Any childfree guys here

Roamer56 · 2025-09-17T19:00:19+00:00

Im 25 years ahead of u and stayed single and childfree. I don’t regret it one bit. In my workplace everyone is worried about layoffs.

I’m not. That speaks for itself.

Ok-Manufacturer-7842 · 2025-09-17T18:58:27+00:00

My eldest son was born handicapped. I’ve had to devote the last ten years to his disability. I don’t even know what I want and who I am anymore. I’m now my wifes lowest priority too. Not what I imagined it to be.

Do not recommend..

SmirkingSeal · 2025-09-17T18:55:42+00:00

40+ never planned to, never will.

rusty083 · 2025-09-17T23:36:21+00:00

I have 3. It’s challenging and hard, but it’s the greatest thing ever. They’ve done social experiments where they ask random people walking dogs if they would sell their dog for a million bucks. No one agrees. With children magnify that feeling by a million. There’s no amount of money or personal freedom that can compare to the love bond of your own children.

No-Specialist4150 · 2025-09-17T18:52:25+00:00

I m same age & never having kids. In my case one of the factors why my marriage ended was my decision to stay child free.

Do i regret my choice, definately no. If you are happy with urself & your decision u will be fine. I have never liked babies or kids ( i m not a psychopath, i do love dogs & other animals & do find them cute).

Do what you like, dont make life decisions to make others happy instead do things that make u happy. Are my friends & family disappointed in me yes, do care what they think... No. Some ppl would say we r being selfish but atleast we know what we want, most ppl have no clue.

Mean-Significance963 · 2025-09-17T19:25:39+00:00

Have I regretted having kids.

Not even for a second, My kids are 20 and 18 and i'd consider having another two if It was a viable option, But if I don't, the ones I've got will do just fine

Good luck, whatever you choose

BoredDevBO · 2025-09-17T19:15:35+00:00

I've seen a pretty interesting pattern for childfree dudes.

If you don't really care and don't give it a second thought ever, you most likely won't care later on.

However, if you have questions about the future and think you might change your mind later, issues tend to flare up later rather than sooner which makes it a bit troublesome to mend up.

See which one you are, and make your mind around that possibilities.

snakel29 · 2025-09-17T19:43:09+00:00

I'm 39 and I have two girls aged 7 and 3, I don't regret it at all, it's a kind of love that you'll never experience without kids. They have given me a purpose in life.

That being said, you've gotta do what's right for you, if you don't want kids, you don't want kids. Not everyone is up for being a parent.

Better to not have kids than to resent them if you do.

Good luck either way mate, I hope things work out with your missus.

Acousmetre78 · 2025-09-17T20:07:20+00:00

I’m 46 and child free

phuk-nugget · 2025-09-17T19:40:22+00:00

If you’re 36 and you feel this way I highly suggest a vasectomy

swissyfit · 2025-09-17T19:56:43+00:00

My 2 boys are the best thing that ever happened to me . My 2 ex wives are the worst 2 things that ever happened to me.

Ying and Yang

BookwormNinja · 2025-09-17T20:15:49+00:00

Female childfree person here. There are lots of us, OP. If you mention that you don't want kids, some girls will be thrilled.

Background_Court7318 · 2025-09-17T20:00:05+00:00

Trust me, not having kids saves you a lot of stress and money. Unfortunately, this will be a deal breaker for many women. But that’s okay, live your best life.

doglover-750 · 2025-09-19T06:09:50+00:00

Yup me it’s better to regret not having kids than to have them and regret it

Mightymouse13851 · 2025-09-17T20:29:34+00:00

2 kids. 15 years marriage, now divorced. Eldest is 13. She took them from me. I only see them 2.5 days out of the week. If something can be taken from me, it was never mine to begin with. Didn’t want kids prior to marriage, felt world was cruel and felt guilty about bringing a life into this abyss. I love them to death BUT sometimes I wonder….

FakeChowNumNum1 · 2025-09-17T19:07:21+00:00

I was in a similar situation. In my thirties and pretty certain I didn't want kids but I knew that my girlfriend really wanted kids and it wasn't going to last if we wanted different things. We ended up getting married and having a child and it has made me happier and more fulfilled than I ever was without them.

I'm not saying you need to change your convictions or this is the better path for everyone, but having my kid is the only real thing that matters to me and has enriched every aspect of my life. I couldn't imagine how unfortunate it would have been if I would have never had that.

Delicious-Search7539 · 2025-09-18T02:45:05+00:00

40+ late marriage have only one kid... But looking for 3 more...!! Wish I had married early... I wud have had 4 kids now for sure ..!

stinkydogusa · 2025-09-18T14:51:44+00:00

I was until my mid 30s. Now I have 5 and it’s awesome. To each their own.

HypnoWyzard · 2025-09-18T17:12:56+00:00

Yep, 48 and I will be last of my line. I don't count my sister's kids.

Adventurous-Bee8971 · 2025-09-18T22:14:50+00:00

18 now. Decided to be child free when I was 12. With time, my decision has only strengthened

Jelooboi · 2025-09-19T22:13:02+00:00

Child free is a coping mechanism made up by people who could not secure a mate and produce offspring. From an evolutionary standpoint you are considered a loser.

63daddy · 2025-09-17T20:26:27+00:00

Never had kids and no regrets. I wish I’d gotten a vasectomy sooner than I did.

Wpns_Grade · 2025-09-17T20:15:47+00:00

Will be 28 when child arrives this upcoming April. Having a child due to birth control failure.

Web dev making 70k a year. I’m terrified brother.

CaptMixTape · 2025-09-17T20:20:04+00:00

51, no kids, no regrets. It’s kinda cathartic knowing once I’m gone I have nothing to worry about being left behind. Let’s be honest, the world is pretty messed up and I don’t see any solutions coming anytime soon.

OnlyCommentWhenTipsy · 2025-09-17T19:36:21+00:00

Yep, marriage failed before kids, now in my 40s that ship has sailed. And with the cost of living crisis, and everything else parents have to deal with these days, I'm actually glad it worked out that way.

fartingrocket · 2025-09-17T20:11:21+00:00

I’m 36 too, and I’ve always had a rather bleak outlook on the future.

I won’t deny that I’ve sometimes romanticized the idea of having a child or two and dedicating my life to their happiness, but in that vision I’m not working and my life is very stable. Reality always brings me back down.

tilldeathdoiparty · 2025-09-17T21:21:33+00:00

I only know guys who have regretted the woman they had the kid, but love the kid to absolute death.

I’m 42, and my clock is ticking but I haven’t fully ruled it out, but it would be a byproduct of a rock solid relationship and there would be no deviating from that

michaelpaoli · 2025-09-18T04:49:11+00:00

Any childfree guys here

Yup.

pretty positive

Well, when you're sure get the snip, and tested, and confirmed sterile. That'll cut way back on the ones that think/hope they'll get you to change your mind - even if they have no interest in telling you that's their intent, or they may try to babytrap you - even sabotaging birth control, etc. So, yeah, get 'er well done. And if you've not told her, and she gets pregnant, and claims you're the daddy - then quietly lawyer up, but other than that mostly relax, and be planning to dump her cold, hard, and fast - at least at the appropriate time.

Its actually gonna lead to me and my girlfriend splitting

Then do it and move past it - less time wasted with someone you're not compatible with. Life is short, spend it with more suitable for you.

Yamcha-is-Life · 2025-09-17T20:23:46+00:00

35, just told my gf I don't think its a good idea and I don't intend on having any. I want to retire early and enjoy life. All my friends who have kids/are married are miserable. I'm not. 🤷‍♂️

Many_Geologist6125 · 2025-09-18T01:02:11+00:00

There is nothing wrong with not having kids and then regretting it.

You will get over it. Trust me.

There is plenty to do in life.

CKHiD_or_DIE · 2025-09-18T03:48:48+00:00

I dont regret kids but it's a lot of work if the woman isn't properly aligned. The kid is nothing. It's taking care of another grown adult who likely can't control their emotions, has no achievements with their life before you to stabilize themself, that's going to be the most stress for men. Get your money first. And only allow yourself to have a child with woman who can add to what you have my suggestion.

How do you know who that is? Ask her "what did you dedicate the last XX years of your life to be stable today and match me??"

dudester3 · 2025-09-18T07:29:40+00:00

Come from big family. Married 2X. Biggest hassle was dealing with bitter ex; but necessary to have 2 daughters. Kids are not pets, but seems today they're replacing children. Children can be a comfort in old age...

Eyes wide open.

Cloxxki · 2025-09-18T10:50:10+00:00

Many made that decision and came back on it when they got a woman they'd actually want to raise kids with.
Decisions are temporary. Women very quickly age out from coming back on that decision, men have no time limit.
Present a happily childless 55 yo prime specimen male with a sweet young woman who'd trust to raise any kids, and he'll start to see the benefits to having someone to leave his kingdom to.

If you don't see yourself wanting to be parents together with her when she does wish kids, might as well set her loose and find a man who will. I'd done that when I was fine being with someone, but saw something unchangeable keeping it temporary.

xXZer0c0oLXx · 2025-09-18T10:55:59+00:00

Bro I'm going to tell you right now...if your girl wants a kid then you unfortunately need to break up. Speaking from experience as I never wanted kids but dated some who did...it never works out. Luckily I'm dating someone who doesn't want them.

Neverland__ · 2025-09-18T11:27:20+00:00

If your gf is also your age you gotta tell her bro. If she wants kids you’re unfortunately wasting her prime dating years to find someone who wants that

It’s only fair

I also don’t want kids fwiw 33M although not 100% decided

SnooGiraffes449 · 2025-09-18T20:20:35+00:00

I (35m) was always on the fence about it. I have had several serious conversations about it with my wife (31f) about it recently. We have decided to not have kids, and just to enjoy our lives.

KnownTemporary8135 · 2025-09-19T00:06:20+00:00

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fatogato · 2025-09-19T03:47:39+00:00

Mid thirties here and living it up. Thankful that the gf does not want kids either.

Miles-Standoffish · 2025-09-19T04:18:39+00:00

I'm 55 years old, and have two kids under 15 years. I'm an older dad and hadn't been married they long before my wife got pregnant, so when my 1st child was born, I didn't know how to feel or how to react to the GIANT change it made to my life.

After several weeks, my child started to notice me, smiling, cooing, and laughing. After that, nothing in this world feels better than the love of my kids. I'm already thinking how bad i will miss them once they become adults and move out!

Reasonable-Recipe352 · 2025-09-19T05:20:21+00:00

What's the point in having kids, especially male. Look how the world will shit on them.

Magical-Hummus · 2025-09-19T08:51:18+00:00

If you ever want a child, just adopt. Take your time.

Banake · 2025-09-19T11:06:30+00:00

Present.

Ru88erduck · 2025-09-20T10:33:27+00:00

I found a wonderful woman with a child from another relationship. I don't want my own kids. So this is alright. 38M

Bitter-Blueberry-928 · 2025-09-21T18:04:15+00:00

I regret the incentives the powerful lobbyists give women to create more fatherless families. Most of those lobbyists are men.

No I do not regret my intention and follow through as a great father. I’m just sorry for the decisions I am now faced with, as the choice to destroy was not mine.

Cyclonechaser2908 · 2025-09-17T20:57:32+00:00

I’m 18 and have already decided no, and even if I do, at a later age. I at least want to have a house, car, and good job.

It’s not that I think they are a waste of time, but I just don’t like kids. And I don’t want a relationship, people spend wayyyyy too much time trying to make relationships work, I’m fine being single, and I feel as if it’s better for me, and any potential matches, that way

Aedrian87 · 2025-09-17T21:43:00+00:00

Now that I'm aging, I am glad I never had kids. I always told myself, if I really wanted, I would adopt, lots of kids needs home, I don't need to be genetically related to someone to make them a place in my family.

Turns out, it was a fantastic idea. I haven't formally adopted any, but I have helped a few older kids succeed in the world, because sadly, very few people adopt 8+ year olds, and their outlook in life is pretty dire due to not having any family or built-in support structures.

As I mentioned in another comment, having kids doesn't guarantee you won't end up alone and abandoned, and puts a lot at risk. And it is best not to have any, regret it and adopting, than having one and regretting it.

Foster homes are full of the second example.

MrRetrdO · 2025-09-17T22:50:54+00:00

Mid-50s, Single, and child free.

Sometimes I think about dating seriously again. Maybe having kids too.

But then I look at my paycheck. Look at whats in the bank & invested. Look at all the free time I have to myself to do whatever the fuck I want when I want and then I'm like "Nah, I'll pass"

AlexSpoon3 · 2025-09-17T19:56:46+00:00

I'm 46 and never had a child. I don't recall minding at all in my 20s and 30s, nor having any second thoughts until a few years ago.

Something though changed recently and I started wondering about the value of my life (maybe because of a game I've played). When I've stayed present-oriented, I've managed to think that just being alive is enough. But when I think about the future, I've started to doubt that just being alive is enough. We all will die someday. What value does one's life for people in the future if that someone mostly just focused on their own self?

Now maybe you have great talents, interest, and time to do something that provides a lot of value to others or to your friends and family. There existed a lot of philosophers like Spionza who were single throughout their lives and left behind writing people today still consider important. Beethoven never had children, nor did Nikola Tesla. One could even say that he follows Jesus Christ's example by not having children.

But that all said, evolution doesn't really care about any of that. It would be fair to say that you end up a dead end if you never have children. If Nature thinks, as Spinoza thought, perhaps Nature will just go on about it's way without you having an influence if you never have any children. Nature might think "just some other man who won't have children. May as well refocus my attention on those who do have children."

Also, I use to go to the anti-natalist subreddit, since I read some book and it seemed like an interesting philosophical position. But, unfortunately, I found a lot of talk there that seemed more like disliking other people for the "fun" of it than something serious. I also once saw someone tell someone else that he should have never been born. Though such a person was/is a griefer in a game, I finally realized that though being childfree can be fine for some, that telling someone he should never have been born sounds more condemning that such a person should "ride the bus". Telling someone else that he or she should be childfree isn't just hateful, it also suggests such a person has no value to the future of humanity. Some associations that childfree has seem rather unfortunate.

So, I'm not trying to say that you shouldn't have children. But, my advice consists in that you try to appreciate those who do have children. Whatever human future will happen, it depends on those who have children and care for children.

Personally speaking though, I don't think I could handle having children. And if you don't want to do something, unless you grew up a certain way I think, you probably couldn't do that something unless you feel compelled to do so.

Good luck. And when in doubt, take things slower than faster.

OriginalMoose5086 · 2025-09-17T21:08:42+00:00

M31 here. When i was 18 years old i already knew i never wanted to have kids, and that hasn't changed one bit, nor will it ever.

Joey3155 · 2025-09-17T21:15:01+00:00

40 here. So I did want them when I was younger but dealing with my nephew confirmed for me I lack the patience and personality. So in a way the man above did me a favor by keeping me single. Saved me a whole lot of aggrevation in many areas.

This-Top7398 · 2025-09-17T21:32:11+00:00

36 here. Never. I gotta vasectomy to make sure. Best decision ever

JimmyB264 · 2025-09-17T21:41:54+00:00

I don’t regret not having kids. I love kids and am godfather to several of my friends kids. It’s the best role ever.

I get to take them places, buy them all kinds of cool stuff, share their confidences and offer advice. In some situations this can really take the heat off the parents.

When the kids were little it was understood that if mom and or dad needed a break I was only a phone call away.

It takes a village and I’m part of it. Do I regret not having my own? Not on your life.

Charybd1ss · 2025-09-17T23:16:42+00:00

hello there

tasteless · 2025-09-18T06:12:53+00:00

Got snipped at 28.

YetAnotherCommenter · 2025-09-18T07:37:04+00:00

Childfree myself.

I know I'm not a family man, so kids aren't for me.

Alert_Swordfish8711 · 2025-09-18T08:01:48+00:00

Never wanted to have any

Sunburys · 2025-09-18T08:39:57+00:00

I see zero reasons to have kids

DonDamondo · 2025-09-18T08:53:24+00:00

30 and I never plan to either. I have 2 nephews and one niece and I love them but I couldn't deal with them 24 hours a day, 365 days a year so I don't think it would be fair on kids if I don't think I could handle it.

IaMtHel00phole · 2025-09-17T23:07:04+00:00

I am child free. Made the decision to not have kids at a very young age. No one believed me. It makes finding a partner hard. But I will not settle. Stay strong and stay child free. In regards to your girlfriend if the children thing is going to end your relationship just end it now. No reason to string it along.

Less-Risk-9358 · 2025-09-18T00:49:49+00:00

I am in my late thirties- no kids for me. Definitely not in the USA. Lost many girlfriends because I do not want kids and do not want to cohabitate. I have witnessed too many men from near and far get completely destroyed with their attempts to be fathers.

A drama free life is the only life I care to know. If you truly like and respect yourself, all the trappings of a "normal straight male life" (especially children and marriage) are best avoided these days.

empireofadhd · 2025-10-12T22:10:33+00:00

41, want them but too old now. I’ve never had a gf etc so starting a family now or even dating is impossible.

bmihlfeith · 2025-09-17T20:52:05+00:00

I feel so bad for these guys who’ve never had kids, won’t, or can’t…..your life, do what you want…..it’s just sad knowing what they’re missing. And had I never had kids I’d be saying the daft same thing. And some people maybe shouldn’t be fathers. But you don’t get it until you get it. You don’t know what you don’t know.

That said, imagine how much you love your dog, or love your brother, parent…..now times that by about 1000 and you’re getting close to the love you’ll have for your children. As a single man I would never have believed what I’m saying now, that’s the tragedy.

I even went through a brutal divorce, accused of every vile thing you can imagine, didn’t see my kids for a year, etc….got joint custody and equal parenting time and kept my house.

I’d do it all over again. I have two kids. I tell my son there’s nothing like being a father and I hope he has a family someday. I also educate him about the risks and how to mitigate them (don’t involve the government for starters.)

It’s so sad to see this young generation get fucked over so badly by the economy that just that issue keeps so many from having kids.

I get it, my house was $180k, mortgage is $1350/month…..it’s worth abut $550k today, and I couldn’t afford to buy it. Damn, things need to change.

Learningmore1231 · 2025-09-17T20:31:20+00:00

Enjoy a nursing home and hardly anyone that cares about you in old age I guess

Icy-Friendship1163 · 2025-09-17T19:26:39+00:00

I regret not snipping at 18.

PastDifficulty7 · 2025-09-17T21:17:18+00:00

I love that you are getting a wide variety of perspectives here. I’ll offer my own.

I am happily child-free at 40. My wife wanted kids, but it didn’t work out that way. And, today, I am so thankful that I never had kids. I suffer from ADHD burnout working a regular 9-5; there’s no fucking way that I have the capacity to raise kids. This is just another area where people with ADHD or Autism need to be aware that ‘normal’ life advice might not apply to us. We can be great parents, but the cost is going to be greater than what other people experience.

The_0bserver · 2025-09-17T23:50:51+00:00

Kinda. Its a dead bedroom scenario. I told my wife, if she wants a kid she's gonna have to work for that, she'll have to initiate and get me going.

So, it's at a limbo. She still has the choice. Will see where it leads me.

i1045 · 2025-09-17T23:51:03+00:00

I always expected to have a family... it just didn't happen. Sure, there are days I regret it, but mostly I'm okay with it. I can do what I want, when I want

credditreddit · 2025-09-18T11:31:39+00:00

Check out /r/regretfulparents

PMC_FrontLines · 2025-09-18T11:44:25+00:00

https://discord.gg/9G3tBf4M - a discord for MRAs who want to get shit done.

GeneralKenobi6852 · 2025-09-18T13:33:50+00:00

I don't want children. Unfortunately, every childfree woman I've met is a leftist and I'm not getting anywhere near that as someone with more conservative values.

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