Do women ever end a relationship without someone lined up?

ManOfGrapes · 2014-11-20T14:07:29+00:00

I think in certain circumstances, a woman may not have another cock in waiting. What you should remember is how easy it is for a woman to get laid. All she would need to do is take a stroll down to the local bar with a nice layer of face paint, a pair of heels and a revealing dress and she'll be on her back within the hour.

So whether or not there is a cock in waiting doesn't really matter -- the option is always there for her.

fnordsnord · 2014-11-20T15:49:03+00:00

My sister did it. It was an odd RedPill experience, because she called me on the phone, almost in tears.

She's 40-ish, fat, and while she had a few suitors when she was younger, she was too choosy and is now a middle-aged cat lady. But an old boyfriend showed up, wanting another shot. Lacking other prospects, she game him a chance, and after three days cut him loose because she knew it still wasn't going anywhere and she felt guilty for letting him spend time and money on her when he didn't do it for her.

And she was UPSET because there was NOTHING wrong with the man. Nice, intelligent, not wealthy but had a good job, savings and made a living. Not Mr. Universe, but for a 40-something white guy in an office job he was pretty fit.

And she called me in tears because she wanted to know what was WRONG with her that she would next a dude with all that going for him.

So I had to explain to this intelligent, adult woman that women are attracted to men who are strong, independent, and exciting. If she wants a puppy, she'll buy one. And he was acting like a puppy, not a man.

denmaur · 2014-11-20T16:49:08+00:00

My latest told me we needed to spend some time apart. I said fine. Two weeks later I found out she started seeing someone new the SAME DAY we had the talk. Just the day before the talk she told me how much she loved me, I was the only man for her, she'd never met anyone like me...blah..blah...blah. After a year and a half together that's what I get.

So I have to say, yes, they need the security of someone to run to, right away.

scamper_22 · 2014-11-20T15:14:45+00:00

Like a lot of this, I really don't think it as as 'malicious' as the wording implies.

I sometimes have to remind my wife of the male mind. She thinks I'm gross, but I just say that is how I am... how all men are. Every woman I have seen since I was 12, I have imagined having sex with them. Well not everyone, but let's say 90%. My mind is pretty fucked up like that. So we have developed pretty good self-control as it relates to raw sexual impulse. I'm just not out there raping, cheating on every girl I've dated...

I have trained to have that level of self control.

Woman have just never had to face this kind of thing. Maybe they have to some respect in terms of shopping or other sitcom jokes, being unable to resist buying things... but the sexual drive is most powerful.

The result is that women are very easy as long as they are interested in you.

So, once a woman signals she wants out of a relationship, she will get offers from guys or open up herself to new opportunities. As long as she is attracted to the guy, away we go, and she is in a new relationship. Whether that happens at the tail end of a relationship or soon after, it doesn't really matter.

She also tends to live in the here and now of her feelings. So it all feels exciting and new again.

It takes a lot of dating and being 'burned' for a woman to get beyond this... at which point, we call them bitter, and quite frankly, you don't want a woman at this stage. Once they're at this stage, I would hardly call them feminine or woman anymore. So if I may be so bold... thank your lucky stars they appear to go from relationship to relationship, because that means she still has some warmth/love to give and is still attractive enough to warrant attraction.

Now, that above is the 'ideal' case. I'm not discounting other factors. Woman who find it hard to be alone, will drag out a relationship until she has a replacement, or if she is just using the guy for resources, sex...

RebootedMale · 2014-11-20T15:26:29+00:00

Yes, studies show over half of taken women have a backup man to immediately fall back on.

The hottest women often spend nary a consecutive week of their adult lives truly single.

Women will tell betas "give her room, one month for each year of her prior relationship'. The reality is the hot girl will last on the marketplace a tiny fraction of that time, if at all.

1NV0K3R · 2014-11-20T15:02:50+00:00

Not if she can help it.

I have this saying.

"Better to be in knowing unhappiness than unknowing loneliness."

Pretty much defines most of the women I've ever graced with a "relationship".

ruckus17 · 2014-11-20T18:14:53+00:00

I think Dr. Glover's line is:

"A women is only 10 seconds from her next relationship". Whether they have a cock in waiting or not, they can typically find one with ease.

Inteli_Gent · 2014-11-20T17:10:46+00:00

I've had 11 relationships in my life, 7 of which were sexual. Of the 11 relationships, I dumped two women, and neither time did I have a woman lined up. Of the 9 relationships in which I've been dumped, one dumped me without having a guy lined up, and she dumped me because she knew that I was still in love with someone else. From my personal experience, and stories I've heard from friends, the only times that a woman will dump a man without having a guy lined up is if the relationship is 100% fucked, with literally zero hope for reconciliation, which doesn't happen very often.

alphbux · 2014-11-20T21:14:12+00:00

I've experienced this twice in my BP days. Got into an LTR where I was the one she lined up. Then the same thing happened to me.

Ah the good old days of delusion.

GhostOfAladdin · 2014-11-20T15:17:07+00:00

Not necessarily they already have a cock lined up, it's just that women are ready and willing to fuck other guys after a break up much sooner than men are.

For instance, If a woman becomes a widow in a dating age she will be fucking other people a lot sooner than a guy who becomes a widower. The guy will cry his sorrows, wait, fix what needs to be fixed, so on; if my girlfriend died I would need at least 6 months and probably more to get my shit together. The woman just needs to sit on another cock, doesn't matter if it is before, after or during the funeral.

xvkx · 2014-11-20T14:10:07+00:00

Very few women do that. Women who are in abusive relationships, and very career-centric women are the only two that come to mind who'd be able to pull this. Even then, the latter one won't break up if she's not hot enough i.e. knows she has someone to fuck her right the next day.

redcamo · 2014-11-20T19:00:32+00:00

Keep in mind the implications of this being a very rare occurrence. Almost every LTR you get into will be a case of you "stealing" her from her last boyfriend.

SOAADDICT · 2014-11-20T20:07:05+00:00

I think women always have something "better" lined up, be it a better dick or something they see as an opportunity of another kind. My bros college LTR dump him when started hanging out with a big group of single girls. She wanted to go out to the club as part of the clique and bask in the attention unrestricted like they were, but she didn't have a specific dude in mind. In fact she stayed single for the rest of college. Went out constantly, drank too much, dropped out. She left him for the opportunity to party, not for another dude.

TL;DR- Sometimes they break up not for one guy for but to be single and take a good spin on the CC.

caliboo · 2014-11-20T21:45:01+00:00

I'm of the belief women branch swing, and you can generally see it coming.

My last I knew was trying to get a branch, and I dumped her before she could. (Why continue if we're already effectively done?)

H42 · 2014-11-20T14:24:55+00:00

I've called this "pulling a Tarzan" for a long while. Women almost always swing on the vine from your tree to the next tree. The trees of course are providing for their needs.

leftajar · 2014-11-20T18:01:14+00:00

They're like monkeys, swinging from branch to branch. The #1 rule of branch swinging: you don't let go of the first branch until you're goddamned sure you have another lined up.

YourMumsKunt · 2014-11-20T18:53:54+00:00

They are usually 2 weeks into the next relationship when the first relationship ends.

aphelion3342 · 2014-11-20T14:36:39+00:00

I think this is true, if only by default. Attractive girls ALWAYS have someone in the kitty, whether they intend it or not.

monsieurhire2 · 2014-11-20T15:31:42+00:00

This isn't always the case, but it does happen very often, especially with high-value women.

beginner_ · 2014-11-20T16:08:03+00:00

I think my first LTR that broke up with me did not have someone lined-up. I'm not 100% sure but pretty sure. Reason she broke up? I turned even more beta due to depression. Looking back and with red pill knowledge no surprise here.

yummyluckycharms · 2014-11-20T16:23:06+00:00

Assuming we arent talking about a woman with a high SMV, some women will still choose to be single if they sense a dump coming up. Boil it down to pride - but i've had a few plates do a pre-emptive dumping when they realized that they were about to be replaced.

Loved it as I didnt have to either suffer from a) dodging annoying phone calls as to why its over b) telling her that its over.

pupplenupple · 2014-11-20T19:04:37+00:00

Let's use logic here. Is there a theoretic situation in which a woman would feel that continuing with a man is worse than being alone? If the situation exists in theory thed someone would have done it in practice, there being billions of human beings.

I have to say yes. If he's not being alpha (attractive) or beta (provident) or a combination of the two, and he's costing her resources, and she doesn't feel a sense of hope that things will change, and she lacks an organised moral framework that says she needs to stick with him under the circumstances. Eventually one day she's going to look at him and see a leech not a man, and it is all over from that point on, just a matter of time.

But in practical terms, any women with any sort of SMV at all have men waiting for them whether they think about those men or not. So functionally it works out the same for her as if she'd left with a branch she was looking to swing to. And culturally that known availability of men plays into general attitudes about leaving, even if she's not personally eyeing up the next branch.

BruceIsTheBatman · 2014-11-20T21:38:31+00:00

Boyfriends are like jobs. Make sense?

ShinyBrah · 2014-11-20T22:49:30+00:00

If they haven't got a man ready to fuck, they usually have an orbiter (or two) ready for sympathy and emotional validation.

garoo1 · 2014-11-20T23:12:21+00:00

I've had a girl dump me telling me she wasn't ready to date anyone and needed to be single for a while only to find out 4 days later she was now with my best friend. In my experience no, there's always someone else lined up

MakeTheSexyTalk · 2014-11-21T01:55:08+00:00

Ha!

"Women don't just leave, they have a plan"

-My former mother-in-law

BrunoOh · 2014-11-20T14:12:51+00:00

There is a difference between them lining someone up and them thinking they have someone lined up. I'd guess the latter is more common; it's also typical of a "the grass is greener at the other side" attitude.

dudesyouknowme · 2014-11-20T14:55:45+00:00

Generally no.

This is why I always get frustrated on /r/relationships. A guy posts that he likes a girl and she is showing signs that she is into him.. but she has a boyfriend. Everyone is always like "just leave it alone". I then point out.. if you never hit on girls who have boyfriends you will never get a girlfriend.

RedPillSafe · 2014-11-20T15:12:01+00:00

Most women have some vague hope that another option they are investigating might materialize, but at the time they break off the relationship they often aren't certain... just hoping.

Other women are forced out by circumstances if the guy gets authentically controlling and beta with her.

Some women have the next guy already in the picture and have already swung the tree branch to them by having sex with them already.

...it's all hypergamy, but it's adaptive to the situation.

2014-11-20T19:37:32+00:00

That would be a paradox. There's always another man lined up.

myschadenfreude · 2014-11-20T19:44:35+00:00

Unless they are physically or emotionally getting hurt why would they? Unless there's a better place to be.

Grainslol · 2014-11-20T22:01:13+00:00

I found out that I got my current girlfriend's phone number the same day that she broke up with her boyfriend. Can't be a coincidence. This is definitely a testament to the branch-swinging nature of hypergamy while it mitigates a lot of guilt.

Christian_Kong · 2014-11-20T23:50:15+00:00

I dont think its often that either sex ends the relationship without some prospect(not saying that these prospects do/do not pan out).

Having that potential crutch certainly helps move things along.

Girls usually already have dudes lined up for them even if they dont know/want it.

Blocksblox · 2014-11-21T03:22:13+00:00

I have seen it. She was sure she could do better. So she dumped him.

A month later she has not done better.

So she became a lesbian and started dating the chick from IT who skateboards to work.

NardDoug · 2014-11-21T06:51:13+00:00

Huh, never noticed the female view on relationships was so similar to the male view of working, at least in this regard. My SO can't seem to understand the importance of having another job lined up before splitting, and i always had long breaks between relationships (didn't rp until after dating this girl for a while, anything goes wrong at least i've got a good fallback strategy now).

Funny how rp shines through in the strangest ways, our occupations are our lives just like relationships are theirs.

Devianthe · 2014-11-21T13:10:47+00:00

It's pretty easy... If the relationship is good, they will stay in it. If it's half good, they might replace for someone better. If it's no good at all, they will dump no matter what they have or have not lined up.

There's also the thing that some women have many men drooling at them and even if the woman thinks she will spend some time alone, it might not be the case once she's single and all the guys see the green light. My ex still thinks I was cheating on him with my current boyfriend because we started dating 2 weeks after he dumped me, while in reality I just wanted to be alone... but he kind of picked me up with the right methods.

busior · 2014-11-21T19:55:15+00:00

bitches be sluts. remember that. Seriously I have fcked more bitches than my looks suggest but they always have some poor sob beta waiting for them as treating them like special snowflake (Right after I unload my load on her face). This is so sad

CallMeMrBadGuy · 2014-11-23T10:09:06+00:00

Of course. The interesting thing is that I've seen your particularly smart schemers try to setup a new branch before leaving. Though so long as she isn't busted its always a woman's market to go shopping in. Dick is at an overabundance afterall

Median2 · 2014-11-20T17:53:27+00:00

I think men and women regularly leave their partner for someone else.

evilquesadilla · 2014-11-20T22:23:28+00:00

Not sure if this is always the case. I think certain type of people, men and women, need to have the next one lined up before they will end this one. They probably are afraid to be single. Personally I don't believe this phenomenon is gender specific.

Knicks89 · 2014-11-20T21:48:58+00:00

I know a girl who left her ex bf to be with a new guy. When i asked her about it she simply replied with, " Why would you leave a job, if you didn't have one lined up for you." I still do believe it depends on the girl and is circumstantial. For example, some girls may truly want to be single and ride the cock carousel for a bit. But for the girls who always seem to have been in a relationship, chances are they always have someone lined up.

LeggyBlueEyes · 2014-11-21T00:51:29+00:00

Depends what you mean by "lined up". I met a man I was attracted to and had more in common with than my then husband. One who enjoyed the same things I did things that I could not get my then husband to try much less enjoy (wine tasting, theatre, fine dining-nothing extreme). So meeting him let me see there were men who would share these things with me. I knew I would never be in a long term relationship with this man though. We are still friends 12 years later and I didn't end my relationship to be with him, but to find someone more compatible.

SnuffyFrubby · 2014-11-21T01:15:57+00:00

I left my last boyfriend with the plan of being alone for life. Six months later, still alone.

thereddespair · 2014-11-20T16:18:27+00:00

if youre decent enough, without a question, theres guys hovering you on standby. and most often than not, youre keeping them around as friends.

women break up coz they dont get what they want. same with men i think.

if your woman left you for another man, take it like a man atleast and cut the bitter loser nonsense. really trying to come up with some logic that you can swallow just to soothe your shattered ego is ...

Title	Do women ever end a relationship without someone lined up?
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Date	November 20, 2014 1:56 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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