Rejection Therapy - A Brilliant Idea Or A Complete Waste Of Time?

AreOut · 2023-01-28T20:43:22+00:00

yeah if you bang your head on the tree enough times you might get used to it

Authentic2017 · 2023-01-28T21:01:48+00:00

This would be perfect for men who struggle with understanding rejections but you have to approach this from a masculine lense, therapy is often too feminized in current times.

prizefighterstudent · 2023-01-28T23:42:52+00:00

Therapy, for most, is a waste of time. There are cases where it works, no doubt. But the culture of "healing" and therapy as a one-size-fits-all for people is ridiculous. Blind leading the blind in many cases too -- mentally ill washouts who want some semblance of control over themselves and others. That's been my second-and experience.

What gets people out of a funk / out of the blues is results, and learning to harness the volatility of failure and success. The truth is you're going to be rejected no matter what, and you'll never be done "healing". Breaking through, getting results, and finding out whether or not they're worth it to you is what most cats need. Trouble is, most don't have the time nor the balls to figure it out.

EventSea8621 · 2023-01-28T19:21:15+00:00

i gave up on online dating because being completely invisible was depressing af and just made me feel like trash to woman.

i only try IRL now and the opportunity to approach a woman is few and far between, my last rejection was about 2 months ago and that was the 1st woman i tried to get to know in over a year, IRL rejection stings less than online but im still not going to randomly go up to woman in the street and ask them out.

TLDR Rejection will always be painful and trying to make yourself numb to it will just negatively affect your mental health.

TaxNegative161 · 2023-01-28T18:38:13+00:00

No. I think it would be far more productive for a man to learn how to talk to a woman, gauge attraction, and then ask her out in such a way that a rejection isn't an insult.

Opening_Pattern_301 · 2023-01-28T18:56:57+00:00

I stopped caring about rejection the moment i let go of the idea that somehow having a woman in my life made me more worthy and valuable, getting rid of the idea that all women are superior to men by birthright also helped, and finally after getting experience and knowing women pass the idealizations i had been brainwashed into believing about them, i realized that most women arent as special as they are painted to be and they are a negative in your life most of the times rather than a positive so the rejection meant jack sht for me, which ironically irritates a lot of those women for some reason, they dont really like me nor care about me but somehow im obliged to be attracted to them and let them suck value out of me otherwise im an asshole? beat it.

After i changed i started to attract better women into my life, and i remember this time one of them rejected me, yet it wasnt painful, although it was weird as i was holding her hand (we had known each other for a while) and when i tried to lean in for a kiss she leaned back and told me to stop cuz she had a boyfriend ¿hm?, but it was true, i believe we men by nature are inmune to rejection but the way this current society has brainwashed us has made us extremely emotionally dependent and fragile.

You dont need rejection therapy, you just need to know that rejection aint a big deal.

ziggylott · 2023-01-28T18:47:31+00:00

Rejection therapy, as you've described, is a form of exposure therapy. Exposure therapy is a type of psychological treatment that involves gradually exposing a person to the thing or situation that they fear or avoid, in order to reduce their fear and anxiety. In this case, the thing that is being avoided is rejection, and the therapy involves exposing oneself to rejection in order to reduce the emotional impact of it.

The idea behind this therapy is that by repeatedly experiencing rejection and learning to cope with it, the individual will become desensitized to it and will no longer fear it as much. This is similar to the principle of "flooding" in exposure therapy, where the individual is exposed to the feared stimulus in a controlled and safe environment in order to overcome their fear.

Exposure therapy has been scientifically proven to be effective for treating a variety of mental health conditions, including phobias, PTSD, and anxiety disorders. While rejection therapy may not be a formally recognized treatment, the principle behind it aligns with the scientific principles of exposure therapy and the idea that repeated exposure can reduce the emotional impact of the feared stimulus.

Edit: grammar

xzpw · 2023-01-28T18:54:55+00:00

Generally, no. It only works when you have the right support network and know how to avoid it in the future. It needs to be paired very well with lessons and positive reinforcement. Going out and just getting rejected for the sake of rejection will lead to some serious damage.

To your boxing analogy, is it smart to get punched in the face over and over again as a way to learn to how to take punches and be a better fighter? Not really. It’s better to learn how to avoid punches and not get actually hit with any force when you’re practicing anyway. Otherwise, you’ll just have brain damage… and what good is that?

seeyouonthelanai · 2023-01-28T20:26:37+00:00

Whatever therapy that helps men understand that there can be all sorts of reasons they get rejected that have absolutely nothing to do with them.

Overshare storytime: I had way too much coffee one morning before I went to the mall. As I was walking out of H&M, the bubble guts kicked in and I had max 5 minutes to haul ass to a toilet before disaster struck.

Of course this is the moment when a guy decided to approach me. He tells me I'm pretty and asked if I wanted to grab a coffee. I wanted to politely decline, but all that came out was this deeply gutteral "No" after which I started run to the bathrooms. Now, there's some guy who has a story about a woman he asked out who literally ran away from him.

So, fellas sometimes you get rejected because you approached us at a shitty time.

And yes, I did make it to the toilet.

wtknight · 2023-01-28T19:29:11+00:00

Yeah, sure. If you chat with enough women online you eventually get used to them either purposely not talking to you anymore because you said something that they didn't like, or eventually ghosting you because they had better things to do in their lives than talk to you. You also learn that all women are not the same and a small percentage of them might actually like you.

DryOutcome3407 · 2023-01-28T18:59:08+00:00

Any form of therapy is often a complete waste of time and in all cases far more expensive than it's worthy.

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gymbro718nyc2 · 2023-01-28T19:00:34+00:00

Yes it works. Because it will show you that rejection is a paper tiger. It has no teeth. Rejection itself doesn't hurt. What hurts is the meaning you give to being rejected. When you tell yourself getting rejected means that you are a worthless, subhuman trash, that's what actually hurts. You also become more resilient to rejection when you raise your self esteem.

Go out and get 10 rejections. Go up to a woman with your phone out and say "Hey, you look really attractive. I would like to take you out. Give me your number and I will call you tomorrow". Do that 10 times in a day, 3 days in a row. Many men will find it difficult to get to 10.

RocinanteCoffee · 2023-01-28T19:27:26+00:00

Yes exposure therapy can be applied here.

Safinated · 2023-01-28T19:02:04+00:00

You mean immersion therapy?

armpitpics · 2023-01-28T21:34:53+00:00

From you description, rejection therapy seems to be a form of exposure therapy where you basically seek the same situation you're afraid of. I've been using exposure therapy to work on many of my fears and it has helped a lot. The best part is that you don't need to get rejected in real life. You can simply set 30 minutes twice a week where you imagine getting rejected in the most ridiculous kinds of ways. This doesn't mean you should stop working on your skills and on other possible reasons why you get rejected, but trying it for one or two weeks won't hurt. Good luck!

LadyofTheGreyPath · 2023-01-29T00:42:13+00:00

You know what? This is a good idea.

Ohyarlysmiles · 2023-01-29T02:43:38+00:00

There's no two ways about it, getting rejected will never "numb you" to rejection. It always sucks.

Moreover, if you get more experience with women and see just how cavalier, arbitrary, and shallow they can be with their rejections, it starts to color your view of the opposite sex, too.

Getting "intentionally rejected" is stupid.

Attempting to achieve goals --- no matter what they are --- in the face of rejection is masculinity 101.

Mr_Chad_Thunderpenis · 2023-01-29T03:45:50+00:00

Constant rejection will either mold you into a stronger type of metal or completely break you. I think it depends on the person. For some people it works, for other people it makes things worse.

-Bazuso- · 2023-01-29T04:21:51+00:00

I think my time and money would be better spent on the gym, cosmetics procedures, and a nice car than that shit tbh.

Impossible_You_8555 · 2023-01-29T05:05:59+00:00

Practice your approaches, while practicing you will get rejected, two birds with one rock my dude

Holden_Frame · 2023-01-29T06:54:08+00:00

I've been rejected... rejected like you've been. But you have no right to call me a incel. You have a right to reject me. You have a right to do that... but you have no right to judge me. It's impossible for words to describe what is necessary to those who do not know what rejection means. Rejection... Rejection has a face... and you must make a friend of Rejection. Rejection and sexual frustration are your friends. If they are not, then they are enemies to be feared. They are truly enemies. I remember when I was at a night club... seems a thousand centuries ago. We went into the hip hop room to talk to some women. We left the room after we had talked to every woman there, and this young guy came running after us and he was crying. He couldn't see. We went back there, and they had rejected every man under 6ft in there. There they were in a group. A group of little men. And I remember... I... I... I cried, I wept like some simp. I wanted to tear my teeth out; I didn't know what I wanted to do. And I want to remember it. I never want to forget it... I never want to forget. And then I realized... like I was shot... like I was shot with a diamond... a diamond bullet right through my forehead. And I thought, my God... the genius of that! The genius! The will to do that! Perfect, genuine, complete, crystalline, pure. And then I realized they were stronger than we, because they could stand that these were not monsters, these were women... Modern Women. These women who chased Chads, who had TikTok, who had Instagram, who were gassed up by simps... but they had the strength... the strength... to do that. If we were Chads, our troubles would be over very quickly. You have to have Chads who are moral... and at the same time who are able to utilize their primordial instincts to pump and dump without feeling... without passion... without judgment... without judgment! Because it's judgment that defeats us.

neetykeeno · 2023-01-29T07:38:15+00:00

You're talking about https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Desensitization_(psychology)

Yes it can work for many things.

You're probably going to at some point experience what is called an extinction burst...that is a temporary escalation in the problematic feelings and behaviours as your brain automatically keep applying current favoured reactions to the stressful stimulus while you keep exposing yourself anyway. So expect to at some point feel very stressed and want to run away, have every coping mechanism and dysfunctional reaction you've ever had offer itself to you as refuge from the stress. I mean if you just go home right now and decide talking to people is hopeless because people suck and women are the worst you can go home right now and be out of this terrifying stress, right? It has always worked before to get you out of this stress. Doesn't get you a girlfriend but it sure relieves the stress of trying to make connection.

West-Ad-9697 · 2023-01-29T08:01:58+00:00

I think that you need to stop caring if the girl you liked for 3 minutes didn't want to talk to you.

In life you only really need one or 2 people to really really like you enough to want to eat your squishy bits. Once you realize that, once you get the experience of 2 people liking you enough to want to nibble on your bits, - you know you are ok. You know you are lovable, and even a cruel rejection doesn't really leave a mark, or affect you beyond the next conversation. You realize it's not really you, it's them. All you did was putting yourself out there as an option for some sweaty naked mud wrestling. And however they take that, it's on them.

Electrical_Access604 · 2023-01-30T11:09:38+00:00

It woked wonders for me and I would recommend it to every young guy.

I didn't purposefully tried to get rejected. But I used to be very shy up until I got into some pick up art stuff. I must have approached around 100 women in a period of one year, always analyzing the interactions, taking notes, thinking of solutions, yada yada. I didn't hook up with anyone but It cured my shyness. After that it was easier to go on a job interview and to have other difficult conversations. I can go to anyone anywhere and say any stupid thing and I won't feel awkward (not that you should do that).

For me it's an incredible skill. Also, reducing anxiety in your life is always welcome.

Yahwehs-bitch · 2023-01-30T12:35:45+00:00

Approaching people before you develop that weird crush where you obsess over them in your head over and over and then get rejected after months of build up, will turn your “ouch that hurt” to going from like months of feeling shitty to only a day or two.

Literally the interaction between you and the person who’s gonna reject you is like 2mins tops if you get to the point.

But going up to random people and asking them out just seems extreme.

Title	Rejection Therapy - A Brilliant Idea Or A Complete Waste Of Time?
Author	KingOnixTheThird
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Date	January 28, 2023 4:51 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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