Ladies, stop devaluing yourselves and shying away from proper dinner dates! A nice restaurant is not intimidating, a dinner date is not too much pressure, and if you really feel you don't want to eat a meal with someone, you shouldn't be accepting a date with him in the first place!

As if we don't already have enough trouble getting men to understand that coffee is not a date, "a drink" is not a date, a walk is not a date...there are way too many women who are here on FDS lowballing THEMSELVES!

"Oh, a restaurant is so much pressure...."

"I don't want to commit that much time for a first date..."

"I prefer a quick meetup over coffee first to see if there's chemistry..."

"I would hate to be stuck at a restaurant for a whole meal if there's no attraction..."

All of the above excuses are weak, defeatist thinking!

There is no such thing as a "pre-date" or a "meet before the first date." The first meet = the first date. And the first date sets the tone for all subsequent dates. If the first date is a lame, cheap, childish, faux-casual "meet", then both people will forever subconsciously associate each other with cheap, minimal, low-effort actions in every area of their relationship!

Every single human society in history has placed importance on hospitality and breaking bread together as a gesture of friendship and goodwill. We owe it to ourselves not to become barbarians by forgetting this essential human need.

Getting comfortable with being wined and dined and frequenting nice, fancy, unfamiliar, and yes even GASP expensive restaurants, is an essential part of any adult's leveling-up journey. How do you ever expect to get ahead in your career...to meet HV people and mingle in different social milieus...if you can't get over yourself for an hour or two and sit calmly and coolly in a high-class atmosphere and make pleasant conversation and break bread with another human being?

Whether you met him organically or online, it doesn't matter...once you've talked or chatted for a while, or have seen him at the gym every day or whatever it is, and it's come to the point where he asks you for a date... if you still don't feel interested enough in his company to imagine sitting with him for an hour and eating together... then you should just throw the whole man away and not bother meeting at all.

Who's with me?