Hamster when ex husbands remarry

UrsusG · 2016-02-15T12:22:41+00:00

Because it's your duty as a freshly divorced man to become a miserable, destitute alcoholic so she can continue to justify her decision to divorce you.

By going against the script you cause her great social discomfort.

A man who lives a good life after divorce is practically raping his ex wife, and should be punished.

redpillbanana · 2016-02-15T13:15:16+00:00

I really want to be friends, but I have no respect for him. He now acts like a 22 year old (because of his girlfriend), drinks all the time, blows off our three children, has a Facebook page, and talks and emails like he's 22, with words like "peace" and "dude".

She can't bring herself to say that his new girlfriend is 22 years old, but she might as well say it, and she might as well admit that it is burning her up inside.

Blowing off his children sucks, though.

It's embarrassing, but why should I care? I have met a great guy and so much want to move along, but find it really hard at times - help!

The lady doth protest too much, methinks.

When my ex found out I was dating a teenager, she almost had a conniption fit. Then she congratulated me. Strangely enough, she then asked if I enjoyed having sex with her, and I affirmed that it was pretty fantastic.

alpinehighest · 2016-02-15T14:27:54+00:00

Same story here...ex-wife divorce raped me like no other..always thought she deserved better..well now she lives in a 2 bedroom pos apt, remarried to white trash, lost the kids ,survives off welfare & his unemployment...its quite sad..me on the other end, career has skyrocketed, nice car, nice house, Got kids back...she calls me to take her back several times a year...stay the course gents...

Vanryker · 2016-02-15T14:47:49+00:00

For men being married is like the movie Groundhog Day. Each day is a reset when It comes to contributions in the relationship.

[deleted] · 2016-02-15T15:27:51+00:00

and I did EVERYTHING for 15 years

Oh yes of course you did, you retarded ungrateful fucking cunt

[deleted] · 2016-02-15T14:55:28+00:00

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RedPillAccount69 · 2016-02-15T11:25:35+00:00

My ex-divorced raped me and broke up the family. I was a pussy then.

Anyway, now she is fat, and I married an eastern european woman 8 years younger than me.

The ex calls once every six months and tells me how sorry she was with all the things she did to me.

ELLEN_POO · 2016-02-15T15:47:08+00:00

I don't think women are sociopaths necessarily. There may be a better explanation: women don't know what they are doing in life and how to do things in life. They just go through the motions: childhood, education, work, marriage without actually cognitively thinking about these things. When a women gets married, she doesn't think in her mind "what are the reasons for marrying?" "should i perhaps not get married?" Rather, it's just "something you do when you are in love for a while" and part of our culture. Peer pressure and societal expectations are at play here, not thought and ratio. But that doesn't make them sociopaths.

They never even consider that they could get bored, unhappy, end up with a dead bedroom, or even become depressed in marriage and they are perhaps better off as a single woman. But, obviously, just like (it is my opinion that) this applies to most women, it applies to most men as well. Let's face it. If people were making decisions consciously why would someone go live in a poor neigborhood or end up with a crappy job or face other shitty situations in life?

It took me a while to realize that even the people you look up to and you see as a father figure or are your superior often don't have a clue what they are doing in life, even if they are moderately succesful. People, even some of the people that will try to give you advice don't know how to manage their finance, to raise their kids, and so on.

4benny2lava0 · 2016-02-15T16:08:56+00:00

He now acts like a 22 year old (because of his girlfriend), drinks all the time, blows off our three children, has a Facebook page, and talks and emails like he's 22, with words like "peace" and "dude". It's embarrassing

This had me in stiches dude. How dare he go back to bring a free man having fun and shit?

sacbite · 2016-02-15T17:52:21+00:00

This is not always true. My wife divorced me and she know has an apparently great relationship with an incredibly wealthy guy -- they have two homes, vacation all the time, and she's happy as a clam. Funny thing is, I am super glad she divorced me, even though my lifestyle,by contrast, is much less affluent. Why? Because I live exactly where I want to live (a little north of LA, overlooking a beach), in a little beach house that is beautiful (even though I need a housemate), I drive my old but beautiful Cayman, and I have my own (modest but supports me) business. My outdoor gym is next to my house, I surf every other day, and my home is peaceful and quiet (no thousand dollar credit card bills coming in for shit like 'parfumerie' and 'womyn's goddess yoga retreat'. I pretty much can have sex when I want it (I'm not wanting it much this year, I've got other fish to fry) and I have PEACE. I'll tell ya guys, you can't just reduce this shit to 'everybody's like this' or 'everybody's like that'. There are TENDENCIES in life, for sure, but the idea that the woman is mostly miserable and the guy mostly not after divorce MAY be true in some instances, but not others. People really are different. And statistics mean little on an individual level. Warmly, sacbite.

tribunabessica · 2016-02-15T20:10:20+00:00

I have an excellent story of life after divorce. My wife's girlfriend, had been married to her high school sweetheart for over 20 years with 3 kids. The guy is an accountant, she never had to work a day in her life. Gets bored, explores the bar scene with girlfriends and hooks up with an R&B singer from a traveling band. They maintain an affair every time his band is in town, until she decides she is madly in love with him and can't live without him one second longer. She gets a divorce, leaves the children, goes to live with this guy who turns out to be a major player, with girlfriends in every town his band plays in. He also is not a great provider and on several occasions gave her the belt. The relationship lasts a few months, but after all the abuse and infidelity she is forced to live on her own, and work as a maid to support herself. And it's all downhill from there, starts to ride the cock carousel juggling two or three players at a time, balloons up, develops mental disorders and alcohol abuse. One minute she is laughing the next crying. On her youngest son's high school graduation she sees the ex husband with his new wife and completely brakes down. She had to call my wife to console her, since none of her bar-scene girlfriends care about any of that. My wife was convinced that she was suicidal for a while. We moved to a different city shortly after but my wife keeps in touch via social media and tells me she has been getting pumped and dumped on the regular including by a guy she was going to marry and lived together with. Oh yeah, forgot to mention that she absolutely hates her ex husband, because "he squandered her youth", and she still sees the R&B guy when he calls. Women are retarded.

[deleted] · 2016-02-15T17:22:51+00:00

Society has sold women false expectations. They were suppose to have it all and always be happy. Marriage is one big romance. Reality can be a bitch. Instead of looking at themselves, they blame the husband or boyfriend. After the divorce they discover that maybe the problem wasn't him. After the second marriage fails and maybe the third, the light finally comes on.

red-pill-man · 2016-02-15T14:43:54+00:00

The rationalization hamster at it's finest. After all, she rejected him, and she's always right, so how could any other woman possibly want him!

BrunoOh · 2016-02-15T10:14:12+00:00

See http://therationalmale.com/2015/08/11/post-selection/

wakocid · 2016-02-15T15:01:45+00:00

What is really wrong with these stories? No, not that the women were "unhappy" with their husbands during the marriage, and thus a shitty marriage. Not even the divorce rape. It is the idiot Man getting remarried. My dad did the exact same thing. He raised us, 3 boys, and got divorced when we were in our late teens. Then remarried a women with 3 small kids. It literally killed him as he died when his step kids were in their teens. Btw, the dad of the step kids never paid child support, always a thing I heard about when I would visit. What an idiot my dad was, I lost all respect for him.

TheRedStoic · 2016-02-15T17:02:15+00:00

This above advice and narrative is not just for divorce. You'll find it true of the Super majority of female initiated break ups in any relationship.

She leaves because you're not worth it.

A new girl(s) mean(s) you are. <- I hate that sentence English is crappy

Thus, hampstering and blame.

MattyAnon · 2016-02-15T19:54:44+00:00

The idea that a woman of what... 35? 40? 50?? can remarry a guy as good as the one she left is usually delusional.

They have this idea that they can hook up with Chad just like they did when they were 20. And weirdly, they find male commitment hard to come by, and men even more reluctant to commit than when younger.

The male-female SMV curves cross at age what... 30 ish? After that, she's on the decline as he's coming into his ascendancy, and that never gets reversed. The low male life expectancy contributes further later in life.

Women seek alpha genes, then commitment, then escape. And when they want that escape, society sees fit to pay them for the privilege. At the husband's expense.

As a species we are adapted to living in overlapping communities of a few hundred individuals. We are poorly adapted to living in a community of half a billion. Marriage was an attempt to make a species adapted to ~100 individuals work in societies of millions of individuals. Facebook, Twitter, Tinder and a frankly deranged family legal system has destroyed female accountability, increased female options, and reduced marriage to a oneway financial contract on the man.

Marriage used to work when women and men both understood its pros and cons, and when both sides had something to gain and something to lose from it.

Now women see marriage as a birthright and as a retirement fund... there are zero... zero female obligations of marriage, and they are literally PAID to end it. But that doesn't mean that ending a marriage increases her SMV - chances are she's ridden on her husband's income and generosity for decades, has gotten literally fat on the proceeds, and she's going to find it real hard to get that level of commitment again.

zephyrprime · 2016-02-15T15:56:30+00:00

The best part is when your daughter mocks you during your former anniversary by sending you "happy anniversary!" texts. An ex-gf of mine did this to her parents.

[deleted] · 2016-02-15T18:45:23+00:00

The best way to punish her for that shit is to be successful and happy.

thenemaxofredpill · 2016-02-16T02:01:26+00:00

Like I have always said...if you wanna get revenge on an ex that dumped you like some piece of trash; all you have to do is be happy and live your life to the fullest.

lordrand11 · 2016-02-16T02:22:33+00:00

100% Can confirm never getting married. Ever. I don't give a fuck what my ex thinks either (blocked that bitch in every possible way)

evidica · 2016-02-15T15:53:50+00:00

I think this just touches on the fact that women that act like this, never think the failing marriage could have been their fault. They say they do all these things in the marriage, except the one thing that would keep it together, and that is making sure their husband is happy and they aren't stressed out.

Hateblade · 2016-02-15T17:07:41+00:00

Am I finding out that he really didn't ever love me the way I thought he did?

Not the way he said he did. Not the way he acted to. No, her thoughts. Everything is always based on her feelings, her thoughts. She never once thought it possible that he simply love her as much as he loved her and have that be enough. Nope! Even your love that you choose express towards her is hers to manipulate.

Don't marry.

FakeGuru · 2016-02-15T18:16:03+00:00

What hurts them the most is when the ex-husband remarries and the new wife becomes pregnant.

PlanB_pedofile · 2016-02-16T00:33:03+00:00

*Women are never happy after divorce

*Women are crazy sociopaths

Correction. Women are happy after divorce once they receive child support and Alimony after taking the house and car. Only if they still retain some SMV to hook up with a new man which they can easily do within 48 hours.

It's getting LTR commitment or marriage out of the new man is what breaks them down.

All this relies on the SMV of the woman post-divorce. She will get her beta, it takes time, but there's a beta bucks born every minute.

Eugenics2015 · 2016-02-16T00:45:00+00:00

Women are happy after the divorce if the former husband becomes a sniveling, destitute wreck.

NPK5667 · 2016-02-15T15:53:51+00:00

All i can say is HA HA HA fucking HA.

MajorStyles · 2016-02-15T17:34:36+00:00

When these girls come to me for sympathy, they're coming to the wrong guy...

MeatCurtainRod · 2016-02-15T17:46:54+00:00

correction: women are never truly happy anymore. Why you ask? Because feminism.

Stythe · 2016-02-15T19:44:46+00:00

There are 3 sides to every story. Hers, his and the truth. Many of these women either screwed up themselves or are just missing what they don't want the way a drug addict misses drugs from time to time. That's life.

As for the guys, good. Get on with your lives and never stop living.

max_peenor · 2016-02-15T22:54:17+00:00

I really want to be friends, but I have no respect for him. He now acts like a 22 year old (because of his girlfriend), drinks all the time, blows off our three children, has a Facebook page, and talks and emails like he's 22, with words like "peace" and "dude".

That's called WINNING, you stupid twit.

Am I finding out that he really didn't ever love me the way I thought he did?

This is a very common thing you will hear from Dear Hamster post-divorce. It is a very primal emotion for them. They are basically saying that unless you are willing to end your life for them, you never actually loved them. When the divorce came, at her request, his life was supposed to be done. He didn't have the decency to throw himself in front of a train for her and how he's actually fucking enjoying life. It's an outrage.

icecow · 2016-02-16T03:44:35+00:00

I was the one who asked for a divorce and I don't want him back because he is a liar, cheat, alcoholic, and a drug abuser. He was also very smooth and a con man, using women (including me) for financial gains. Knowing all of that, I have still had some VERY sad moments, remembering how happy I was when we were first married, before I began to see the game he was playing on me and anyone else. How can I move on past this..

You answered your own question. Just find another lieing cheating alcoholic con man that wants to use you.

Albacorewing · 2016-02-16T05:40:37+00:00

Divorced women ALWAYS say their ex husband was a jerk, a sociopath, an a**hole, a criminal, an abuser, a druggie, a drunk, and a weirdo, among other things.

Those same men are the ones they chased after & got pregnant by. Grasp it.

T0000009 · 2016-02-15T16:03:27+00:00

The final word on Divorce and who really does "everything"

KartagoPill · 2016-02-15T20:57:37+00:00

There is one thing similar.

'I divorced him, but still love him' - paradox.

Watch what women do!

alritealritealrite · 2016-02-15T21:36:46+00:00

I feel like if someone can't be happy now they never will be. It's not something you chase. It's a decision.

ledditor_1337 · 2016-02-15T22:28:02+00:00

Divorcee cunt 2 sounds super jealous of the new young chick he's shacking up with. That was a pretty funny one.

ArnoldSwarzepussy · 2016-02-16T18:12:51+00:00

I know I'm a day or so late to this post, but God I love it. If you read the actually article you have linked with the "gem" you might something in there that's really really funny. All of the advice that the woman gives to then is RP as fuck. It's a whole bunch of, "he's gonna move on and you should too", "you need to let him go", "love yourself and focus on you". It's all caked with a layer of femininity for obvious reasons, but the underlying message is the same. If you're not focused on yourself and how you can make yourself better, you'll never be happy.

sterlinghtsmi · 2016-02-15T18:52:33+00:00

Some women are happy after a divorce, just not maybe 100%. But neither are men.
Some women are crazy sociopaths...but so are some men.
Marry the right girl at the right time...just don't be a beta bitch and keep your skills about you. Never stop dating and remind her that she needs to do her part as well. A good girl will accept your direction.

These broad generalizations are not true RP teachings. They appear to be more of the anger stage.

thebadmanpuntdbaxter · 2016-02-15T22:14:00+00:00

Your sister's soon to be ex husband isn't necessarily a perfectly good man. Just because he has a good job and provides? You can't be sexually attracted to an ATM. The way I see it she's making an economically sound decision. Not right or wrong, logical. She gets to go find men who she is attracted to yet still reap the monetary benefits of a husband. Don't hate the player, hate the game

aazav · 2016-02-20T16:20:00+00:00

I can't get over thinking of him with someone else

Soo, let me get this straight. She divorced him. Now she can't get over thinking he's perfectly OK with ignoring her and being fine with another chick.

OK. Let's understand the nature of the beast (the female). She wants to spurn him, but to be so desired that he comes back to her against all odds and makes her want him in her life again.

But that simply can't work long term. Then, once she has that, what she wants now is an insanely alpha man who makes her want him above all else.

When women have something that they previously wanted, they lose interest in it since they don't need to get it anymore. They can have it any time. There is no difficulty, no threat of denial.

Read that again.

When women have something that they previously wanted, they lose interest in it since they don't need to get it anymore.

What they need to really have (and do not know that they need this), is to be in a constant state of wanting more -- but never getting all that they desire.

They must be left still wanting more.

You must leave them lacking what they truly desire, yet still wanting it.

This is the secret.

Once they have it and they know they have it, there is no more risk of losing, there is no more excitement, no more tingles of not knowing if they will have it or lose it.

This is how you keep them interested, wanting, excited and happy.

Do NOT give them all that they want. Deny them what completes their desire. Go away. Let them continually be in a state of wanting.

As long as that happens, they desire your presence and they desire you.

Title	Hamster when ex husbands remarry
Author	PabloEscoba
Upvotes	213
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Date	February 15, 2016 8:38 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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