Okay so, let me start by saying that I'm not putting effort into getting with this guy and I won't, but I want to hear you queen's opinions. I'm confused.

We've been friends for about 8 years but we weren't always close. Sometimes we would talk regularly and later stop talking for 6 months no questions asked. So he wasn't a "omg best guy frienddd" or anything, he was sorta there.

This is actually something he said he likes, like how I never pressured him into talking to me everyday and we could speak like nothing happened after months passed. Yea, I didn't exactly give a shit about him. That was why lmao.

We didn't see each other face to face for years until that changed. There were some points he was practically worshipping me , talking about how great I am and how smart I am (he really is impressed by brains, it's not a lie or anything)

There were also times we were so blatantly flirting. So what happens? We keep going back and forth. One day I'm a queen, the next day I'm just a friend.

Here's an important detail: We live in a conservative culture. I refuse to have sex before marriage and he knows that. So I can't really say "Oh he was just after sex" because that would be fucking weird.

I haven't even mentioned that one time we were like "Oh if we're single at 30 we will get married." We were fucking planning our life lmao. And then he jokingly says "We will go to a strip club together" Like dude... Please go die.

One last detail I wanna mention is my father. He found out I was meeting him and forbid me from doing it. He doesn't believe men and women can be friends so... You get the point.

So I'm just trying to figure out his hot and cold behavior. It can't be for sex because I won't do it, it can't be for love because he's practically unavailable emotionally. He keeps bashing relationships and love saying it's too much stress.

There were times where I doubted if I was just someone on his rotation or something but he even showed me his messages with other girls without me fucking asking and he's sensitive about privacy. I was really surprised. It felt like he was trying to gain my trust that day. He always talks about his other girlfriends like they're just there and I know it's true because one of them literally gave an attitude cuz he didn't give a shit about her. His friend said this so I know it's %100 true.

Soo... Anyways, I just want to figure out what the fuck his deal is. Any opinions? Honestly I don't mind staying friends but this ambiguity stresses me out. These days we are very distant, I don't know if it's because of my dad or something I did. God, men are draining.