Men Telling on Themselves

superbechidna · 2021-09-16T19:24:58+00:00

Yes! The world needs more FI queens!

I’m also into financial independence. There are so many men who talk about reaching financial independence themselves and just staying at home doing nothing while their SOs work (“because it’s my money!”) Never mind all the household labor, emotional labor, and support these women contributed over years of their relationship (and the fact that their job provides affordable healthcare for the couple.) Never mind that the fact that they’re splitting expenses is what keeps the man’s expenses low in the first place. 🤮

I just reached financial independence this past year, and I don’t think I’m ever getting married. I have freedom, money, great friendships, and peace. I’m not risking that with a potential LVM.

millennialpink2000 · 2021-09-16T17:24:36+00:00

Men are such gold diggers. My loser ex who was 17 years older than me (I'm putting clown makeup on) was delighted at the idea of me inheriting money from my parents and him retiring in about 5 years while I continued working for another 20 years. Disgusting. He got sooo brazen about it towards the end of our relationship, he didn't even try to hide his entitlement anymore. He looked at me and saw dollar signs. Zero respect for men like that

denimbastard · 2021-09-16T22:39:36+00:00

I've been chatting to an old friend recently and things have been getting flirtatious. Today he told me he is stoned 90% of the time and then half an hour later tells me the only thing holding him from coming to visit me is the train ticket (he doesn't drive) because he's "the worst person ever with money lol". Blocked.

deadinsidelol69 · 2021-09-16T18:20:16+00:00

I once had to borrow my dad's truck for a few days, it's a really nice truck, and made the mistake of showing up to a date in it and the guy noticed. The entire date was about my wealth, my family's wealth, and how he saw a "long term relationship" with me. Golddigger got blocked and deleted.

TERFSareawesome · 2021-09-16T16:51:49+00:00

Men have been golddiggers, and it's so much worse because childbirth takes a HUGE toll on a woman's body. That's one of the reasons it was considered normal for the man to go out in the world and earn money, because women NEED rest and relaxation after a baby. I read something that women who had extreme sleeplessness in the year after the birth of their baby aged SEVEN YEARS faster. Women experiencing sleeplessness at other times aged nowhere near as fast. Women are SO VULNERABLE after childbirth and most of these men do it under the guise of being SAHDs, so they basically kick their wife back to the workforce while the woman's body and health is still healing, while pretending to "work from home" and lazing around and not doing childcare or housework. It's literally using someone into the ground like theyre a slave

Men have been golddiggers for millennia it's just no one ever wants to pay for men because theyre mostly worthless.

lilac-hiraeth · 2021-09-16T16:41:35+00:00

My nvm ex was a useless house husband! He didn’t work more than casually even after the kids had been in school full time for four years. Since I kicked him out the only real change to my life is that now I make dinner, where as he’d have that ready when I got home from work.

I’ve had two men who don’t have reliable, stable jobs or any money ask me out since I became single and one guy who works in a failing business he sank everything into and lives with his parents! ALL have invited themselves to live with me and my kids! LOL! Go fuck yourselves you clowns. I already have kids, I don’t need another.

Honestly, after dating so many broke losers, my next man is gold or not happening, and I’m good with not happening. 🤷‍♀️

aquietsword · 2021-09-16T20:00:05+00:00

I remember a post where an older guy was talking about how he was going to retire before his wife because she hadn't prioritized her retirement savings. He was totally fine with enjoying retirement without his wife being able to join. I'm pretty certain her side of the story would talk about how she prioritized her family, but whatever. Point is, men will find a way to use women whether they do or don't have money. Don't let that happen.

preppykat3 · 2021-09-16T16:50:58+00:00

Nothing is more of a turn off than a man who leeches off of a woman financially. I can’t see myself marry if I’m richer than the guy I’m marrying. It’s just not worth it. What do we even get out of it?

PicoPicoMio · 2021-09-16T19:34:55+00:00

I know two men who are gold diggers and one of them is an ambition less househusband and the other one is brazenly gearing up to be.

The women they’re with are amazing bright intelligent women who come from families with wealth. One is a PHD researcher the other one is about to graduate from an Ivy League law program.

I’ve often sat slack jawed at how these bums ride the coattails of their partners and despite being house-husbands contribute diddly squat to the household management.

These women knew and understood what these men’s intentions were and STILL married/got engaged to them.
one of them was told plainly by their scrote that he wasn’t attracted to her when she went through depression and gained weight.

Pickmeisha-ism runs deep even in accomplished intelligent women.

sleepysiri · 2021-09-16T17:19:12+00:00

The world is built for men. If a man can’t reasonably succeed financially where the wage gap and career promotions are in his favour, there’s something wrong with him.

Edit: just to add, this doesn’t mean someone can easily jump from poverty to billionaire. There are other factors at play too. This one applies to the average, middle class man.

anotherdamnloser · 2021-09-16T23:29:23+00:00

Men are… an ex (I was a teen) stole cash from me and they asked my Sega for cigarettes. He crashed my car and I never saw a dime from him. I was a stupid ignorant dumbass.

Painfulmenstruation · 2021-09-16T19:40:43+00:00

My NVX was a gold digger. Money was literally the only thing he liked about me. Those were the most awful years of my life.

miwamus · 2021-09-16T23:11:40+00:00

I love the FIRE community but I'll be damned if they didn't have the most ridiculous men. He's always in IT, she's a nurse or a teacher. He's a cheapskate that won't leave mom's basement for a decade and won't as much as celebrate birthdays. He uses his towels without washing them for 2 weeks because cHeAp and LoGiCaL. He got to FIRE and HIS WIFE "just started her journey." barf

xfelugirlx · 2021-09-16T21:03:25+00:00

Never stick up for less than you are. If you work and are successful or u are about to graduate and you are “in love” with a loser that is re-doing years of his career because he doesn’t know how to study or is a 🤡 indeed just don’t do it girl. Stay alone with your things

Title	Men Telling on Themselves
Author	ShieldMaidenLagertha
Upvotes	835
Comments	49
Date	September 16, 2021 4:35 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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