It he wanted to, he would!

I_am_so_lost_again · 2021-03-04T18:08:02+00:00

A few times we've gone to a new restaurant, my Fiancé makes me pick the 2 plates I am interested in, buys both plates plus something he likes, then we share all 3 plates. Its amazing because I can try a bunch of new things yet I'm not pressured into liking everything either.

GoldandGlowing · 2021-03-04T17:31:26+00:00

Comparing this to the dudes on reddit that “joke” about wanting to punch their gf for taking a fry 😒

eveloe · 2021-03-04T17:22:50+00:00

My husband does the same thing with the food swapping. The only food he won’t eat is yoghurt, but somehow froyo and Greek yoghurt don’t count 🙄

spinsterchachkies · 2021-03-04T17:38:01+00:00

That’s sweet

aclick1999 · 2021-03-04T19:46:58+00:00

My fiance hates potatoes (don't @ me ladies, I know it's weird). But if there is a fry option as a side, he always orders them for me! Always. And we generally compromise on the menu since we're both adventurous eaters who love to share. We pick things we both want to try. But there have been times where he buys a third entree because I want to give it a try as well. How can men expect to share their life with someone if they can't share their food? He also gives me the first sip of every cocktail he orders because HE LOVES ME. And sometimes they become my cocktail. Lol.

It's so stupid and simple. Any man that wouldn't let me eat off his plate never got a second date. (It even rhymes)

LockLimePie · 2021-03-05T03:14:41+00:00

"If he wanted to, he would" saved me. For some reason when I read that here for the first time something in my brain just snapped. I gave up trying to persuade my NVM ex, beg him, be extra sweet to him, let him do what he wanted to me so that he would treat me better or buy me dinner ONCE. Do ANYTHING as a kind gesture. I realized, this isn't because of differences in how we grew up. This isn't because of any of the bullshit reasons he gave me when in tears I asked him why he couldn't just once treat me to something special without making me pay for it (when I made literally 1/3 of what he did). It was because he didn't care about me. He cared about himself.

Posts like this remind me that I made the right choice. I used to see posts like this and break down in tears amongst my pile of relationship help books because why am I not worth it? What is she doing for her BF that I'm not doing for mine? Why does he treat me like I'm worthless; AM I worthless? The answer is no. It wasn't about me at all. It was about him. ALWAYS about him.

all_or_nothing_bet · 2021-03-04T17:18:45+00:00

She is so adorable! And her boyfriend sounds adorable too.

fogplum · 2021-03-04T19:07:50+00:00

This is super cute. I love sharing food and I always appreciate it when my friends choose a dish that aligns with my dietary restrictions so that we can share. I haven't met a man that does that.

DifferentBar6 · 2021-03-04T19:50:19+00:00

My ex used to do this. I never asked or expected him to, but he did it anyway bc he wanted to make me happy and feel loved/cared for. He would ask which were my top 2 food choices on the menu and insisted on ordering those and he would insist I have the one I liked better.

We did happen to have mostly quite similar tastes in food anyway, so it usually worked out pretty well.

He wanted to make me happy and took pleasure in my pleasure.

Also, when we first met he told me there was one meat he basically found repulsive (taste/smell, nothing religious) and could not eat, so I NEVER considered ordering it or eating it around him. He never asked me to do this, but I wanted to make him feel comfortable and show I cared about his feelings. I think we both tried to show care for one another's preferences.

Hmtnsw · 2021-03-04T20:41:51+00:00

I find this interesting. Guy I'm currently talking to is a Korean National and he always has me pick places to go because "he eats everything" and wants to go somewhere I like. I don't think he does it out of "low/no effort." We've gone to many places where he asks me about things that I may like and order according to that. Sometimes he gets soenthing he likes but will get an appetitizer or something else that I would particularly like. We end up sharing/eating off each other's plates.

I mentioned his nationality because sharing food is common in Korea and it threw me off guard because American men (that I've dated and gone on dates with) never did anything like that and would get mad/say something cocky like "You should have ordered this/ This is mine" if I wanted to try something off their plate. And this guy is like "let's do these things." He asks of course, but like, I'm not used to sharing food on dates BUT it is a nice change of pace when eating out.

It's like the only time Americans share food is if it's appetizers, not their meal.

karabnp · 2021-03-04T21:28:31+00:00

I love her.😭💕💕 She’s the cutest!!☺️

AND SHE’S RIGHT.

If he wanted to, HE WOULD.

dogfart4 · 2021-03-04T19:33:40+00:00

My boyfriend does this. I’m a vegetarian and he’s not. He will order two vegetarian dishes so that if I don’t like one of them, I’m not stuck with food I don’t like. 😍

venomous_g · 2021-03-04T17:30:40+00:00

Hopefully he keeps this same energy (considering her needs and wants first and being an active participant in making their relationship work) in all things for as long as they are together.

90lbees · 2021-03-04T22:15:20+00:00

Awww 🥺 that’s the cutest thing I’ve ever heard

throwaway32132134 · 2021-03-04T22:10:16+00:00

She's so cute 🙂

sassyheather · 2021-03-04T22:19:09+00:00

I personally wouldn’t like my bf doing that. If I like 2 dishes, he’ll simply take me on a date at the same place again. He can order his own choice of food without me having any say in it.

wvsidnekeslthroway · 2021-03-05T01:56:26+00:00

😭 precious

bringtwizzlers · 2021-03-04T23:04:07+00:00

She is sooo cute! None of my boyfriends have ever done this lol, they let me try their food though?? My one HVM ex would let me switch with him if I didn't like it though.

pandasparkle · 2021-03-05T10:38:08+00:00

I’ve never heard of any guy doing something like this but wow that’s incredibly sweet of him to put her first like that. My boyfriend has never offered to share his food (even after I offered) and he’s also incredibly picky. He doesn’t eat vegetables and he hates seafood (which pains me the most because sushi is my favorite food of all time) 🙃

girludontbringhome · 2021-03-05T03:48:57+00:00

When will it be time to have a HVM like this 😭

ms_monquis · 2021-03-04T23:35:40+00:00

I love this! This is so cute!

maraslove · 2021-03-05T01:03:50+00:00

She’s so cute. Love her top.

vita_mia · 2021-03-04T20:37:45+00:00

My HVM and I order everything together and share everything because we both are huge foodies. I love looking at the menu together!

Saitschik · 2021-03-04T17:26:36+00:00

I like gentle and caring men but this would turn me off. Having your own opinion &taste and basically a backbone is part of being HV.

How will this man ever get on with his life if he can't even make is own food choice? No thanks

Bubbly-Risk-3758 · 2021-03-05T01:06:48+00:00

My boyfriend is kinda like this too.

sunologie · 2021-03-05T08:48:18+00:00

Wow food means so much to me so like...a man who did that sounds like a dream lmaooo

bunsmoria · 2021-03-05T15:10:02+00:00

My ex used to this too! Oof 🥲

Title	It he wanted to, he would!
Author	Less-Panic
Upvotes	2052
Comments	59
Date	March 4, 2021 5:13 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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