Does masturbation make it harder to get a boyfriend/girlfriend?

belongtomee · 2025-12-22T03:54:48+00:00

My male bestie convinced me to do one month nofap with him. No masterbating, no porn, no smut, no edits of hot guys, etc.

At first I was so smug and sure it was gonna be a breeze. By end of week 2 all the avg men around me started looking better. I spent extra time at the gym just to see all the hot buff guys. Nofap made me a thirsty creep. So in a way, it potentially made it easier for men.

Sonia314 · 2025-12-22T08:14:00+00:00

I’m so much better to date because I masterbate regularly.

I didn’t date for a decade and had kinda forgotten how sex worked on top of not being particularly good at it when I was dating, but when I finally got up the courage to start dating again I found I was much better at sex than I had been before because creative masterbation is such good practice. I continue to come up with great ideas to try in real life through masterbation that my sexual partners love.

I also have bi-polar disorder, and that cocktail of chemicals is an extremely effective treatment for depression. Not needing to rely on a man for that treatment makes me have better boundaries in dating. This is true I think to a lesser extent with everyone; not being able to orgasm without a partner makes co-dependency much more likely.

The_Forgotten001 · 2025-12-22T12:26:06+00:00

It lowers your drive, and decreases the dopamine you get from non-orgasms which leads to you not really “feeling like doing anything”

If you workout or take testosterone supplements it usually doesn’t affect you too much.

david67myers · 2025-12-22T05:09:52+00:00

All about gatekeepers and generating demand these days. A miserable person is more likely to buy than a content one.
I'd rather rub one out/blow my nose than go to the relationship casino to gamble with money/time/mental.
It's also kinder on my liver and my chances of being accused of rape, being robbed or getting divorced drops to 0.

I find the title funny, - like a question does taking a dump improve your chances of catching a fish?

NiaMiaBia · 2025-12-22T04:26:20+00:00

I’m not a man but I don’t see how the 2 are related. The guy that I see masterbates often and he has a sexy ass wife, and girlfriend.

Maleficent-Age-8235 · 2025-12-23T04:20:27+00:00

Not really. All nofap is gonna do (assuming you're a healthy individual with your hormones in check) is spike your libido to a point where people you thought were unattractive before suddenly become very desirable. I do not think this is a good thing because you're just going to bang and suddenly question wtf you were thinking.

Now If you're trying to get better about actually going after women as a guy then nofap can be useful because it makes you want to chase women harder because I have seen a lot of guys who are hungry to go out and then they jerk off to porn once that day and they decide to not.

Rule_Number_7 · 2025-12-22T03:44:39+00:00

Unless it turns into an addiction, I think you’re fine. I doubt regular masturbation is enough to keep someone from getting a relationship if they want one. If it does, good chance they don’t actually want a relationship and are happy flying solo.

Disastrous_Agent9307 · 2025-12-22T14:21:38+00:00

It can. Like all things, this depends on severity and the content consumed at what frequency.

peaceful_pastry · 2025-12-22T18:45:27+00:00

Yeah if you are a horned up slavering dork because you never let it out then yeah that could hurt your chances.

Also if you have prostate cancer that could throw a wrench in your romantic plans.

Lastly if you’re with a gal and you don’t please her because you cream your jeans that could hurt your chances for a second date.

throwaway73737828 · 2025-12-22T04:16:33+00:00

Nah not really. For women, you can do anything you want regardless, because you will always attract someone, Women are the rulers of relationships anyway. For men, you just have to provide something, look at kanye for example. He looks at porn everyday and all women still want him, because he have something to provide.

januaryphilosopher · 2025-12-22T09:01:04+00:00

Masturbation usually helps to make you less stressed, which would be helpful when trying to find a partner.

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DGenerationMC · 2025-12-22T04:02:54+00:00

I think there are things bigger at play than simply masturbating or not that can/will/do make it harder to get a partner.

So, I'd say masturbation is a symptom rather than a disease. A by-product, if will you, and, for some, what is used to fill the void.

mashedturnip · 2025-12-22T07:14:51+00:00

Depends on how sex driven you are

Substantial_Video560 · 2025-12-22T10:31:40+00:00

Never do it. Saying that I have a very low libido/sex drive.

MissParTee · 2025-12-22T13:10:06+00:00

Depends on the person, I think. And their views on masturbation. I’ve always masturbated like every other day, maybe a bit more at the times I was single. Now I’m married and I still do it. It kinda relaxes me (I don’t watch/read porn or anything spicy or something).

PuzzleheadedGrab8375 · 2025-12-23T15:00:20+00:00

I think the answer is definitely. If i wouldn’t masturbate at all i’d go crazy at some point and spent all my free time trying to get my dick wet. This is a horrible scenario in my eyes. I probably would be so desperate that i’d go for the first women who shows any interest no matter if she seems like a good match or not. This is a recipe for drama and unnecessary struggle that i can simply avoid by fapping from time to time.

Desperation helps a lot to find anyone at all. But not to find someone you actually wanna not just fuck but be with in general.

-Kalos · 2025-12-24T08:56:05+00:00

Anything that gives you cheap dopamine will affect your motivation for other things. Watching reels, food, porn, drugs, alcohol, social media

JuFufuO_o · 2025-12-28T04:10:18+00:00

No and nofap is cult especially the religious versions of it

Testosterone is rising for 4 days and then it goes back down , you start having wet dreams.

Denying yourself orgasm only makes you like dog on leash and it's often used in BDSM plays for both men and women to do things they would usually never do ( like eat cum / drink piss etc. ) because it makes you way more horny than usually and at the same time way more submissive.

Nofap normies use the "horny" mode and think it makes them more masculine or something which is not the case they just take more risks / fix their social anxiety this way.

WebNew9978 · 2025-12-22T05:08:56+00:00

Masturbation alone no. But there is a debate to as far as PMO addiction fries your dopamine receptors. Makes the idea/potential reward of trying to date or trying to have sex with someone pointless because porn fixes it

SeemedGood · 2025-12-24T01:57:01+00:00

If you are a man, yes.

It removes the urgency which impels you to become more powerful (and thereby attract women).

Title	Does masturbation make it harder to get a boyfriend/girlfriend?
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Date	December 21, 2025 11:07 PM UTC (7 months ago)
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