personal two cents: I also was troubled by the "I hate all men" content you speak of due to past experiences in grade school (I can explain more in direct messages).

Best of luck to you!

Personal_Dirt3089 · 2024-06-17T04:22:18+00:00

If it sounds like redpill content but gender flipped, skip it. Keep in mind that no one person speaks for their whole demographic. If they mention other groups' struggles but in a passing way of street cred over sincere concern, and they make it about themselves, skip them.

Key-Sundae1909 · 2024-06-17T08:35:51+00:00

If you are looking to read the feminist stuff, maybe go for books more than online. They dig a little deeper, will provide a wider knowledge of the topic and are mostly less bombastic than the online stuff.

I think you need to stick with the dates / interactions - even with the self doubt. This should dissipate over time, especially with some success.

Maybe don’t bring up the “I am a male feminist” / men are bastards thing when chatting to women. It’s not likely to be successful.

TypicalProfit8475 · 2024-06-17T10:49:58+00:00

I wanted to say something about labels being used to justify things… but honestly I think a better path then getting resentful is to try and see their humanity and hurt and learn from that, and just remember it doesn’t justify the shitty takes. No longer being red-pill doesn’t require you embrace a new form of radical ideology, but hopefully having gone through what you have it will give you compassion for how people can get trapped by other radical views. Those consumed by hate have lost touch with humanity in those around them.

kingpinkatya · 2024-06-17T23:34:22+00:00

"Green flag behavior" or "green flag husbands" is a tag that talks about women's positive experiences with men

PureFlames · 2024-06-18T02:50:19+00:00

Im the opposite, i dont understand how people DO internalize or take the “all men are trash” content to heart

Like i just simply dont care enough, and dont understand how people do

XihuanNi-6784 · 2024-06-17T10:29:31+00:00

All I can say is what I say to people trying to get away from videos showing women being entitled and bad or any other RP content. You have to purge your feed. It may seem like the whole internet is full of this content but trust me it isn't. I personally almost never see it. The feminists and women I follow don't make that content because they've already gone through that phase. If this is what you're seeing you need to click away and always find the "Do not recommend" or "show less of this" option if you can. It may take time, but the only person who can cleanse your feed is you. The algorithm prioritises rage bait content. It wants to get you upset. So you have to actively tell it you're not interested in that content or it will feed it to you automatically.

oldcousingreg · 2024-06-17T19:41:51+00:00

Think of all the examples of good men in your life. You KNOW they exist. Maybe it was the elderly man who lived down the street, or that awesome middle school teacher everyone loved.

If you can’t think of anyone, go watch clips of Mister Rogers.

fospher · 2024-06-18T03:38:40+00:00

I like to keep in mind that something like 1 in 10 people is some type of Cluster B personality type. They love spouting shit like this because it gets attention. It’s not the answer to all cases, but I always give pause when I see someone spouting vitriol for likes.

AssistTemporary8422 · 2024-06-17T04:19:04+00:00

This content you are stumbling on isn't real feminism, its misandry. Feminism is about equality of the sexes while misandry is about hatred of men. Misandry is women's version of the red pill and has dug itself pretty deep into regular feminist content.

AidenMetallist · 2024-06-17T04:15:02+00:00

You don't have to accept it nor apologize for "whining". Its totally natural that you would react negatively to dehumanization.

And no, even if those ladies are venting venting DOES NOT excuse dehumanizing or hating collectives. What they do would be wholly unnacceptable if the genders were reversed, but for that kind of people, bigotry is acceptable if directed to anybody they deem as "the other".

Do not take the shit, do not bow down to that, do not conform with a "no, you're one of the good ones...but if you keep feeling offended you're secretly one of the bad ones".

Value yourself. No potential romantic partner of you should you tolerate if she goes to the extreme to shame or gaslight you with such statements. If she wants to vent, you're not her whipping boy. Being an ally does not mean you have to put up with that.

MetaCognitio · 2024-06-18T00:59:15+00:00

Stop engaging with the content. It is misandrist garbage. If they need to insult all men to make their point, they should do better. Stop entertaining it and rewarding bad behavior with your attention.

EmergencyCurrent2670 · 2024-06-17T03:44:27+00:00

Feminist content is often no better than red pill - they're often the mirror image of each other. Unhappy, angry, bitter people who've had poor experiences with the opposite sex writing about it online as though it's dispassionate advice.

IMO most online dating advice is poor for a similar reason - it's mostly written by people with an axe to grind. Functional, emotionally healthy people don't spend their lives writing dating advice online - they're enjoying the real life relationships they're in and working on solving other problems.

Your best source of dating advice is to try and make good close friends of both genders, well meaning people who genuinely like you, want the best for you, and want people in general to be treated well. They will give you the best advice.

apollo300069 · 2024-06-18T03:37:22+00:00

Alot of this type of content is what pushes normal dudes head first into the RP. Quick simple fix is to block the accounts posting this content and realize that the same women posting about "hating all men" probably go home and cuddle with a man. "Misandry" posts might be a form of self-therapy of many bad experiences with men.

Larkful_Dodger · 2024-06-18T06:18:45+00:00

Don't take it on, bypass the internalisation by realising you're an individual and are responsible for your actions and not the male gender as a whole. This group identity politics is prejudice, no matter whether it is race, sex, ethnicity or sexual orientation.

Personal_Dirt3089 · 2024-06-18T18:07:12+00:00

I get it. I used to follow some page on facebook making fun of incels, and another page making fun of cringy tinder profiles, and both just got filled with angry women constantly claiming all men are losers, terrible, useless, and were all out to murder women when rejected. There were women claiming they only agreed to bad dates to keep from being murdered. I assumed this was a gen Z thing and I even asked around: not only are those not particularly common viewpoints, it turns out those particular women just happened to be crazy.

Ironically, some of those women even just browsed redpill stuff and used the worst examples and applied it to all men. For example, there are angry women claiming that "men are now" asking them what they have to offer: that is a specifically redpill thing. A lot of these women even screenshotted redpill reddit posts and used this as proof that all guys are supposedly like this.

Difficult_Ferret2838 · 2024-06-18T21:50:54+00:00

Stop giving a fuck.

SilverTango · 2024-06-19T12:57:03+00:00

I think that it's a lot of hurt women making those comments. Some men are sheepdogs, protecting the flock from danger. Some men are wolves, threatening the flock. Both wolves and sheepdogs have teeth. Unfortunately, many women have gotten to the point where all they see is teeth, and they are protecting themselves from teeth. They see all men as wolves. Sometimes it is for a good reason, sometimes they are radicalized. You sound like a sheepdog. Eventually you will run into women who can tell the difference. These women will not be found in feminist forums.

W-Pilled · 2024-06-19T19:12:36+00:00

I deleted IG, Facebook, Snapchat, never used Twitter. Only thing I really use is reddit now.

And I feel a hell of a lot better than before.

Maybe you should get off social media. Do we really need to keep in contact with everyone we meet? The only people I keep in contact with is my family and friends.

Prize_Scallion1868 · 2024-06-24T05:37:33+00:00

Turn the internet off and read books.

Ecstatic-Priority488 · 2024-06-24T08:49:39+00:00

Noooo please don't "educate" yourself on women's issues through radical feminist spaces online.

They're extremely hurt & reactive women. What I've noticed is that a lot of them write with the intentions of hurting men (as a form of retaliation against them being hurt by men).

Just live life & when you meet well-adjusted women in real-life, ask them genuine questions (but avoid sensitive question if you barely know them).

& don't tell yourself that you'll never meet somebody's standards. Don't look at yourself down that way. Don't treat yourself as a commodity. This kind of thinking blocks opportunities from coming your way & even when a girl likes you, she'll back away because she wouldn't want to deal with that baggage & you'll be left wondering why. Always avoid talking to yourself in a way that would turn you into a broken person, because the more broken you become, the farther you'll be from being ready for a relationship.

dottywine · 2024-06-25T19:38:51+00:00

There are extremes in that area. They start off as an idea that makes sense and then they just go way too far. A mix of pain and getting validation/money from clicks because the more polarizing you are, the more engagement you get.

Grouchy765 · 2024-07-15T03:05:35+00:00

Feminism can be super toxic especially in it's extreme. I'm a woman and I think that toxic feminism and TRP are actually two sides of the same coin. "Lose accountability for your roll in relationships and blame everything on the other." Maybe a man or woman was hurt by a member of the opposite sex and so hates all members of the opposite sex. Truly, both are mistaken. If a woman says "all men are shit" she is wrong, bitter, and hateful. It might be helpful to remember that that attitude and trp are actually the same! And we should seek to love the opposite sex with respect and dignity. Many people are broken and susceptible to anger and bitterness on the internet. I suggest to stay away from super feminist content and to actually seek healthy relationships with both sexes. Regarding content, in my experience as a woman, I find some religious content the most dignifying to the sexes (Lila Rose or Matt Fradd are some examples). I know not everyone would agree with me on that, but that's my 2 cents. Most content seems to exist to trigger ppl

Anjemivas_ · 2024-08-11T13:22:16+00:00

Well, toxic women exist as well right lol, there's even red pill women. I would recommend just looking at content that you enjoy in general whether it's a man or a woman and just understand that misogyny exists internalized in women as well. Stop looking at things as gender, accept things as they are and just look at everything without gender involved in every single thing. Listen to yourself and trust yourself more. Clearly you said you're already feeling good about yourself and developing good relationships/friendships with women. Why seek out content setting you back?

DesertEssences · 2024-08-18T21:30:38+00:00

get off the internet. You'll realize that 90% of the people u see on online will never once cross your path in real life. Instead consume from books written by professionals in the field.

Raging_Dragon_9999 · 2024-06-17T14:26:52+00:00

Stay away from the feminist content, it's just as toxic as RP stuff.

99power · 2024-06-17T04:31:47+00:00

Wow this comments section sucks. I hope I never date any of you by accident. Feminism isn’t about equality. It’s about protecting women from male violence and oppression, just like civil rights in the 60’s was about overthrowing white supremacy. Don’t use nebulous arguments about equality to erase structural reality. What you should do is stop consuming the stupid online vent content and check out the work of men like Robert Jensen.

Title	How do I not internalize "all men are trash" content online?
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Date	June 17, 2024 3:38 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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