Here are some common beliefs/myths that are not helpful to women. Feel free to add to the list:

--Having kids after 35 is very risky and you will probably be infertile.

This fear makes some women feel they need to settle in order to have kids young. I know women who have had kids in their 20s who had complications and abnormalities, and in their late 30s/40s with no issues. To quote Katwijk & Peters (1998) in Human Repoduction Update "Most of the complications are caused by age related confounders such as type II diabetes, hypertension and multiparity. Pregnant women with diabetes or hypertension at at risk of adverse pregnancy outcome irrespective of age. Premenopausal pregnant women of advanced age who are in good health do not need special care besides the normal obstetric practice." (FDS drs and midwives feel free to weigh in).

--The reflection in the mirror is accurate.

Poor lighting can make otherwise attractive women believe they look terrible. Early morning soft filtered light is the most flattering and Christy Turlington would look like a troll with a torch held under her chin. I used to think I looked like a gremlin, but after years realised certain light angles would make anyone look their worst. Why would movie directors even bother with a lighting department if alll light made you look the same?

-SOULMATES twin flames whatever

Let's just call it compatibility and be done.

-Relationships take work!

Nah sis. If he's truly high value and invested in you, it's pretty hard to stuff it up. Ok, so strong boundaries and standards help, but if he's quality, it should not feel like work. It should be fun!

-my prayer was answered/psychics/woo woo will tell me if he's The One.

Massively dangerous. Base all vetting and decisions on logic. Save the spiritual for self love.

-instagram is a reflection of reality

I followed many a perfect couple for years, envied their gushy anniversary posts and perfect pics... A picture tells 1000 lies. The women were unhappy. The man was neglecting them and in some cases cheating.