How do you cope with being unattractive?

nontrollingaccount · 2017-12-26T01:43:41+00:00

From personal experience:

You just need to have a mindset of "it cant get worse" I will often say or do stupid shit because I already know my social position from my looks is already dragging me down.

You need to realize no one likes you already or they dont care about you whatsoever. Once you get into that mindset you can just act weird as hell and not care.

This thinking requires a bit of swallowing the blackpill. Both the red and blue pill dont prepare you enough for being unattractive. The black pill equips you very well with the nihilism.

kfcwatermelonwarrior · 2017-12-26T00:32:23+00:00

Detatchment

Kerb_Poet · 2017-12-26T01:50:29+00:00

Surround myself with equally unattractive, sexually unsuccessful people so I don't feel weird.

Surround myself with attractive sexually successful people who actually like me and treat me as an equal so I can pretend there isn't a problem

Don't improve looks because at least I can have the vague slimmer of hope that I could be attractive if I tried

Condition myself to only jerk off to very ugly women

Look at other ugly dudes with kinda cute partners and convince myself that I won't always be on the outside looking in

Drink

Smoke

Give less than 2 shits about literally anything

Remind myself that I have the power to end this whenever I want

Escorts

passepar2t · 2017-12-26T07:15:35+00:00

Well! I have a proven 5-step program.

Abuse drugs. I used to smoke weed and sometimes snort cocaine until I discovered opioids like tramadol and morphine. Besides making me asexual, they also make me feel more blissful than any girlfriend.
Cultivating unmindfulness. Every time I start to fixate on how much of a worthless piece of shit I am, I summon mental chaos. Discordant thoughts and decontextualized bits of information swirl through my mind madly, making it hard to concentrate on one thing. This took practice.
I've put in the work and through lies upon lies most vile, managed to get my n-count to a respectable number, so I have the "well at least I've had a normal-ish sexual history" thing to fall back on, even though I'm a born-again incel at this point.
Video gaaaames! And books!
Reading MGTOW, incel and pillosphere forums and taking comfort from the suffering of other unattractive people.

TrueRustyShackleford · 2017-12-26T12:03:03+00:00

I'm not unattractive, but I'll give my 2 cents...

Most unattractive men don't know they're unattractive, only the smarter, more introspective ones do (hell, most guys can't really rate men, they think Dave Batista looks better than Ryan Gosling ffs) and many just stumble into a relationship with an unattractive woman and that's it then.

Most unattractive women know they are unattractive. They either tend to fish for validation and locking a boyfriend through easy sex, or they just turn inward and settle for an unattractive man.

MercedesBenzoAMG · 2017-12-26T12:45:49+00:00

I used to be unattractive but then as I got out of my teen years the acne went away, then the doctor prescribed me amphetamine so I lost a shitload of weight in a matter of months and became more talkative, then all of a sudden girls were nicer to me and it took me a while to work out why.

Then I just naturally got more confident and outgoing over time and now I just go out and have fun not giving a shit. Single at the moment because I wanna be. I could have a gf tomorrow if I wanted. Speaking of which, huge BDSM party next month!

I know incels will hate on me for posting this here but my point really is that it's very unlikely your unattractiveness is unfixable unless you're literally a deformed burn victim or something. But you will need to work at it to improve your attractiveness, and people don't like work.

SilvertownBlues · 2017-12-26T02:13:16+00:00

I masculinized myself. My face isn't unattractive but it's very boyish, maybe even a tad adrogynous, without the sharp angles of a distinctly masculine face. Also can't grow a beard. I compensated by getting really fit and having a very masculine and aggressive personality as well as hobbies.

oneprettycoolcat · 2017-12-26T01:13:10+00:00

I drink a lot.

Also, since people treat me like I am a monster because of how I look, I eventually just decided to act like people treat me and be the monster they automatically assume that I am. So, I go out of my way to cause trouble for other people because why not? At least I get some laughs out of it. I just basically do whatever the hell I feel like when I feel like doing it because people are going to hate me no matter what I do, so might as well do what I want.

wtknight · 2017-12-26T00:43:55+00:00

By doing a better job trying to find women who are attracted to me and not believing that I can attract every woman out there just by trying hard enough.

RockinSocksII · 2017-12-26T01:24:31+00:00

I find someone equally as unattractive and never let go.

Belfura · 2017-12-26T01:19:49+00:00

I'm guessing most answers will be self improvement, apathy or seeking fulfilment outside of the romantic aspect of life.

jkonrad · 2017-12-26T06:12:19+00:00

Know a couple objectively butt-ugly but cool dudes. They both married ugly but cool women.

abaxeron · 2017-12-26T12:17:14+00:00

I consume content that explains modern math for dummies. It switches my brain to some weird mode of operation and I stop worrying about such insignificant things as existing Universe and whatever happens in it.

[deleted] · 2017-12-26T02:07:12+00:00

By earning money and buying everything I want. Doesnt really fix it though, just covers it up with a bandaid.

pinkgoldrose · 2017-12-26T05:07:54+00:00

I'm never horny and I'm rather shy so I was happy to not get attention. It was cool to be able to have friends and go to parties and know that I'd be free to do whatever without having to deal with guys hitting on me.

I was fine being one of the girls who gets just one low-quality guy interested every 2-3 years because I just needed one guy to date me and for him to think I wasn't too ugly. Ugly people can have love stories too.

[deleted] · 2017-12-26T05:59:57+00:00

Hope that plastic surgery is an option for you tbh. Or hope that you are lucky where you can find a woman like /u/carkudo did.

Monkey_Jerk · 2017-12-26T12:46:29+00:00

Isolation, minimal social interaction, lifting, tv shows. It helps that I'm asocial and introverted so I have no strong desire to meet anyone.

[deleted] · 2017-12-26T13:25:34+00:00

Stay fit and healthy Be at least moderately successful financially Have some femininity (pretty obvious but it's attractive to most men)

If you aren't finding any dates after you achieved those three than I do feel for you. Focus on yourself. Have pets for companionship. Charity and volunteering to see how some people have it worse.

Orange_Paisley · 2017-12-26T20:10:03+00:00

By developing a personal style that seems to interest people, I guess. I'm by far the least attractive of my friends but I still manage to find partners.

purpleppp · 2017-12-26T23:36:57+00:00

I've had thoughts about saving up money for plastic surgery. My looks are the least of my concerns right now tho so it's not going to happen any time soon.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2017-12-26T01:04:29+00:00

what does this have to do with PPD. this seems like incel wining

crackrocksteady7 · 2017-12-26T01:16:34+00:00

make incel posts on PPD apparently

Merger-Arbitrage · 2017-12-26T05:39:58+00:00

Based on what I can see, unattractive people date other unattractive people. A cliche example is the fat couple.

SlimLovin · 2017-12-26T13:23:59+00:00

I don't.

frankcastlestein · 2017-12-26T13:58:44+00:00

Don't act like a whiny incel.

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Il128 · Tue Dec 26 0:33:46 2017 UTC

It takes a lot of effort but usually I have to get really nasty.

PBRScagsquad · 2017-12-26T00:34:23+00:00

I imagine one would do so by investing their energy into other pursuits and attempting to focus on their strengths to the best of their ability.

Dubslav_von_Chekem · 2017-12-26T00:37:05+00:00

Approach anyways.

despisedlove2 · 2017-12-26T00:45:06+00:00

You draw your sense of self worth out of your work.

[deleted] · 2017-12-26T01:34:25+00:00

I'm not. I'm just an asshole.

weaver420 · 2017-12-26T03:26:00+00:00

Opting out of dating/sex (but this is also because of low sex drive and a solitary personality). I guess i don't really need to cope, i don't have low self esteem even though i can acknowledge that im below average looks-wise. Though I bet i've spent more time cultivating a personality and improving myself than attractive women have.

bonersNlaughs · 2017-12-26T05:44:16+00:00

Turn that migraine into a headache. Op should evolve, I want to see this post come back with 'becoming wealthy, and as a result attaining female attention?', on the end of it.

[deleted] · 2017-12-26T06:18:22+00:00

As an ugly person ( I am half Jew after all), I don't think about it really majority of the time. I focus on other things really and don't get all tied up in it.

prodigy2throw · 2017-12-26T07:25:19+00:00

Fix what you can and shoot your shots.

[deleted] · 2017-12-26T10:31:28+00:00

I try to focus on other things.

sunkindonut149 · 2017-12-26T19:38:59+00:00

I try to focus on other parts of my life while focusing on grooming myself as much as possible.

762Rifleman · 2017-12-27T09:48:18+00:00

Drink heavily and flirt with damn near everything bearing two X chromosoms. It's brute forcing things, but it does work in the end.

Blue_Violet23 · 2017-12-30T01:02:09+00:00

You realize that no girl owe you finding you attractive.

AstuteBlackMan · 2017-12-26T00:55:20+00:00

I'm beautiful

Title	How do you cope with being unattractive?
Author	kfcwatermelonwarrior
Upvotes	12
Comments	164
Date	December 26, 2017 12:31 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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