Hypothetically, Your partner has your same personality, mannerisms, etc. How does this look in your relationship and how does it make you feel?

Barely-moral · 2024-05-29T11:33:09+00:00

I am the perfect partner for myself and it is a shame that I can't clone myself in a female body.

Fan_Service_3703 · 2024-05-29T11:09:04+00:00

I'm very submissive, a good do-er but not a leader, am deeply introspective, prefer to back down from a fight wherever possible, and lack initiative. Being in a relationship with someone with the same personality would not work. We'd starve to death trying to decide what to have for dinner.

Perhaps that is why I'm exclusively attracted to stern, assertive, dominant women.

Gravel_Roads · 2024-05-29T11:56:16+00:00

I'd feel ecstatic, I'm a barrel of laughs. We'd be fishing for hours.

silverhippo15 · 2024-05-29T15:21:21+00:00

Then she would be a man. Give me COMPLEMENTARY traits over more of the same.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2024-05-29T13:16:46+00:00

“Of course you like him a lot: he’s like the guy version of you in his friends group!” -what a friend said to my wife after we first met.
We have so much in common and personalities are pretty similar that it’s no wonder we like each other so much

Ok-Dust-4156 · 2024-05-29T13:46:42+00:00

We wouldn't be in relationships. We would be FWB who play games togheter and write code for some obscure linux programms.

wtknight · 2024-05-29T14:07:19+00:00

This has happened to me. It made for a good friendship but a not as exciting romance because we were too similar.

AreOut · 2024-05-29T14:09:18+00:00

We would rock the world.

AidsVictim · 2024-05-29T15:49:46+00:00

That sounds wonderful. I mostly compromise and "put up with" the personalities of most women. Now we're free to enjoy a relationship without pretense. Same interests, same type of friends, same libido, same politics etc. only downside is probably less socialization than I would get in a regular relationship.

berichorbeburied · 2024-05-29T11:15:29+00:00

As long as she’s sexually attractive and I want her.

It will work.

All my relationships have been based on my effort and excitement ment and want.

Essentially when she (hypothetical all of them generalized) felt I wasn’t putting effort in or that I didn’t want her or that I wasn’t happy to be around her

Then that’s when she had a problem

Personality isn’t going to make me want someone.

It might make me avoid someone that I would normally want.

But it will never make me want someone that I would normally avoid

The same way putting poison on cereal will make me avoid it

But having no poison on shit will not convince me to eat it.

And putting sugar on shit will not convince me to eat it

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Zabadoodude · 2024-05-29T17:43:59+00:00

I think it would work. My gf and I have similar personalities and it works great now. Though I do think she's better looking than girl-me would be.

ComfortableJeans · 2024-05-29T18:14:15+00:00

I have no idea.

I'm 30 and haven't the slightest idea of what I really am.

Sometimes I'm argumentative and assertive, a lot of the time I'm not.

Sometimes I want to be the one being held, cradled and told that it's all okay and that they love me, other times I want to be the one holding, cradling and loving.

Sometimes I feel like King Big Cock who runs everything and has it all sorted out, a lot of the time I feel pathetic and like I shouldn't exist.

Sometimes I'm the one being more dominating, grabbing and talking all big, other times I'm turning red while my partners are smirking.

I think it would be okay? I can do and enjoy both roles. But I also flounder around like someone who hasn't decided what they really are yet too.

I don't know. Maybe I shouldn't even be with anyone until I know.

I'm just speaking about past relationships, I'm not seeing anyone. But still.

M3taBuster · 2024-05-30T00:14:35+00:00

I couldn't possibly think of anything more ideal. Just give me myself with a vagina, and we're golden.

chifuyu-kun- · 2024-05-30T01:13:50+00:00

That'd be perfect.

KayRay1994 · 2024-05-29T12:49:13+00:00

it would probably end very poorly - its gonna be too much clashing plus I want someone who is different from me, but complimentary. As far as similarities go, I don’t mind some - but i would like my differences to be compatible with her and her differences to be compatible with me. For example, i tend to hyperfocus on the larger game pretty frequently, which has its ups and downs. I’d like that side of myself to give my partner a sense of long term vision while my partner is able to reel me in and slow me down, consider other options, smell the flowers, etc at the same time.

Anti_Thing · 2024-05-29T15:44:58+00:00

I think a relationship with someone who has the same personality & mannerisms as me would look harmonious & I think it would make me feel great, because I suppose it would be easier for us to relate to each other than if our personalities were very different. I think such a relationship would work.

That being said, I would not accept a relationship where the two of us are held to perfectly identical standards because, to a certain extent, I believe in gender roles. Our ability to relate to each other would be strong & our lifestyles would likely be similar, but we might lack perspective when it comes to conflict resolution or other problem solving. I don't think it would meaningfully affect how I treat her.

I'm not sure exactly what you mean by "the same level of expectations when it comes to physical attractiveness". Of course I would expect her to dress & act feminine, & she'd expect me to dress & act masculine. I'm attracted to most non-obese women who are close to me in age. I wouldn't date a woman whom I wasn't attracted to (& hopefully she wouldn't date me either, unless she were attracted to me).

just_a_place · 2024-05-29T20:16:22+00:00

That would mean she is a man in everything but sex. I am not attracted to men, not even if they have a vagina.

ExternalBarracuda292 · 2024-05-29T23:12:21+00:00

The biggest problem is that if you're exactly the same, you have the same flaws. While similar interests are great, it's generally most optimal to have somewhat complimentary skills so you can cover for each other's weaknesses.

I imagine you could probably still make it work, but you'd probably have to be willing to work to overcome some of your weaknesses in a way that you might not otherwise have to.

19whale96 · 2024-05-30T04:55:01+00:00

Lmfao I did that, she cheated on me with a butch chick

eli_ashe · 2024-05-30T05:24:57+00:00

basically no, but this is because i read the question as a cloning with a sex change question, rather than one that applies to key personality traits that would imply a preference for differences.

i prefer my lovers to have differences from me.

SecondEldenLord · 2024-05-30T23:41:28+00:00

It would be fucking amazing! I would have someone to play video games with, someone to watch movies with and talk about it, someone to go to the gym with and motivate each other, someone who hates lying and who will never cheat or betray. Honestly, if I could clone a female version of myself, I would fall in love.

Unable_Evidence_4028 · 2024-07-10T00:20:13+00:00

I would 100% think I am with a trans woman, mentally ill or a liar.

There is no way any woman ever would have similar personality, mannerisms and value unless there is something really wrong with her.

I wouldnt mind if she expected me to be fit and sexual (I am both) I am just aware that there is no way any woman with everything going alright upstairs can have anywhere close to a man's mentality, let alone a more masculine man such as myself.

TallFoundation7635 · 2024-05-29T14:12:14+00:00

We'd be arguing all the time, I am a man that likes to get my way. A relationship would only work with someone that is completely opposite to me.

I am also at the stage of my life where I am actively screening for a future wife that would make a good mother. Call me old fashioned, but I don't think a father would make a good mother.

kongeriket · 2024-05-29T14:43:28+00:00

You are held to the same expectations as she is and vice versa. What works about this or what doesn’t?

This can't work in the real life. Because men aren't women. Social media copium and egalitarian brain worms notwithstanding, the real world thrives on difference not on sameness. Even the French feminists figured that one out. I suppose Anglo feminists (that includes the "egalitarians") haven't caught up with this yet. But they will. Economics will force it.

How does this affect how you treat her?

The relationship would end long before I'd reach that point.

We married in Church as poor people. Now I make between 15 and 20 times more than her. There is no possibility ever that she makes as much as I do. Even if I stop working, the dividends and interests from my investments would still yield quite a bit more than her best possible income.

As such, holding her to the same standards as me would be irrational, unreasonable and straight-up cruel.

It's true about the little things as well. There are things I genuinely don't care about and she does. So it's reasonable that she takes care of those because she cares while I'm indifferent to them or have a considerably lower standard. Holding me to the same standard would be unreasonable to me. Or imposing my lower standard on her would be unreasonable for her.

is it ok for her to expect the same level of expectations when it comes to physical attractiveness as you expect of her?

Yes. But that's also under the reality that I do hold her to a very relaxed standard compared to the one she uses for herself.

Generally speaking though, egalitarian fantasies are just that: fantasies. The real world does not, did not and will never work like that. Not among healthy adults of a sexually dymorphic species.

Title	Hypothetically, Your partner has your same personality, mannerisms, etc. How does this look in your relationship and how does it make you feel?
Author	Ok-Situation2395
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Date	May 29, 2024 4:46 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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