Question: have you experienced men saying, "If the genders were reversed..." and you were deadpan because it in fact occurs reversed and often?

_xyoungbellax_ · 2021-11-29T11:59:06+00:00

Yes, yes and yes. I have experienced it while advocating against men and certain pickmes who are all into 'false rape cases, men are in danger' etc. They usually end it with "what if the genders were reversed, would you say the same thing?" Umm, women do get raped, way too many women in an hour. Some don't report because they don't have the appropriate legal means, some don't report because it's someone from their family itself and some don't report because they have lost faith in the judicial system, hence think, it doesn't matter whether they report it or not. Also, marital rape is still not recognised.

But these men cry hue, when a woman finally snaps and gives them a piece of her mind.

Muffcakelord · 2021-11-29T15:27:29+00:00

This gets me so frustrated i try to forget or ignore it tbh.

"Imagine if women were beaten? Imagine if women attempted suicide? Imagine if women were being treated unfairly in family court? Imagine if women weren't allowed to show emotion?" All of these aspects are proven time and time again to be female dominated problems, all statistics say the same, unless you really hate women and you cherry pick numbers out of context.

Men do this on purpose and because they're "the victim" abusive type.

Mcccy · 2021-11-29T12:11:25+00:00

Yes. And the answer to almost all of them is "Then men would laugh about it and say rElaX iTS JUsT a JOkE!"

misandryismadeup · 2021-11-29T11:59:22+00:00

Just today: there was a video of Jojo Siwa talking to a female reporter with cleavage showing and although Jojo was maintaining eye contact with the woman while talking to her so not make her uncomfortable, she looked at the woman’s chest for a millisecond when the woman’s head was turned.

Of course there were men/pickmes in comments saying “iF iT wAs a mAn dOinG iT tHere wOulD bE ouTraGe” and I thought about how a man maintaining eye contact with a woman showing cleavage would be congratulated for his resistance as the bar is so low so wtf are these males/pickmes talking about? They obviously live in a parallel universe.

swaylyn · 2021-11-29T14:36:55+00:00

No, but if a guy ever went near that statement I just respond with “we’re not talking about that right now, we’re talking about…” and keep MY point on track because I’m tired of the derailments

tuberosetears · 2021-11-29T11:58:48+00:00

Even though I'm not as hard on man's appearance as a dealbreaker as most women here, the second a girl says that one of her requirements is that the dude has a 6-pack and good hair, LVM absolutely lose their shit.

YOU'RE BODY-SHAMING MEN! DO THEY NOT REALISE HOW HYPOCRITICAL THIS IS?! HOW DARE A WOMAN EXPRESS PREFERENCES THAT I DON'T HAVE THE WILLPOWER TO MEET IN THE FIRST PLACE

Like, buddy. We're women. Our appearance starts being criticized and controlled before we even know we're alive. The roles are not being reversed. That's how life is for us. You just experienced it for 2 seconds and couldn't handle it.

Edit: I saw some male pissing and moaning to my comment saying that women can't meet his weight standards either and I didn't read the rest. My dude, my guy, my man..... I asked my ex to lose weight (he didn't). I am thin. I can't speak for all women but I know that before I ask/request something from my partner I make sure I meet that standard first.

NoodleEmpress · 2021-11-29T16:19:10+00:00

Yeah, I run into this all the time especially here at uni. I usually muster up the courage to look them straight in the eye and say something like "Yes, I'm aware. And I talk about those instances too. This isn't the time for that. If YOU actually cared you wouldn't be bringing it up right now"

Usually they try to argue back "wElL wHy Can'tt wE tAlK aBoUt iT rIgHT NoW??"

Because it's derailing!! But by then I know that the conversation isn't worth having anymore because they just revealed to me right then that they didn't want to talk about the main point anymore and I cut it short.

Protect your energy ladies.

In terms of FDS, these aren't the type of men you want to deal with anyway because that indicates that they def about women's issues nor issues concerning themselves either. NEXT

Zurflu · 2021-11-29T14:43:26+00:00

If MEn aNd WAHmen arE EQUAL 🤔, doES thaT mean I CaN PUNCH YOU IN THE FACE 😍👊?????

scooter_se · 2021-11-29T19:56:06+00:00

I like to cut em off and finish their sentence with what they should’ve said. For example, if there’s a post or whatever about a woman is hitting a man (for whatever reason) other men LOVE to say “oh well if it was a man hitting a woman-“ and I like to cut in with “nothing would happen to him and the woman would be left beaten, ashamed, and isolated? You’re right, domestic violence against women is an epidemic responsible for millions of injuries and deaths. A majority of perpetrators get away with zero consequences. Thank you for bringing that up.” It makes it harder for them to be like “oh no I actually meant i think it’s easier to be a woman in violent situations.”

Other examples: “If it was a man raping a woman-“ “no one would care and it would statistically go unreported and unpunished because less than 1% of rapists ever see jail time? I agree, it is bad to be the victim of sexual violence as the justice system currently seems to protect rapists while punishing victims. Very astute observation, thank you for sharing.”

“Oh so women are allowed to punch us in the face but men-“ “are already punching women and getting away with it? Because 4 American women die every day from intimate partner violence? Good point, the violence against vulnerable populations needs to end. That is very enlightening and insightful of you.”

“Oh well if a woman was sleeping around the office she-“ “would be viciously slut shamed, degraded, and iced out until the work environment is so toxic that quitting is the only viable option? And she would likely have to change careers or move because word spreads in the local industry and no one wants to hire a “whore?” Yeah that would be terrible for her, but it also sucks that that guy got written up by HR once for dating 3 women at work at the same time and manipulating them into fighting at work. Thanks for sharing!”

saint-jezebel · 2021-11-29T19:56:31+00:00

The Netflix thread was a good example of this. Men are allowed to lie time and time again to women, even when they lie to themselves and want us to believe the lie, but when it comes to women and lying, it’s psychotic and unforgivable.

Men only care about role reversal when they don’t benefit.

Look at when women use their sexuality to get what they want. I’m not talking sexual, I’m talking when you know being a woman can get you what you want faster i.e work. I asked for something at work that wound up having the whole office benefit because we got upgrades. The men didn’t say anything. Then I asked for something else, which would only benefit me 🤷🏾‍♀️ and all of a sudden, we all know why I got favored and blamed at the same time. The men said when they asked for the same thing they got looked at and ignored but I got a yes. I asked when I knew I would get a yes, fully dressed with the button of my blouse buttoned to the the top.

I’ve even had men ask why can’t they use their sexuality to get what they want. My response was it’s called sexual harassment and rape and well….

aquietsword · 2021-11-29T21:28:12+00:00

Fucking. Yes. They are so blind and stupid I'm completely over it.

Classy_Bunny · 2021-11-29T16:50:51+00:00

It's always the same with these scrotes. They love playing the victim, but it's more than that. "Look, men suffer too in x and y way, but I'm too lazy to do anything about it so could you please stop your activism for women cause it makes me look lazy k thx." They want to keep the bar as low as possible so they can just keep complaining about it without having to do any of the efforts needed to change their own situation.

Sweetlikecream · 2021-12-01T10:47:30+00:00

Omg yes. I remember one some guy who I was talking to bought up the whole chris brown situation and was telling me how Chris brown wasn't in the wrong because Rihanna hit him first. I was then but how about Karrueche? There was evidence he abused her first. Then he was like well, women lie and how Karrueche was just lying and bitter. Then he was like "women talk about equality a lot these days, so if a man punches a women, she would should be hit too" he said it so proudly aswell 🤮🤮 that low life scum also coerced me into sex. The red flags are always there

Title	Question: have you experienced men saying, "If the genders were reversed..." and you were deadpan because it in fact occurs reversed and often?
Author	Softrito
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Date	November 29, 2021 10:53 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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