There was recently a tiktok video that went viral of a “liberal” woman basically saying that all of the masculine men are conservative (she meant republican) and that “progressive” men are not masculine. She was saying that she can’t find a man that is both progressive and masculine/traditional, and questioning whether they exist. The comments completely tore her up saying that obviously progressive men are not going to be traditional. And that a progressive and traditional man obviously does not exist.

Based on my experience living in a very blue state, this is completely untrue. Politics, especially regarding social issues, does not determine how a man or woman acts in their personal romantic relationships. Politics can be kept completely separate from the dynamics one chooses to practice in their romantic relationships.

You can support gay rights and women’s rights/equality, while also choosing to be submissive in your relationship. Just because a man is progressive does not mean that he is not masculine. My current boyfriend would identify as a democrat (according to the US’s limited options). And he is one of the most genuinely and naturally masculine men I’ve ever been with or even met. He provides for me and takes care of me, but still supports women’s rights and my independence.

I think there is such a stereotype among democrats especially that traditional men limit their female partner’s rights and autonomy. And that they are republican. I believe that sure a lot of conservative men are more traditional than “liberal” men, but this does not mean that liberal men are not traditional. Just because a man chooses the more traditional masculine role, and his counterpart chooses the more traditional feminine role, does not make these people automatically “right wing.”

The girl in the video also talked about how she wants a traditional man but doesn’t want to be “confined to the homemaker role” and have to change her beliefs and have independence taken away. THIS IS NOT WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOURE WITH A TRADITIONAL/MASCULINE MAN!!! You are not “confined” to the homemaker role. Sure that may be part of your role, and maybe the majority of your role in the relationship if that’s what you and your partner decide. But you are not “confined” to that role. That’s just called being a good partner and sharing responsibilities.

And you sure as heck don’t need to change your beliefs and have your independence taken away to be with a masculine man. I think a lot of masculine men would respect that. You don’t want to start arguments and be a difficult person to be around, and you want to find someone with similar values, of course. But this idea that being with a traditional man means giving up your independence of thought and freedom is just totally false.

I live in an extremely liberal big city, and I identify as “democrat”, AND I’m in a traditional relationship. I submit to my partner and follow RPW. I don’t openly discuss this with my friends for fear of backlash, but I do make little comments here and there to test the waters. I see so many of my liberal girl friends and family struggling with their relationships and dating and I really wish I could introduce them to RPW but I know that would just blow up in my face so I never will. I wish people could understand that being in or desiring a traditional relationship is not equal to your rights being taken away or being a republican.

I love RPW and this community. It’s truly made me a better person and helped me get the relationship of my dreams. I wish I could share what I’ve learned with everybody 🥲