I was gonna put Canadian MEN in the title buuut....

It must be me? Everyone I have any connection with at all is always so shocked and confused by the idea that a HOME is more important than travel. They all value travel above all else.

Even during a pandemic. Even when the environmental impact is huge. The collapse of tourism has been devastating to many communities around the world and I feel for them.

Regardless, this discussion / debate always ends with me feeling like I’m asking for so much. Like they had never given any thought to the idea of making ..... a Home????

House is just money thing right?? Big expensive, very investment. Big headache big problems big big money. Big risk. No smart move for big boy. Me dodge bullet. Ooga ooga.

Why worry about all that when me can book a flight in few clicks and stay in airbnb somewhere far far away? Me not MATERIALISTIC and BASIC. Ugg ugg ooga.

Meanwhile the value of a stable routine escapes them. They become dissociated and detached from reality as they bounce from country to country, filling their insatiable need to Be That Guy on social media. The continuity of their social narrative comes from online, an easy target for radicalization. There he is! Look at his profile pic! Unencumbered at the top of Mount Everest.

Except there’s a mountain of garbage and a trail of environmental destruction left in the wake and everyone with a brain knows it . But I’m not supposed to call him on his white guy compartmentalized machismo “rules for thee” BS trip.

And for what? For the profile pic? For the kitsch memorabilia? For the women? At the end of the day you end up back in a country you felt a little identified with. Everything’s different. Nobody knows you. No community. You think, ooga booga me so smart me left this soulless place.

No spouse waiting with a meal or a distraction from all that World you’re out there trying to Drink In and Be. But you can’t and don’t envision this scene, so you fail to realize when you are missing the opportunity to create it.

Is that what you really want? Empty halls, no laughter, no dynamic energy, no place to tunnel vision away from politics and struggle ... to focus on raising up Hope in the next generation? This is the opportunity cost of investing in Travel as an alternative to investing in a home for your future family (even if it isn’t with ME specifically.)

How am I the first person to shock you into remembering that is something important? To at least consider that one day a wife will stand beside you and want stability?? I can’t believe it seems every guy I connect with has an “Oh shit!” Moment around this topic.

Is it me?? It must be.

good god!!!

I am so grateful to find this place where maybe someone can relate?

Love you all thanks for allowing me a moment to rant. This is my first post, sorry if I messed it up.

Edit: thanks for all the comments! I learned a lot from this discussion.