Women need security like men need sex. I believe it’s constructive to understand the source of this. Much of my anger phase was based in misunderstanding of women’s base nature. And much of the anger phase that gets pointed at women is not anger but fear. So perhaps this helps some guys or at worst they just shrug this information off as self-evident.

 

Comfort tests – will this dude abandon me?

Shit tests – If he can’t handle me big evil dudes will kill him and get me thus he is not safe.

Branch swinging – To be alone is to be abandoned, line up next dude before leaving current bf.

Indirect Communication – Exposure can lead to rejection. Rejection is akin to abandonment.

Kill the puppy – I need security so much that I’ll nuke your shit because I can’t possibly break it off myself.

 

Which is how we get women that say this - ‘I slept with Chad because you weren’t paying enough attention to me.’ Translation is I felt abandoned so I went on to find security in another dude’s dick.

 

That fear of abandonment is why dread works so well for MRP in the short term and works terribly in the long term. It makes sense woman's public image is so closely protected, why N count won't ever be accurate, why beta orbiters are a thing and why ghosting has such strong reactions from women. All of these pieces seem to be about abandonment. So if men are offended by sexual rejection, women are equally offended by abandonment.

 

And that abandonment is the cornerstone of daddy issues.

 

Daddy issues is just the summary of a woman that needs extremely high amounts of security. They are far more flighty or prone to start shit than women with present fathers. If the father was present and didn't provide much comfort, anxiety issues seem to be elevated.

 

What does that mean for men? Daddy issues really has to deal with how much work and comfort a woman will need in conflict to how much value she’s actually exchanging with the dude she’s with. Let’s just call it Anxiety Burdened Value in a relationship.

 

ABV is a subtraction to RMV. Because nature sucks, it’s worse. Not only is it more work for the guy, it’s also ‘pays less’. Far less. If a girl is all locked up from anxiety she is most likely unable to meet a dude’s needs. So not only is she impossible to please due to anxiety, she is only minimally able to participate in the way that is constructive to men.

 

So the spectrum goes from ‘where have all the good men gone’ to ‘do you still love me’ comfort tests every 10 minutes and on to ‘vaginal lock jaw’. I don’t believe it’s just a woman being a prude and her bf is just unattractive. You can’t participate in personal growth when you are always in survival mode. Or perhaps not survival mode but child mode. A woman that will say ‘you’re just using me for sex’ is hypocritically the exact woman using a man for security; due to her not being attracted to that dude.

 

This mirror effect is critical and if any dude should wonder why he needs to look attractive, this is his answer. If he isn’t attractive, he gets shit in exchange for all his marbles. Not a marble less and he gets not one benefit more. This is how you get women that dismiss men entirely. These women really price themselves out of the market when their ABV is higher than their RMV.

 

As for that mirror effect…A broken man-child is a lazy fat ass. A broken woman child is a rejecting shrew brat. And sadly they get paired together because no one else is willing to deal with their shit. The adult thing to do is for both spouses go to their respective corners and get there head straight if they want shit to succeed.

 

Anything else is just blaming the other sex for your own shortcomings and a giant indirect confirmation you’re a broken adult-child bitching about your significate other that is also an adult-child.