Don't be an empath Queens

meat_brick · 2021-01-23T13:07:30+00:00

It's only 7am and I've been called out. This is a hard truth and a good reminder.

misszazie · 2021-01-23T14:10:49+00:00

You are what you are but it doesn't mandate behavior.

My bff is the biggest empath I've ever met. She feels other people's emotions easily and vividly. You know what she does? Sits in her room alone and content unless it's to hang out with healthy, happy people.

Empath doesn't mean being a horse whisperer for the toxic

cinnamonketchup · 2021-01-23T14:33:05+00:00

This is such a terrifying metaphor because it's true. While you focus on the small light you can see flickering inside them, they're only thinking about consuming you and taking advantage of all you can give them. They will suck you dry until you're just a husk. It is very much a predator-prey relationship.

azureangel35 · 2021-01-23T14:29:11+00:00

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Street_Narwhal_3361 · 2021-01-23T15:54:40+00:00

Empathy shows up in my personality the strongest in my ability to spot pain in others and this led me to chose hurt men. I used to see this as a pitiable weakness and being a weak girl. Now, I recognize and appreciate this capacity because I direct that energy to myself and my career in healthcare. This is my most major of leveling up- that I’m the first person who deserves my care.

poison_snacc · 2021-01-23T16:31:25+00:00

And don’t listen to males who constantly claim “I’m an empath.” They aren’t.

2021-01-23T17:18:18+00:00

an empath is someone who “feels” the emotions of others or someone who is “in tune” with others emotions. like say someone feels embarrassed or sad, you feel it with them. i hate that people are using this term now to sugar coat codependency. i am a recovering codependent which is developed from a life of addicts and assholes. a girl who is kissing her boyfriends ass likely had to kiss a parents ass growing up. in my case to keep from physical fighting. EMPATH is empathy or intuitive for another’s emotions. codependent is controlling and serving someone unknowingly sometimes so they stay, are nice, love you etc. if most people worked on their codependency the world would be very different!!! any girls out there who control everything other people do so they don’t leave you or because they are so amazing and have potential??? codependent NOT empath.

_tinyimp · 2021-01-23T15:09:00+00:00

LMAO I’m saving this thank you 🤣

ScalesHaveFallen · 2021-01-24T10:50:44+00:00

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Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-01-24T02:11:12+00:00

Isn't it funny how almost every single person who calls themselves an empath is a woman...

Useful-Lion · 2021-01-23T19:42:55+00:00

Yes. AND another thing I’ve realized is that I tend to bring out the good in people. Not stroking my own ego because it’s actually a negative thing when it confuses me as to someone’s true nature. I’m very playful and so the men I interact with tend to become more playful and lighthearted when we hang out- my last boyfriend would dance in my living room with me, we would take bubble baths together, he bought a puppet because I had one, he started playing blues guitar and telling me about his screenplay ideas with the excitement of a little kid- and he still ended up strangling me at the end of all of it after lying and cheating. I get so confused by that “other side” of him but then I realize it was something that I heavily influenced and brought out in him because those are all my qualities that he was mirroring - and his true nature was a misogynistic douche bag.

light_workerx3 · 2021-01-23T16:35:57+00:00

Oh geez . This is definitely me 😔

SoftFortune64 · 2021-01-23T16:24:00+00:00

It's a natural thing. If you're an empathy it can't really be shut off and it should be valued. Just be a skeptical empathy with a backbone.

Risoa · 2021-01-23T19:39:46+00:00

Whoa this hits hard

Title	Don't be an empath Queens
Author	azureangel35
Upvotes	767
Comments	49
Date	January 23, 2021 12:34 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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