Guy agrees to open relationship - wife doesn't want to have sex with him anymore.

Aerobus · 2014-11-16T23:53:09+00:00

Open relationships do not work. Unless you are in the top 5-10% of all males, an open relationship simply does not benefit men like it benefits women. Don't ever agree to it.

Also, when a woman brings up the thoughts of an open relationship, chances are she's already having sex with other people. This phenomenon is known as trickle truth.

You never wife these kinds of women. More importantly, don't get married in the first place.

ytismylife · 2014-11-17T00:02:47+00:00

Open relationships are just an excuse for women to play the field and try to land a better man. Agreeing to open up your LTR is agreeing to provide for a woman while she fucks other men. It is the lowest form of blue pill behaviour.

This beta agreed to the open relationship, began looking for sex elsewhere by using Tinder only to delete the app when his wife told him to. Incredible.

He has been with this woman for a total of 8 years trying to get her to have anal sex with him. A couple months into an open relationship, she finds an alpha to pound her ass.

Never agree to open your relationship. It will always backfire. If your girlfriend or wife even suggests an 'open relationship' end the relationship right then and there. If her desire to fuck other men has grown to the point where she asks you for permission, it's over. She has demonstrated that she is not LTR material and is no longer worth a second thought.

AnotherLostCause · 2014-11-16T23:54:25+00:00

LOL.. The other shoe is, if he starts hooking up regularly she will claim she " has that out of her system and wants to be monogomous again."

Saturnalia93 · 2014-11-16T21:50:48+00:00

Literally just got done reading that thread as you posted it here. "Open relationships" are the ultimate fool's game. As in War Games, the only way to win is not to play at all. I'm frankly surprised that he could have predicted it would have gone any other way, honestly.

Moolg86 · 2014-11-17T00:21:14+00:00

I thought it was particularly interesting how quickly the wife shutdown his tinder account. Almost as if she wanted to severely limit his exposure to women.

Hoodwink · 2014-11-17T01:49:17+00:00

I started off by making a Tinder account, and then my wife got upset that I was “looking for something” when she wanted the relationship to come to me.

LOL, because relationships just fall into a dudes lap like they do for women...

bakbakgoesherthroat · 2014-11-17T00:08:21+00:00

one of the bits of wisdom behind having your own mission is that it protects you from the Machiavellian machinations that come naturally to women. If his mission was to operate his family in a traditional manner - alpha man and dutiful wife - he could have avoided this altogether.

Reading his story made me feel for him but he dug his own grave. His story is a reminder of what not to do.

writeonbrother · 2014-11-17T00:38:32+00:00

Men who agree to this would balk at giving a stranger the PIN number to their ATM card.

HAMMURABl · 2014-11-16T21:54:19+00:00

i just can`t fathom how these men survive in their daily lifes

We have went to couple’s counseling however it is terribly expensive, and we don’t feel that it is effective.

guess who could have told you that

So I am coming to you all for advice. What do we do?

what he should do is to fucking cut the losses, burn the bridges, scorch the earth.

if i would be a bit more rational (though i dont think i could remain calm in such a case), id make her a plate.

bam2_89 · 2014-11-17T02:56:58+00:00

Relevant Arrested Development screencap.

Audible_Lubrication · 2014-11-17T04:50:55+00:00

I don't comprehend this guys thought process behind this at all. I guess i'm just of a more primal/dominant mindset. Knowingly sharing my wife with another man would NEVER occur. EVER. He gets what he derserves from this. No sympathy.

mordanus · 2014-11-17T05:21:12+00:00

and then my wife got upset that I was “looking for something” when she wanted the relationship to come to me.

I got a good laugh at this line. She wants him to get a relationship the same way she gets one. So much projection in there. Also she is rationalizing her jealousy by trying to make him get rid of tinder like this.

--Anthony-- · 2014-11-17T02:51:17+00:00

How did he possibly think he was going to save his marriage's sex life by letting his wife sleep with someone else? Fool.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-11-17T03:37:55+00:00

Do they have a macro of these stories over there. Every fucking one of them is the same. Every single one.

richardnorth · 2014-11-17T05:44:43+00:00

All open relationships I read about end the same way: the woman bas rough sex with 25 guys while the boyfriend maybe has one awkward encounter with a regular girl which quickly fizzles. Boyfriend then realizes that his girlfriend is banging tons of guys and regrets it. Big surprise.

konoplya · 2014-11-17T06:50:02+00:00

protip: make sure you two are on the same page BEFORE you tie the knot, not try to figure out your sexual fantasies after. fucking idiots.

wildchild11 · 2014-11-16T22:37:16+00:00

yet another passive aggressive shot towards rp in comments. if you dislike what we have to say then don't come here faggots

pissoutofmyass · 2014-11-17T11:48:36+00:00

Jesus christ, if one of her holes is off the table there is no marriage. Because its definitely not off the table for all guys. AWALT.

squiremarcus · 2014-11-17T05:57:30+00:00

what is the point of preserving his family? 66% of the family is a complete fucking mess. A childish husband and a wife that doesnt care about him. why would you want to preserve that?

Movonnow · 2014-11-17T10:44:04+00:00

This guy agreed for an open relationship without being able to handle the consequences. He didnt choose it, he submit to his wife's will to do it. Thats where he fucked up in the first place.

I have nothing against open relationships, just dont do it with your wife and mother of 3 kids. Do it with some plate damn it!

favours_of_the_moon · 2014-11-17T01:57:29+00:00

This is all true, but if you think about it, spinning plates is no different than an open relationship.

slinger-rpta · 2014-11-17T03:36:04+00:00

This should be categorized Blue Pill.

rpscrote · 2014-11-17T03:51:48+00:00

Holy shit, how much of a fucking chump do you have to be to let your wife fuck some random dude... and if that wasn't bad enough she gives up her asshole to the random after never giving it to the husband. Pathetic

infernalsatan · 2014-11-17T05:06:43+00:00

Open relationship works only if you go out and fuck other girls as well. Just like when two countries to open their borders, it only makes sense if citizens of both sides can simultaneously cross the border.

Carvr93 · 2014-11-17T05:07:32+00:00

I have a hard time reading this stuff. How little self esteem/Self Respect do you have to have to let your !!WIFE!! go out and have sex with other men. The moment that is brought up, the relationship is dead and gone, she's not yours anymore. She has someone she wants and it's not you.

If she is going to be my woman, she is MY woman, and only mine.

asd1100 · 2014-11-17T05:15:15+00:00

If she isn't obsessed with you, it's over(or there really never was anything there in the first place- women date/fuck/marry for a lot of reasons, liking the guy doesn't even need be on the list).

Stop giving mouth to mouth to a dead horse, it's a dead horse.

GenericallyEpic · 2014-11-17T06:24:54+00:00

That level 6 of disrespect. He shoulda nipped that shit early. Hell, if he don't leave she going to get him robbed, killed, or something.

Masonjarteadrinker2 · 2014-11-17T16:24:40+00:00

lololololololol fucken idiot, he didn't get anal cause he was always such a gentleman, I bet the other dude just started messing with her ass and since he took control she just went for it.

drrrrrr · 2014-11-17T10:03:47+00:00

Goddamn this dude is the stupidest chump I have ever seen on r/relationships or r/sex. When a 21 y/o kid posts about his GF fucking some dude in Europe during her study abroad, that's one thing.

This guy is 35 and didn't see red flags when the wife opened up the relationship, then shot down his one attempt to get sex. "She wanted the sex to come naturally for me, not for me to go look for it."

Did he not realize that guys, minus the top 1-2%, all have to "look" for sex to get it? This idiot accepted his sentence. I love that part about how his wife felt she was not hot enough for the coffee guy, but doesn't put effort into her appearance for him. Just goes to show that if you want to be a feminist and support every notion that goes into your woman's head, you are below dogshit on the totem pole.

The world needs to cull guys like this of their DNA contribution. If you see a guy in an open relationship, do your best to fuck their GF for them and send them the video. These guys need to experience the misery of their choices, I know so many "open relationship" guys who get zero pussy, but act like they are cool and edgy for not being "with the mainstream". They are like the sexual hipsters, "fucking my GF right and owning her pussy is so mainstream, it's just an outdated value, we're sooo intellectual and progressive that we have evolved beyond jealousy."

Do your part in cleaning up San Francisco, fuck a sexual hipster (aka cuckold aka open relationship beta)'s GF and give the dude the rudest wake-up call. Bruises on his GF's ass. These guys are often the most noxious, male-feminist toolbags.

crazydave1979 · 2014-11-17T07:38:03+00:00

I'm kinda curious if he really did agree, or if she suggested divorce if they didn't"spice things up".. looking in the face of financial ruin may have persuaded him..

its called blackmail, but since she did it I'm guessing it was called"expressing her feelings"

mister_slfdest · 2014-11-17T10:49:15+00:00

I once pondered an open relationship.

Then I looked at basic statistics and figured I'd be getting the least action.

PS: not at least trying anal ? next!

TekkomanKingz · 2014-11-17T13:00:04+00:00

Just to clarify for the hawks in here, swinging is not the same as a fully "Open Relationship" with random (single) people...

banica24 · 2014-11-17T20:32:52+00:00

Was cringing while reading the whole thing. I cannot and would not allow this to happen ever. Cause I know (thankfully not from personal experience) that open relationships end with one side (usually guy) getting hurt. Stick with casual plates.

kkallstrom · 2014-11-17T20:36:00+00:00

Jesus christ, another of these? Reddit seems full of these posts. For the love of god...if a woman suggests an open relationship, she's already got her eye on a guy. IE she wants to cheat on you, with an excuse.

As a guy, unless you are rich, hot or famous it's very difficult just to get sex like that. Look at all the personal ads on craiglist, OKC and so on...almost all men. Go to a bar. Women have their choice of the men there. Almost always the male partner in the open relationship gets fucked over, unless it's his fetish getting cuckolded.

I know I'm writing this on RP so am preaching to the converted, but still...you don't need to pop the red pill to work this stuff out for fuck's sake!

TRPingBalls · 2014-11-18T00:52:46+00:00

If your girl tells you she wants to fuck other guys and you say "okay", what the fuck do you think is going to happen? She'll respect you for being weak and putting her immediate wants over your long term needs?

Yeah, women fucking love weak guys.

johnnight · 2014-11-20T23:11:40+00:00

Just a classic example of opening up the relationship with the usual ending.

Plus, I don’t view sex with my wife the same anymore, after the whole incident. She said we can have anal sex, however I don't even want to anymore that whole thing has been ruined for me. Emotionally I want to call it quits

This right here. In every damn story. The woman is emotionally able to get fucked by another guy regularly while maintaining a materialistic "relationship" with the husband.

The husband on the other hand is a serial monogamist/true romantic. Once she gets VOLUNTARILY fucked by another man, his emotional investment is 100% gone. It's over, it's dead.

I'm wondering what would be the emotional counter-part of sexual cheating. The man giving expensive gifts to another woman and asking his wife for advice?

Shaft-of-Patriarchy · 2014-11-17T05:59:21+00:00

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redpilltom · 2014-11-17T20:10:28+00:00

I started off by making a Tinder account, and then my wife got upset that I was “looking for something” when she wanted the relationship to come to me.

Hahaha oh wow. 100% woman "logic".

"Why are you actively looking to meet women? You should just do what I do and fuck one of the random women that hits on you every day!"

Also, the whole 50 shades thing is a small but important detail.

Long_dan · 2014-11-17T06:10:03+00:00

Some girls like anal, some don't. Assholes are for shitting mostly. It is what they are designed for. Stick your fingers up your own ass and see if you like it. Maybe you are gay. Maybe you aren't and just like stuff stuck in your ass.

Guy agrees to open relationship - wife doesn't want to have sex with him anymore.

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Title	Guy agrees to open relationship - wife doesn't want to have sex with him anymore.
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