Social change takes a very long time but it never starts with just one person deciding to be their own person or go against the grain of society because it's foolish you wouldn't see children get bullied mercilessly if that was the case.

Humans are a social species and it is our greatest strength and also our greatest downfall because if you are Not what your social tribe considers to be normal you will be made fun of put down and ostracized and evolutionarily that usually meant death. It's probably the biggest reason why we do conform to each other so much even subconsciously. picking up your tribes mannerisms how they dress how they speak their ideology et cetera.

We are social species which made us survive against the harshness of nature for thousands of years but it's also the cause of every single human tragedy.

But something that I don't like when feminists use this rhetoric is like they almost get amnesia about not just feminist history but all history with any social group that's trying to get acceptance or trying to change society.

it's never just one person deciding to be themselves you actually need to change society.

I'm going to speak from my experience as a black man and African American history. America as a nation is about 250 years old black people were enslaved for about 200 years with another hundred years of Jim Crow afterward.

Post 1964 it's been maybe sixty years were black people on paper are finally equal citizens and even then we still know there's tons of biases that plague black people. It took literally centuries and an entire civil rights movement to make that change and it wasn't just black people it was all of America

My problem with feminists is like it's like they want to play dumb but also it gives them an easy excuse to not look at their own biases and maybe how they treat men. sometimes I wish every feminist would actually practice what they preach especially about really digging deep and analyzing how they think about the opposite gender because it's absolutely no different than what they think men do to women.

it's just a lazy rhetorical argument to say that men just need to start their own movement because yes men have already done that but it will take all of society including women.

And to be frank we all know it is mostly American women that need to do this introspection we have had the last 60 years plus of feminist ideology to the point where men literally have made a great change historically when it comes to thinking about women, appreciating women, respecting women. I don't understand why feminists don't want to do the same with men and I think that's because they will have to realize their own ideology has a lot of holes in it and dare I say contradictions and hypocrisies.

I can't help but imagine like literally in the middle of the civil rights movement a white person telling a black person to stop complaining and to just make their own movement, But that same white person complaining that the movement is disrupting their day which really means it's making them think more critically than normal.

And you can imagine the craziness of it because it's just a bad rhetorical argument.

It's the same with feminist ideas about trauma dumping and emotional intelligence.

men were told for years by feminists that it was OK to open up and that they wanted men to open up more now the narrative has changed is that men trauma dump.

as I get older its hard for me to have empathy and to be on feminist side because when I was a young man I foolishly thought because they analyzed gender they would understand my plight as a young black man that was not a stereotype but I had a very rude awakening.

feminists will say that it's about equality and tearing down patriarchy for everybody but clearly it's not