According to the comments, she’s the problem for being overly jealous...

MomNateChloe · 2021-04-09T19:38:13+00:00

Girl, do not buy a house with this untrustworthy man!

GIfuckingJane · 2021-04-09T20:03:10+00:00

I refuse to have the same relationship problems a 12 y/o kid would have. He's either in, or in the way. Black and white. Yes or no.

savagecarebear2 · 2021-04-09T19:25:23+00:00

I’m starting to feel like Reddit relationship advice is just outsourced gaslighting for shitty boyfriends....

This is absolute insanity XD What normal, faithful human being 1) hides their social media from their partner 2) has to purge their friend list before they see it, and 3) keep this opposite sex friends hidden from their partner? This isn’t ONE red flag, it’s a fucking parade

2340000 · 2021-04-09T19:35:25+00:00

If a man wants to follow IG models, let him. If he wants female "friends", let him. If he wants to be low effort, let him. If he wants to watch porn, let him.

We have the power to leave. Just walk. No discussions. No "compromises". Their issues have nothing to do with us.

I feel bad for her. Damn. Same thing, different day.😒

coldfoot23 · 2021-04-09T21:17:19+00:00

If you have to play Nancy drew on a man, walk away.

deep_faked_beans · 2021-04-09T20:52:09+00:00

I started reading some of the comments but got too mad and left. Everyone is framing it like it's her fault for being jealous and insecure, and following hundreds of girls is fine and normal. They're also obviously being disingenuous, multiple men said 'but you do have a problem with him following female friends' when she stated multiple times these girls weren't his friends, and she doesn't have a problem with his actual friends (who has hundreds of female friends who all post sexy pictures?). Also mass downvoting all her comments, no matter what they're about. The most hateful comment section i've read in awhile, asking for advice in one of those subs as a woman is completely pointless as you'll never get unbiased advice.

burritogirl101 · 2021-04-09T20:40:34+00:00

I just...

No.

This is not a jealousy issue at all. She knows something is up. This guy isn't even trying to hide it. Fuck that shit. There is absolutely no need for a grown man to be following these people. And for the love of God do not buy a house with him, jfc.

DontAskTwice-A-Roni · 2021-04-09T21:15:35+00:00

But if a woman was sneaking around, deleting male friends, they’d call her every name under the sun and say that you can’t trust fEmALeS, and she’s definitely hiding something etc. Apparently, only men are allowed to be suspicious. If a woman is suspicious she’s iNsEcUrE or BiTtEr or jEaLoUs. Men on Reddit and their pickme battalion are thoroughly annoying and hypocritical.

aleynawae · 2021-04-09T20:00:36+00:00

So him not being able to control himself on social media and thus embarassing her and himself and she obviously not being okay with that means she is overly jealous? Sad. He is in a relationship and should act accordingly. The commenters have some deep rooted issues.

AliCFire · 2021-04-09T20:52:03+00:00

A dude acting this much suspicious hiding stuff is likely doing something wrong... No one makes that much effort to hide stuff with no wrong doing

purasangria · 2021-04-09T21:32:12+00:00

Oh, sis.

Do. Not. Move. In. With. A. Man. You. Are. Not. Married. To.

Seriously, these men wave the red flags around whilst dancing on the table, and these women are like, "Gee, does this sound off to you?"

Stop letting men play you. If he's asked you to move in, but hasn't put a ring on your finger, you're not his dreamgirl. Dump him.

Mella_20 · 2021-04-09T22:09:05+00:00

Relationship advice is a hellhole. You can tell which comments are from men, and which are from pick me girls. They are pro-cheating, or they sympathize with cheaters, or they are cheaters and want ammo to use against their partners.

Subject_Ticket · 2021-04-09T20:42:41+00:00

OP can you send her a message to come here? It doesn't hurt to try. It's just so upsetting to me that she's being gaslighted like this.

lillylilacladybug · 2021-04-09T19:33:49+00:00

Reddit - designed by a man who has a daughter for men to treat women like shit

needsmoresilk · 2021-04-10T00:37:02+00:00

Looking for a house together while dating? Nah sis. The Instagram stuff is just the tip of the iceberg.

Less-Weekend5123 · 2021-04-10T01:22:56+00:00

At this point I'm pretty sure men do these kind of things to see how much disrespect u will tolerate

bizzybumblebee · 2021-04-10T00:19:14+00:00

she even acknowledges this is childish. so close.

Nessigrrrl · 2021-04-10T23:02:03+00:00

I just came to realize that I was being gaslit my whole adult life that I have a jealousy problem when in fact my exes would hide porn, lie about it, befriend a model online and talking on the phone the whole night, left me standing alone on new year, staring at a woman in the train while ignoring me, going out to clubs with his boys getting drunk. I just realise it now in my 30s. Thank you FDS! Better late then never.

(I even focused most of my therapy on my "jealousy problem" when in fact I had good reasons to feel like that)

2021-04-10T13:45:34+00:00

Any comments defending his behavior are just cheaters sticking up for a cheater or scummy losers who would do this if someone was dumb enough to date them.

azureangel35 · 2021-04-10T00:16:10+00:00

can we add CTFO come the fuck on to the FDS dictionary? Cuz this level of self delusion and denial (that I was in a year ago so no judgment) is getting way too maddeningly common. CTFO queens-we know better than to dismiss all these glaringly obvious crimson flags. 🤦

Title	According to the comments, she’s the problem for being overly jealous...
Author	savagecarebear2
Upvotes	329
Comments	54
Date	April 9, 2021 7:24 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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