Men will do whatever it takes to get in your pants. NEVER sleep with them before you get commitment!

mygreaterdestiny · 2020-07-26T17:55:20+00:00

I mean I would just say make them work for it and get what you want BEFORE sex. Men will say they’re your bf just to fuck and leave you

meecy166 · 2020-07-26T19:17:15+00:00

Also don’t be alone with a man if you know you are not ready or they’ll pressure you, invite you to their place to “cook” for you because they are a chef, or invite you over to watch a “movie”, or offer to give you a “ride”, especially when they know you are both going to be alone in the car. Stay woke ladies

ms_monquis · 2020-07-26T19:32:10+00:00

And never ever EVER have sex you don’t enthusiastically want, and for ANY other reason than you enthusiastically want to.

It won’t “keep” him, it won’t guarantee another date, it won’t keep him from other women. It won’t kickstart a relationship — that’s backwards.

Villanelloh · 2020-07-26T18:26:50+00:00

It's disturbing how many men on OKCupid put 4 - 6 dates as their expectation for sex. I have never seen a man put 7+ dates (the maximum option)

mlb897 · 2020-07-27T00:42:12+00:00

100% true.

I had a guy invite me over to his place and cook dinner for us (he bought all the food and accommodated for my dietary restrictions) on our 5th date, but he didn't try to initiate sex then.

However, he did on our 6th. The thing is, I'm a virgin and explained that to him as the reason to why I wanted to wait. Not even waiting for marriage, just needed more time. He seemed fine with it in the moment and even let me stay until I was able to get home safely (we were drinking prior and a bit buzzed). But after that he didn't ask me out as much as he was before. We hung out one other time after that and now we don't talk anymore.

I guess this is my way of saying even if a guy seems to go out of his way for you, and super into you, in the end he may just want something casual and nothing more. It can be really hard to tell.

TheWarmestHugz · 2020-07-26T21:38:19+00:00

Went on two dates with one guy and he got mad cause I didn’t sleep with him after he bought me food. He then proceeded to block and ignore me. Talk about trash taking itself out!

dior-not-war · 2020-07-26T15:51:50+00:00

Do not make the mistake of giving them sex before you’re in a relationship. That includes oral ladies! Men will invent entire personalities to try to get you to sleep with them. Make sure you know exactly who they are and what their intentions are because we all know we get attached much more easily after sex. If you have sex too early it’s hard to leave when you find out who they really are because you’re already attached.

2020-07-26T17:23:34+00:00

Genuine commitment and affirmation they are in a relationship only with you

oreooreooreos · 2020-07-26T20:35:35+00:00

I’m torn because I use men purely for my sexual pleasure. Where do I fit in? 🥴

I definitely do treat sex as a reward for positive behavior but it’s mainly for pleasure, not to secure a man. What does that make me, then?

anonymousthoughts69 · 2020-07-26T20:37:35+00:00

I JUST dodged this bullet soooo hard! I was upset and hurt at first, but looking back, I’m so glad it didn’t work out with him and that I ended things before it got intimate.

_boring_daven_ · 2020-07-27T00:38:48+00:00

Just remember, no sane woman has EVER said “I regret having sex so late.”

lavyebel · 2020-07-26T18:47:37+00:00

But are you having sex for YOUR sexual pleasure or to reward a man that wants you for a relationship ?

I never "give" men my pussy, I wipe it on their face if I'm horny.

I get that the advice here is that men will ended up showing their true colours so wait until have sex, but most are going to be nice as fuck and lie to you until they get you, even if they have to wait months. Meanwhile, they just chase other women. And once again, are you having sex because you want to, or to reward a good man's behaviour or loyalty ?

FDSxMuffinVSrat · 2020-07-27T06:23:18+00:00

1000%

This hits home. One guy I was talking to a lot gave me bad vibes. I cut him off. Found out he was involved in not so great drama.

Trust your instincts. Be picky. Not giving someone a chance is ok.

tardiscaptain123 · 2020-07-26T22:26:08+00:00

This has been my experience sometimes, not always. I have found a guy that’s not that invested will leave once he gets sex. A guy that actually likes you isn’t going to do that. So yeah maybe don’t give it up immediately but definitely do it when you actually want to. If it feels right, there’s no need to wait. And many people, male and female, believe sexual chemistry is an important part of a relationship and want to determine this before they commit.

Kimpractical · 2020-07-26T21:54:45+00:00

This is a sad reality

naamshiko · 2020-07-27T12:04:37+00:00

They will even go as far as committing to you (or at least pretend to) if they feel like that’s what it takes to get your poonanny. When I cut off my ex-FWB and he saw I wasn’t going to back off on my decision, he started going on about how he considered a relationship with me because I was great bla bla (even though it was off the table from the start cause I was moving abroad lol).

Promises and words are worth NOTHNG, only judge by their actions.

smart-tart23 · 2020-07-26T22:10:41+00:00

Too true

Tiffglamour · 2020-07-27T07:07:19+00:00

Definitely mood for life ❤️

darling89 · 2020-12-07T17:34:19+00:00

Keep the legs closed, better single than used

Title	Men will do whatever it takes to get in your pants. NEVER sleep with them before you get commitment!
Author	dior-not-war
Upvotes	1563
Comments	63
Date	July 26, 2020 3:49 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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