My mother hates (& is terrified by) bugs. If she saw a roach or grasshopper or cricket in the house, you would think a Sabre-toothed tiger jumped out of the closet. What happens next? I or my father or my brother would race into the room & (kill &/or) dispose of the insect. We took it seriously & responded immediately because we wanted mom to be comfortable; to FEEL “safe”. . .but we never adopted the idea that her life was legitimately in danger from a cricket. In fact, we joke about it all the time with her; even right after “rescuing” her.

Let’s be clear: Civilization will never exist in this system without violence where all humans are sincerely ”safe” 100% of the time (for all the goofies waiting to comment, “🥴WeLL, mEn AiN’t mAkiNg sUrE wOmEn aCtUaLLy “ARE” sAfE eiThEr🥴”). The overwhelming majority of men do not harm women. The overwhelming majority of men do not allow other men to harm women in their presence. The overwhelming majority of men do things all throughout their lives that contribute to the safety & security of women. . .

. . .but men (YOU!) are under no obligation to ensure every woman on the planet FEELS safe & perfectly comfortable in every experience in every environment in every endeavor. I chose whether or not to kill the bug for my mom, but I was NEVER under any pressure to adopt the delusion that she was ever actually “unsafe”. The absurdity & arrogance of modern women criticizing every unintentional ‘behavioral inflection’ they reinstitute as a misogynistic microagression: From the way you look at them to the way you look past them to the way you avoid them to the way you approach them to the way you approach avoiding them to the way you DM them to the way you don’t respond t o their DMs to the way you get their attention b/c they dropped something to the way you get their attention b/c someone else is trying to get their attention to the way you get their attention b/c their about to step in a hole or in front of a car or under a ladder, etc etc etc. It is not your duty to ensure you make the 4Billion humans on planet earth who were born with vaginas have a great day everyday. You do have an inherent duty to ensure you aren’t making them have a “bad” day. . .but those 2 things are wildly different.

Think that’s weird? or toxic? or misogynistic? Tell me ONE thing women collectively do, in public, to ensure they don’t offend random men or make any man uncomfortable?

Just one thing. . .

Just one. . .