Pickmeisha gets owned! [From r/technicallythetruth]

MagnoliaMirage · 2020-01-05T19:51:26+00:00

Never understood people getting angry for not choosing their spouses last name. Like damn, sometimes your last name sounds way better lol.

rainbowcatsurprise · 2020-01-05T19:35:53+00:00

If you’ve ever published anything, it doesn’t make sense to change your last name. You don’t want to erase your work history.

azngirl7689 · 2020-01-05T20:37:04+00:00

Cause it’s my name bisssssshes. No one pressures men into this S.

_d4ddy · 2020-01-05T19:58:10+00:00

I want to hear the reasoning behind why someone would want to take their husband's last name. I love my last name because it's the name of a beautiful bird and plays off my first name well, I'd feel a little less like myself without it.

tminus7MT · 2020-01-05T19:13:24+00:00

Exactly!! I’m only changing my last name if it’s going to be a way cooler last name. Mine is hard to beat

Ms_Tilly · 2020-01-05T19:49:31+00:00

Ha a friend told me this yesterday while we were watching the game. She said she's the last one left and wouldn't feel right taking a man's name. She's currently babying a mentally ill man through his issues and making excuses when he acts out towards her. I'm waiting for the day she gets rid of his ass.

azngirl7689 · 2020-01-05T19:59:24+00:00

Why should a woman chnage her name if she is happy the way she is? Don't see why it's women who have the pressure to change anyway. It's like women are property of the husband or something. Times have changed.

Besides, for practical reasons, there's a load of hassle getting your cards changed to the new name, driving license, all kind of other legal documents. It's just too much.

MonicaLSolis · 2020-01-05T20:49:57+00:00

It is 2020 and women are still expected to get rid of their identity when they get married. I refuse to change my last name. Just because I am married doesn't mean I am his property

Canilive5592 · 2020-01-05T19:31:17+00:00

I might hyphenate but i won’t change/abandon my name

GrassStartersSuck · 2020-01-05T21:02:19+00:00

If you don’t change your name, I don’t change my name. Equality. Why should I do something you don’t have to?

alabastercrimson · 2020-01-05T23:42:19+00:00

I would never change my last name for anyone. It's too unique and specific to my cultural background and I would never give that up for any man.

venomoth91 · 2020-01-05T20:36:36+00:00

My mom kept her last name when she married my HV dad 30 years ago. I feel like it only makes for me to do the same when I get married.

Ishouldbewriting83 · 2020-01-05T22:56:03+00:00

I'm not sure what your families' backgrounds are like, but I come from a family of serial marriers and divorcers. I'm the product of ex-wife #2 and ex-husband #4. My mom is basically forced to go by different last names depending on the situation. Mortgage in one ex's name, licence in another's, credit all mixed up with all of them. My mom ended up in the emergency room last year, and when I went to go join her, I had to ask where she was. I gave them her maiden name. Nope. I gave them my last name (also still on her lisense). Nope. I literally said, "okay, my mom was married 4 times. You have a (fake names for anonymity) Jane possibly Doe Smith Johnson North Kline. It'll be one of those." Apparently she uses her 1st husband's name for medical stuff because most of her medical records start with that name. I knew from a young age I could never live that life. I could not walk around having to be attached to an ex's last name. I couldn't take that risk. Nope. Ultimately, people should do whatever they want to do. It's all a personal choice. But, that's where I stand.

2020-01-05T23:17:30+00:00

Ask why don't husbands take their wife's last name 🤔

Itchy-Transportation · 2020-01-06T01:51:22+00:00

because it's my name. my identity, who i've identified as my whole life so far. i'm not a mans property, i don't need to be branded with his family name.

bheyoka · 2020-01-06T00:05:17+00:00

My husband’s surname is long and ridiculous. Mine is short and sweet. While I have no family ties to my name, as technically, our surnames ARE our father’s, I wasn’t going to deal with that hassle. I asked if he would change to mine and got a HELL NO. Ok...so why should I? No one I know has taken their husband’s surname.

OsamaBenLadle · 2020-01-06T02:27:48+00:00

Here’s a good piece of information that was taught to me by my professor. We were reading Matrimony which is a feminist work about why women shouldn’t marry. Anyways, some student asked why women take the husband’s last names.

So my teacher explains that women taking last names was not meant to be a symbol of unity as much as it meant that the woman is now “owned” by her man. It was really a symbol of a family giving off their daughter to be claimed as property. When she takes his last name, it was a sign of losing a female’s humanity. Then, she was identified as the wife to the man rather than by her own identity. There were wayyyy more historical details that I sincerely wish I could recall, but it comes down to that she is now a piece of her husband rather than her own person. I know I’m being very circular, but I feel like it’s important to understand why we need to break that tradition.

quasarbar · 2020-01-06T07:38:29+00:00

I'd like to hear the reasoning behind men who assume their wives will take the men's last names.

stillcantsee · 2020-01-06T00:28:10+00:00

Never ever changing my name, the fuck?!

Bennettist · 2020-01-05T23:35:36+00:00

One of the loveliest responses to, "but then your family shares a name together" was that the "and" shows your together. As in, Mr. XXX And Ms. YYY. We don't need the same identity to be together.

AgentMeatbal · 2020-01-05T22:28:36+00:00

Cause my first and last name together make a medical pin and I work in medicine.... no way am I giving that up

s_slayer · 2020-01-06T00:56:55+00:00

I never changed my name, honestly out of laziness and not knowing how the process worked, but it worked out when we divorced a decade later. The ex didn’t make a fuss about it so I didn’t think it bothered him. My last name is also a lot cooler than his 🤷‍♀️

LovedDemons · 2020-01-06T03:22:58+00:00

Because I want my children to have a solid last name, not a weak one.

landofbizarre · 2020-01-06T02:31:28+00:00

My name is Lisa White. It always has been. That's me. It's kind of boring and there's a lot of people out there with my exact name, but that is MY name. My name doesn't change when I get married. Fuck it. Lisa White 'til I die, mothafuckas.

GuineveresGrace · 2020-01-06T04:35:32+00:00

I have two citizenships. That's two countries worth of paperwork to change my last name. I was adopted by an amazing man who got me through hell and back. I'm the last of my line.

I have yet to meet a man who makes me think his legacy is worth dismissing mine. Or one who is worth the time, hassle, expense, or general bullshit of going to the embassy to change my last name.

2020-01-06T17:52:25+00:00

I dont even need to have a single reason. It is my name, my identity and I was born with it. Men never for a day in their lives think that their identity will ever have to change. Their name belings to them. Women are taught to see their last name belonging to their fathers or family which is why you have so many "my dad sucked so I'd change my last name" people.

alanonhelp777 · 2020-01-05T20:28:33+00:00

I changed my name when I got married. I liked the idea of our kids having the same last name as both of their parents. When we divorced, I kept my married name because I still like the kids having the same last name as me, and also I am established in my career now and see no benefit to changing it back.

I made the choices that worked for me and my family. I think that’s what it comes down to. You can change, not change, both change, whatever. It’s a personal preference.

f0xsl0th · 2020-01-05T20:36:29+00:00

I support any person’s decision in this— In my case, I hate my last name and it’s hella long, so if future spouse’s last name is shorter/easier.....

Foreign_Bug · 2020-01-06T03:39:48+00:00

It’s tradition in my family for women not to have middle names. So when they get married, their maiden names becomes their middle name. The middle/maiden name is then passed onto any sons they have as a middle name. I think that’s a good compromise.

Imstillwatchingyou · 2020-01-06T04:15:39+00:00

Two women in my family kept their ex-husband's name after divorce simply because they didn't want to go through the effort of changing their name a second time, after seeing how hard it was the first time.

frantasmagoria · 2020-01-06T05:06:47+00:00

And mine is Bravo! 😎Fran Bravo!

Whateverbabe2 · 2020-01-06T08:42:12+00:00

My dad had four girls. None of us are changing our last name; neither did my mom.

It's not in our culture, plus it's one of the only ties we have left to our dad. But my sister's husband is a lil bit insulted by it.

nebulaedust · 2020-01-06T12:54:15+00:00

It's only the last name. So irrelevant

naptuallyaqueen · 2020-01-06T15:07:48+00:00

I’d probably hyphenate my last name... 🤔🤔

Title	Pickmeisha gets owned! [From r/technicallythetruth]
Author	greatmanatee2
Upvotes	660
Comments	59
Date	January 5, 2020 7:10 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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