Man Up, Or Shut The Hell Up.

purasangria · 2020-08-20T23:29:55+00:00

Straight truth, right here.

If a man is not willing to provide for me, I'll continue to keep it simple by continuing to provide for myself.

redbirdflies · 2020-08-20T23:25:22+00:00

👏 👏 👏

I can’t believe this isn’t universal knowledge

littleredpartydress_ · 2020-08-21T05:32:17+00:00

Also men : well if you guys want equality, then boys should be able to hit girls

Like why is that the first thing they think of !!!!

CloacaDiddler · 2020-08-21T06:13:26+00:00

It seems like while men had the power, pushing stereotypes were all well and good. But now that women can control their own lives, voluntarily choose who they want to be with, make an independent living, it’s like men collectively as a species just rolled over and said “well fuck it, I ain’t contributing anymore.” Really telling of their true feelings and “instincts.” If they can’t have all the power, they don’t want to protect and provide. Women have always needed the most protecting from other men anyway, and now we have to make the same wage, work the same hours, AND come home and do all the house work, childcare, and emotional labor? There has never been an easier time to be a lazy, selfish man. Women needed feminism - we got the jobs and the vote, but now men need the education on how to sweep a floor or cook a freaking hamburger. And it needs to be societally pushed as normal, none of this “congratulations, your man “babysat” the kids for an hour so you could shower awww he does so much” bullshit.

Oh! My coworker had to start picking up different hours due to covid struggles. She’s been working so hard and yes, doing all the cooking, remodeling the kitchen, teaching the kids, and managing the house. And the kids have started asking her to stop working so much so she can be around more. One of them complained she doesn’t cook as much for them anymore. Yep - she’s got all the expectation to provide half the income and also stay at home full time somehow because her womanly duties are slacking. You know they’ve never asked the dad to cook the meals or quit his job to be around more. And this woman is the most optimistic, kind hearted saint I’ve ever met - I just want more for her even though she’s twice my age.

StrainingMyNeurons · 2020-08-21T03:45:16+00:00

I’ve always said that men are only concerned with gender equality only when they want to get out of something.

littleredpartydress_ · 2020-08-21T05:23:39+00:00

Honestly it was never the gender roles that pisses me off the most it was always the hypocrisy and the AUDACITY to expect everything when they’ve got nothing to give, not even a little appreciation or respect

Gourmay · 2020-08-21T06:17:20+00:00

I do think those of us who are dating right now have unfortunately ended up with a generation of men who are confused about their roles and because they were told that women are independent now yadiyada are using it as a cop out to say “hey I don’t need to do shit for you anymore” when women are not treated as equals in most places and are still largely expected to handle the home chores.

RadioactiveJoy · 2020-08-20T23:36:48+00:00

I want to see the comment!!! I got my popcorn.

Invisiblescars_123 · 2020-08-21T07:23:39+00:00

EXACTLY. Why would I engage in household labor for a man who doesn’t provide?

GlitteringAdvice2020 · 2020-08-21T08:40:08+00:00

Men LOVE gender roles when they benefit men and hate them otherwise. FDS calls this out and that’s why we get so much hate.

carameals · 2020-08-21T07:48:24+00:00

Men who only work office job with mediocre salary still have the audacity to demand their partner to do stereotypically "woman chores". Like yeah women back then did that however men's responsibilities were also higher, working environment wasn't as safe, and everything was more difficult because of the absence of technology! Nowadays both women and men work office job and women are still expected to do (majority of) house chores and child care!

Llama_Llama_Sugamama · 2020-08-21T04:34:35+00:00

My MIL cannot grasp how I get her son to do certain things. Because it’s both of our jobs to make sure stuff gets paid and done around the house! The best was her asking how I get him to change his own daughters diaper, luckily he spoke before I did and explained how it’s his kid too! When the kids were younger we took turns on everything. Now that they are older it just comes naturally to who’s turn it is. But now I mostly cook, only because I prefer to. But he cleans and does laundry and basically whatever else. If he wants me to slave over the housework, his ass better work 2-3 jobs to support that lifestyle and he knows it!!! Luckily he grew to be better than his parents.

mfamilye · 2020-08-21T05:20:33+00:00

Mr Camper III ... your momma did a good job raising you !

Meredeen · 2020-08-21T03:42:39+00:00

I want to just make sure I understand it right. So we want to be sure that we can provide for ourselves (not be trapped to a man's income) but he also needs to show that he is willing and able to provide for us (generous + loving)? That makes sense, I don't want to date a brokeass with no car. Never again loll

phulkari2784 · 2020-08-21T03:44:50+00:00

I want to see this message everywhere. Like whenever we open any website or any damn book. Such should be it's reach and acceptance!

TheOGJammies · 2020-08-21T11:12:59+00:00

A lot of men want submissive wives but they don’t have submissive wife money 💅

flowers4u · 2020-08-21T14:36:11+00:00

Every time my husband says “we should do laundry today” and I say “ok you can do it.” I feel a little bit like my ancestors are clapping for me in their grave!

NoThisIs-Patrick · 2020-08-21T17:06:12+00:00

This makes me so angry. This was my ex. He wanted a woman to cook and clean for him but he wouldn't provide for me. He wouldn't even move in with me and split the bills. I work more than full time hours but I was still somehow a shitty girlfriend for not cooking for him... when he didn't even live with me. And I barely had the time to do the things I needed to do for myself at my own damn house and for my dog. He had his mom come by to clean his place for him - which he had asked me to do for him, to which I stupidly agreed, but he needed to make time for me to do it because I didn't have a key for his place. So cue him freaking out about me being a "bad girlfriend" for not nagging him to let me into his place to clean it.

Men have become completely fucking deranged.

Yes, this post triggered me lmao

Fitncurly · 2020-08-21T05:48:48+00:00

I love this! Here’s hoping more young men (or ANY men!) actually get it and give a crap about women 🤞🏼.

Nachotype13 · 2020-08-21T07:44:12+00:00

I love this

balladwilds · 2020-08-21T07:48:27+00:00

TEA ! Its obvious.

mymindmybrain · 2020-08-21T09:28:30+00:00

This is why This men needs to learn how to cook, clean and work not to be babysitter to women This Man child needs to man up if they don’t man up then these man child need to shut up

0kfornow · 2020-08-21T10:22:45+00:00

Yeah apparently I can provide for myself AND bake pies

So no thank you honey I'm busy 💅

Title	Man Up, Or Shut The Hell Up.
Author	CharTheCatMom
Upvotes	1628
Comments	57
Date	August 20, 2020 11:12 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/idl6pb/man_up_or_shut_the_hell_up/
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