They ALWAYS come back

riseaboveagain · 2020-02-01T19:07:48+00:00

Just got a FB message yesterday with a “funny” bj meme from a long-ago boyfriend. For fuck’s sake!!!

Deleted, blocked, goodbye forever!

And thank you, FDS, for giving me the power to do this with a laugh.

vowelsareimportant · 2020-02-01T20:51:24+00:00

It’s not like they come back because they did therapy and read a bunch of self help books and figured out what their issues were. They are just lonely and I don’t care.

7_0f_9 · 2020-02-01T17:43:41+00:00

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Ms_Tilly · 2020-02-01T19:37:08+00:00

It's so true. Same thing has happened to me repeatedly. The last one was someone I dated in 2002, who lived in another state, and was trying to fly out and see me. I wasn't interested and had to block since he went on a rant about his ex wife and how women always screw men over lol.

gursky0 · 2020-02-01T20:16:42+00:00

Last time I checked, LinkedIn isn’t a dating site. You could report him for that, you know.

Tatpixie13 · 2020-02-02T00:47:26+00:00

👏Amen👏 Every guy I’ve dated, talked to,or even slightly expressed interest, came back. Even the ones that cheated and claimed they were “leveling-up” came crawling back. I took exactly 0 of them back. HVW shit!

jackofhearts23 · 2020-02-01T17:54:15+00:00

But in what capacity though? I’m not sure if “they always come back” is said as a brag or motivation or what. In my case, they always come back but only because I’ve said yes to them before. And it’s usually when they are lonely, bored, etc. Men are like depression era children in that they don’t let go of the leftovers (past flings) and they boomerang back when it suits them. This usually is more destructive to me than if they just stayed away....

sugaredberry · 2020-02-01T20:04:19+00:00

Yeah, they kind of do. One man in particular who really broke my heart, I just took him off my contacts list, not block, cos I knew he’d come back. When he came back, I told him in a civil manner I was absolutely not even interested in friendship and wished him well, he asked why I didn’t just block him. I guess I’ve been using FDS rules since before I found this place but I didn’t dare tell him I didn’t block cos I knew he’d be back. Let him keep repeating those mistakes lol

CSardothien_1 · 2020-02-01T20:11:39+00:00

Boys are like rubber bands; they can stretch and stretch and stretch, but at some point they come snapping back with a bite.

jeanneeebeanneee · 2020-02-01T22:22:22+00:00

I had an ex who messaged me when I changed my facebook status to "engaged" to tell me how sorry he was about how he treated me when we were together (he was a compulsive liar who cheated on me at least once) and how he was in therapy now and a changed man, he regrets losing me, yadda yadda. I mean that's nice and all, but he never would have said any of that if my status change hadn't scrolled across his feed.

I honestly just think he wanted to remind me of how bad he made me feel, and make himself feel like a hero for copping to being such a shithead. I blocked him. (I'm divorced now, so that's a whole other story lol)

7_0f_9 · 2020-02-01T23:15:24+00:00

Yeah it's pathetic. It's like they think if they wait long enough you will forget what they did.

quietmirth · 2020-02-01T22:58:49+00:00

Don’t they always. I dated a guy in 2012 and he showed up in my pms trying to relate over a family member/coworkers death at the end of last year. Boy, you still got a gf! Anytime one of the oldies shows up I think “must be trouble at home”.

liteParticleDuolity · 2020-02-02T00:40:45+00:00

This is so true. Happened to me with every single ex.

Funny enough, my last ex (who I have not spoken to for the past 6 months) sent me a message a few days ago telling me that he hopes I am doing well at my university and with my new relationship.

Lol, the fuck? So unnecessary and unwanted. Responded with silence. Don’t give them the validation they’re looking for!

YveisGrey · 2020-02-02T05:53:19+00:00

Honestly 80% of the time they do this its because they are lonely and horny. I don’t take it seriously.

curlygirl507 · 2020-02-01T18:15:35+00:00

Btw, where did the phrase "slide into your DMs" even come from? Sounds like a male euphemism.

___whvtever___ · 2020-02-02T00:36:28+00:00

Every single guy I’ve ever dated has always come back. Whether it be days, weeks, or months. And they ALWAYS come back multiple times!! It’s insane!!

Uglyoldncranky1982 · 2020-02-02T01:02:17+00:00

Eh, I don't know about that. It's only happened to me twice that I can think of. I get guys do this, but I wouldn't say they always come back.

CyanCayenne · 2020-02-02T04:57:19+00:00

An ex emailed me to say hi and show me pictures of his new girlfriend. Like why, to make me jealous? I just felt sorry for her.

noodspoon · 2020-02-02T01:59:03+00:00

Some guy I dated in 2012 hit me up.. offered to take me to Dave & Busters like excuse me sir, we’re still not 23.

ldid · 2020-02-02T05:46:52+00:00

Guy ditched out on our plans, we were dating for a few months. I cut it off after that and 7 months later he emails me and texts me the exact same message (assuming I don't reply to him because I changed my number or something) asking me to go for a "friendly coffee." I said "thanks for the offer but I am going to have to pass" and cut it off again. THEY ALWAYS COME BACK AS IF THEY NEVER DID ANYTHING WRONG.

randomyellowumbrella · 2020-02-01T23:30:14+00:00

Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen ladies

Title	They ALWAYS come back
Author	KickKathleeenKennedy
Upvotes	205
Comments	57
Date	February 1, 2020 5:38 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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